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- Comment on Steam is basically a PC gaming monopoly, so why isn’t anyone mad? 7 hours ago:
Gog is good, itch.io is good. They have different niches, and each do beautifully.
- Comment on Real 1 week ago:
How dare you shit talk Pangea like that
- Comment on "You Were Supposed to Feel Lost": Metal Gear Solid 2 and the Shock of Playing as Raiden 1 week ago:
Sort of, I’d argue it’s better accomplished. I don’t hate venom, he’s basically the same character. In mgs2 people signed up for more solid snake, which was even blatantly communicated as what you were getting in the demo of the game and all marketing materials. It’s a question of expectation. Even aside from the character, the tanker chapter is leagues in quality above the rest of the game.
It’s not the I hate mgs2, I think it’s actually really neat and interesting, but when you’re doing a rug pull off that nature it’s easy for people to be disappointed.
- Comment on Is 71° F (21° C) the ideal weather to wear shorts? 2 weeks ago:
In Australia that might be considered a bit cold for shorts, but definitely within acceptable range.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 weeks ago:
Well that’s the inbuilt thoughts from a troubled childhood. It’s not anything special, pretty stock standard parental neglect
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 weeks ago:
That would be the standard unshakable idea that I need to meet a certain approval criteria that will mean I’m worth love and care. It’s not valid, but I’m well aware it’s in there.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 weeks ago:
I didn’t do a great job of it, the gist of it is the nasty issues like inability to communicate, stonewalling, etc facilitated the ongoing small issues. For example I wasn’t allowed to do certain chores, but she wouldn’t keep up with them either. Easy to fix if communication is there, harder if all those issues are getting in the way.
Yeah I’ve been staying to wonder about that today, I do think my self worth was derived from the relationship, as my regular stuff kind of fell away as our lifestyle became incompatible with them. It’s a slow rebuild, but I felt relaxed for the first time in ages today, so progress is happening.
- Comment on Is the "Gen z stare" a real thing? 3 weeks ago:
Oh my god leave the poor fuckers alone.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 3 weeks ago:
Because I loved them haha
But in general it’s less about that particular relationship and trying to convince myself that going forward the results of a relationship aren’t just going to be the same disregard as I’ve experienced in the past.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 3 weeks ago:
You are absolutely correct, I suppose it’s gotten a bit weird because the relationship was super odd regarding the intentions communicated vs the actual work put in. It was made things very muddy and it’s hard to understand my part in what went wrong, and reflect on if and what I need to change regarding my own behaviour. I don’t think I’ve experienced a situation where everything got this messy before.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 3 weeks ago:
I’ll try to be objective, everything here is either the objective truth or something both of us came to a consensus on.
It was a large and complex issue, last straw was I attempted to communicate that we would need to talk out our issues before we started co-living again, she took it as she wouldn’t be allowed to come back to the house without that talk right now. I ran that message past a few people before I sent it because we’ve had some nasty communication issues in the past, they did not think it was a reasonable reading of said message. It certainly not my intention.
We’ve also had a lot of issues on and off. I’m the kind of person that doesn’t mind that and is happy to work on this stuff, she’s got some anxiety issues and tends to avoid grappling with things. It was going okay for the first couple of years, and I was a much more forgiving, go with the flow kind of person back then. I started to feel like my priorities and needs weren’t important to her, chiefly because when I tried to communicate them to her she would sort of treat it as unimportant as a first reaction, then if I pressed the issue she would concede the importance, but then never make actual progress.
The most recent batch of issues came last year when there was a construction crew basically rebuilding the entirety of next door. They did a significant amount of damage to our property, and the noise was extremely loud from 7-2:30. She got home at 3ish. I needed some time to relax after the figurative siege of noise, she has dyspraxia and won’t turn off the anxiety and will use the anxious energy for housework. I also have moderate to severe PTSD regarding noises like that from childhood. It wasn’t a good combination. She also wouldn’t even acknowledge the problem for the first maybe 5 months, and basically didn’t do any of the legal work regarding the issues.
I started to have a breakdown in maybe August last year, where I stopped being able to do housework so easily, her answer to that was to force herself to do the things I wasn’t capable of at the time. I still kick myself for allowing that to happen, because it built up more antipathy that she never communicated, and even at the time I knew things going this way was a possibility.
Even up to the end we cared for each other, but how we were interacting was bad for both of us. My main frustration isn’t that we had these issues, but that I didn’t think they were insurmountable at all. People and relationships need work, and we both agreed on that in general, but the work discussed never materialised.
For my part my faults in this were I was too forgiving at the start, and too frustrated at the end. I don’t blame myself for that, the issues next door basically made me regress into the abused child on some level, but it did definitely lead to a lack of communication skills, and patience. I did okay, but not great.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 3 weeks ago:
For sure, but I’ll take potential avenues of investigation over nothing right now. Appreciate you making sure I’m not going into this with the wrong mindset though
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 3 weeks ago:
I appreciate it mate
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 3 weeks ago:
I completely understand your logic there, but I’m not sure it’s something I can become accustomed to. I feel like I’ve got a similar viewpoint with the idea of death at least, the inevitability of things passing, but my issue seems more the idea of my own inadequacy, the fear I may not deserve connection with other people.
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- Comment on Why do some people (i.e. white conservatives) think all Spanish speakers (especially native Spanish speakers) are Mexican? 3 weeks ago:
This is a funny question in the context of the sub, because it’s not that the question is stupid, but the answer is.
They’re incredibly stupid. They may not know of Spain, or any Spanish speaking culture. They’re also incredibly reactionary, and egocentric, which means they may not have rubbed the two brain cells together to realise there are other possibilities than what has been parrotted to them for the past few decades.
- Comment on Forbidden Fruit 1 month ago:
Pretty sure they actually did
- Comment on Name this Paper 1 month ago:
Creation of holy water
- Comment on big facts 1 month ago:
To be fair I very much don’t believe in wifi. I use it, but I still think it doesn’t have what it takes.
- Comment on What was your social media path? 1 month ago:
Gaia, MySpace, Fark, Facebook, Reddit, here
- Comment on Name it 2 months ago:
Bit of an older one, but DMC4 definitely ran well on just about anything. MT framework was really good for stuff like that.
- Comment on Australians banned social media. Now they are worried about teenagers going outside with e-bikes 2 months ago:
Fuck man, I’m old enough to remember Facebook was exclusively posts by my friends. Shit has come a long way.
- Comment on Borderlands 4 for Nintendo Switch 2 likely axed, as Take-Two says it’s ‘paused’ development | VGC 2 months ago:
More likely the frame rate paused
- Comment on Why is Valve being sued for almost $900 million, but Epic Games wasn't sued when they bought Rocket League and Fall Guys to remove them from steam? 2 months ago:
Every time someone uses lumen the frame rate drops by roughly 2/3rds, it’s nuts.
- Comment on I don't understand how Trump gets away with all his senial BS. How come everyone is telling him to piss off or use the constitution to shut him the hell up? 2 months ago:
Exactly. People keep going on and on about how democrats would never get away with this shit, it’s because that’s the role they play. They tall poppy the actual good people out of the system, and present themselves as the good option when the only other choice is a rampaging fascism.
Like, I get the frustration, but at this point if feels too in the nose to miss anymore. Like people are getting gunned down randomly in the streets, it’s not that complicated.
- Comment on Anon tells a true story 2 months ago:
Look I don’t want to tell you your business, but to me this is less of an AI vs human thing and more about embracing yourself. I’ve had so much more joy from people’s dogshit drawings than I have from the AI stuff. There’s a heart and soul behind dogshit.
- Comment on Valheim player keeps building Dollar Generals despite friend begging them to stop: 'I do not want to play Valheim with Greg anymore' 2 months ago:
This is the best article I’ve seen in a while
- Comment on Hooded Horse ban AI-generated art in their games: "all this thing has done is made our lives more difficult" 2 months ago:
Yep, that was exactly the reason.
- Comment on Hooded Horse ban AI-generated art in their games: "all this thing has done is made our lives more difficult" 3 months ago:
There’s a problem in movies that I keep thinking about in relation to this.
Movies often use music from other movies in early cuts to get something rough together. They time the scenes around the music, they work with it for ages, and finally it’s time to make an original track to replace the rough copy.
But they have to use something that’s the same tempo, because of how the scenes were timed around the old music. And it has to fit in the same vibe, because that’s what the old music felt like.
So you end up with a piece of music that’s usually pretty close to what they made, and a lot of Hollywood osts sound almost identical. When I see people talk about using gen ai for placeholders and concept art, I see that same problem turning up.
- Comment on Anon is a fan of GabeN 4 months ago:
All that’s between you and success is a consistent and reasonable performance, but seemingly everyone else in the world is too greedy to pull this off.