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- Comment on GTA 6 Developers Announce Rockstar Games Union 20 hours ago:
Can’t be that hard to make something close honestly. It’d be work, but with the right open source methodology and a little bit of love, you could get a lot of people involved really quickly I imagine.
Actually that does still sound hard but fuck it.
- Comment on Valve raises Steam Deck prices by more than $200 3 days ago:
I’m not going to look this up, because I’m expecting that there’s a number of reasons, but you can pretty much point the finger at supply and demand of components, as well as inability for companies to scale production, and the fact this is likely a bubble.
Think about it from the standing of a ram manufacturer. You’re already pumping out as much product as physically possible, or you need components or materials from other vendors. You aren’t just sitting on idle machines, if there’s a market what what you’re doing, you’re going to push as much of it as you can. All of a sudden, you can charge more because there’s a ram shortage, but you can’t scale up your business because with this rise there’s likely to be an equal fall in the not too distant future, and scaling up production is a slow process. Even if you did, there’s a strong possibility that you’d be restricted by other bottlenecks.
It’s a huge business risk for not much reward. Better to take the win, do what you can try maximise it without exposing yourself to potential losses.
- Comment on 4 days ago:
Linux barely needs a CPU.
I’m joking, but if you loaded up a lightweight distro on that it’d probably be fine
- Comment on What's your opinions on film critics and film snobs?? 5 days ago:
I kind of am a bit of a snob, but long past the idea of something being good means it’s allowed to be enjoyed. I’m more interested in how stories function, how things are put together etc.
It’s a hobby. Not essential, but very little technically is.
- Comment on Splinter Cell designer says “one of the difficulties with modern stealth games” is realistic lighting, as environments are now so much “harder to read” 1 week ago:
Chaos theory still looks amazing, and that was on the unreal 2.5 engine with hugely prebaked lighting. Just legitimately do that again.
- Comment on Should street racers who accidentally kill people really go to prison? 1 week ago:
Ah but what if I’m all about the private prison industry?
Ty have fixed the typo
- Comment on Should street racers who accidentally kill people really go to prison? 1 week ago:
Manslaughter is a crime for a reason. Extreme purposeful negligence that caused a literal death is a decision they made, and you shouldn’t be ideally rehabilitated to avoid the situation happening again.
- Comment on Why don't people complain about Gary Stus? 2 weeks ago:
I’ve had thoughts about this for a while, and my conclusion is that the problem with Mary Sues isn’t what people actually say it is.
The problem with characters that are hyper competent, likable to everyone in the text, perfect in every way, is that we’re somewhat hardwired to hate those people. Jealousy, finding them boring, hating them for the effect they have on the story, whatever you like. Characters like that are often even specifically used as villains for that reason.
The way to balance hyper competence is with some genuinely huge flaws. Light is an egomaniac who is constantly nearly being caught out. Iron man is a narcissist with a huge drinking problem and emotionally unstable. Superman is a huge dork with confidence issues. Spiderman is lower class.
There’s a kind of karmic balance that’s struck, therefore it works better in people’s minds for a number of reasons. It helps humanize them, it better matches people’s lives experience, it makes the character pop.
Here we get to the main problem: Writers are phenomenally bad at writing women. It’s cultural at this point. Women are rarely if ever depicted with internal struggles, ideals, or even flaws beyond superficial ones. If they lack that depth to achieve the aforementioned karmic balance, they can’t become well rounded characters. You essentially nailed on a power fantasy to a wooden board. I would argue that weakness is where the huge systemic sexism comes in, but I digress.
Case in point, my understanding is in the new superman movie his cousin shows up, pretty much the same power set, and she’s just a huge mess. I’ve not seen an iota of Mary Sue accusation about that character, because she’s balanced in that way. Wonder woman might be a better example as a main character, because she has concrete flaws, and they actively have consequences in the story. Her inability to navigate the world and it’s rules is both a blessing and a curse for her, and the story reflects that. Harley Quinn gets away with so much, but people don’t mind because she’s a nutcase.
Something like Rey, not only does she not really have flaws, she barely has a character. It’s not entirely one dimensional, but poor Daisy ain’t got much to work with here. Because the story is suggesting we should like and root for her, but not giving us much to actually humanize or relate to her, we tend to reject that mentally, and it often bothers us that the story insists that she’s the real deal.
Korra from LoK is a slightly different case, where the character has flaws, but the story often fails to honour their consequences. If she’s constantly screwing up, but never really being punished for it, if feels fake, like the story is cheating, and people hate that as well. I personally think it might also have something to do with how the show structures her emotional growth through the series, but I don’t want to get down that rabbit hole.
I think there’s an ease of writing men that comes with practice, as a society. Just like stories have the heroes journey, artists have colour theory, and character writers can write flawed men. There’s a whole world of good male characters to draw inspiration from. I just don’t think we’ve gotten there with women yet.
- Comment on Is this how girls behave when they like you? 2 weeks ago:
Ooh that’s a tricky one. There’s a lot of different ways to flirt, it all depends on a few things. I’ve also never had to write this down so I’m working backwards from my own learned experience here.
Flirting is pretty close to just acting regular around someone, at least in the context you’re talking about. You need to work with implied intent, like she is with going out of her way to be around you.
First, be yourself. I know that one gets thrown around, but it’s incredibly important that you don’t suddenly start acting like someone you’re not, or do stuff you otherwise wouldn’t. If they’re flirting with you, they must like you being yourself already, and if they don’t like you being yourself, it wasn’t worth pursuing anyway.
Obviously, as you don’t know if they’re into you, you don’t want to come on too strong. In general being playful is the key, slowly becoming more comfortable with them as time goes on. Keep it fun, easy, at least initially. Light teasing, jokes, a bit of eye contact. Whatever is most comfortable for you. Sounds like she’s cool with being a bit assertive, so you might have this part easy.
In general, I would make sure they know you appreciate that they’re around, especially if they’re putting themself out there to you like you suspect. Smile at them when they turn up. Go out of your way to initiate conversation and hang out with them in turn. Comments/compliments on they way they go out of their way to spend time with you, stuff like saying it’s good to see them when they turn up. Veil it as jokes, or just be upfront with it. Be a bit warmer with how you talk to them, maybe a small gift. You want the subtext to be that you’ve noticed they put the effort in, you appreciate it, are into it, and willing to reciprocate. This is also key because this signals to them that you’ve taken their intentions as flirting, and if they weren’t going for that, they have the opportunity of de-escalating.
Keep compliments generally about stuff they have control over, stuff they’ve obviously put effort into. Jewellery, hair, clothes, how they act, their competencies. Don’t go for stuff like body or attractiveness until way way later, like after a date or two.
You can also leave casual touching a bit later, generally after you’re actually on a date, things have been going well for a good while, or if they already break the touch barrier. Women get to be a little looser with that, but if you’re a dude it’s incredibly easy to come off as creepy if they’re not 100% into it. Keep in mind there’s often a power imbalance, testosterone will likely make you stronger than someone without it, so by default women need to be careful around men. It’s important she feels comfortable around you, coming on too strong can really torpedo things. It should be fine by the sounds of things, but just to be sure you know.
If all is going well, at some point you’ll have to turn it from subtext to text. That is, you’ll actually have to say to her face that you’re enjoying this, and want to spend more time with her. Dating is a different topic, but similar rules apply. Don’t leave it too long, but it sounds like it’s already going well, so it should be fine.
Take it easy, enjoy yourself. You might mess up, consider it an education for next time. It’ll get easier as you go.
- Comment on Is this how girls behave when they like you? 2 weeks ago:
It definitely can be. Question is, do you know how to flirt back in an appropriate manner?
- Comment on Should I tell my dad that his mistake almost cost me a fortune? 5 weeks ago:
I guess the question is what do you gain by telling him? Was it a mistake that could be learned from, or is it just shit happens sometimes? Even if it’s a learnable moment, is it worth potentially destroying a man’s confidence in his trade for little to no benefit?
I don’t know the minutia of the situation, so I can’t really recommend with clarity. I’d be leaning towards not telling him.
- Comment on Nerve-controlled prosthetics 5 weeks ago:
God please don’t tell me it’s on the 2.4 GHz band, last thing I’d want is my hand to start getting weird near a smart house or a set of traffic lights.
- Comment on Steam is basically a PC gaming monopoly, so why isn’t anyone mad? 1 month ago:
Gog is good, itch.io is good. They have different niches, and each do beautifully.
- Comment on Real 1 month ago:
How dare you shit talk Pangea like that
- Comment on "You Were Supposed to Feel Lost": Metal Gear Solid 2 and the Shock of Playing as Raiden 1 month ago:
Sort of, I’d argue it’s better accomplished. I don’t hate venom, he’s basically the same character. In mgs2 people signed up for more solid snake, which was even blatantly communicated as what you were getting in the demo of the game and all marketing materials. It’s a question of expectation. Even aside from the character, the tanker chapter is leagues in quality above the rest of the game.
It’s not the I hate mgs2, I think it’s actually really neat and interesting, but when you’re doing a rug pull off that nature it’s easy for people to be disappointed.
- Comment on Is 71° F (21° C) the ideal weather to wear shorts? 1 month ago:
In Australia that might be considered a bit cold for shorts, but definitely within acceptable range.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 1 month ago:
Well that’s the inbuilt thoughts from a troubled childhood. It’s not anything special, pretty stock standard parental neglect
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 1 month ago:
That would be the standard unshakable idea that I need to meet a certain approval criteria that will mean I’m worth love and care. It’s not valid, but I’m well aware it’s in there.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 1 month ago:
I didn’t do a great job of it, the gist of it is the nasty issues like inability to communicate, stonewalling, etc facilitated the ongoing small issues. For example I wasn’t allowed to do certain chores, but she wouldn’t keep up with them either. Easy to fix if communication is there, harder if all those issues are getting in the way.
Yeah I’ve been staying to wonder about that today, I do think my self worth was derived from the relationship, as my regular stuff kind of fell away as our lifestyle became incompatible with them. It’s a slow rebuild, but I felt relaxed for the first time in ages today, so progress is happening.
- Comment on Is the "Gen z stare" a real thing? 2 months ago:
Oh my god leave the poor fuckers alone.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 months ago:
Because I loved them haha
But in general it’s less about that particular relationship and trying to convince myself that going forward the results of a relationship aren’t just going to be the same disregard as I’ve experienced in the past.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 months ago:
You are absolutely correct, I suppose it’s gotten a bit weird because the relationship was super odd regarding the intentions communicated vs the actual work put in. It was made things very muddy and it’s hard to understand my part in what went wrong, and reflect on if and what I need to change regarding my own behaviour. I don’t think I’ve experienced a situation where everything got this messy before.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 months ago:
I’ll try to be objective, everything here is either the objective truth or something both of us came to a consensus on.
It was a large and complex issue, last straw was I attempted to communicate that we would need to talk out our issues before we started co-living again, she took it as she wouldn’t be allowed to come back to the house without that talk right now. I ran that message past a few people before I sent it because we’ve had some nasty communication issues in the past, they did not think it was a reasonable reading of said message. It certainly not my intention.
We’ve also had a lot of issues on and off. I’m the kind of person that doesn’t mind that and is happy to work on this stuff, she’s got some anxiety issues and tends to avoid grappling with things. It was going okay for the first couple of years, and I was a much more forgiving, go with the flow kind of person back then. I started to feel like my priorities and needs weren’t important to her, chiefly because when I tried to communicate them to her she would sort of treat it as unimportant as a first reaction, then if I pressed the issue she would concede the importance, but then never make actual progress.
The most recent batch of issues came last year when there was a construction crew basically rebuilding the entirety of next door. They did a significant amount of damage to our property, and the noise was extremely loud from 7-2:30. She got home at 3ish. I needed some time to relax after the figurative siege of noise, she has dyspraxia and won’t turn off the anxiety and will use the anxious energy for housework. I also have moderate to severe PTSD regarding noises like that from childhood. It wasn’t a good combination. She also wouldn’t even acknowledge the problem for the first maybe 5 months, and basically didn’t do any of the legal work regarding the issues.
I started to have a breakdown in maybe August last year, where I stopped being able to do housework so easily, her answer to that was to force herself to do the things I wasn’t capable of at the time. I still kick myself for allowing that to happen, because it built up more antipathy that she never communicated, and even at the time I knew things going this way was a possibility.
Even up to the end we cared for each other, but how we were interacting was bad for both of us. My main frustration isn’t that we had these issues, but that I didn’t think they were insurmountable at all. People and relationships need work, and we both agreed on that in general, but the work discussed never materialised.
For my part my faults in this were I was too forgiving at the start, and too frustrated at the end. I don’t blame myself for that, the issues next door basically made me regress into the abused child on some level, but it did definitely lead to a lack of communication skills, and patience. I did okay, but not great.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 months ago:
For sure, but I’ll take potential avenues of investigation over nothing right now. Appreciate you making sure I’m not going into this with the wrong mindset though
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 months ago:
I appreciate it mate
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 months ago:
I completely understand your logic there, but I’m not sure it’s something I can become accustomed to. I feel like I’ve got a similar viewpoint with the idea of death at least, the inevitability of things passing, but my issue seems more the idea of my own inadequacy, the fear I may not deserve connection with other people.
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- Comment on Why do some people (i.e. white conservatives) think all Spanish speakers (especially native Spanish speakers) are Mexican? 2 months ago:
This is a funny question in the context of the sub, because it’s not that the question is stupid, but the answer is.
They’re incredibly stupid. They may not know of Spain, or any Spanish speaking culture. They’re also incredibly reactionary, and egocentric, which means they may not have rubbed the two brain cells together to realise there are other possibilities than what has been parrotted to them for the past few decades.
- Comment on Forbidden Fruit 2 months ago:
Pretty sure they actually did
- Comment on Name this Paper 2 months ago:
Creation of holy water