I read a lot of science fiction, and a younger friends at work frequently asked me for recommendations, and he liked talking about the books after reading them. At some point I found out that he exclusively consumes them as audiobooks, which is fine and I didn’t think much about it. Some years down the line, when I was getting ready to retire, I had to pass on things to him. There was enough of it that, in addition to working elbow-to-elbow with him, I documented all the details in some long emails. When we meet, I’d say “The details are in the email,” and focus on explaining the big picture.
It became obvious that he never read the emails. When I talked to him about it, he admitted that he really struggles with any long block of text. The guy is really smart, and he knows a lot about a lot of things, but he gets all his info from audio and video because struggles to consume text. There’s clearly some kind of learning/mental issue going on there. It’s going to make the job tough for him, but I hope he works it out.
Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 1 day ago
I had a coworker approach me on break and start telling me about a book he was reading and how much he was enjoying it. Towards the end, he mentioned struggling with it and that he wished someone had told him how great reading was earlier. We were both damn near 30, and it was a YA novel. I resisted the asshole urge to roast him because, shit, at least he’s trying?
Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 1 day ago
Not only is he trying, he laments not learning better when he was younger. Great self-awareness, and taking ownership today.
Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 1 day ago
Very true. Hopefully, he still enjoys reading today.
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
He is an obese man in the gym. Literally nothing more admirable than someone improving themselves.
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Exactly! And not just doing it, but sticking to it AND vulnerably admitting to struggling.
If only more people could do it.
PentastarM@midwest.social 1 day ago
My spouse always says, you don’t mock a sick person in hospital, why mock someone who is working to improve other aspects of themselves.
cobysev@lemmy.world 1 day ago
When I was in the US Air Force, I was deployed to a US Marine camp once, and listening to those guys chat among themselves was always a treat. You never knew what dumbass comments were going to come out of their mouths.
One day, one of the young corporals mentioned that, while traveling to another base, he got stuck waiting for a connecting flight between bases for about a week and he was so bored, he read A BOOK. He stressed the fact that he’s never read an entire book from cover to cover before, but he did on this layover because he was so extremely bored.
To my surprise, the other Marines just nodded along, like this made perfect sense to them. Not a single person harassed him for never reading a book before (and they harass each other all the time for the simplest things).
I mean, we poke fun at Marines for being dumb. They call themselves jarheads, which is an allusion to the fact that their heads are as empty as a jar. But it still blows my mind to hear the dumb things they say sometimes.
oxideseven@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
That’s not why Marines are called jarheads. While we do love the occasional crayon, we’re not all stupid.
Jarhead first originated somewhere during WW2 because the high collar on some of our uniforms making it look like our heads were popping out of jars. The term has meant a few other things since then, like referencing the high and tight haircut, or being so “uptight” on their training and discipline and described as having that hat screwed on tight like the lid of a jar.
CalipherJones@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I had a friend tell me that she didn’t learn to read until she was like eight. Ya never really know where people come from. All of our lives are so different.
PurplePixie@midwest.social 1 day ago
I wasn’t capable of reading completely on my own until I was nine years old. I also made top grades in all of my college English classes. Where you start doesn’t necessarily dictate where you’ll end up, especially if you enjoy an activity as much as I enjoyed reading.
Microw@piefed.zip 15 hours ago
I dont think that is considered particularly late here in central europe. Yes, kids should be able to read properly at 6, but a lot of them don't.
Zirconium@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I read YA as Yaoi and I’m like “or course it’s reasonable to roast him for telling a coworker about the Yaoi he’s reading”
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
No, the correct reaction is “I do not know the Jah-Oi of which you speak. What is this art form that I have never heard of?”
grrgyle@slrpnk.net 23 hours ago
We’ve all got to start somewhere.
kepix@lemmy.world 1 day ago
trust me, it is indeed easy to hate reading if you have asshole teachers. he got lucky and was able to discover reading at a later age.
Boxscape@lemmy.sdf.org 1 day ago
Struggling how though?
If they were struggling with the vocabulary, then that might be roastable.
But if they meant, e.g., struggling with the themes, that might be understandable. YA books sometimes tackle difficult subjects or are subtle, layered, etc.
oxideseven@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Why roast someone trying to improve? We haven’t all had the same opportunities in life.
Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.com 1 day ago
It was the general reading/vocabulary.
binarytobis@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
A while back I read several bad books in a row and decided to try manga for a break. Some of them were good, others weren’t. Then I got frustrated because most of the stuff I was reading wasn’t finished, so I sought out the source material novels that were further along. Ended up finding some really good books that I otherwise would have never knew existed.
Highly recommend the Ascendence of a Bookworm novel.
sunbytes@lemmy.world 22 hours ago
It’s better to read what you enjoy than what you “should” be reading.
Given enough time, they’ll maybe become the same thing anyway.