nickwitha_k

@nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Techno feudalism, here we come⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Is it the one about the guy who finds a nice brick of aged cheddar on their fridge that they had forgotten and get to enjoy the salty deliciousness? No… Wait … That’s just me fantasizing about tasty cheese.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  The moment that you call them out on hypocrisy, you’ve already lost. In conservatism, hypocrisy is only a problem if it can be used as a bludgeon against an opponent. Otherwise, it’s a privilege or something to use to rub it in the face of the out group that one has power over them.

  The ideology is fundamentally about rigid socioeconomic hierachies that allow cognitive loads to be outsourced to one’s “betters” and power to be exercised over those lower in the hierarchy. The ideology is almost completely opposed to meritocracy - one is supposed to know the station that they were born into and not try to reach too high. And a fun thing that many moderates and center-left folks still don’t get is that conservative morality is based upon the person and their standing in the hierarchy, not their actions (unless they oppose the hierarchy). This is why they don’t give two shits about electing a convicted felon and rapist. And this is also a major part of why neoliberal centrists do everything that they can to prevent laws from applying to said felon and rapist - as someone high in the socioeconomic hierarchy, he’s supposed to be above consequences for any actions, the laws only apply to their “lessers” (plus, allowing them to be applied would put virtually every career politician at risk of prosecution for the crimes that they’ve committed).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think a story that mixes magic with super advanced technology can work?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Came here to mention this. Good reference, and chummer.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The USA spends $15k/student annually which is 30% higher than the global median. Why do U.S. schools have "fundraisers" where kids are incentivized to sell stuff to people?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Some do indeed. The one near me has a pretty ridiculous one that makes me sad for the academics that it is leeching from.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Xreal debuts first glasses to run Google's Android XR operating system to take on Meta and Apple⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Nah. They used to be Nreal but got a C&D from Epic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨SAG-AFTRA Files Unfair Labor Practice Complaint Against Epic Games Due To A.I. Darth Vader⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Epic signed a contract with the union stating that they would bargain (and then willfully violated it).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i broke⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I think I understand my feelings most of the time

  I thought I did too but just had trouble communicating them. It turned out that I had overestimated my comprehension. Practice has helped me a lot.

  but I do have difficulty controlling them.

  Something that I’d caution is that framing altogether. Emotion is part of our experience as humans and an integral part of our consciousness. Controlling our emotions (with exception of those with conditions like Bipolar PD that need help with emotional stability) is not the best goal. Emotions are important, involuntary, and frequently serve evolutionary purposes.

  The more healthy way to look at it is addressing how we react when we experience our emotions. That is something that we do have control over. Those of us with ADHD often have trouble with emotional dysregulation (kind of a misnomer, IMO, as it is more about managing reaction to experienced emotions), which makes it more of a challenge. It is still possible though with practice (and accepting that failure is part of the process).

  Thanks for the very comprehensive answer internet stranger, I appreciate it.

  You’re very welcome. If I’ve helped yourself or anyone else in the slightest, I am delighted.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i broke⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Any advice on how to do work like other people? I am quick to grab my phone everytime I get even slightly stressed or don’t immediately know the answer to a problem.

  Assuming that you have ADHD based on your other comment, I do, actually, from my own struggles with AuADHD. First thing, is a bit of radical acceptance. If you are not neurotypical, especially if ADHD and/or ASD are involved, you’re not and never will be “like other people”. No pill known by medical science, no strategy, and no therapy is going to change that because it has to do with the brain developing differently in physical structural ways than a neurotypical brain and it’s likely genetic or epigenetic.

  That doesn’t mean that there’s no hope for functionality. Just that one must approach things differently and “calibrate” strategies to work with, rather than against their brain. Importantly, it also means that most “productivity hacks” and the like are utterly useless because they were developed with a neurotypical brain as the starting point.

  When it comes to doom scrolling and the like, when stressed, you’re actually at a good starting point in that you are aware of what is happening and at least somewhat aware of the cause. It might not seem apparent but, emotion is a significant component of ADHD. The biggest thing to know is that if you are fighting against a heightened emotional state that is causing you to be unable to start or continue something, it can be like quicksand. Constantly running into that emotional brick wall isn’t going to help.

  So, what do you do? Well, the same thing isn’t necessarily going to work for everyone. Something that I’ve been working on with my therapist is a strategy from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) that is called the “STOP” skill (here’s a link). Essentially, it involves analyzing your state in the moment and mindfully deciding on a path forward.

  If, like many with ADHD including myself (this was a fun thing to become aware of well into adulthood), you are not super comfortable with your emotions and/or have alexithymia (trouble identifying, describing, and expressing ones own emotions), it could be useful to find an emotion wheel or feelings wheel. There are many versions out there. The important thing is to find one that makes sense to you - I like the ones that start more general in the center and get more specific in the edges. To use that type to figure out how you are feeling (or evaluate how you were feeling from memory), just start with your finger in the center and work your way outwards to the emotion that most fits. Practicing this when not in a moment of stress can help to make it easier when you need it.

  Other things that you can try are: practicing meditation so that it is easier to use when you need it and, if necessary, making your phone inaccessible, if you don’t need it. Overall, the goal is to improve coping strategies available to you in order to make it easier to use ones that serve you and your well-being.

  And it takes a lot of time for me to do something, it takes other very little (at least compared to me). Any advice on that?

  Again, assuming that you have ADHD here. The first thing that you’ll need to do is identify the causes. I, for example, often have a lot of trouble reading (even though I love it and was at a college level vocabulary in primary school). For me, this is caused entirely by ADHD, resulting in re-reading paragraphs and sometimes individual sentences multiple times before they “stick”. This caused a lot of problems for me when I was a child didn’t receive any treatment for it.

  Another common thing for ADHD is getting too granular and getting into analysis paralysis or stuck planning rather than doing. I find that setting limits on myself helps to reduce this. For example, if I need to write a program, I might get stuck evaluating what language to use, what libraries to use, which perform better under a given workload, etc. I need to set limits on how long I can take to research and try to make the scope of the work as small as possible to avoid either getting sick in perpetual planning or perpetual research.

  Ultimately, you need to evaluate why you are taking longer to do the tasks, which is likely not just one thing, and start chipping away at the things that are causing the time sink in manageable bites. Don’t try to fix everything at once!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i broke⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What issues are you dealing with (if you feel like sharing)? I can speak from my experience being in therapy for AuADHD, anxiety, depression, childhood traumas, and a few other things.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨skynet would be better than these clowns⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You have been found guilty of jaywalking. I hearby sentence you to 90 days of community service as unicorn titty sprinkles from Valhalla. May Chester have mercy on your handkerchief.

  • JudgeGPT, probably
• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I found an interesting USB-C alternative to barrel jack wall warts. Thought I'd share...⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  These cables are indeed basically just that. They’re a good solution for reducing wall warts when powering older projects that use barrel jacks or don’t have room for a trigger board.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you know the answer?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Eh. On Reddit, karma was intended as an indicator of quality and authenticity. It was heavily flawed and abused by bots and propagandists.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I found an interesting USB-C alternative to barrel jack wall warts. Thought I'd share...⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I basically just use USB-C trigger boards for my projects these days. Super convenient.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you know the answer?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The motivation to do so confuses me. There’s no karma to farm here.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Whenever a beast is shown on screen⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That is concerning. Should just let them be. The rattle is just their proclamation that they are introverts (in relation to other species) and would not like to be interacted with. It’s a really civil way of handling things, especially for a reptile.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Whenever a beast is shown on screen⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ever been somewhere that rattlesnakes are native? Those fuckers are loud.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I am sick of seeing the rich and powerful on my screen. Where are all the TV shows about normal people?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Both books and TV series are worth it. There’s enough difference to make both interesting and the authors were involved enough in the TV series that it is still good.

  Bonus: The book series is complete and, while there is another book and some short stories of narrative content, the show ends without a “we got cancelled” cliffhanger and the final book is a bit of an extended epilogue with a significant time gap, so, maybe we’ll get a production of another season in another decade.

  Double bonus: The authors’ new book series, which just has its first book released last year, has already had a TV series deal signed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I snapped you back in time 650 years right this very second, how would you use your current knowledge to succeed?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Everyone dies. You just get to try to make the leaderboards, if that’s your thing. There isn’t a killscreen that we know of.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who should america be more concerned about MS-13 or Russia?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Depends on context. If the context is “planning a holiday in El Salvador”, maybe MS-13 is relevant. Beyond being worried about impact on others’ lives, MS-13 is largely irrelevant to Americans and most people that I’ve encountered never heard of them before 2016.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm a 6'1" man with size 3 feet which means every they measure my feet at a shoe store, the Brannock device gatekeeps my gender⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you find your foot or hand size to grant you advantages in certain niche situations (ie getting the last pringle)?

  I historically found that my flat feet make barefoot walking a lot easier - big, flat contact surface distributes the pressure over a wider area, making shrp rocks less painful/likely to cut.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Notepad autocorrected what I was typing for my foreign language exercise⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is fair and warranted.

  Also, to be fair, Windows is a trash-tier piece of software that become little but adware/spyware in a trenchcoat, masquerading as an operating system. I ran an install in a VM a couple of weeks ago for the first time in nearly two decades and even the basic installation process is on par with the WinXP alpha (before the installer was ready), requiring extra driver disks and software just to be able to think about installing. I had to fight with UEFI and Grub to get Arch to boot alongside Fedora the other day and that was a much more enjoyable process.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I had no idea y cunt was this powerful⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  If a large cardboard box is a Gaylord does that mean regular boxes are gay peasantry?

  Yes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone have ideas for cable management here?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve got some suggestions and “tiers” of permanence for you.

  Power

  First, get yourself something like a vertical rack power strip (like one of these). You can probably notch the shelves to incorporate it well, without adding any required space behind them. This alone will go a long way towards cleaning things up.

  Video

  This is probably the other biggest mess is the video cabling. Here, there’s a few options.

  Permanent, upgradeable, but harder to keep neat and probably a bit of a PitA to run cables

  Use some cable passthrough wallplates like these. You’d install one close to your shelving and one close to your TV, then fish cables through. Given the distance, there’s probably at least one stud in the way that would make it a bit of a pain.

  Permanent, cleaner look, probably easier to run and more expensive

  Use HDMI/coax/RCA jack plates and pull cable through attic or basement. May need active cables to avoid issues (differential pair signaling used by HDMI can get finicky).

  Semi-permanent

  Purchase or make cable raceways. There are some commercial products that replace baseboard or crown moulding. This is probably the easiest route for clean appearance. You can use the risers in the shelf as anchor points to run up or down to your raceway, if you are ok with visibility there. Otherwise, notch the shelves, like the above suggestion for power, and run raceway/square conduit up or down, with ports for each shelf tier.

  Less permanent, more expensive

  Get an A/V receiver/mux box that you can use as a central connection appliance for the shelves. This way, everything connects to it and you have the minimum number of cables going from it to your TV. I honestly don’t know how much these things currently cost but they used to be pricey on account of being marketed to the “audiophile” segment.

  Networking

  Try to concentrate as many of your network-capable systems on adjacent shelves as possible. Install a keystone jackplate and either run Cat6 for each device or use a small edge switch and as short of patch cables as you can manage.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨shrimp colour drama⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m AuADHD, myself, but do not experience synthesisia so that certainly colors my perspective. People with sensory sensitivities would definitely be more prone to experiencing challenges with synthesisia and sensory overload but anyone can potentially be impacted under the right circumstances. Particularly intense sensory stimuli can be stressful. Make it multi-sensory and the intensity level is effectively increased.

  Children who are otherwise neurotypical can sometimes have a little bit of a harder time with stress and intense sensations, which can manifest as meltdowns and the like.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨shrimp colour drama⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  a rare condition that’s seems to have no downsides and only benefits.

  A potential downside is sensory overload.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨ChatGPT is shifting rightwards politically⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t work at OpenAI so, I’m not implementing anything that would change it. I prefer to keep practicing my critical thinking, programming, and creative skills and there is no ethical model to use so, I’ll continue not to use it, for the most part.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨3's grip looks the most comfy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Platinum Preppy. Cheap and cheerful with the capability of taking a converter, different nips, and being converted into a refillable marker. Amazingly versatile pen.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sounds logical to me⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  An ex (casual) once told me about her ex that “He needed to suck enough dicks to realize that it wasn’t for him.” A little on the crass side, maybe, but she wasn’t judging him for it and it’s perfectly valid. We’ve only got one life to live and not experimenting with one’s sexuality, if so inclined, is kinda silly.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What happened to FlyingSquid?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, I’m referring to a claim that someone saw a reflection of a middle-aged man in a buttplug that was is a nicole photo (before it being deleted). I’ve not seen the image myself so, don’t know if it is a substantiated claim.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What happened to FlyingSquid?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Nicole? Or the Buttplug Man?