MachineFab812
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- Comment on Anon is married 2 days ago:
People like you just demand to be lied to and will never admit when things are contrary to what they expect. Thinking you’re really more truthful than others is just huffing your own farts.
I don’t gaslight people - I come clean and what’s this? I’m never called-out on things I’ve actually lied about - for anything that matters I was almost-always just wrong about something, genuinely confused, but good luck getting me to help you lie to yourself in a way that hurts people. Can you claim any of that with a straight face? Do you even own your mistakes, like ever? Doubt.
- Comment on Anon is married 3 days ago:
Nah, my wife is much more like you, and it’s often exhausting, although she’s learned a bit across the decades.
You’re a little old to be equating the capacity to lie to get by, doing even the bare minimum to preserve your own and others’ dignity, and feelings, with “being shitty”. As if euphemism and metaphore are just “cool story-telling tricks we developed for some reason”, or human recall doesn’t make AI hallucinations look almost par for the course of actual intelligence.
No wonder you’re single.
- Comment on Anon is married 3 days ago:
You don’t build on the bullshit and lies, but around it. It’s a pain-in-the-ass, but so is dealing with a snitch who is incapable of lying. Personally, I tell my wife and kids to throw me under the bus as needed to get them out of awkward conversations and commitments they don’t want to make. “My dad won’t let me do that” works a treat. The latest was “my dad won’t let me commit insurance fraud”(like I particularly care about insurance fraud, but my limits are surprisingly more restrictive than some we know who would never admit it).
- Comment on Anon is married 4 days ago:
House Income Vehicle (or at least used to public transit/walking/biking enough to not treat you as a chaufer)
… all anyone needs to bring to the table on a material level. People will tell you about their standards all day long, but most are hypocrites - they are more flexible than they’ll let-on and/or are probing for push-back, checking to see who will “wear the pants” in a relationship.
If you’re inflexible your-self, with zero tolerance for bullshit or even a sense of humor about it, you’re going to have a bad time.
People say “single people are single for a reason”, but almost always pretend its unique to their age group or dating pool/whatever, but really its just-about equally true at all ages, and always applicable to onesself. Hardly anyone is single just-because their shitty ex was so shitty - shitty people attract shitty people, and its easier to make a new lover into a shitty person than to un-fuck what previous relationships and they have done to themselves, trying to hold-on to what they saw in so-and-so to the point that when its over they can’t let go of all the bad “surprises” that awaited them.
Don’t think of yourself or your experiences as so different from theirs. If you’ve had fewer, longer-term relationships than they, you still likely had many events where you and previous SO’s fell in-and-out of love - you just happened to work through them until you didn’t. In many cases, by most people’s criteria, maybe you shouldn’t have, and in just-as many, maybe your partner “should have” walked-away - its when “should have” wins-out over attachment that the relationship is dead, even if it doesn’t know it yet.
That said, if someone demands to be treated like a pet, that’s between you and them, and no, I’m not referring to furries or people who are self-aware, but the “don’t you dare shatter my fantasies”-types. I don’t have the patience to constantly pretend I am also surprised that the inevitable happened, but I’ve seen plenty who do. The ones that realize it aren’t always so-bad off, unless its “I gotta pretend for th kid’s sake”. Generally, don’t have kids with the poor, the disrespectful, OR the crazy, yeah?
- Comment on Anon is married 4 days ago:
Still better to not have to face it out-in-the-open this side of (recognized/recognizable)change for the better. Don’t see where I said anything about you, but you didn’t hold back about me, did you? Am I supposed to thank you?
- Comment on Anon is married 4 days ago:
I’m talking about friends that are to be rightly missed. Still close-by and friendly, but not like it once was. Anyone remotely like you’ve described in my life moved-away or died. They rarely-offered and more importantly never-accepted help in the first-place.
I’m more afraid of being thought of as one of them than worried about bothering to ditch anyone like-so.
- Comment on Anon is married 4 days ago:
They think they are shooting you down, when really they are shoving you out of the way of the bullet that is themselves. “You know where to find me when you grow up" is a line I had worn-out by the end of my teens, yet I never get to leave it out of my repertoir for long.
The world is swimming in children of all ages. The only “favor” having them young migh do is forcing them to grow up a little earlier, and only if you’re very lucky, they are still whole enough to both resent you for it and forgive you. People think their adult children still idolizing them is a good result, but those children are NOT grown.
- Comment on Anon is married 6 days ago:
College educated couples who got married after the age of 30 are exactly the sort to buy a house before having kids. They’ll also have locked-in friends and family who they can count-on, and likely owe them favors. Other than grandparents and single people, these ARE the society you want in your corner.
As someone who did it in the reverse order, I promise you, you’re gonna burn a friendship or familial relation or three out of need, ones that otherwise would have lasted generations, and know as its happenning you’ll be living with that regret the rest of your life. You may be able to pay them back, but almost certainly neither in-kind or in any way, or on any time-scale, that makes the relationship what it once was.
As you get older, relationships ossify - it takes life-changing events to have any chance to undo extinction events or straight “I’m burned-out on their shit”.
So yeah, I have a lot of people who know that I, and my kids know, our family owes them and I will do anything in my power to do whatever I can to help them should they ever ask. They even would likely still help with whatever I asked for, even non-sense(“we’re square”)…
… BUT, they stopped coming to fun “note-worthy” things we invite them to many years-ago. Any sharing in our modest successes(or just relief that x milestone was reached) is tainted by all the dirty-dirty of all the sausage they’ve helped us make to get to here.
- Comment on Anon is married 6 days ago:
Relying on society, when it works out, still usually leaves you with over-extended or strained relationships(especially with friends and family), and kids who will never understand just what was so important about their conceptions and births that couldn’t have waited until you were a little more ready and not constantly stressed to the breaking point - kids who are absolutely right.
Ask me how I know. If I look at it from the stand-point of the heart-attack that seems due any day now, maybe there was some urgency, but without trying to shoe-horn kids into a lifestyle that wasn’t ready for them and ultimately had to be abandoned in-favor of doing whatever it takes to keep them happy and healthy, external/internal consequences be damned, then my health outlook might not look so bleak.
All that, and have you seen divorce statistics. Jesus FUCK, have you SEEN divorce statistics? … and it’s somehow still okay to throw massive financial insecurity into the mix, the SINGLE GREATEST driver of divorce? Sure. Aim for the stars, kid. The world is your oyster and all that.
- Comment on Anon is married 6 days ago:
The first one isn’t misogyny. Minus the specifivity of the “$2 million” part, its the Jewish tradition of what is required for a man to be able to propose. “Having kids is too expensive” is just the straight-up truth for anyone who isn’t uncommonly comfortable relying on charity and/or society.
Like, are we going off the avatar, pretending a woman who says those things is crazy? Because she’s absolutely not, and neither are the men trying to live up to those items, at a minimum.
- Comment on Anon watches redditors talk about bodycount 1 week ago:
There’s no way she put-in little-enough thought to make her statements since sincere, except, probably, drugs, but in the modern narrative that was just another layer of something that “happened to” her. I don’t buy the “self-harm” angle either - that’s just another facet of ex-post-facto internalized shame, without which none of the mental gymnastics would be “necessary”.
As for the rest of your first paragraph, right there with you. I’m never intentionally looking up the one video, at least.
- Comment on Anon watches redditors talk about bodycount 1 week ago:
Nothing wrong with it until she decided, probably after the fact, that it was wrong all-along, and she should probably at least pretend to regret it, as if society and people like you would ever forgive her, or just as likely, an angle for her to seize the spotlight for another precious moment without really trying. Thankfully, there’s people like you she was able to wring another few precious pennies from.
I’m not here for anyone’s perscriptive “should she have done that?” agendas, and your double-speak on the matter is gross.
- Comment on Damn, if only I could guide Rome through thousands of years of history... 1 week ago:
Dunno who that is, don’t care. Again, there’s plenty of other recent articles about it.
I can never discredit myself to the degree you have done yourself, attacking points and stances I never even came close to making or endorsing. Insincere, infantile and facetious from your first reply, and only escalating from there.
- Comment on Anon watches redditors talk about bodycount 1 week ago:
No fucks given about the body-count. Not putting a stop to it at the point it becomes traumatizing AND leaning-in on the trauma in public quotes? I relive all the times I let myself almost-break for a dollar enough in therapy enough, without risking strangers ask me about it or call me “brave”(as if THAT’S what would happen…)
… Oh, and let’s not pretend society(or even 95+% of women who despise OOP, rightly or otherwise…) would be cool with me being cool with that and still wanting to date Bonnie Blue this side of her-changing-career-paths and me magically having enough money to “fix” her, either. I’m not interested in increasing the number of judgy “I got mine”/aspiring prudes in this world, TYVM.
- Comment on Damn, if only I could guide Rome through thousands of years of history... 1 week ago:
My source was one of many, and only makes the Empire’s failure to endure look even more pathetic, but you get all butt-hurt about it as you like, I guess.
- Comment on Damn, if only I could guide Rome through thousands of years of history... 1 week ago:
Dude, read the article, but I used quotes for just that reason, that being the evidence we have is some evenly-spaced holes in some walls with flechettes lodged in some.
Where you got the idea I was just fellating the old empire from all that is beyond me, but at least I don’t have to give a damn which part of “the Ayatolla appreciates your efforts!” offends you exactly in return…
Seriously, versus OOP, I’m here for the
A E S T H E T I C . . .
Can we set the Dick-measuring contests aside for like, a minute? - Comment on Damn, if only I could guide Rome through thousands of years of history... 1 week ago:
No shit, I came here to point this out. Like, wtf does the WESTERN Roman Empire part really have to do with anything?
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 1 month ago:
Honestly, I’m the opposite. Fools are the only company I’m fit for, but “smart” fools if I can find them, if that makes sense. I try to avoid feeling like the “smart” one, although that avoidance hasn’t required any effort for me among my friends for literal decades by this point.
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 1 month ago:
Welp, you’ve nailed why I find it so ironic/hillarious when I’m told, at length and in excessive/invented detail, that I haven’t internalized/accepted my own failures enough.
Mind you, it almost never involves (even meta-physical)injury or inconvenience to anyone else, so there’s a lot of lip-flapping from people who can explain everything they have a problem with except for how what’s being complained-about is any of their business or problem.
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 1 month ago:
I spent enough of my life believing I was myself toxic that I just doubled-down. My mental-health suffered, but we’re at a point like a stand-off. I have an exit-plan and conditions that will trigger or prevent it, and I hope she does too, but with medication and therapy, I mostly feel like I’m where I want to be. Without it, my relationship would be irrelevant next to all the un-hinged shit I would get up to anyways.
I myself am not all that attached to the truth so much as I occassionally have to remind certain people that trying to convince anyone of utter-falsehoods and “non-disprovable” gibberish is boring, wasted effort, or worse. There is no upshot to abusing those who love you, at least not on a one-way street, and modern society has places if you really want to play the stupidest-possible games of bumper-cars.
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 1 month ago:
Psychopathy? Autism? BPD?
I stay medicated and too busy doing right by my family to dwell on it, but I have enough emotional depth that I sometimes wonder if I didn’t just decide to try to think and act like an unhinged psychopath one day(WAY before I met my wife…) in the hopes of avoiding abuse & despair. I’ll tell you this much: Whatever the case, that last part definitely didn’t work-out.
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 1 month ago:
Love-bombing a love-bomber can get epic, but then there’s the fallout when the one drops the act and is terrified by the possibilities that: you weren’t acting, you were just matching their energy and can meet them down in the trenches before they can actually drag you down, and/or you knew what they were up to and refuse to be made to have a problem with it(see “weren’t acting”).
Now you’re stuck with a bait-and-switcher who cannot grasp that you might not be pulling the same trick they just failed to land.
If this sounds like a lot of drama and a massive pain, it is, and that’s why its not recommended over disengaging once you’ve realized what’s happening.
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 1 month ago:
You new to greentext or what?
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 1 month ago:
Real gaslighters LOVE the opportunity to further twist facts, or maybe its compulsion. Its better to either disengage entirely or focus on one or two key points their bullshit cannot change
- Comment on US bans any new consumer-grade routers not made in America 2 months ago:
My personal solutions regardless of the law or regulations are besides the point.
- Comment on US bans any new consumer-grade routers not made in America 2 months ago:
FCC and Executive Branch unilaterally try to**
That said, I don’t have the money to try to import an unapproved router for personal use and then find/hire lawyers sue when its seized in customs, and am uncertain what arguments could be used in-court to affect this issue beyond for, maybe, myself ending up with a product I honestly don’t plan to use, but there has to be a way beyond begging Congress-Critters for some basic crumbs of Illusion-of-Choice-masquerading-as-Consumer-Rights … right?
- Comment on Anon is emotional intelligence. 2 months ago:
Not here, not now. That’s another thread.
- Comment on Anon is emotional intelligence. 2 months ago:
Demonstrates their point by raging-out unintelligibly. Never mentions gender. Commenters say its about hating women. Sure.
Emotional Intelligence at a singular level amounts to taking the appropriate time to compose oneself, but at the same time, just because one shows emotion doesn’t mean they don’t have a point.
I agree OP was likely rejected by someone, but I’ve seen gay men and lesbians use these phrases to try to manipulate their SO or counteract their SO’s bullshit, more often the “calm” one overtly attempting manipulation and gaslighting.
Bringing gender or “misogyny” into it is laughably besides-the-point to me. I saw a meme page try to say the 90%-of-prisoners-are-men statistic means its men who are overly-emotional, like the people who say women are too emotional have a point re:emotions, and only got the “women” part wrong. My fellow bitches, the “calm” ones are not on your side.
- Comment on Parents opt kids out of school computers, insisting on pen and paper instead 3 months ago:
I don’t think school districts have any business renting-out years-old Chromebooks full of spyware for amounts that could buy a newer laptop, but here we are.
Couple of weeks-ago, I had to basically trick my daughter’s Chromebook into caching a lesson at a resolution high enough for her to tell that her snow-day packet’s math problems actually were part of the lesson. There was no option to download the video or watch it on another device(also tried, even casting it to a TV wasn’t available).
… but yeah, what the district and Google are cool with is super-important. They don’t even use books.
- Comment on Anon changes his strategy 3 months ago:
Its always confounded me that, somewhere along the line, Simping:Spending time and money to let a stranger on the internet know you think she’s pretty and you likely see romance as transactional, got conflated with “Simping”: having the guts and sincerity to compliment a woman in-person, without reservation or expectation of reward.
Like, what? How did that become a thing?