Submitted 6 days ago by riseandrealise@lemmy.world to mildlyinfuriating@lemmy.world
Go to the police. File a report.
They’ll probably bs you saying they can’t do anything and to come back when something happens. and try to weasel out of a report.
But they’re legally obligated to take a report. start documenting this everytime it happens and get the courts involved.
This- I assume it’s a dude- Is not safe and he can’t take a hint.
Tell the police he threatened a CEO and they’ll send the FBI after him before lunch!
Just a word of warning… don’t lie to cops…
That’s actually a crime and they love dinging people for whatever they can.
in any case, it’s not untraceable. it’s probably pretty easily traced. but it’s a matter of filling out some paperwork to get started and cops hate paperwork. (I hate this I hope OP stays safe.)
If the police continue to not do their job, hire an attorney (if you can afford one) to go with you. The attorney doesn’t even need to do anything except be a witness.
They tell you there’s nothing they can do because they don’t want to be bothered. And they don’t want their stats to go up.
Having an attorney present bumps it up to “being fucked by court duty is worse than doing some paperwork”. Likely nothing they can do but having the paper trail of a stalking report will help YOU should the stalker escalate.
You know, that’s a good point.
I just checked. Victims are also entitled to speak to a public defender- or anyone interacting with the court or the justice system- including cops. (a private lawyer will be way more effective, PD’s are… stretched thin and overworked. yet another thing that needs to be changed.)
They did file multiple reports with the police, who did nothing.
This has been my experience with the police too, any time I’ve needed help or something has happened that needed investigating, they couldn’t be bothered to lift a finger. The closest they ever came to being helpful was when I did their job for them and handed them all the proof, no charges but they talked the idiot who damaged my place into paying money for parts so I could fix what they did. The system is fucking garbage unless you are rich.
like I said. the squeaky wheel gets the grease because it’s annoying as fuck. Keep doing it. Keep documenting it. Keep filing civilian complaints naming the officer explaining how difficult it was just to get them to do the report and they won’t do anything else.
it sucks. It’s awful. it certainly shouldn’t be this way.
Then do the next steps, complain to the court directly, inform politicans and the press. Police not doing their job should be seen as a big issue.
The system was designed to protect the upper upper class from the rest of us. Everything else is a ruse to get us to sign on. Know the law, know your (lack of) rights.
This is not mildly infuriating, it’s terrifying. I am sorry that nothing came of the Reports.
According to Crime Junkies Podcast, persistent stalking usually lead to violence or worse. Not to scare you but just expressing the gravity of the situation, as you already know. If police aren’t doing their job after multiple police reports, take it to your local news media and blast the police on their social media. This is force them to investigate, even if they’re pissed at you.
Plagiarizing and review-purchasing garbage podcast
The source may be bad, but their point is still true.
Bro cops never do shit in cases like these. Get a gun and be careful out there.
Caller: “I have a psycho stalker who keeps messaging me and I’m worried they’re going to do something violent to me”
Cops: “Call us after they harm you”
Caller: “I work for Blue Cross Blue Shield and a caller just said Deny Defend Depose”
Get twenty phone numbers. Whenever you meet someone you know, tell them you changed your number because of this stalker and to give you their phone so you can give them the new number. Give them a different number every time, until you reach twenty. Make a note of who got each number. Wait a week. If you weren’t contacted yet, do the same thing with 20 other people.
When you ARE contacted again, you’ll at least have a list of people who knew the number, if not the exact person. Then you put on a hoodie in a color you don’t usually wear, take a baseball bat to their head from behind, get rid of hoodie and baseball bat in a dumpster on the other side of town and enjoy the rest of your life.
That went from lawful to chaotic evil real quick.
Hopefully doesn’t really need said but hitting someone in the head with a bat could result in charges all the way up to murder, so you probably don’t want to do that.
What?! Oh god. Oh fuck. Oh fuck fuck fuck. I got to go.
Hopefully also doesn’t need saying, but this is why you get rid of the bat in a dumpster across town.
Voip numbers you mean? Otherwise in the US it can be found thanks to data brokers
This is beyond mildly infuriating. I’ve been stalked and it was a bit traumatic, even though I don’t fit the profile of an easy target. I wish you had some clue who they are or some way to fight back.
We’re all so lonely, won’t you give us someone to talk to? Post the unedited screenshot so we can all make a friend
Actually that would be really funny. Imagine they just get a ton of people contacting them to tell them to leave this person alone.
It’s better than signing them up for spam. We could add that personal touch
Haha and then they freak out and hurt or kill OP lmao that’d be hilarious and epic guys.
Okay this is probably bad advice, feel free to ignore:
Why not pretend you are interested and pretend you want to meet up
Then get a bunch of trusted friends to go and “confont” this person (with baseball bats).
okay yea this could go very wrong, but it is an option
But real advice, carry pepper spray, and if you are in a country that permits firearms, get a gun to carry with you (if you are comfortable with handling firearms, that is).
As for the messages, you can block anything not in your contacts.
Filter messages from unknown senders
With iMessage, you can prevent unknown senders from texting you directly. Their messages are filtered to another folder, and you don’t get notified about them.
Go to Settings > Apps > Messages.
Scroll down to Message Filtering, then turn on Filter Unknown Senders.
If this setting is on and you’re missing a message, check to see if it was filtered to Unknown Senders. Tap Filters in the top-left corner of the conversation list, then tap Unknown Senders.
Note: You canʼt open any links sent by an unknown sender until you make them a known sender—by adding them to your contacts or replying to the message.
From Apple website: support.apple.com/guide/iphone/…/ios
For phone calls (in case the person tries to call):
Send unknown and spam callers to voicemail
Go to Settings > Apps > Phone, then tap any of the following:
Silence Unknown Callers: You get notifications for calls from people in your contacts, recent outgoing calls, and Siri Suggestions.
Call Blocking & Identification: Turn on Silence Junk Callers (available with certain carriers) to silence calls identified by your carrier as potential spam or fraud.
From Apple website: support.apple.com/guide/iphone/…/ios
I keep seeing this “buy a gun” advice. Do you have any evidence that a gun will actually help? Your likelihood of dying to a gun and specifically that gun skyrocket, and there is little in the way of evidence for it being effective self defense (that I have found):
psychologytoday.com/…/does-owning-gun-protect-you
I can understand wanting to feel protected and safe, but introducing an efficient killing device into the situation may not be the safest choice.
Definitely not mild, this is seriously infuriating
You may be able to reverse search the number and find out the provider then reach out to them and report him, hopefully that will hinder him from getting burner numbers easily.
Trivial for law enforcement, almost impossible for regular people
Depends if you’re in a country where ID has to be shown and registered in a database when activating a SIM card.
IMO he is spoofing numbers so he can set anything as a call ID anyway.
I was called by spoofers for a few weeks (same exact time every day but with a different number). My (European) provider said they can’t do anything about it.
Truthfully nobody is safe on our current phone system.
Even though this is not probably what is happening to OP and I don’t want to overly worry them but checkout this video by Veritasium :
youtu.be/wVyu7NB7W6Y?si=HG6zC6YnXsjqt89-
Maybe OP should change completely of phone number.
Why not change your number?
And have them follow to new number after number because they are one of the 100s of people who have OP’s number legitimately? Why disrupt your whole life for this asshole. Better to get them caught and be done with it.
If that’s the case I assume OP knows who they are in reality or can figure it out pretty easily. From there either legal action or a beating can be administered, as appropriate.
How would they keep getting the new number though lol
WTF?
Contact your carrier and tell them you are being harassed. They probably can tell you who it is and take action. If they can’t go to the police and tell them you are being harassed.
Hopefully you can enlist the aid of somebody with significant tech/computer knowledge. If you can, it could be useful to “dox” this individual. A vindictive cracker can come up with all sorts of ways to make his life difficult until he gives up.
In the meantime, document EVERYTHING. This is absolutely crucial if you ever attempt to get some kind of protective order through the courts. Often, as long as you’ve clearly communicated that you desire zero contact, then no matter how “politely” they word things, continued attempts to contact you should count legally as harassment.
Finally, this is not mild. This is the mindset of an abuser. Please stay safe, no matter what you do!
If this happened to my gf this person would be my new hobby. I would be thoroughly pwning everything theyve ever touched online. Kid gloves off, black hat on.
If financially feasible, OP, I wonder if it would be worth contacting a lawyer? If nothing else they might be able to advise on next steps and/or pressure the police to do something more than nothing at all.
Based on this and the other message you posted, this person sounds pretty unpleasant, and potentially much worse. I hope this gets sorted soon. Be safe.
That’s crazy. I bet you can send a link that if clicked will expose more of their info?
Super easy to do: howtogeek.com/…/how-to-track-someones-ip-and-loca…
You probably already know this, but just in case, there are options in phone settings to ignore unknown numbers.
It looks like it’s some “nice guy”. Send a link “ok you definitely won my heart now, click here to see my nude”. When the word “nude” appears, his small brain goes in overflow, and his dick will let him click that link. The link is something that let you track his ip address AND shows a dick pick, for immediate brain crash
Yeah, don’t do this… If the guy is a Nice Guy™, offering up fake nudes is just going to feed into their delusion as confirmation of their approach and make them feel even more entitled. And if the nudes end up being a dick pic, they usually end up getting violent and threatening instead of backing off.
Bad advice. Don’t engage stalkers in any capacity, let alone trying to trick them. The last thing you want to do is to make them feel embarrassed or threatened.
Tell me you’re not a woman without telling me you’re not a woman.
You think that’s funny! I’ll fucking kill you! You have no idea how nice I am! Why won’t you be with me ILL MURDER YOU IN YOUR SLEEP I’M SO NICE YOU HAVE NO IDEA
Yeah maybe don’t do this.
And this is why I enjoy being an average-looking nobody. So creepy!
This is not a service I personally use, but I’ve thought about it: services like mysudo let you select and create new phone numbers. anonyome.com/individuals/mysudo-plans/
In your situation I might research and select a service like this. Then create a few disposable numbers. Give one to your trusted friends and family, another to employers and banks, etc, and the third to anyone else you need to contact.
Once you’ve transitioned everything important to the new numbers, get yourself a new phone number, and don’t give it to anyone. Maybe just your parents, for emergencies.
This has 2 downsides and 2 big advantages I can see.
Cons:
1, it cost you monthly. I think 3 numbers from mysudo is little $5 a month 2, it’s a pain to transition folks to your new number.
Pros:
1, if your stalker finds one of your new numbers, it’s easier to change the. 2, you can narrow down who it might be. Like, if you have a number dedicated to work contacts and the stalker starts texting it, you know they either are a coworker or got it from a coworker.
I think Google voice can also give you some free numbers, so look into that. Good luck!
ask to meet them “to clarify this situation” or something, have somebody there to kick their ass
Or have several somebodies and throw a surprise party at a parking lot to scare him away. I’m not sure if I’d work but it’d be a perfect opportunity to choreograph that scene from West Side Story. ☺
Consider reporting it to the local authorities. This is textbook stalking, and is illegal in nearly all first world countries.
reporting it to police is good because it leaves a paper trail. did you show the messages to police too? the stalker sounds real crazy, so i think it will help your case.
I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. I don’t know if you’re comfortable doing it, but I would post the number. Each time they text from a new number, post it. Hell, make a new Lemmy community just for posting their number each time. on top of that, turn off read receipts. Between no contact from you and unceasing contact from others, they may eventually determine it’s not worth the effort.
I think less than five people know my real phone number. I have been using the same “Google Voice” number to forward to my phone since the service was called Grand Central (pre-Google buy out). It filters out calls and texts from disposable VOIP numbers by default. They go straight to SPAM. You can port your main number to Google Voice and forward it back to your current phone. You can also text and call from your new phone through Google Voice so the people on the other line still see your original number and only you know it has been ported.
No idea how to stop it/this/help you. Wish you though strength o endure it and them that their fingers may rot away.
I think it’s time for a few freaky personals ads on Craigslist using their contact info.
Trick them into showing up in a public place and have a friend photograph them
Photograph to show to Yagami Light?
You should send the cops ever-increasing stalker messages. See what their reaction is. /s
Is this seriously you that happened this to or are you just sharing some random screenshots?
If this is really you, I’d genuinely ask them. Like, why they are doing this to you, where they know you from. This might give you some insight on who they are, where they know your from and their motivations.
If you just block you without interacting, of course they want to continue trying to get responses, but if you understand it, you might get some usable information and see why they act like that.
Do not take this advice. Do not engage.
If somebody is being a bully, you should, in fact, confront them and let them know that you want their bullying behavior to stop. (Preferably, not in person, though.) What they’re doing right now is only reinforcing the behavior.
And what was the gift?
Fear
That’s shit. I never give people my real number for this reason - google voice. I can easily change it if I have problems.
Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 6 days ago
Consider Turning off read receipts so they will not know you saw the message. Control the data flow.
support.apple.com/guide/iphone/…/ios
(I’m assuming they know you block them by the “read” in the chat program, if you reply to them, that’s different, and consider stopping that. Don’t give them any attention)