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- Comment on Is the "everyday stuff" supposed to feel normal? Do y'all just have a parent do things then when you're supposed to be the adult you panic? 2 weeks ago:
First - try not to worry (easy for me to say that, I know). This sort of stuff can seem overwhelming, especially if you’ve never done it before. Many (most/all?) people will have felt the same at some point, and possibly even still do after going through it plenty of times. Perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed. But you can get through it.
Second - try not to catastrophise about what *might *happen, what *might *go wrong, because that’s just an endless loop of worry and it’ll make it harder to get on and do the stuff (which leads to more worrying, etc). Most of it won’t happen, so don’t waste energy thinking about how you’ll cope with situations that you’ll probably not ever encounter.
Third - Don’t fear gatekeepers. I find that most people, most of the time, are genuinely trying to be helpful and pleasant, and if you say to them that , “I’ve not done this before, how do I…?” they’ll help you out as best they can. Don’t be overly apologetic, don’t go in with the assumption that you’re a bother to them or are wasting their time - it’s their job to help get you from one position to another, and it’s usually in their interest to get you there with the minimum of fuss.
Not everyone will be like that of course, but most will (in my experience anyway), especially if you keep things simple and focus on the task you want to accomplish rather than giving off “I’m panicking, help!” vibes, as that makes emotional demands on them, and they are usually there for functional reasons, not emotional support. So just be like, “Hi, I’ve not done this before, can you help me?” and take it from there. Let their experience guide you.
Fourth - do one thing at a time, and even then break tasks down into smaller chunks. So the passport thing - read what you can online (or speak to someone official), and note down specific documents/photos that you will need to gather. Then take each of those as its own individual task and break those tasks down into the steps to achieve each one. Each individual task probably isn’t all that complicated on its own, and you don’t have to do them all at once. Spread it out as much as you want, unless you’re in a hurry. But have a plan and stick to it, eg:
Day 1 - I need a photo - What kind of photo is acceptable? Where can I get one? Can I get it today? If so, go get it (if not, decide when you will do so, and stick to that), put it somewhere safe (a folder, and envelope, whatever) - and then stop. You’ve done the first task, well done.
Day 2 - I need proof of my address - What kind of proof is acceptable? Do I already have it? If so, get it (if not, decide when you will do so, and stick to that). Put it aside in your folder - and then stop. You’ve done the second task, well done.
Etc…
If something proves easy/quick enough, then maybe start on the next day’s task, but don’t try to do everything at once - you’re learning this stuff, you will make mistakes, but you’ll also cope with them and learn better for next time.
Adulting is complicated - but you learn it bit by bit, and in the end you’ll be ok. Good luck!
- Comment on Are there seach engines that dont depend Google and Bing, if not what are the barriers to entry of new search engines? 2 weeks ago:
This is sadly also one of the primary damages that AI is currently doing to the internet field, because not only is it decreasing web traffic for web hosts due to AI summaries and searches, but it’s also forcing web hosts to have to block or restrict indexers
Not to mention the damage it’s doing to content quality, as websites become increasingly written in a way that’s meant to optimise for AI placement, and are increasingly being populated with content written by an AI in the first place. Information, written by machines, for machines. It’s depressing as hell (and hard to see how it ultimately helps engage real actual people, who seem to be an afterthought sometimes).
- Comment on Random Choice in Newcomb's Paradox 3 weeks ago:
You have the option to take either just the first box, or both boxes. In the first it always puts $1,000. In the second it will put either $1 million if it thinks you’ll take just the first box; or $0 if it thinks you’ll take both.
I think that’s slightly wrong. IIRC, the machine will put the million in box 2 if it thinks you’ll only choose box 2.
There has to be a way to get the million for this to work, and the way you laid it out would make it impossible to get the million.
Also, I’m not sure that we, as the chooser, know for sure exactly how accurate the machine is - if we did, and it was 99.99% accurate then it’d be a pretty easy choice to only pick box 2 and thus get the million 99.99% of the time.
I think there has to be some doubt about the machine’s predictive accuracy to make the choice of box 2 only, a risky one.
However I’ve only watched the MinutePhysics video, and I was getting quite confused tbh! 😁
- Comment on Will an American remake of Squid Game be bad or better than the original? 5 weeks ago:
They made a US version of Spaced?? This I have to see. It’s SO British in tone.
- Comment on Will an American remake of Squid Game be bad or better than the original? 5 weeks ago:
Would depend who made it, both the producing company and the director.
If they tried to properly emulate the darkness of the show, and had something to actually say about society, then in the right hands it could be decent. As long as it wasn’t just the exact same plot, they’d need to have their own story to tell.
For example, I could imagine David Simon doing something interesting with it, relating to the corrosive nature of capitalism, media, etc.
But more likely the focus would be on the games and the gore and the lore of the Game itself, plus personal interactions between the contestants, love triangles, etc. Which IMO is less interesting.
- Comment on Is the "Gen z stare" a real thing? 1 month ago:
Don’t know about mainland Europe but, in the UK, generational names are definitely a thing. Stupid newspaper headlines about Millennials, Gen Z, Gen Alpha, are very common, unfortunately.
Agree about the idea of getting rid of them, judge people on what they do (the content of their character, if you will) rather than what age they are.
- Comment on I almost got to try my new quick clamp 1 month ago:
Claaaaaaaaaammmmmmmp!
- Comment on I almost got to try my new quick clamp 1 month ago:
Clamp!
- Comment on I almost got to try my new quick clamp 1 month ago:
CLAMP CLAMP CLAMP.
- Comment on I am looking for a Linux OS 2 months ago:
Not who you were replying to, but thanks for this. I’m hoping to give Linux a go this year, on an old laptop that isn’t needed anymore, and this makes me feel more confident about it!
- Comment on I am looking for a Linux OS 2 months ago:
They only run Miaowcrosoft products.
- Comment on If the color of the Sun was orange, wouldn't the clouds and everything white also be orange? My friend is adamant that 30 years ago the "real" Sun was orange but got replaced with a white LED. 3 months ago:
Is your friend related to the person in this song?
- Comment on How do I deliver an American eBay package to my hotel? 3 months ago:
If that was genuinely a typo, it’s brilliant!
Chicago is in Illinois, whose 2 letter code is IL 😁
- Comment on Capital i and lowercase L look the same in pretty much any sans-serif computer font 3 months ago:
One of them calls me Betty.
- Comment on Why in hospitals, is 'gun shot wound' appreciated as "GSW"- 3 months ago:
I saw Stephen Fry suggest once that it be pronounced “Wuh Wuh Wuh” which I kind of like :-)
- Comment on How come Netflix removed the N from their shows, kind of make it seem like they borrow all the stuff? I usually use it for a segway into other shows/movies not made by them? 3 months ago:
I think OP was saying the opposite. They use(d) the N to avoid Netflix originals. Which may also be an answer as to why they have (apparently) removed it.
Seems better to me though, the N was annoying, and there have been some very good Netflix originals, so it’d be a shame if people refused to even consider them on that basis alone.
- Comment on I am so scared of nuclear war, how do I cope with it? 4 months ago:
As long as you are not in major target city … you will be fine.
That seems pretty complacent tbh.
First of all even just the top 30 cities in the US are home to about 41 million people. Which seems a lot of folk to simply write off.
Also, the destruction of the major cities would cause huge/complete economic, social, infrastructural and legal collapse for the rest of the country.
Plus, even for those outside the immediate blast radius, there’d be the massive environmental impact of pollution to land and water, not least the potential for a nuclear winter killing off crops, and then animals.
Turns out my house was outside the blast radius if the base was nuked.
Without knowing the size of the bomb, how could you know you would be outside it? Not that blast radius is all that matters anyway.
- Comment on I am so scared of nuclear war, how do I cope with it? 4 months ago:
Come, friendly nukes…
- Comment on Why didn't Venezuela move its capital further away from the ocean to make the government more resilliant to capitulation? 4 months ago:
It’s not at all uncommon for major cities to be on or near bodies of water, eg London, LA, NYC, Sydney, Tokyo, Rio, etc. It’s a facilitator to (and outcome of) trade/travel and also can be a source of food and water (for cities on rivers/lakes, obviously).
And it’s also not uncommon for major cities to become capital cities.
Not really surprising that as a country with one coastline, they have their capital so close to the sea.
- Comment on Why do SO MANY reviews now talk about "phone wobble"? 4 months ago:
The majority of phone reviewers (and modern tech reviewers in general) get their review units for free so they lack that feeling and awareness that comes with spending $1000+ of their own money on a new device.
Agreed, but if I ever spent a 1000 bucks on any product, I’d expect it to be able to sit in a usable position without wobbling.
I’m glad they’re highlighting this - the more the better until phone design is improved to eliminate such a stupid flaw.
- Comment on If God (or any creator of the universe) exists would he be made out of atoms? 4 months ago:
In the way that this supreme power would exist, there is no way for us to quantify it.
So, dark matter, then?
/jk
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
It’s a place on Earth.
- Comment on Why are there so many Christmas songs, yet hardly any New Year's ones? 4 months ago:
Just change it to We Wished You…
- Comment on Why do some people have so many tabs open on their browser? 5 months ago:
I usually have 50-70 tabs open, spread across 6-8 windows.
Each window is for a particular client, usually with various pages from their website, plus the equivalent CMS editing page, their socials, etc. I’m regularly doing a small job for one client here and other there, and so on, so it’s easier to just leave them open.
I also usually have at least one or two windows with my own stuff - Lemmy, BlueSky, a football ⚽ forum I use, YouTube, BBC News, etc.
It’s messy, but it works on the whole. It’s a pain whenever I need to restart or run updates though, since I need to check every tab to make sure it’s safe to close! 😁
- Comment on What's the name of the early-mid 2000's song that sounds like Beyonce, starts with a "dun...dun... dun DUN!" guitar part, and the singer makes this "dabudabudabu" sound? 6 months ago:
Great tune!
- Comment on What's the name of the early-mid 2000's song that sounds like Beyonce, starts with a "dun...dun... dun DUN!" guitar part, and the singer makes this "dabudabudabu" sound? 6 months ago:
Good shout - OP, this is probably the one.
- Comment on Would it be correct to say that enshittification is the physical manifestation of the economic ai bubble bursting? 6 months ago:
This is a stunningly beautiful extended metaphor.
- Comment on So...I feel like there are a lot of elephants in the room, could i get some help? 6 months ago:
+1 on Ask Dad videos - this is a good channel: youtube.com/@dadhowdoi
Also +1 on everything else you said, especially the never stop learning point.
OP, it’s totally ok not to know things - you can seek them out in advance, or you can discover them along the way, as and when necessary.
You’ll be ok, pretty much everyone muddles through life one way or another. Best of luck 👍
- Comment on During the lead up to the Holocaust did the N... regime just kidnap people who they even thought were Jews? Kind of like ICE is doing to citizens today? 6 months ago:
Naggers?
- Comment on I got out easy, I'm assuming 6 months ago:
Only stupid and ill-informed Brits.
Unfortunately, that may be the majority of us.