One thing that no one ever told me about being a parent was that it would be so much fun. Getting to be the one who introduces another human to everything doesn’t get old. Is it challenging? Of course, but everything in life has pros and cons. The bond I have with the little ones is something I’d never give up and life before was easy-mode. You do have to grow beyond being selfish though. Some people can’t (and that’s okay, they shouldn’t be parents). That’s what this picture makes me think.
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Submitted 3 weeks ago by canyoubringmesunrise@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Tylerdurdon@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Dozzi92@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah, I tell my kids all the time that without winter, summer just isn’t as enjoyable, and that even in late August and early September I’ll say, you know what, I’m ready to change it up. I don’t have this expectation of perfection from any facet of life, including my kids and the relationship I have with them. The bads and the goods are all part of the experience, and to me the experience is rewarding.
But I absolutely don’t fault someone for wanting perpetual summer. Summer is great.
wildncrazyguy138@fedia.io 3 weeks ago
Yea I’m sitting here thinking I’d love for my kid to go all Kevin Mccallister on this and just watch how excited they’d be.
petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Aww :)
ZkhqrD5o@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
IMO: the reason I don’t want kids is because I can’t imagine myself saying: “Now, after a long day of work at my full-time job, I can’t wait to get home to my other, unpaid caretaker full-time job.” IMO being a good parent is hard work and I if I were to be a parent, I want to do it properly.
gurty@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Every time I see one of these posts, it reads like ‘I can’t have kids because that would get in the way of my wanking and smoking pot time’ I mean, it is all good but it’s never ‘my job is very demanding and it would stop me from being able to parent’ or something.
Zier@fedia.io 3 weeks ago
These posts are about having your freedom. That freedom includes careers, ambitions, sometimes luxury vacations. It's also about how expensive it is to have & raise children.
If I had children I would end up just like my neighbors, getting high the minute the kids are in bed and eating shit food. What a horrible life.gurty@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
What is a horrible life? Being a parent?
makeshift0546@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Have kids. I’ve gone and raced in 2 lemons races this year with 2 more to follow as well as well have a few trips with the family. My wife has a Noah khan concert coming up and a Boston trip later this year.
Kids changed things but I assure everyone, I probably have a more active and fun life than most the depressed doom scrollers on here without the kids 🤷♂️
IratePirate@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
Kids changed things but I assure everyone, I probably have a more active and fun life than most the depressed doom scrollers on here without the kids
So much this. It’s so hard to remain a miserable grinch when there’s a tiny human tugging on your limbs in order to make you touch some actual fucking grass and engage in am epic water gun battle.
EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Every time I see a comment like this it’s either from a parent that regrets becoming a parent, or someone who has never had kids…
gurty@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’d say ‘don’t reproduce’ but I guess we’re safe on that front.
swab148@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
You forgot about “I’m not willing to feed capitalism more slaves”
exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
I’m willing to feed the revolution more fighters though
gurty@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Ecofascists love this line.
Diddlydee@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
I’ll stick with eating at a table.
wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Me, eating out a twinks ass in the bed: “suit yourself I guess”
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
While not everyone should have kids and I fully support people choosing not to have any…
You can have this and have kids. Just not every day. Unless you’re stupid wealthy and have a nanny or something.
But maybe I’m weird and am one of the few that actually like my kids and having them around. Sure, they can be a pain in the ass sometimes, but not so much that I want to escape them or anything.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
How rich are you that you can have a kid for breakfast every day?
0ops@piefed.zip 3 weeks ago
Gotta be rich enough to run for public office, at least
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Damn. Lol.
antsu@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
In this economy? Gotta be a billionaire at least.
Paddzr@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
If you’re stupidly wealthy to have this daily? Kids are irrelevant.
musicjunkie@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The people with this sentiment are largely jaded women who skipped kids and have to cope themselves and the next generation into sharing their spinster misery. It’s a tale as old as time lol. It’s this very weird phenomenon specifically with women to want to spread their misery to other women. It’s a hyper competitive behavior that seems to peak in their 40s/50s
Seppo@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Shared happiness is double happiness. My son would love this.
I wish antinatalists the help that they need.
okwhateverdude@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This is some bless-your-heart level of passive aggressive, lol. I don’t think our society deserves any more bodies. And I am not selfish enough to foist this on another being just for my own gratification.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The way you think about others that don’t think the same way you do is pretty shitty.
I feel bad for how you must raise your child.
AndyMFK@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
The implication is to have breakfast in bed with your partner, not alone
As an antinatalist, I assure you the parents need a lot more help than us (and they’re not shy about asking for it)
roserose56@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
This and kids, yes!
FistingEnthusiast@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This and rescued dogs
No children.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This with two dogs, two pigs, and 35+ chickens.
And no children. It’s bliss.
roserose56@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
I like how we are in shitpost yet people downvote what we say, even if it’s not real.
Squibbles@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Floppy waffles? No deal
thesohoriots@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That’s the real issue here.
Thorry@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
Eating jam near white bed sheets? No thank you!
Photonic@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Tacky interior and breakfast only consisting of sweets? No thank you
makeshift0546@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Ugh the ACHKTUALLY nerds out in full force 🤣
EWWWWWW GROSS, SOMEONE MIGHT SPILL A CRUMB IN MY BED THAT WILL BE CLEANED IN 2 HOURS!!! THE HORROR, THE HORROR!
Nerds 🤣
bennypr0fane@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
Crumbs in the bed are the riders of the apocalypse. They will eat you in your sleep.
Photonic@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Ok boomer
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Have you ever actually met one of those
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
I think the split is between people taking this as this being their bed, vs people seeing it as a hotel bed
makeshift0546@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
In either case you have people working for you. It’ll be cleaned.
thedarkfly@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
I’ve never understood childfree communities and posts. Is it because parents can’t shut up about their kids so you’re doing the same? Are your friends having children and you don’t like the change? Are you feeling pressure from family or society and rejecting it? Or shadenfreude for struggling parents?
I just can’t imagine it as something positive. It always looks like people are seething about something.
Notyou@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
As a child free person myself, I see it as more it being annoyed from all the pro-child people. I’m a guy so my push back was minimal. My wife has has many people talking to her for years about… how she will change her mind What if a future husband want kids Does your husband beat you and that’s why you don’t want kids
She had to go through over a decade of telling her doctor before she was able to get anything medical so prevent kids.
We have nieces and nephews. We love them. Kids are great, but just not for us. I think the people that post aggressively about child free probably had to go through a lot of BS like my wife did.
thedarkfly@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
I’ll share my personal situation in return. I’m not a parent, but I’d like to be someday. And indeed I feel very anxious about losing my free time etc. That’s why I’m taking this a bit personally, these childfree posts are not helping me at. all. 😅
thedarkfly@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
Thanks for sharing your experience! I can 100% understand and share how you both feel. It’s unacceptable to pressure someone into making choices that aren’t theirs. Not having a child is a personal decision that is not up to debate and should be accepted without justification.
But that’s what I’m talking about. Child free content on social networks appears like an expression pride, joy or contentment, but feels to me more like an expression of hurt. Instead of celebrating what people love in their childfree lives, it always looks to be somehow addressed to parents to taunt them or revel.
Idk. Maybe it’s like pride parades. People being oppressed for who they are want to openly proclaim their identities because it makes them feel good and I’m overthinking it.
Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Yuck. That gold trim on the bed is awful.
Give me some takeout boxes on a shitty table over this any day.
FosterMolasses@leminal.space 2 weeks ago
Elon Musk’s next mistress be like:
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
It’s like as of Donald Trump actually treated the kids nice
schnokobaer@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
That gives me nothing.
itsjustachairmary@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I do not aspire to live in Versailles thank you. Just a normal house with like, 13 cats.
anon_8675309@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yeah no thanks. None of that would leave me emotionally fulfilled.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
And a pretty girl who has already eaten.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Can get you burnt toast and fries every day in bed. Take it or leave it.
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Eating a multi course breakfast like this in bed would be both gross and inconvenient, let’s not lie to ourselves.
iknewitwhenisawit@fedinsfw.app 3 weeks ago
It’s like using your laptop poolside. Seems cool but actually sucks ass.
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Yep, the idea is far better than the reality.
Enjoy your breakfast in bed, sweetie. Then get the hell up so I can wash the sheets, because crumbs in the bed is absolutely nasty.
panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I put those puppies training pads in my bed so I can catch the syrup I drip and that sticks to my fingers after.
I’m okay with croissant crumbs on my pillow, it detracts from the feeling of my eye boogers.
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
People like you should be culled.
zeroConnection@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
I can’t tell if the food is on the bed or on a table in front of the bed.
Zier@fedia.io 3 weeks ago
It looks like the room service cart is parked at the foot of the bed.