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“why didn’t you reply” " I don’t reply to numbers I don’t know in case it’s spam or phishing"
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Submitted 3 days ago by cantankerous_cashew@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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MrNesser@lemmy.world 3 days ago
bizarroland@lemmy.world 2 days ago
The correct answer is to not reply to this text, and then eventually the girl will break and ask you why you never replied to the text, to which you can say, “Oh, that was you? I thought it was a scam text. I don’t talk to unknown numbers”.
OldChicoAle@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Or “oh, that was you? We never became exclusive and instead of having a conversation with me like adults, you started to play games with me like children. I think we both know this relationship will not work. I hope you find whatever drama filled relationship you’re looking for”
rustydrd@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 days ago
The correct answer is not to cheat.
deft@lemmy.wtf 2 days ago
She says “talking to” I don’t think that’s really cheating.
I’m a full grown adult. I do have friendships with people I had relationships with. I do hangout with friends who are women. I do have relationships at work where someone expresses interest in me and I engage
If we are just talking and being friends, figuring out what this could be. I don’t think that’s an exclusivity thing. Make that clear, ask for that, establish the relationship. Talking to you doesn’t suddenly acquire a relationship from me.
boonhet@sopuli.xyz 2 days ago
If they discussed exclusivity, sure. But we don’t really know if that’s even happened yet.
gigastasio@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
“You’re either Becky, Sierra, or Carly. Because Tiffany and Lexi would never be this fucking petty.”
oats@piefed.zip 3 days ago
“What message? Oh no, I blocked unknown numbers, I didn’t see that”
Feel like this is pretty easy to work around…
mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
iMessage sends read receipts by default, so she can probably see that he read it.
undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 2 days ago
Is it really by default? I had it on for a long, long time but thoughts others had it off by default. Now I have it off by default too but turn it on for people I actually care about.
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 2 days ago
Lol. Look at this guy, able to have more than one person interested in him.
Tiral@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Sure. It’s also not weird for someone to not want to be with someone who’s keeping you around as a backup or piece of ass, especially being represented as a real relationship. Putting your all into one person and expecting the same back isn’t that radical of a concept.
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 2 days ago
Does that apply both ways? Cause everything I’ve read about modern dating culture is that women can talk to as many men at a time as they want to as long as they’re not exclusives, and if a man doesn’t like that then he’s an insecure chauvinist loser. At least that’s what I’ve been told.
But it’s still not okay for men to talk to multiple women at a time? I’m tired of these double standards.
TAG@lemmy.world 2 days ago
You missed the joke. Obviously, a man is only going to have 0 or (rarely) 1 woman interested in him, but the woman is assuming that he is talking to many women, which is physically impossible.
Nomorereddit@lemmy.today 2 days ago
Once I showed a girl how I track my calories/fitness using a chart. In the side I keep a few sentences on how my day was. You know, hungry, moody, whatever.
I scrolled past 2 week old log and it said had best sex of my life with Rachel, repeatedly all day."
I apologized. Talked with her about how we both adults, I didnt mean to put that in her face but people have sex we are adults and in our 30s.
She was cool…and low key wanted me more. For the first time in my life she sent me pics of her in undies later, unprompted.
Anyway, so thats how I met your mother.
breezeblock@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
Whoah there — talking like adults??
Etterra@discuss.online 2 days ago
If you’re only talking and they get jealous then you dodged a fucking bullet.
Furbag@pawb.social 2 days ago
Yeah, forget about playing dumb or figuring out ways of getting away with it, I’d be like “I dunno, who are you?” so when they tell me I can immediately cut contact with them.
If they play games like this for just texting other women they won’t be mellowing out if you decide to get serious.
Monument@piefed.world 2 days ago
This is why you just be honest.
Look, we’re in modern times.- Act ethically. Keep no secrets.
- Fuck whoever you want, but make sure everyone is on board and in the know.
- You’re the firewall to your sexual network. If your network is one person or a hundred, you verify the status of each new partner before you engage in something that could expose you to risk. (Verify, don’t ask. See the paperwork.)
- Get tested regularly to establish a baseline. The periodicity depends on your risk factors and the size/velocity of your sexual network. Once every 3-4 new people in the network is common in my experience.
And that’s it!
Pro tip: Boundaries end at your body. You shouldn’t tell someone not to be who they are, but you can choose not to accept a relationship style that doesn’t work for you. And vice versa.
Life is too short to be unhappy.olenkoVD@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Okay that’s actually genius.
Soulg@ani.social 2 days ago
Genius way to get dumped immediately, nobody wants to date someone that childish and insecure
Rhaedas@fedia.io 2 days ago
It's not really insecure if he can't answer the question. Maybe this is just verification of a known thing.
hoohoohoot@fedinsfw.app 3 days ago
And why would you be the only girl?? Lol
Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Asking the right question here!
Totally red flag.
hoohoohoot@fedinsfw.app 2 days ago
Exactly!
Its not like shes together with him
7U5K3N@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Idk is it:
Monica, Erica, Rita, Tina, Sandra, Mary, Jessica ?
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 days ago
“Insecurity is such a side-bitch move.”
ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org 2 days ago
Just Monica
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I wonder how many people she’s sent this message to?
newton@feddit.online 3 days ago
Sorry , I don’t trust this , its feel like you want my identity details . bye WALDO
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 days ago
“LOL, why are you texting me while asleep beside me in bed, silly goose!?”
toynbee@piefed.social 2 days ago
All of these responses are suggestions about how to get away with it with varying degrees of cleverness. I don’t mean to be all holier than thou, but one reason I’ve stuck with not lying for decades is that, if you don’t, you needn’t keep track of stuff like this.
AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Hell yeah. Less to try and keep track of. If you only try to tell the truth then you just have to recall events instead of make them up.
In regards to the text, people are surprisingly open if you’re dating around so long as you make that clear upfront. Yes it will turn some people away, but then you can completely avoid situations like this.
toynbee@piefed.social 2 days ago
If I have to mislead someone, I don’t want to be in that situation. Polyamory isn’t my way, but I don’t see anything wrong with it … So long as everyone involved is aware of, and has agreed to, the arrangement.
I haven’t met many polyamorous couples, but of those I have, the primary issue is that one of the parties has agreed under some form of duress. That’s obviously not okay.
My personal philosophy has always been that everyone involved must provide informed consent and no permanent damage, especially physical, may be caused. There will always be outlying concerns, but those are the things that seem to matter to me.
anon_8675309@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Delete and report as spam!
raspberriesareyummy@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Very funny, <insert most liked name>.
It’s like russian roulette with lower stakes
taiyang@lemmy.world 2 days ago
“Haha, so funny Mom! Can you bring down more chips? I’m in the middle of raid.”
wizzkidd@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Come clean, why lie…
elvith@feddit.org 2 days ago
“Im working in a call center. What do you think how many girls I talked to before lunch?”
WhiskyTangoFoxtrot@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Delores!
expatriado@lemmy.world 3 days ago
that phone number is going to get some girl name messages
cannedtuna@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Since they just put the phone number out there like that I’m sure they’re getting blown up. Probably a bunch of
hey, i feel like i’m not the only guy you’re talking to so i’m texting you from a new number. what’s my name?
resipsaloquitur@lemmy.cafe 2 days ago
Sounds like projection to me.
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
“Your mom” jobs a good un
vane@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Ooh Na Na !
Katana314@lemmy.world 2 days ago
ChetManly@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Mom
Saapas@piefed.zip 3 days ago
“Nice try scammer”
Then tell all the girls you’re chatting up that you just got the weirdest scam message
Soulphite@reddthat.com 3 days ago
This… just might work.
418_im_a_teapot@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
<screenshot>
“I am not replying to this because it might be a scammer. But if it is legitimate, I know it’s from you < Cathy/Kelly/Crystal/Rachel/Monica/Brandi/Jennifer/Lisa>”