How do you communicate "sorry, my bad" when you make a mistake while driving?

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• Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Hand up, and bow head.

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  • Zonetrooper@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This. It says, “I acknowledge you are upset, and accept blame.”

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    • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Instructions unclear. Ended up doing the wave (like you see at baseball stadiums) alone in a car.

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• MrRandom@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  rais your hand?

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• KumaLumaJuma@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Flash the hazards twice, also works as a thank you for letting me merge in or whatever, it’s pretty common in the UK.

  I have gone to using a single hazard flash when people are in front of me as well instead of flashing high beams(reserved as the head tap equivalent for cars) because I hate when people blind me at night trying to thank me… high beams are way brighter than they used to be.

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• MantisToboggon@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I have a huge purple dildo. I just start beating myself about the head and shoulders.

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  • UndulyUnruly@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    What about the “sorry, my bad” while driving though?

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    • anton@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      It’s performative self-flagellation, same as you would do in any religious event or office setting. The pink dildo is just for better visibility.

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    • actionjbone@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      You can do that at the same time as beating yourself with the purple dildo

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  • Rhoeri@piefed.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Otherwise known as a catholic penance.

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  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Mantis starts beating off with a purple dildo

    Me: “…the fuck is he doing?”

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• Pacattack57@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Like this 🖕

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• supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I think the fact that there isn’t a good way I think escalates a lot of otherwise defusable road rage situations.

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  • snooggums@piefed.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Many people who get angry at strangers easily see someone apologizing as legitimatizing their anger, and people not apologizing as not understanding they are wrong. I don’t think there is a good solution if people can’t just accept that other people make mistakes and move on without any needed follow up.

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• Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I roll down the window and do the Sorry/ThankYou Wave. 👋

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  • dellish@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This. I will forgive most driving indiscretions if I see a wave/acknowledgement of wrongdoing.

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• Septimaeus@infosec.pub ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Mount one of these in your rear window? Neon style LED wall art script saying “chill”

  Real answer: double tap a light (beams, brakes, or hazards) because most things you would say to them are two beat’s long:

  • “Thank you”
  • ”Sorry”
  • “My bad”
  • ”Go on”
  • ”Nice drift”
  • ”You drunk?”

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  • Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I once got an A on an anthropology paper by analyzing body language in vehicles and different driving cultures in different places.

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    • Septimaeus@infosec.pub ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Rock on. Were there any instances of local parlance you found peculiar or surprising?

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  • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I’ve mostly seen the double-flick of lights to mean either “Go ahead, make your move, I see you and I won’t hit you” (to pedestrians or someone waiting to turn into/out of a driveway in heavy traffic) or “turn on your lights you idiot, it’s pouring rain.” But it’s always heavy traffic in Southern California, and it never rains, but man, it pours.

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  • violetring@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    For me, I go with:

    One long honk : PAY ATTENTION! Right now to avoid an accident!

    One short honk: hey bud, not mad but the light changed, or similar. Also used when I see someone I know.

    Two short honks: did not respond to one short honk. Also used when I was the one to fuck up - accompanied by head nod/bow, arms up with hands upturned, mouthing “I’m sorry”, and/or similar gestures.

    Two long honks: you did something bad, like turning out in front of me with not enough room. I’m yelling about it!

    Combination of short and long honks: I’m pissed at what you just did. Mad enough that I want to shame you, at least enough to make your next several minutes awkward. Given the chance I’m flipping you off, or simply shaking my head in acknowledgment of your shame.

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  • SendMePhotos@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I remember reading a while back that the hazards twice = thank you.

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    • Septimaeus@infosec.pub ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I’d certainly interpret it that way if it fit.

      The only issue I’d see with that convention is that in many scenarios in which you’d use it — other driver makes room for you to merge, brakes early to let you turn left, and so forth — you (should) already have half of the hazard lights actively repeating, which could muddle the message. But otherwise I like it.

      Another random convention I learned early on was rapid triple-tap beams (i.e., like a strobe) = “speed trap ahead”

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  • fizzle@quokk.au ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    because most things I would say to them are two beats long

    LOL. Doesn’t that mean it’s completely ambiguous? There’s plenty of awful things you could say in 2 beats.

    I imagine that people flash twice because once could be a mistake, twice demonstrates intent. Three would make me wonder whether it’s an ongoing flashing light.

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    • Elgenzay@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I think generally one long flash is a negative acknowledgement or warning, 2 quick flashes is positive, and 3 or more is back to negative

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    • Septimaeus@infosec.pub ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      LOL. Doesn’t that mean it’s completely ambiguous?

      Well granted, it’s high-context communication. But I’m willing to bet you’d know what I meant if you were trying to merge and I double-tapped lights.

      Three would make me wonder if it’s an ongoing flashing light.

      Yeah IME three is less general, usually reserved for a problem or need for caution, like if someone is driving at night with all their lights out or a visible chassis/drivetrain issue, or there’s a cop/wreck ahead.

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• BenderRodriguez@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Sorry? Hell naw. Double down. Make it their fault. Get even more mad than them. Brandish your gun. Then brandish your second gun. Fire a warning shot towards their vehicle. Finish your beer in case you need to get out of the car. Challenge other driver to fisticuffs. Lose. Go home and explain to wife why you lost another fight. Get sad. Go to bar. Get really drunk. Pass out on stoop of the Wayne County Building. Miss work for the 3rd time this month. Get fired. Get kicked out of house by wife. Move into bachelor apartment. No artwork on walls. Only Kroger brand bread, condiments, and cheese slices in fridge. See kids every other weekend. Start going to AA meetings on a whim. Find new job. Hit the gym. Find new hobbies. Meet new girlfriend. Come to terms with faults and find peace through meditation and mindfulness. Experience growth. Drive to work one day. Accidentally cut a guy off…

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• sik0fewl@piefed.ca ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I usually just honk “SORRY” in Morse code.

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• hperrin@lemmy.ca ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Just hit their car slightly with yours. You know, a love tap, to show them love and appreciation. Then show them your extended middle finger, signifying that you are standing with them in solidarity of thinking you’ve made a mistake. If you have a weapon with you, you can hold it up and show them to indicate that you are aware you could be perceived as a threat, but are making the effort to indicate that you aren’t.

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• joyjoy@lemmy.zip ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Can’t go wrong with the classic 🖕. 

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• captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I wave with all my fingers up except my thumb, index, ring, and pinky

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• Aremel@lemmy.zip ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I flash my hazards for a sec. I also use that to say thank you.

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  • sem@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This is the only correct answer.

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  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    No no no. First you do the walk like an egyptian dance. Then flash your hazzards. Then play peekaboo.

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• thermal_shock@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Bow down slightly, lift your hand slightly like a weak wave, show a little humility in your eyes if they meet.

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• deranger@sh.itjust.works ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Look ashamed and maybe do a single flash of my hazards.

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  • thermal_shock@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Hazards = boobs

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• fizzle@quokk.au ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I usually wave at them as though I think they’re a friend of mine just saying hello.

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• slothrop@lemmy.ca ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I pretend to shoot myself in the temple.
  Then I put the gun back in the glove box.

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• ThePowerOfGeek@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Back of the hand high and visible through the rear window, fingers and thumb slightly apart to reduce the chances of them thinking your giving them the middle finger (or two fingers in the UK).

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• ramenshaman@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I’ve seen people put both hands up a little above the steering wheel and that was probably the clearest way I’ve seen.

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• snooggums@piefed.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I don’t, because being polite while driving is being unpredictable and that makes things more dangerous.

  Instead I do what I want others to do which is just do a better job of paying attention and driving consistently. Making mistakes happen, just refocus and avoid making more.

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  • Ryanmiller70@lemmy.zip ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This was me when I got off work today. I was trying to pass someone in front of me on the highway and signaled to move into the left lane. Did my usual couple seconds, saw nobody in my mirrors, and proceeded to move. Ended up cutting someone off that was in my blind spot. They honked and tried to run me off the road in response. I just kept driving like normal cause what happened happened. Dude followed me all the way back to my exit, so I decided instead of going home I’d drive through town. He eventually gave up and turned around to get back on the highway.

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• MutantTailThing@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Honk louder to assert dominance.

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• Gullible@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If I have some free time, I’ll follow them to their destination and knock on their window before they manage to slip away, and then apologize. Many seem like they’re in a hurry, despite just arriving, so I’ll just shout out my apology as I knock on their window. Depending on how bad I felt, I might try to repeat the ritual next week, seeing whether I can find them on the road.

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• GreenKnight23@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Usually I point at them aggressively to get their attention and then start miming Gluck glucking to show them how much of a dumb whore I am.

  I don’t think it’s working though, usually they just flip me off and look real angry.

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• Rhoeri@piefed.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Lean into it and just flick them off. Unless you’re in America, because there, that shit will let you killed.

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• deacon@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I find that rolling over and showing my belly, while impractical, is reliably effective at diffusing these situations.

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• Nemo@slrpnk.net ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  One hand vertically in from of sternum, wry expression.

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• TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  🤙

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• LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Slam on the brakes to assert you are a power bottom

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• sundray@lemmus.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  🫢

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