UndulyUnruly
@UndulyUnruly@lemmy.world
- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
It’s a hard life picking stones and pulling teats, but as sure as God’s got sandals it beats fighting dudes with treasure trails.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
You’re not alone! What you describe could be the consequences and manifestations of trauma for a person raised by emotionally immature parents.
As per your descriptions, it seems plausible that your parents may have failed in caring sufficiently for your emotional wellbeing as a a child/adolescent.
The resulting trauma of such circumstances is absolutely pernicious, destructive, and profoundly shapes (our difficulty to make sense of) social relationships, including what you describe: difficulty to love, be loved, and feel ready to accept and reciprocate intimacy.
I speak from experience, and I will recommend you a book, perhaps the context applies to you or others reading this. The audiobook is great and is read by the author if that’s your jam:
“Adult Children of Immature Parents - How to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents” by Lindsay Gibson (she is a clinical psychologist).
I credit this book with changing my life, and I do not say this lightly. I have cried profusely with unspeakable relief to finally see the answers to my omnipresent questions. I literally yelped out in tears “Fuck yes, there it is! This is me!”
The book made me understand the circumstances of where I came from, how this impacted me and my relationships to those around me, and what I needed to do to go forward and allow myself to heal. Perhaps it resonates with you and helps you out.
If you struggle financially and you can’t afford the (audio)book, pm me.
Consider to continue to seek out professional support if possible. Don’t walk alone.
Much love.
- Comment on okra stealing whore 2 months ago:
Is that Ricky from Trailer Park Boys pouring the ocras?
“Anywho, Leahy can get fucked with his constant time pressure this, time pressure that. Ocras and being with my family are only things I care aboot now.”
- Comment on Keep warm, it's cold out. 3 months ago:
At first, I thought this is a wetsuit with a warm water hose attached so doggo stays warm, but your tip is good, too.
- Comment on Fucking peckerhead. 3 months ago:
I will knock you out, mate!
- Comment on Animals that use Drugs 7 months ago:
The mental images of the consequences of running into, and then having to fight, a jaguar who’s high on ayahuasca is both hilarious and terrifying.
„Bro, chill out! The strawberry fractals are a mere figment of your imagination and can’t hurt you.“
„CHRAOW! CHRAOWOW!! Satayskewers!“
- Comment on Almost died 9 months ago:
4 hours in and the drama is on like Donkey Kong.
- Comment on Alejandro Cáceres, the hacker who took down North Korea’s internet from his home: ‘My attack was a response to their attempt to spy on me’ 9 months ago:
„We and our 846 partners
Au revoir!
- Comment on Sticking to the plan 9 months ago:
🎤 It bites you in the thigh, bubbles rise from your cry, That‘s a Moray!
- Comment on When you've just about fallen asleep and you realize you have to pee 10 months ago:
The hallway is dark and full of terrors.
- Comment on Are we still doing beans ? (I did not create this) 11 months ago:
- Comment on The Witcher 3's REDkit mod tools launch May 21st, enabling a new era of ambitious overhauls 11 months ago:
Pop up: “We and our 692 partners…”
Goodbye!
- Comment on This page in my kid’s book from school to learn how to read. 1 year ago:
Pft. Can’t even spell they’re. Figure it out.
- Comment on Where can I find recipes without the author's personal anecdotes? 1 year ago:
What? You don’t have to trawl through any shit in Paprika. I don’t even wait for the page to load the “accept cookies” dialogue.
Navigate to a recipe of interest, hit the download button in Paprika. Bam! There is the recipe, ingredients and description only, no fluff.
If you don’t want to save the recipe because you don’t like it, just discard and don’t save.
- Comment on Why, as a male, when emotionally do I only feel accepted by women but not by men? 1 year ago:
Then you run into a full-blown narcissist and they will mistake your openness for weakness and start to weaponise it against you. Ask me how I know this.
- Comment on Privacy Concerns of a Misspelling an Email Address? 1 year ago:
Well, yes it works: proton.me/support/creating-aliases
