Septimaeus
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- Comment on Use this science wisely. 1 hour ago:
But not too much. It can get overstimulated if you lift the hood and lick directly. When in doubt, you can hand her the reigns so she can find the sweet spot. For example, if you apply a wide and flat tongue and reduce movement, she can work her hips until she finds the angles she needs.
- Comment on Who is the enemy? 2 days ago:
especially other web devs
- Comment on Eye Bleach 1 week ago:
Damn, big raspberry too lol
- Comment on If there's a sort of "apocalyptic" event but there are still surviving communities, will people be able to make eyeglasses again, or are people with vision issues gonna be fucked? 2 weeks ago:
I dunno, reading through common ADHD traits sometimes sounds like a description of the perfect post-apoc survivor lol
- Comment on So Long to Tech's Dream Job: It’s the shut up and grind era, tech workers said, as Apple, Google, Meta and other giants age into large bureaucracies. 2 weeks ago:
Eventually few if any good engineers will be willing to work for these companies because of the black mark it places on their resume and their name.
Already, many hiring managers outside a few giant corps will never be willing to hire an engineer who worked at Facebook for any length of time after 2016, for instance, simply because it’s irrefutably strong evidence against either their character or the trustworthiness of their judgement.
I expect that trend will deepen as society becomes more aware of the countless ways these engineers betrayed them just for a few more dollars and an on-campus chef.
- Comment on How abnormal is it for a mother to be her son a fleshlight for his 18th birthday? 4 weeks ago:
They’re $150??
- Comment on I get scared of a girl who approached me 2 months ago:
First off, it’s OK. We all make mistakes and misrepresent our feelings sometimes, which can affect others in ways we don’t intend. The particular social accident you describe is also quite common. I promise she will quickly recover from the inadvertent rejection.
My answer is: practice. 8-9 years is a long time to be out of practice at anything of this sort.
There are a variety of ways to actively pursue that practice, some more creative than others, but the most natural way is simply to invite interaction with others in general such as, apparently, drawing on a bench at the park :)
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Oh, and in case you’re looking for recommendations, my current daily driver is Blair’s “Ultra Death.”
To set expectations, Tobasco (a common North American vinegar-based chili sauce) has a heat rating of 7,000 scovilles, whereas Ultra Death generally measures over 1 million.
If you like heat, extracts are a cost-effective step up, since each bottle lasts longer. At first anyway.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Most of the gastrointestinal distress from capsaicin is the result of poison countermeasures triggered by contact pain signals.
But capsaicin is telling your cells a lie which fewer believe each re-telling, so it requires increasingly ridiculous doses to trigger those internal signals.
If you eat spicy food regularly, you likely won’t get any internal signals again until you graduate to a different category of spiciness, such as extracts.
Hot sauce nerds consider extracts cheating, since you can achieve heat that’s many orders of magnitude above what the hottest pepper hybrids can produce, but do what you must to feel alive.
- Comment on Is it normal that I have this inner conflict of not knowing where I belong? 2 months ago:
I would say it’s absolutely normal and quite common to feel out of place, or like you don’t belong, and what fills in the blank of what’s on the other side is mostly arbitrary.
What’s more, having grown up in many countries and hearing something like this from other young people, I would say it’s not just normal in Germany, or even the West. It’s normal everywhere.
I think the easiest way to gain a fuller perspective of cultures you’re curious about is to live among them, and while now might not be the best time to visit the US, I think you can gain exposure to lots of new global cultures just by spending time in one of the many world cities, the closest of which is Berlin. From there, many others are just a train away.
Long short, it’s normal to wonder where you fit, and it’s a question you must answer yourself, but the tried-and-true method to figuring it out is to go and find new parts of yourself in these places. You just might find that, by the end, not only can you belong anywhere you choose, but those places also belong to you.
- Comment on There's a noticable influx of trans kids in my job. Are there any topics I should avoid or considerations I should take into account when training them? 2 months ago:
Ah understood. From the conscientious wording, I would guess that’s the sort of stuff they worked on quite a few years ago. But I’m wrong often enough, good looking out.
- Comment on There's a noticable influx of trans kids in my job. Are there any topics I should avoid or considerations I should take into account when training them? 2 months ago:
I get where you’re coming from, and we’ve all seen bad faith “advice” seeking (sea lioning), but also most of us have interacted with people who are well-meaning yet know they have tons of learned behaviors they’ve never needed to question.
For example, a friend had a boss in a male-dominated industry (construction) who, at the end of a client lunch with several cis men, bid them farewell with “bye ladies.” When they were back in the car she called him out on it “is ‘ladies’ supposed to imply something?” and he immediately admitted “dammit I know. I’m sorry.”
She knew he knew as he said it that it wasn’t the right thing and just hadn’t considered it before, but it took situations like that to make him consider it in advance. And it sounds like he did. She said he began to make eye contact to check his wording in meetings, which she took to indicate it being present in his mind, that he was actually trying.
I’m just saying asking and trying to consider little things in advance is ally behavior and should be encouraged unless it’s obviously in bad faith.
- Comment on Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia? 3 months ago:
The relationship advice special is “leave him.” Without additional information I don’t think it’s responsible for anyone here to say that, but what you’ve described is clearly an untenable situation and relationship dynamic.
I think you owe it to yourself and your partner to sit them down, describe this situation as you see it, and how their behavior makes you feel, perhaps the way you have here. Their response to your feelings should, I think, tell you the next steps.
Whether that response is workable should, I think, be determined by its impact on trust in the relationship, because trust is ultimately the only fungible currency that differentiates a good relationship from a bad one.
Concretely:
- If they disregard your emotions, disbelieve your experience, or disrespect your right to peace in your own home, this describes a dynamic in which there is no chance for compromise, and you have your answer.
- If they still care about your comfort, realize something must change, and are willing to modify their behavior for your benefit, there remains hope to rebuild the trust that’s been lost.
In either case, what happens next is not something anyone here is equipped to prescribe, but I do hope you’re able to find a better relationship, with or without your current partner.
- Comment on Pictures of Animals Getting CT Scans Against their Will: A Thread 3 months ago:
It adds cheek. Sans’ use was revived to alter one’s tone to sound stuffier. A visual equivalent might be putting on a top-hat and monocle.
- Comment on You cannot learn without failing. 4 months ago:
Slammed! Also cool metaphor.
- Comment on Make gravity your bitch 4 months ago:
Are you enjoying your Kep-mok blood ticks, Dr. Lazarus?
- Comment on Make gravity your bitch 4 months ago:
True, however… as you press into this planet, this planet presses into you.
- Comment on Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York 4 months ago:
The difficulty was drainage. Isolated steam systems in steam era construction were designed to use gravity for condensate collection. It’s one of the reasons boilers are always in the basement of old buildings.
Steam system engineering was a well-compensated profession. A well-designed system would accurately predict the rate of condensate flow for every part of the building, prior to construction, and reflect these predictions in the slope/grade and diameter of the steam pipes. Inaccurate predictions resulted in problems like pipe knock (aka steam hammer) which you can often hear when you or a nearby neighbor partially close the shut-off valve of a radiator.
Since construction in the city had many elevations and could not be predicted in advance, there was no equivalent solution to facilitate condensate collection. The system had to be one way. And yes, it’s inefficient compared to modern systems, but was innovative in its day.
- Comment on Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York 4 months ago:
Yeet the heat or beat the meat
- Comment on Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York 4 months ago:
Wtf? Bad form, Peter Pan.
- Comment on Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York 4 months ago:
That’s a good idea! My understanding is that the old stream network is slated for decommission and replacement by this program, basically a large distributed geothermal heat pump network that also harvests from major heat producers like data centers and provides both heating and cooling.
It will end the era of the steamy-street Sin City aesthetic but should be many, many times more efficient than the old steam system. Phase-change thermal transfer in HVAC systems is currently as much as 400% more efficient than the theoretical limit of direct heating, because it only uses the energy necessary to move heat from one place to another rather than produce it, and it works for both heating and cooling.
Right now I believe they’re piloting the system in NYCHA buildings (public housing) of neighborhoods outside the old steam network, like Chelsea and Hell’s Kitchen, but supposedly the plan is to expand to the rest of Manhattan.
- Comment on Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York 4 months ago:
Yeah it’s common enough I figured most knew, but a few years ago I went ice skating at the bryant park rink with this girl who refused to walk anywhere near the steam. She thought they were toxic and didn’t accept my explanation, so we had to walk an extra few blocks to get around the steam work. Shrug
- Comment on Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York 4 months ago:
Old steam heating system. They vent it when they’re working on a section.
Side-note: surprised by all the fellow New Yorkers i’m seeing in this thread. I thought yous were still at the other place.
- Comment on Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York 4 months ago:
I delivered for two locations shortly after they fixed the pizza. In both locations, shift leads and managers came up with so many excuses for house pizza. More than any other chain I worked for. I didn’t connect the dots until later. The pizza must have been much worse before.
- Comment on uhhh overleaf you say 5 months ago:
I just came a little.
- Comment on Always applies 75% of the time 5 months ago:
Lol I kind of like these hyper specific paper titles for the way they simplify my search, but if you say it out loud you end up a little winded
- Comment on Always applies 75% of the time 5 months ago:
Sex Panther has no outliers.
- Comment on Google’s Sergey Brin Says Engineers Should Work 60-Hour Weeks in Office to Build AI That Could Replace Them 5 months ago:
Is this guy called a technocrat because he actually wants his engineers to rule?
- Comment on Google’s Sergey Brin Says Engineers Should Work 60-Hour Weeks in Office to Build AI That Could Replace Them 5 months ago:
Where did you hear that? Technocracy means rule by specialists and technical experts. For example, in a technocracy, career bureaucrats aren’t in charge of ecological policy.
- Comment on I hate this image because idiots will see it, not understand what its showing, and make up some crazy shit based on it. 5 months ago:
Maybe getting clowned on will snap them out of it. Regardless, love the bit. Long live rabbi rabinowitz!