Submitted 5 months ago by Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net to [deleted]
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I feel lile as.a.woman I.have to.point out that, many times, a girl orgasming or not is not.your fuck’s fault.
I would also.like to point out that ot is harder to orgasm in the “normal” sex than is it with oral, so.if your girl didn’t orgasm don’t take it personally, pull your pants up and go down on her
I believe your comment is suffering from irregular periods.
It might be low on iron, or overtraining
The phone adds it auto and I never had the patience to go change it lol. My family is also very annoyed by it
I understand you are a woman but you really need to get control of your periods here.
Oh my god…
There’s also women who can not orgasm by in-and-out movements (like: the act of fucking) and it just hurts them after a while. Had to find that out the hard way.
I think people would be really surprised at the wide variety of shapes for women insides. Some shapes just don’t get rubbed the same way.
Positions and angles of attack can matter. Something that feels good for one girl does nothing for or hurts another. And it’s not necessarily a matter of “I like this position” because it’s about how your two bodies interact. It’s very possible you both like different things. I had a girlfriend fairly early on where we pretty quickly realized I liked this and she liked that, and we’d take turns doing the other’s favorite. Dynamics of sexual relationships became a lot less adult after high school.
I’m surprised this is news to people but I guess sex education varies between countries maybe.
Sex ed is often about how babby formed and less about erotic technique.
No sex education in Pakistan ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Or, first ask for directions, go down and stay down, keep listening and doing exactly what she says, until she gets there first. THEN bring your dick to the party. For many women the second and successive orgasms are much quicker and easier to achieve, even from penetrative sex.
This is the way. First, second, third base and home.
Although doesn’t have to be every time. Can skip bases, go backwards, etc.
Agree. Let me add that some women don’t orgasm at all or do orgasm and don’t like it - yes, the world is a diverse place.
Communication is key in any relationship.
Most men are a lot more receptive to input than many women give us credit for. For the mist part, men do not want to be known as a terrible lay. If your man doesn’t think he needs pointers, get someone else to treat you right.
The problem is that the exceptions can actually be dangerous
People need to spread the word about good, safe partners better.
But jealousy exists, so everyone else has to gamble with their lives for a date/orgasm.
Wait, we’re supposed to be involving mist? Women just get more and more complicated…
Some guys think of sex like a video game I’m sure XD
Or rather: don’t fake orgasms, make sure he knows if there’s something he can do better.
Constrictive criticism and pointers is how we get better, especially at doing the things YOU specifically like.
If he can’t roll with that, though, kick his ass to the curb. Maybe point and laugh at his weird penis first 😛
Was with you until you thought pointing and laughing would help make someone see the light
With you in principle and updooted you, but:
That one was A) a joke and B) a joke about shaming those unwilling to learn for not being willing to learn. Not about shaming them into being better in any way. What do you think I am, a Catholic parent?
Constrictive criticism
Freudian slip? But hey if that’s what you’re into then good for you 😉
Otherwise? Yeah, come on, don’t settle for shit sex, if you can teach your partner to be better then why not? Don’t be too afraid to say something.
Freudian slip? But hey if that’s what you’re into then good for you 😉
Actually a happy autocomplete accident, but yeah, gonna leave it as is because you made it fun 😄
Otherwise? Yeah, come on, don’t settle for shit sex, if you can teach your partner to be better then why not? Don’t be too afraid to say something.
If he can’t do it, flip him over and do it yourself.
Good advice!
Also, good save on the quality shitposting by including the body shaming.
Yeah, there was a distinct danger of being too wholesome and helpful for a shitpost community for sure! 😄
Constrictive criticism and pointers is how we get better
I know the tone of this is supposed to be “haha you suck” but if you fake it then you’re only going to make the guy keep doing the thing that didn’t work. Help them learn how to be better because they can’t feel what you’re feeling.
I don’t like the overall message society gives that men need to be “good at sex” instead of people mutually enjoying the experience.
To me it’s akin to someone calling you boring to talk with, while they contribute nothing to the conversation other than showing up.
they can’t feel what you’re feeling.
Well, the fun part is, if you’re doing it right, you absolutely can… But if it’s never happened before, you don’t know what you’re missing.
I mean in the literal sense.
How are you supposed to get better if you don’t give feedback.
Exactly. Leave a one star review for his address on Google Maps or something.
I bet that used to be possible until they got a lot of complaints 😁
I think nowadays they just use Facebook groups to shame men they don’t like. Are We Dating the Same Guy is the usual name for them.
Yeah, please. Why be deceptive? It serves no one.
Better yet, take responsibility for your own pleasure. Play an active role in getting what you want out of the act. Communicate. Why wouldn’t you?
I’ve heard from a lot of women that a portion of men take any attempt to provide suggestions as a direct attack on their masculinity
Well that’s just two reasons not to date them since those guys all probably voted Trump
Not just men, I’m a lesbian and I’ve experienced this with women too. Some people are really sensitive to constructive criticism especially during intimacy.
This happens when providing suggestions to anyone about anything when you’re dealing with an insecure person.
Or you could teach him. Better for both of you.
Not everyone has the patience for that
If you aren’t willing to learn and grow with your partner you should stick to masturbating
Oh and that is fine but then you have to ask yourself if you want to have a partnership with bad sex. If not, break up, or “teach” by communicating what you want, what is good and what is bad. There is no alternative, accept bad sex, break up, teach.
(Technically, you could let them have sex outside of the partnership to study, but… Well, not my cup of tea)
Skill issue
Right? My immediate thought was just that is is awful communication and everyone would have a better time if they just said something in either scenario
I dumped a woman when she told me she faked her orgasms. Good sex requires honesty, trust, and communication. It’s impossible to get better when either person is being dishonest.
Good, fuck her. Or not fuck her in this case. I’ve dated two or three guys that had honesty issues, and the relationship crumbled very quickly after I figured it out. Without trust there’s no respect, no cooperation, no kindness.
More like
Fake orgasms and just pee on him to secretly assert dominance
Dominance? I’d be ready for three more rounds immediately.
Please don’t pee on your partner without consent.
No sex without the presence of our notary dear.
This is America and in free to pee on whoever I want to! /s
I’m lucky my wife orgasms easily from PIV makes me feel like a champ but really it’s just her body that makes it happen.
PIV (Pontoon Implantment Vehicle)
I’m in the “multiple orgasm” camp but it has happened a couple times where I’m not really in the mood (stress etc) or the sex has gone on too long (chafing, boredom) where there’s not a specific thing my husband should start or stop doing long term and I don’t want to impact his experience. It’s only been like 3 or 4 times in the last 15 years.
37s?
Of ploughing?
Look at this champ!
Would be nicer to know so you can actually get better tbh
I JUST HAD SEX
AND IT FELT SO GOOD
I feel badly for the lots of men that believe their life is to please women.
Ya you just suck at communicating. It’s probably why most of your relationships fail.
As a chronic premature ejaculator, just get good with your tongue and pushing past the refactory period to go for round 2 (which lasts ages 👍)
I don’t give a damn the hooker orgasms. I just want to bust a nut and dance with the hooker dressed up to look like my mom.
Sometimes you just want the fucking to end but he won’t give up.
As a femdom fan, I fully support this idea
I am of the opinion that orgasming is one‘s responsibility. One orgasms with their partners. I see sex as a kind of shared masturbation.
I always think of Kramer saying he faked orgasms, LOL. 🤣
Well, let me practice.
Maybe I’m wrong, but I read this as a woman’s response to Republicans.
Imagine not being able to make a woman organism.
It’s like a Dark Souls SL 1 run for incel chuds irl.
Because being a jerk is more fun than sex?
Can’t fuck? More like don’t.
Lmao
Hell yea, and when she STANK gift her some summers eve.
Let her know that shit stale.
Rakonat@lemmy.world 5 months ago
While 100% in the don’t fake it camp, please also remember us men are not mind readers and our equipment works different. Much like with cooking and cleaning, if you don’t tell us what we are doing wrong or better yet show us the right way, we are going to assume we did our part cause we got the result we wanted and you didn’t complain or ask for something different.
Siethron@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Also a woman’s ability to cum varies HIGHLY from person to person.
Croquette@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
I’d say day to day as well, depending on many factors (stress, energy level, hormones, etc.)
Just communicate and see what’s working or not, or if anything works at all. It will make the sex better for everyone involved.
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
I’ve noticed a pretty direct correlation with a woman’s habit of masturbating and her ability to orgasm during sex. The chick I was seeing just before I went back to college, I’d believe it if you told me that I’ve played with her clit more than she ever has TO THIS DAY, and guess what? She never once gave me any suggestion on what she wanted me to do, I’m sure because she genuinely didn’t know.
FelixCress@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Funnily enough, your wife said the same thing.
MisterFrog@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Funnily enough, this is the case for men too. Hence all the “this has never happened to me before” memes on TV shows in the 90s and 00s.
gladflag@lemmy.ml 5 months ago
Tell your male friends to communicate and actively ask what feels good!
Allero@lemmy.today 5 months ago
Yes! This does wonders!
Allero@lemmy.today 5 months ago
What I happened to notice with different girls as a guy is that for many, of not most, telling/showing the right way is a turn-off and having something the right way without showing first is a source of tremendous excitement.
With that said, we, men, are still not mind readers, and women really do have it very differently, so some common sex education, while useful, can only cover the basics, and even they are not universally applicable.
Omgpwnies@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I don’t think OP is talking about a PowerPoint presentation (unless that’s your kink, you do you), but more like some verbal cues “faster” “don’t stop” “a little lower” etc. If the guy has a reasonable amount of attentiveness and experience, he should be able to get her 80% of the way there. Also, little cues like that can be hot as well because we know she’s into it and stuff.
TheFriar@lemm.ee 5 months ago
I dunno man, most women in my experience have all really appreciated (and as much said out loud) that there was communication.
interdimensionalmeme@lemmy.ml 5 months ago
Fake orgasm is very counter-productive, even when it’s used as a feeling preservibg way of saying “I’m tired and bored, let’s just finish you off and go back to watching tv”