Tartas1995
@Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de
- Comment on Few adult men are killed by adult women. 1 week ago:
The worst part… it works. E.g. on me, and i know. It is difficult to see these kind of posts, which are clearly misandry, and then hear people deny the trend for misandry, especially online.
OBVIOUSLY there is a shit tonne of misogyny, especially online and that is a big problem. But we shouldn’t ignore the trend to misandry. It is not a competition and we fight against misogyny better if we fight sexism in general, I believe.
But the posts make me feel like a shocking amount of people are not against sexism but just misogyny. How am I supposed to feel like those are not my enemy when I am opposed to sexism?
Then I spend time with the people that I love and I am good again but… it is fucking poison.
- Comment on Few adult men are killed by adult women. 1 week ago:
Ah yes, the very unbiased and fair comparison between murder and podcast incels. There are no real issues that men are facing…
I don’t understand why people can’t support women while supporting men too. I can. You can do too. It is not women vs men. It is tradition/sexism vs individual freedom/respect.
- Comment on Indeed and Glassdoor and linkedin 2 weeks ago:
What is Conflict of interest?
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Thanks for your comment. I think you stated it well and i think you are right about him.
But I think his comments heavily imply that her beauty is the most important value to her (maybe he means it from a business perspective and then he might not be wrong… sadly).
So i think it is lack of knowledge AND poor phrasing and reflection.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
I am not saying that’s all that matter
she still got beauty […] it isn’t game over for her
“I am not reducing her to her appearance, but if she wasn’t pretty in my opinion, it would be game over for her” that is how this reads. Look at the votes and realise that is what you sound like. If you feel and think differently to that, reflect on how you communicate your thoughts. I doubt you would want to tell e.g. a close female friend something that she would understand like that.
Your whole statement circles around the idea that while you agree that she is less healthy, she is still pretty and consequently, you think she will be fine. And that might be a understandable (while sad) perspective from a business perspective but you joined a conversation about her health. By moving the conversation away from her health towards her beauty (a very subjective matter, which is especially important in situation), you are communicating that you believe that a focus on her beauty is relevant.
Now i understand that you might be reacting to other people’s comments and you feel like they called her ugly and you don’t think she is. But instead of stating that, e.g. by saying “while it seems like she is less healthy right now, let’s not call her ugly, that is just mean. And personally, i still think she is pretty” but by saying things that imply that her value is in her matching your aesthetic sense.
I want to assume that your heart is in the right but your words are not.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
What a strange thing to say as a reaction to someone expressing worries about someone else’s health. “She might be unhealthy but she is still cute in my eyes, which is all that matters.” That is how it sounds.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Fuccbois and pua aren’t honest about their intentions.
She is honest.
- Comment on When you can’t upload an image to Lemmy, is it… 3 weeks ago:
It is. The memories…
- Comment on My world has just been shattered 3 weeks ago:
I am afraid… most
- Comment on Philosophy has peaked. Checkmate atheists 5 weeks ago:
You just need to point at the reasoning and ask “so it is legal to do that with human too?” Because the reasoning is the same and then ask the people if they can to live in a world where it is moral that someone digs out the person’s mother and do that and put her back.
I am confident that person will realise really quickly why it would be wrong.
- Comment on 5 weeks ago:
The problem is as usual, besides the religious rambling, they have a point. But no difference is made between anything. No nuance.
E.g. Porn addiction is real and ruins marriages, but… porn helps other marriage to open up and revitalise their sex life.
- Comment on "We're all in this together" 5 weeks ago:
Let’s add the flights of the teams. Let’s ask if that is necessary.
- Comment on It's the spelling for me 5 weeks ago:
We’re
Smh
- Comment on Still waiting for a response... 5 weeks ago:
any other way of outreach
The sharing of phone numbers isn’t relevant because my comment wasn’t about getting called or messaged.
If you want to be like “but the sharing of numbers made being called randomly the norm and consequently normalised in people’s experiences” then you are still missing my point. My point wasn’t about marketing calls (which are also weird as fuck and a turnoff) but specifically being contacted by someone doing propaganda for a country, especially in the context of geopolitics. How many calls do Americans get from Taiwan about it’s (primarily) historic claim to be the legitimate government of all of China (including mainland)? How many emails do Americans get from Sudan and South Sudan about their border disputes? How often do they answer the door for a person to argue South Korean claim on the north korea? Or maybe their border disputes with Japan?
Actually, I am being a bit unfair with my examples. How many calls do Americans get from Taiwanese supporters that America needs to support Taiwan in their right to exist?
- Comment on “Teaching crabs how to read” 5 weeks ago:
Just clear the relevant domain out of the history.
Not empty. Yet gone.
- Comment on Still waiting for a response... 5 weeks ago:
Ok? Unrelated to my point but thanks for the input.
- Comment on Still waiting for a response... 5 weeks ago:
I never heard or have never received calls/messages or any other way of outreach from people supporting any other country.
That is so odd and I don’t understand how not everyone finds it extremely odd.
Just to make it clear:
Right now, I think germany is pretty average. Some stuff is fucked up, some stuff is great. I enjoyed my time there.
If an organisation would call me to tell me why germany is actually pretty cool, I would end the call feeling extremely suspicious of germany.
- Comment on Anon ruins christmas 5 weeks ago:
I agree with you. My point is simply that I will “lie” to them in some ways. I have to lie to them that social workers are “safe” to help them to find us while knowing that dangerous people would seek out these jobs. And I will have to make it seem safer as it is because a young child is unable to understand the concept of likelihood. And I want them to start talking to a stranger (e.g. the policeman), they need the confidence that it is safe.
Eventually, they will understand that we are simplying things when we taught them about the world.
In both cases, I don’t think a child will feel like we were lying them. Just like I didn’t feel lied to.
“Normalizing lying” is just a silly critic.
I am opposed to making them write Santa a letter or making them “meet” Santa. As i think there is a difference between
- telling them about the concept
- letting them watch a christmas movies
- maybe telling them that Santa comes when they go to bed
And making them interact with “santa”.
That is my line. I am not saying, it is better or worse than yours or theirs. But that discussion is on a different level than “Normalizing lying”.
- Comment on Copper 5 weeks ago:
This is a beautiful connection between science about the past and science about the present.
- Comment on Anon ruins christmas 1 month ago:
What argument? You parroted an question. That you think you made an argument, highlights that you parroted the question. Even if you want to understand the question as an argument, a basic inspection of the implied premise that lying is bad, is enough to dismiss the argument as lazy and surface-level.
If you don’t like it when people call your output boring, say something worthwhile.
- Comment on Anon ruins christmas 1 month ago:
This is such a boring thing that people say all the time.
Lying is normal. You should be lying. Lying isn’t morally wrong if it is not done for morally wrong reasons. My child should be lying to me. I should be lying to my child.
And my children will understand the difference between lying to e.g. prevent a surprise to be ruined and lying to avoid facing consequences.
It is such a black and white thinking. It is so boring too. I will teach my children violence because 1 day, they might need it too.
And sidenote: e.g. telling your child that they can “trust” the security or the police if they get lost in a large crowd, is a lie. But one that is true enough that the child is safer with them than alone in a crowd. Telling your child that e.g. a electrical signal is travelling from the tv station through a wire to your tv, would be a lie if there is some fiber cables somewhere between them, or a satellite connection. Yes, simplifications are lying. We will lie anyway to enable them to navigate the far too complex world and slowly learn about the real underlying complexities.
And obviously, there is a difference between making them write letters to Santa and telling them Santa brings gifts for Christmas.
- Comment on Anon ruins christmas 1 month ago:
Honestly, I think i will “lie” about Santa. Simply because it doesn’t really matter and it is fun for them.
- Comment on Anon ruins christmas 1 month ago:
Very anon of him, tbf
- Comment on It's in the files 1 month ago:
Uploaded 9 years ago.
- Comment on It's in the files 1 month ago:
Uploaded 9 years ago.
- Comment on It's in the files 1 month ago:
Didn’t he say to a 9yo that he would date her in 10 years?
Are you sure it isn’t when you turn 9?
- Comment on Femality is stored in the nipples 1 month ago:
The Germans have something that they call FKK, and it means “Free Body Culture”.
They have a much more sane mentality towards nudity.
- Comment on Lawyer here: I concur! 2 months ago:
True but I wouldn’t want to catch the wind when driving speed limit outside of the village
- Comment on Lawyer here: I concur! 2 months ago:
Depends on what you consider too fast, is driving the speed limit outside of a town “too fast”?
- Comment on Lawyer here: I concur! 2 months ago:
Wouldn’t wind resistance be a problem that higher speeds?
Like with 30km/h, it probably doesn’t matter but 90km/h? Idk.