He probably should have been honest and upfront about it, but he also named their kid after something he obviously loves, and I think that’s great. If she loved the name before knowing its origin, she should love it even more for being associated with something that at least one parent thinks is beautiful.
Children is bugs
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Zagorath@aussie.zone 9 months ago
Sweetpeaches69@lemmy.world 9 months ago
The issue there is that she loved Moana. He thought she would get bullied for that name, so instead named her after a bug. He put his love for insects over his wife’s love, and tried to rationalize it to himself. But his rationalization doesn’t hold under the least bit of scrutiny, because more kids will tease her after being named after an insect than a Disney movie.
PiJiNWiNg@sh.itjust.works 9 months ago
Who is going to recognize that name as being after a bug though? Only people who they tell, lol
STUPIDVIPGUY@lemmy.world 9 months ago
literally nothing wrong with that it’s just a name
Th4tGuyII@fedia.io 9 months ago
I mean it's a beautiful name, who really cares if it's named after a genus of Cicadas?
There are worse sounding "normal" names out there.
Plus it's named after OP's passion, I think that shows a lot of loveDamage@slrpnk.net 9 months ago
What’s wrong with Cicadas anyway?
Th4tGuyII@fedia.io 9 months ago
They're noisy, very noisy
threeduck@aussie.zone 9 months ago
In Maori, Maua means “we”, or “both of us”. It’s also shorthand for “we share similar beliefs”.
Could have gone that route.
Kolanaki@yiffit.net 9 months ago
Am I The Butt Face?
Damn did Reddit go and censor “Am I The Asshole?”
anas@lemmy.world 9 months ago
It’s a sister subreddit with more lax application of the rules. They did a few of those, mainly for April fools.
tempest@lemmy.ca 9 months ago
How can the rules be more lax? More than half of aita reads like rage bait written by chat for.
ag_roberston_author@beehaw.org 9 months ago
Nah, there are just a bunch of alternate subs that people made after disliking the moderation.
JohnOliver@feddit.dk 9 months ago
I had to google that abbreviation and only came up with
Adventures In The Beetroot Field (booking agency; London, UK)
I eventually clicked on the reddit link though, after putting on some rubber gloves and taking a few anti-nausea pills. There i found the right explanation
meowMix2525@lemm.ee 9 months ago
All that work and it’s literally in the screenshot lol. The sub name is not abbreviated.
TheEEEdiot@sh.itjust.works 9 months ago
Maua. Maua is what bwings us togeva today.
kender242@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Man and Wife! Say man and wife!
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 months ago
Idk it’s not the worst name ever. Definitely sounds like a “kooky millennial parents wanted an interesting name” name. But there’s worse. Much worse.
Krauerking@lemy.lol 9 months ago
I mean I have said I would want to name my kid Nodo-Chinko. It’s the Japanese word for the Uvula but it more directly translates to “throat penis”…
So he could have done way worse.
FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io 9 months ago
throat penis
I now have a new term for the uvula, thanks Japan!
protist@mander.xyz 9 months ago
I’ve always been partial to the name Pubert myself. It’s pronounced “Pube-air.”
alcoholicorn@lemmy.ml 9 months ago
Nodo hwhat?
Oh it means “throat penis”? I don’t know if that’s better.
fatalicus@lemmy.world 9 months ago
I wonder if they are aware that in Europe the Disney character is called Vaiana, because there is a porn star named Moana.
JohnOliver@feddit.dk 9 months ago
I got downvoted to hell for stating the same thing on reddit a couple of years ago!
Also, the choice was not just to avoid association with the porn star. The name Moana was not legally available to Disney in several European countries so they had to find a different name
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 9 months ago
i love the idea that disney would for some reason care about a porn star that barely anyone has ever heard about, as if search results for the name wouldn’t instantly be overwhelmed by the disney movie…
the legal issues have to like 97% of the reason for the name change
Shard@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Thank you kind sir for the vintage research material.
Apparently there were legitimate trademark issues also at play. Apparently its an Ice cream brand in Romania and a perfume brand in Spain.
FiniteBanjo@lemmy.today 9 months ago
TBH I don’t know how the relationship got this far if she hates bugs so much.
jol@discuss.tchncs.de 9 months ago
More precisely, how has the relationship come this far without him knowing she hates all bugs?
FiniteBanjo@lemmy.today 9 months ago
I don’t think it’s on him for not knowing that when she agreed to marry an Entomologist. It’s nobody’s job to read their partner’s mind, they need to communicate likes and dislikes during the courting phase and I’m sure there were plenty of opportunities to bring that topic up.
Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 9 months ago
That’s where your reading comprehension took you huh
Holzkohlen@feddit.de 9 months ago
People make such a big deal of naming their kids. Just give them regular old names and call it a day. How about Paul? I guarantee everyone will feel indifferent to it, so it’s a winner.
tektite@slrpnk.net 9 months ago
I wonder how Maua would feel if they named her Paul instead.
Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 9 months ago
Atreides
Heavybell@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Pesky Paul and the bene geserits doing weird shit in the dessert.
IrritableOcelot@beehaw.org 9 months ago
Ya know, I never really processed it before, but that’s Frank Herbert making a Greek mythology pun/spoiler: the atreides
JohnOliver@feddit.dk 9 months ago
call it a day
If they were afraid that the name Moana might be bullied at school, then Day would maybe be even worse
averyminya@beehaw.org 9 months ago
I know a few Days, they were never made fun of for their name. Some puns sometimes, but I feel like Moana could be more prone to it.
lemmyseikai@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Never met a Paul I liked. Clearly your statement is false.
:)
Alexstarfire@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Paul Rudd? Though, maybe that’s just cause you’ve never met him.
name_NULL111653@pawb.social 9 months ago
So many good names to reuse. I saw we pull out some victorian names, we’ve gotten past the “that’s my grandma” part of the cycle so it’s about due pretty soon.
mexicancartel@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 months ago
Not dave cuz fuckdave
nonfuinoncuro@lemm.ee 9 months ago
deep cut right here
IvanOverdrive@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Paul is a weird name for a girl. I’d rather go with McKenzie or Murphy or Noah. Now those are some girly names.
observantTrapezium@lemmy.ca 9 months ago
Wife should have Googled it, she’s the buttface.
alcoholicorn@lemmy.ml 9 months ago
The Cicada species doesn’t pop up in the first 3 pages though
AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 9 months ago
All the less reason to be upset about the name
PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee 9 months ago
I mean depending on their ethnic background naming the kid Moana would have been an issue for reasons besides being teased for being named after a disney princess.
Akasazh@feddit.nl 9 months ago
If you can only name kids after your own ethnic background there’s a lot of Richards/ Riciardos/Jeans/Jans/Johns/Stephen/Joris/Mubaraks/Etiennes out there that are mislabelings.
PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee 9 months ago
All of those examples are linguistic drift though.
Naming a white girl moana isn’t the same as some guy named Peter and his russian buddy Pyotr realizing that their names derive from the same origin in Greek (or Aramaic depending on how much you wanna argue Kefa should count as the origin since Petros was a direct translation of it as a name)
Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Would some Polynesian person naming their kid Richard or some other white bread name be problematic?
brbposting@sh.itjust.works 9 months ago
Wife doesn’t seem to like cicadas but still read through his work notes?
BruceTwarzen@lemm.ee 9 months ago
She didn’t one day googe it for some reason, she read through his papers and found it for some reason.
Ziglin@lemmy.world 9 months ago
What’s wrong with bugs? They’re cool, while a made up string of characters (that sounds good) might be better I don’t see what’s wrong with using an uncommon scientific name. Then again being honest is likely helpful.
EatATaco@lemm.ee 9 months ago
There’s nothing wrong with bugs. It’s all about intent, and he clearly intended to hide this from her because he knew (correctly) it would be a problem for her. So it was a lie by withholding relevant information. About their daughters name. Its messed up. It’s also dumb because it’s so easy to look up the origin of a name that this “secret” isn’t really one at all.
petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 months ago
It would be, but he did say he thought it was a harmless secret. That could be read as though he didn’t know it would bother her.
Like, my name allegedly means things, but unless my mom really hates the Irish, I don’t think many of them would set her off.
Ziglin@lemmy.world 9 months ago
I was questioning why it became so problematic. It’s still a good name and could totally have been a coincidence. The name being related to work seems like the main issue to me.
pyre@lemmy.world 9 months ago
What’s wrong with bugs?
they give programmers nightmares
genuineparts@infosec.pub 9 months ago
What? Why would I have nightmares about the thing that secures my continued paycheck?
Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Pro level gaslighting
GBU_28@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Who the fuck names their kid without googling it
atrielienz@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Children do descend upon large amounts of sweets in the same way that insects do. That’s all I’m saying.
sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 months ago
It’s really hard to put myself in the shoes of someone so against cicadas… Like I get that it’s possible to not like them so intensely you wouldn’t want your name to be inspired by them, but I’m just not sure how I’d have that person in my life.
barsquid@lemmy.world 9 months ago
I’d be mad if my child was named after a cicada instead of a cooler bug. If you name the child after something more dangerous they will be ready to dominate the playground. No toddler would have the courage to mess with a kid named Yellowjacket.
Twinkletoes@lemm.ee 9 months ago
BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 months ago
Could’ve been any of the million awful names that have popped up over the last decade…
Aliviyah Ashlynn Brynlee Andreanna Alyviana Camdyn
Need I go on?
h3mlocke@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Lmfao u married a snowflake
Eryn6844@beehaw.org 9 months ago
no one is going to know unless you tell them. there are worse things to be called.
Masamune@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Time to bug out of this relationship.
codapine@lemm.ee 9 months ago
A rose by any other name?
MindTraveller@lemmy.ca 9 months ago
Everyone sucks here. Dad is a liar who abused his wife’s trust. Mum didn’t bother to google her own child’s name and clearly hates her husband’s passion. Those two should never have had a child together.
Venator@lemmy.nz 9 months ago
I was expecting there to be something more wrong with it while reading that, like its a particularly weird or ugly cicada or something 😂
Tbh though I think kids would be more likely to tease her about being named after a cicada than moana 😂
Zozano@lemy.lol 9 months ago
“If it makes you feel any better, I considered the scenario in which you found the impetus for the name Maua, so I Googled the name to find what else it means, and apparently it’s also a municipality in Brazil, pretty cool huh? Maybe we can take her there one day!”
Lemmygradwontallowme@hexbear.net 9 months ago
I mean, it’s a beautiful name…
What fucking person would find that out like that…
pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 9 months ago
If you married an entomologist and get upset about that, it’s kinda on you.
FanBlade@lemmynsfw.com 9 months ago
Are entomologists known for withholding information from their SO?
Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Bug related information? Yes