I would say the gym is absolutely not where people go to make friends, but apparently the younger generation does use it for that. That kind of blows my mind, but it’s certainly healthier than going to a bar to meet people.
Anon steams up the sauna
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FlexibleToast@lemmy.world 1 month ago
driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 1 month ago
Any place you go regularly can become a place to make friends.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 month ago
it has nothing ot do with location everything to do with personality.
the point is you can’t know what type of personality someone has until you talk to them. and everyone gets offended and upset when they are or are not approached at the gym. because well, people love getting upset and offended more than making friends these days.
Ansis100@lemmy.world 1 month ago
What’s wrong with going to the bar to meet people?
luciferofastora@feddit.org 1 month ago
Nothing “wrong”, just less healthy than the gym. Unless you only drink water at the bar and spend your gym visit drinking high-calorie shit rather than working out, the physical exercise at the latter is generally better for your health.
(Depending on your health and the extent of the workout, obviously. Don’t overdo it or ignore injuries.)
Psythik@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Because the kind of girl your average person wants to date doesn’t go to bars. Gen Z on average is rather against the entire concept of drinking altogether.
FlexibleToast@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Nothing at all.
Bane_Killgrind@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
The sauna, steam room and hot tub at my gym are conversation areas, but that’s also gender segregated.
qarbone@lemmy.world 1 month ago
She was absolutely looking to leave as soon as this guy schlubbed in to look over her “good body, tits, and butt”. The attempt at conversation was just the opening she needed to escape.
bss03@infosec.pub 1 month ago
Here’s the “rule”: The first time you speak to someone they should be fully clothed, unless there is a clothing malfunction you are attempting to resolve and that requires spoken communication.
It’s fine to make friends at the gym, tho that’s not what I’m ever there for. It’s fine to talk in the sauna, to people you are already on speaking terms with. It’s not okay to see someone in the sauna, appreciate their body, and use that as motivation to talk to them for the first time.
musubibreakfast@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Not true, you may address anyone at any point in the sauna if you bend over, spread your ass cheeks and lip sync every word you say with your anus.
bss03@infosec.pub 1 month ago
I’m sure there are also circles where less-clothed social events do happen where not everyone at the event is already mutually acquainted. While I’ve never been to those event myself and haven’t be told the social protocols explicitly, I would assume that if you aren’t crashing the event, you are allowed to speak to less-clothed persons you’ve not met before, to introduce yourself at least.
(I’m not a pretty person, so I think I’d be even more uncomfortable that such events than I am at other social events.)
alsimoneau@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
A “do you mind if I pour some water on the stones?” Is a good opener. Then you wait for them to engage. If they don’t, so be it.
silasmariner@programming.dev 1 month ago
Well that’s just practical. It’s exempt from the rule.
cinoreus@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Also, always assume your intentions are transparent as glass even before you open your mouth. People can see and tell why you’re talking to them. I hate that this is something’s I learnt through trial and error.
bss03@infosec.pub 1 month ago
Complete disagree. I’ve been accused of intentions I didn’t have and ascribed intentions to others that didn’t have them. Even in face-to-face communications, we are really just guessing at intent and it is often quite opaque.
Frostbeard@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Only things said to strangers in a gym:
You finished with that, or can I go in between?
Can you spot me?
affenlehrer@feddit.org 1 month ago
In Germany everyone is naked in the sauna. It’s a rule. Ok, you might wear a sauna hat, but that’s it.
Alexstarfire@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Of all the places to wear a hat, why a sauna?
python@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It’s a sauna hat, where else would you wear it?
BlaestEgnen@feddit.dk 1 month ago
Too keep your head cooler, it originates from the high humidity slavic banya culture.
As high humidity saunas, warm your skin up faster than dry saunas. You’ll not last as long, primarily due to your head overheating. So wearing a thick hat, will insulate your head from the temperature and humidity of the room
bstix@feddit.dk 1 month ago
If you’re bald. The head is the most temperature sensitive area. It gets unpleasant too soon if you don’t have hair.
someguy3@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Apparently how long you can spend in the sauna depends on how long it takes your brain to heat up. Insulating your head by wrapping a towel around it means you can stay in the sauna longer.
x00z@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I think this has nothing to do with it being a sauna and more about “Girl with real good body, tits and butt” which means OP was already staring and moaning under his breath.
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 1 month ago
People like this don’t realize how much creepiness they ooze without saying a word.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 month ago
for sure. i like to stare into nothing as i think my deep thoughts, and it skeeves people out a lot especially within a 20ft radius.
once you’re 21ft away though, it’s totally cool and uncreepy.
kestrel7_7@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I also wonder, if he had said something normal immediately after entering it probably would have been fine. Imagine sitting in silence next to someone for 10 minutes and then they ask you a question. That’s weirder to me.
bstix@feddit.dk 1 month ago
It’s not difficult.
Shut the door. Shut up. Sit down and keep your mouth shut.
You are allowed to aks “löyly?” and yell “Shut the door!” at appropriate times, but otherwise just shut the fuck up.
GoalPostGhost@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
That’s not really true, or it might be in some parts of the world.
However, in the land of the Sauna, that is the place to talk. It’s where you ask someone to be your best man. It’s where you ask your boss a raise. It’s where you agree on a business deal, or maybe to set up a monopoly with your competitors. And you best abide by these words: Never enter a Sauna sober, nor without a drink.
Never been to a womens Sauna, but I expect them to do something naughty as they don’t allow us guys there…
bstix@feddit.dk 1 month ago
You can talk private if you have a private sauna.
In a public one, nobody wants to listen to others small talk.
Psythik@lemmy.world 1 month ago
That’s not really how it works in the US. People talk so much in the steam room/sauna, that you’re pretty much expected to have a conversation when you step inside of either one. As an introvert it’s very anxiety-inducing.
Earthwormjim91@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Saunas in the US are virtually never nude though either.
bluesheep@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Isn’t that just an US thing in general? I’ve understood that everybody (especially in the south) always wants to have a conversation no matter if you’re strangers or not
Over here in the Netherlands we just ignore eachother and when you go to buy groceries you wait for them to tell you the total and than you give them the money. No need to have a whole conversation and I love it that way, i don’t think i would survive the “southern hospitality” i always read about
kalpol@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
I’ve never even crossed the borders of Idaho and even I know not to talk in a sauna.
clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Sauna basics from KAJ : www.youtube.com/watch?v=WSh7U3m9KgA
atro_city@fedia.io 1 month ago
People talk in the sauna? I thought that was a nono
Agent641@lemmy.world 1 month ago
At my local it’s like a fucking pub in there. Yapping away. I wish they would all just shit up and sweat silently
atro_city@fedia.io 1 month ago
That sounds terrible. Saunas look like serene places, not for places to talk about... anything.
Randelung@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It seems the rest of the world has decided that saunas need to be quiet, when the actual Finnish thing is a social event. You have a beer, sometimes a sausage on the oven. I don’t know what the point of a stfu wellness sauna in a gym is.
Frostbeard@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Its social with people you know everywhere. Randos in a public sauna stay quite
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 1 month ago
In places I’ve been to, yeah.
I’m not interested in making small talk while trying to unlock all my chakras points and reach my final form.
Danarchy@lemmy.nz 1 month ago
Is it naked I here or is that just you
MithranArkanere@lemmy.world 1 month ago
She was polite enough not to storm out when a dude entered the women’s sauna.
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 1 month ago
Mixed gender saunas exist
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
They are the norm in most of europe.
MithranArkanere@lemmy.world 1 month ago
And mixed baths exist in Japan, but women don’t really go there anymore.
cinoreus@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I think it’s because she could see your erection.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 month ago
/c/bigdickproblems
Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
I didn’t know about the no speaking rules in Saunas. I would think that should be a sign but there easily could have been and anon didn’t read.
It would already be creepy if the first thing he asked was where she lived; however the line “Well I decided to talk to her and ask where she’s from” can imply that he spoke, got no response, then kept yapping.
Furthermore, the fact he’s complaining about how what he did was not “really that bad” without acknowledging he broke a rule, tells me that he knew what he was doing but decided to break that rule because he’s not “really that bad”.
All that said, I’d probably break that rule to crack a one-liner like the reply, because dumb jokes are my favorite.
remon@ani.social 1 month ago
I’ve never seen any no speaking rules in Germany but “no flirting” is very much an implied rule and by the way anon describes her has having a “good body, tits and butt” he probably might have been creepy before even saying anything.
I’m not a big sauna guy and thus mostly was there with my girlfriend. And in the setting where you’re there with a partner, causal small talk with strangers was quite normal. I think it heavily depends on being able to read the room.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 month ago
if you can read the room there isn’t enough steam.
nullspace@lemmy.world 1 month ago
You smell that?
OP after releasing a stream of whey farts for the past 10 minutes.
myyass@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Heh I miss saunas. I grew up with them. Perfect bonding experience. As in stfu and meditate.
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 1 month ago
Are there places without saunas?
Every major city in America has a spa or even gym that have saunas or stream rooms. Or mountain retreats…
myyass@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Well there is one nearby me at the ymca but … the membership is like a $100 a month. I can’t afford that right now.
Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 1 month ago
“I’m a sleazy fuckin creep, where did I go wrong?!”
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 month ago
my cat likes hanging out with me in the bathroom after I shower.
that’s all i got going.
nanometer1625@thelemmy.club 1 month ago
I’m imagining this as a sitcom I’m which the scene cuts just before words come out of anon’s mouth.
Varesti@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
TIL tits and butt are not part of the body.
Typotyper@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Maybe he wanted the room to himself. No awkward girl there
SalamiDommie@lemmus.org 1 month ago
I have never been in a mixed sauna. I don’t think I could do it.
It is like releasing a hungry bear into seal exhibit. The seal has no where to run and idiots are scream “oh my God why would he do this”
bss03@infosec.pub 1 month ago
Men* shouldn’t act like hungry bears. Society at large shouldn’t have to assume there’s a significant risk that an an unrestrained man will act like a hungry bear. That includes in mixed saunas.
The fear of being a trapped seal is, currently, fairly well-justified. It would be nice to change that.
*: No persons should, but the problems are mostly cis men, like myself.
SalamiDommie@lemmus.org 1 month ago
You’re leaving out some details.
Sneaky sneaky there Mr mountain top
Allero@lemmy.today 1 month ago
If that helps your anxieties: having gone to a mixed gym sauna for a long time, I have never ever seen anything remotely inappropriate. People just take the sauna, that is all. If there are any groups coming together, they may chat between themselves, but you’ll barely ever hear a stranger talking to you.
Gym saunas specifically have enough surveillance and multiple controlled chokepoints where perpetrator would be immediately stopped and given straight to the authorities. So, one should be incredibly idiotic to even attempt something like that. In this sense, it is no less safe than any other monitored public facility.
As a personal argument, a lot of predatory behaviors in men stems specifically from something being too limited and restricted. For people coming regularly to the mixed sauna, even those naked ones in some European places, a naked woman is just another naked person. When it becomes mundane, it stops having anything sexual attached to it.
SalamiDommie@lemmus.org 1 month ago
In the US there are not mixed gender saunas. Mostly a European thing and even then not all of them.
blimthepixie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
“Classic line. That is just a great line. Gotta manoeuvre more dates into saunas”
They could have at least used the pic of Nancy in the sauna
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
She probably noticed him OGLING HER based on the description he just gave
B1tch_Pudding@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
Saunas are sacred shit. It’s like a gay bar, if you want to not be seen as a pest you 100% must stop acting like a moid when you enter
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
So I have to act like a woman when I’m in a sauna? Any advice??
IronBird@lemmy.world 1 month ago
how does one not act like a moid, what are common moid behaviors?