She was absolutely looking to leave as soon as this guy schlubbed in to look over her “good body, tits, and butt”. The attempt at conversation was just the opening she needed to escape.
Anon steams up the sauna
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qarbone@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
FlexibleToast@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I would say the gym is absolutely not where people go to make friends, but apparently the younger generation does use it for that. That kind of blows my mind, but it’s certainly healthier than going to a bar to meet people.
driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 2 weeks ago
Any place you go regularly can become a place to make friends.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
it has nothing ot do with location everything to do with personality.
the point is you can’t know what type of personality someone has until you talk to them. and everyone gets offended and upset when they are or are not approached at the gym. because well, people love getting upset and offended more than making friends these days.
Ansis100@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
What’s wrong with going to the bar to meet people?
luciferofastora@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
Nothing “wrong”, just less healthy than the gym. Unless you only drink water at the bar and spend your gym visit drinking high-calorie shit rather than working out, the physical exercise at the latter is generally better for your health.
(Depending on your health and the extent of the workout, obviously. Don’t overdo it or ignore injuries.)
Psythik@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Because the kind of girl your average person wants to date doesn’t go to bars. Gen Z on average is rather against the entire concept of drinking altogether.
FlexibleToast@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Nothing at all.
Bane_Killgrind@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
The sauna, steam room and hot tub at my gym are conversation areas, but that’s also gender segregated.
bss03@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
Here’s the “rule”: The first time you speak to someone they should be fully clothed, unless there is a clothing malfunction you are attempting to resolve and that requires spoken communication.
It’s fine to make friends at the gym, tho that’s not what I’m ever there for. It’s fine to talk in the sauna, to people you are already on speaking terms with. It’s not okay to see someone in the sauna, appreciate their body, and use that as motivation to talk to them for the first time.
musubibreakfast@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Not true, you may address anyone at any point in the sauna if you bend over, spread your ass cheeks and lip sync every word you say with your anus.
bss03@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
I’m sure there are also circles where less-clothed social events do happen where not everyone at the event is already mutually acquainted. While I’ve never been to those event myself and haven’t be told the social protocols explicitly, I would assume that if you aren’t crashing the event, you are allowed to speak to less-clothed persons you’ve not met before, to introduce yourself at least.
(I’m not a pretty person, so I think I’d be even more uncomfortable that such events than I am at other social events.)
alsimoneau@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
A “do you mind if I pour some water on the stones?” Is a good opener. Then you wait for them to engage. If they don’t, so be it.
silasmariner@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
Well that’s just practical. It’s exempt from the rule.
cinoreus@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Also, always assume your intentions are transparent as glass even before you open your mouth. People can see and tell why you’re talking to them. I hate that this is something’s I learnt through trial and error.
bss03@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
Complete disagree. I’ve been accused of intentions I didn’t have and ascribed intentions to others that didn’t have them. Even in face-to-face communications, we are really just guessing at intent and it is often quite opaque.
Frostbeard@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Only things said to strangers in a gym:
You finished with that, or can I go in between?
Can you spot me?
affenlehrer@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
In Germany everyone is naked in the sauna. It’s a rule. Ok, you might wear a sauna hat, but that’s it.
Alexstarfire@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Of all the places to wear a hat, why a sauna?
python@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It’s a sauna hat, where else would you wear it?
BlaestEgnen@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
Too keep your head cooler, it originates from the high humidity slavic banya culture.
As high humidity saunas, warm your skin up faster than dry saunas. You’ll not last as long, primarily due to your head overheating. So wearing a thick hat, will insulate your head from the temperature and humidity of the room
bstix@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
If you’re bald. The head is the most temperature sensitive area. It gets unpleasant too soon if you don’t have hair.
someguy3@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Apparently how long you can spend in the sauna depends on how long it takes your brain to heat up. Insulating your head by wrapping a towel around it means you can stay in the sauna longer.
x00z@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think this has nothing to do with it being a sauna and more about “Girl with real good body, tits and butt” which means OP was already staring and moaning under his breath.
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
People like this don’t realize how much creepiness they ooze without saying a word.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
for sure. i like to stare into nothing as i think my deep thoughts, and it skeeves people out a lot especially within a 20ft radius.
once you’re 21ft away though, it’s totally cool and uncreepy.
kestrel7_7@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I also wonder, if he had said something normal immediately after entering it probably would have been fine. Imagine sitting in silence next to someone for 10 minutes and then they ask you a question. That’s weirder to me.
bstix@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
It’s not difficult.
Shut the door. Shut up. Sit down and keep your mouth shut.
You are allowed to aks “löyly?” and yell “Shut the door!” at appropriate times, but otherwise just shut the fuck up.
GoalPostGhost@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
That’s not really true, or it might be in some parts of the world.
However, in the land of the Sauna, that is the place to talk. It’s where you ask someone to be your best man. It’s where you ask your boss a raise. It’s where you agree on a business deal, or maybe to set up a monopoly with your competitors. And you best abide by these words: Never enter a Sauna sober, nor without a drink.
Never been to a womens Sauna, but I expect them to do something naughty as they don’t allow us guys there…
bstix@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
You can talk private if you have a private sauna.
In a public one, nobody wants to listen to others small talk.
Psythik@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
That’s not really how it works in the US. People talk so much in the steam room/sauna, that you’re pretty much expected to have a conversation when you step inside of either one. As an introvert it’s very anxiety-inducing.
Earthwormjim91@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Saunas in the US are virtually never nude though either.
bluesheep@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Isn’t that just an US thing in general? I’ve understood that everybody (especially in the south) always wants to have a conversation no matter if you’re strangers or not
Over here in the Netherlands we just ignore eachother and when you go to buy groceries you wait for them to tell you the total and than you give them the money. No need to have a whole conversation and I love it that way, i don’t think i would survive the “southern hospitality” i always read about
kalpol@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
I’ve never even crossed the borders of Idaho and even I know not to talk in a sauna.
clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Sauna basics from KAJ : www.youtube.com/watch?v=WSh7U3m9KgA
atro_city@fedia.io 2 weeks ago
People talk in the sauna? I thought that was a nono
Agent641@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
At my local it’s like a fucking pub in there. Yapping away. I wish they would all just shit up and sweat silently
atro_city@fedia.io 2 weeks ago
That sounds terrible. Saunas look like serene places, not for places to talk about... anything.
Randelung@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It seems the rest of the world has decided that saunas need to be quiet, when the actual Finnish thing is a social event. You have a beer, sometimes a sausage on the oven. I don’t know what the point of a stfu wellness sauna in a gym is.
Frostbeard@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Its social with people you know everywhere. Randos in a public sauna stay quite
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
In places I’ve been to, yeah.
I’m not interested in making small talk while trying to unlock all my chakras points and reach my final form.
Danarchy@lemmy.nz 2 weeks ago
Is it naked I here or is that just you
MithranArkanere@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
She was polite enough not to storm out when a dude entered the women’s sauna.
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
Mixed gender saunas exist
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
They are the norm in most of europe.
MithranArkanere@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
And mixed baths exist in Japan, but women don’t really go there anymore.
cinoreus@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think it’s because she could see your erection.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
/c/bigdickproblems
Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
I didn’t know about the no speaking rules in Saunas. I would think that should be a sign but there easily could have been and anon didn’t read.
It would already be creepy if the first thing he asked was where she lived; however the line “Well I decided to talk to her and ask where she’s from” can imply that he spoke, got no response, then kept yapping.
Furthermore, the fact he’s complaining about how what he did was not “really that bad” without acknowledging he broke a rule, tells me that he knew what he was doing but decided to break that rule because he’s not “really that bad”.
All that said, I’d probably break that rule to crack a one-liner like the reply, because dumb jokes are my favorite.
remon@ani.social 2 weeks ago
I’ve never seen any no speaking rules in Germany but “no flirting” is very much an implied rule and by the way anon describes her has having a “good body, tits and butt” he probably might have been creepy before even saying anything.
I’m not a big sauna guy and thus mostly was there with my girlfriend. And in the setting where you’re there with a partner, causal small talk with strangers was quite normal. I think it heavily depends on being able to read the room.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
if you can read the room there isn’t enough steam.
nullspace@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You smell that?
OP after releasing a stream of whey farts for the past 10 minutes.
myyass@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Heh I miss saunas. I grew up with them. Perfect bonding experience. As in stfu and meditate.
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Are there places without saunas?
Every major city in America has a spa or even gym that have saunas or stream rooms. Or mountain retreats…
myyass@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Well there is one nearby me at the ymca but … the membership is like a $100 a month. I can’t afford that right now.
Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
“I’m a sleazy fuckin creep, where did I go wrong?!”
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
my cat likes hanging out with me in the bathroom after I shower.
that’s all i got going.
nanometer1625@thelemmy.club 2 weeks ago
I’m imagining this as a sitcom I’m which the scene cuts just before words come out of anon’s mouth.
Varesti@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
TIL tits and butt are not part of the body.
Typotyper@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Maybe he wanted the room to himself. No awkward girl there
SalamiDommie@lemmus.org 2 weeks ago
I have never been in a mixed sauna. I don’t think I could do it.
It is like releasing a hungry bear into seal exhibit. The seal has no where to run and idiots are scream “oh my God why would he do this”
bss03@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
Men* shouldn’t act like hungry bears. Society at large shouldn’t have to assume there’s a significant risk that an an unrestrained man will act like a hungry bear. That includes in mixed saunas.
The fear of being a trapped seal is, currently, fairly well-justified. It would be nice to change that.
*: No persons should, but the problems are mostly cis men, like myself.
SalamiDommie@lemmus.org 2 weeks ago
You’re leaving out some details.
Sneaky sneaky there Mr mountain top
Allero@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
If that helps your anxieties: having gone to a mixed gym sauna for a long time, I have never ever seen anything remotely inappropriate. People just take the sauna, that is all. If there are any groups coming together, they may chat between themselves, but you’ll barely ever hear a stranger talking to you.
Gym saunas specifically have enough surveillance and multiple controlled chokepoints where perpetrator would be immediately stopped and given straight to the authorities. So, one should be incredibly idiotic to even attempt something like that. In this sense, it is no less safe than any other monitored public facility.
As a personal argument, a lot of predatory behaviors in men stems specifically from something being too limited and restricted. For people coming regularly to the mixed sauna, even those naked ones in some European places, a naked woman is just another naked person. When it becomes mundane, it stops having anything sexual attached to it.
SalamiDommie@lemmus.org 2 weeks ago
In the US there are not mixed gender saunas. Mostly a European thing and even then not all of them.
blimthepixie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
“Classic line. That is just a great line. Gotta manoeuvre more dates into saunas”
They could have at least used the pic of Nancy in the sauna
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
She probably noticed him OGLING HER based on the description he just gave
B1tch_Pudding@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Saunas are sacred shit. It’s like a gay bar, if you want to not be seen as a pest you 100% must stop acting like a moid when you enter
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
So I have to act like a woman when I’m in a sauna? Any advice??
IronBird@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
how does one not act like a moid, what are common moid behaviors?