This is some boomer shit
She only wanted the ring bros
Submitted 3 weeks ago by cm0002@infosec.pub to memes@sopuli.xyz
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mriormro@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
M137@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Specifically American boomer, and something that’s still going on. There was a thread here on lemmy a while ago that was about how american culture is very different from much of the world in terms of how much the father does in the things mentioned here.
Zexks@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Its not. That is what people tell themselves to feel better.
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
“I hate my bitch wife” is peak American boomer humor.
aMockTie@piefed.world 3 weeks ago
When my daughter was born, my wife and I would take turns caring for her through the night. She pumped breast milk so I had access to food as needed on my nights, and she could breastfeed directly on her nights.
It soon became clear that our daughter preferred direct breastfeeding to the bottle, but I was much better at calming her and getting her back to sleep. The result was that I ended up covering my wife’s nights more frequently because she was otherwise at home with the baby all day while I was at work and felt like she needed the break. I was also “used” to sleep deprivation from the past years when I was working full-time while also going to college full-time, and she would stay home and watch TV, read, or paint.
I was constantly exhausted for the first 6 months, until she was mostly able to sleep through most nights. I would regularly apologize to my coworkers for my reduced cognitive ability because I didn’t get any sleep the previous night or two, and my boss would express how he didn’t understand how I was still vertical. Thankfully they were all very understanding and accommodating, and I was at least still able to get most of my work done to our standard of quality, albeit much more slowly than usual.
I didn’t have time, opportunity, or energy to even consider the prospect of intimacy at that time, so I absolutely sympathize with new mothers with absentee partners that have normal levels of energy and libido.
ChexMax@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The number one way (more effective than medication) to increase a woman’s libido is an extra hour of sleep. It’s truly no wonder that getting negative hours of sleep for a literal year at least kills libido.
I’m pregnant and the insomnia is killing me. 4 or 5 hours a night, usually. And the poor sleep will only continue when the child is born. Everyone’s talking about how men need to help more with chores and all that’s true and good that you need division of labor, but even if you’re good at division, the sleep loss with children is inevitable.
qarbone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Y’all get 5 hrs of sleep a night??
Crazy
howrar@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
This is why both parents should get parental leave. I just took care of all the nights and slept through half the day. Neither of us had to deal with sleep deprivation.
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
A dude I used to work with left his wife to deal with the newborn.
It was so bad between dayshifts that he used to leave the house at 2am and just sit in a motorway service station with a coffee for a few hours just to get some peace before coming to work.
If I tried that, my other half would stab me in the face.
neomachino@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
I got 3 months paid paternity leave through a state program. A coworker who had a kid that same month chose to not use the state program and take 2 PTO days instead. I talked to him before hand and told him about the program but he said something like “I wouldn’t be much help, she’s done it twice already so she has it handled”. It was very evident how his wife felt about him at the Christmas party that year.
She sought out my wife, who she knew had a kid recently too and my wife brought up how nice it was to have me home for those first few months and somehow the state program came up in the conversation. She then booked it over to me and asked me about it, not knowing what was going on or thinking much about it, I told her about it and that I can’t believe coworker didn’t do it. Then all hell broke loose. This tiny little lady dragged out my 6 foot heavy set coworker by the ear, calling him every name in the book. She made him use all his PTO days and went to spend new years somewhere warm. He bitched about how hard it was taking care of 3 kids on his own for weeks.
‘Funny’ enough all the guys in the office thought she was being ridiculous but all the women were praising her.
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 3 weeks ago
Bruh if I had the choice between working, or raising My baby full time for the same pay, I’d pick the baby. And I hate babies! They’re annoying and needy, that’s why I prefer adoption. But it’s a baby, it deserves to be looked after. And it’s a better feeling to create a person than making the boss rich.
faqtimaan@lemmy.wtf 3 weeks ago
I dont think that is true tbh dads nowadays take care of babies as much as moms even after doing job and everything
sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
There’s still a huge gap. Men do more, but still not as much as women.
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Women do get a shitload more time off work for it than men, so they kinda have to be the one doing most of the childcare regardless of what either parent actually wants.
Friend of ours recently had another child, she is getting most of a year off, he got a couple weeks.
lengau@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
My work gives parental leave based on whether they’re the primary caretaker or the secondary one. The primary gets 6 months, the secondary gets 3.
What decider whether you’re primary or secondary? Simple. If your partner is taking more than 3 months they’re primary.
What this means in practice is that for US-based employees pretty much everyone at my company is the primary caretaker since few people’s spouses even have the option for more than 3 months.
some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You can just lie, no? My employer doesn’t get to know the employment status of my spouse; she doesn’t work for them. Seems like an invasion of privacy, but I could be misunderstanding the policy. If both companies have that same policy does it cause an infinite loop? 😆
Tattorack@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Here in Denmark people believe in shared parenting, so both parents get leave. “Parental leave” as opposed to “maternal” or “paternal” leave.
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Yeah a few countries are more equal, of course you also have some that equally tell you to get fucked.
sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Hm I wonder why the people giving birth get so much more time off.
Certainly has absolutely nothing to do with healing, I’m sure.
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Sure, but then don’t be surprised at the other person doing less of the childcare when they have to go back to work almost straight away.
doingthestuff@lemy.lol 3 weeks ago
That’s a couple of weeks more than I ever got.
DontTreadOnBigfoot@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Same. I got my PTO requests approved for the day of the delivery and the day after, but “they couldn’t spare me for a third day”
astutemural@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
The meme isn’t judging all men, people. It’s calling out a specific behavior and attitude. Not sure why people are so upset. Unless you actually do this, of course.
LumiNocta@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
My wife is in labor as we speak! Crazy how I’m sitting here this meme feels very reIevant. I aspire to not be this guy.
C8r9VwDUTeY3ZufQRYvq@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
And you’re doom scrolling rather than helping?! Get back to it, slacker!
Congrats, though 😁
squaresinger@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
And still it might happen that the outcome on her side is the same.
Post partum depression is super common, same as self-image issues, body issues and so on. Also, even if you do everything right as a husband, she’s still not going to get a ton of sleep, especially if she breast feeds.
OP is an idiot for treating sex as just transactional.
Fishnoodle@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This was funny line 60 years ago
RBWells@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I dunno, my ex was ok with the kids, and I was able to sleep & nurse at the same time (small boobs) but breastfeeding knocked my libido down to less than zero. Usually I run pretty hot, but while nursing it was like I couldn’t care at all about sex, it felt like a chore, and when we did, I had both fear (because childbirth) and had to work just to get to a baseline level of desire at all. I always figured it was a natural birth control thing, nature helping so kids don’t come too close together.
Beth@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
I wish I could say this wasn’t my exact experience. Tack on the lack of any romantic overtures and it’s pretty much how it went though.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
My husband was a champ. He worked full-time and also stayed up at night manually pumping my breast milk while I was sleeping, and he’d wake up with th baby & fed the baby & changed diapers & he cooked meals too! The only thing he didn’t do is clean and that’s okay cuz I loved cleaning.
sin_free_for_00_days@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Men, if you don’t want kids, get your tubes tied. Most insurances cover it. Just do it. Don’t wait for the “right time”, just get it done.
I_am_10_squirrels@beehaw.org 3 weeks ago
I got snipped on a valentines day because they had lots of openings. This was after we had been together for three years and decided kids weren’t an option for us. Haven’t regretted it. Next year will be our 20th anniversary.
HazardousBanjo@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
“She wanted a divorce out of nowhere!” - Every deadbeat dad.
db2@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Redneck boomer shit, can’t relate.
maya_the_good_apple@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
To OP or the person in the comic?
db2@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The comic itself
EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
Seems like a lot of trouble could be avoided if people who don’t actually want to take on the responsibilities of parenting stop reproducing.
forkDestroyer@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
Not a lot of people understand what parenting is going to be like before they have kids.
EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 2 weeks ago
It might help if society was more honest about it. For starters, everyone could cut the shit with gaslighting people who say that they aren’t interesting in becoming parents. It’s a huge disservice to everyone involved.
Tattorack@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Wat…
Must be America again, because I’ve hardly seen this in Denmark, Sweden, Germany, the Netherlands, France, or Spain (all countries I’ve either visited for extended periods of time, or lived in for portions of my life).
In my own family, however, I am the biggest brother, so they basically made me take care of a lot of the dirty tasks involving my siblings.
Nangijala@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
I’m Danish and can confirm. I grew up in a family full of babies and all the dads were always super involved. All the friends I have, who have little ones, the dads are involved. Only one of them has a situation where the mom is mostly on baby duty, but that’s because dad has a job that requires him to travel for work for months at the time. When he’s home, he’s very much a hands on dad. Men love being dads. At least where I live.
The only times I hear about hands off dads is when it’s America and Middle Eastern countries.
87Six@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Ah misandrist memes, just what I needed to cheer myself up.
Next I’ll stop by instagram to see misogynist memes to get my full course.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
my favorite part, is it’s never that the author of the meme is the one who just… picks shitty people. It’s always the fault of the entire gender, clearly.
I’ve met plenty of shitty women, men, and trans folks. and plenty of great ones. It’s almost as if being a shitty friend/partner has nothing to do with someone’s sex or gender, and it’s about their actions as an individual person.
napkin2020@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I always wonder what kind of point one wishes to make and what kind of responds they expect.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
with this post?
it’s rage bait. they want to get engagement by playing into grievance stereotypes.
MNByChoice@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
An issue with post-interstate USA is the ability to move away from family for education and work, also fragmented the extended family. Managing life, everything and a under-6 month old infant takes way more than two people. (Day care in many areas will accept an infant at 6 weeks, which while huge, is also problematic.)
I expect the only solution is get rich and help your kids with the grand kids. (UBI!)
None of this is an excuse to fuck off and not help. It is pathetic when men say “and I never changed a diaper”. Hardly a parent at all at that point.
wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
This is a severely under-discussed consequence of modern culture distancing family “connections”.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s only about 4 people on my side of the extended family I actually miss, and 3 on my wife’s side. That’s being generous. But not having that reliable help if you don’t have an absolutely amazing social group makes raising a kid through early childhood an absolute slog.
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
We don’t have kids but between the 2 of us we have 1 parent that could get here the same day if needed. 2 who we could see if willing to spend a fortune on the train to very remote areas and a full days travel. 1 who we don’t know what country they are in or even if they are still alive.
So any extra childcare would be entirely reliant on 1 person. We could move to change that to a different person but that hardly helps, there is no location that would be close to any 2 of our parents.
some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
My brother-in-law is like that. Has the kids on the weekends (yup) and refers to it as “babysitting”… his own children. I know he must see all that I do for mine. It makes me nauseous, but I try not to get involved.
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Hey, incel Nazi wannabe douches. Downvote me harder, daddy. I’m getting rock hard and going to consensually bang the hell out of my wife.
wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Holy shit I really got to you didn’t I?
I saw you made two responses to my comment showing you were wrong. I knew you were big mad, but this is hysterical. I didn’t realize you were having a full on breakdown outside our little sub-comment chain.
You’re yapping an awful lot about “I have hot sex with my wife” for a guy supposedly happy, stable, and a better husband than the rest of us InCeLs. Thanks man, you’ve just made the next couple days for me.
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Nazis don’t deserve nice things. They do deserve to be made fun of.
As you keep responding you keep sounding like a worse person.
I’ve been having a blast pissing you off. Keep going. I’ve got all week. : )
There is no big mad, I just know you are some sort of abuser in the guise of #notallmen.
And we fuck rather regularly. My lady tells me she is representative of the crowd–hornier as they get older.
Difference between us? I respect people (who aren’t closeted fascists.)
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
The bottom panel is absolutely correct, except for the “never get married” bit. Just that chapter is wild. Not for the faint of heart but can recommend.
Nomorereddit@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Op is a nazi.
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 3 weeks ago
Isn’t OP an anarchist?
TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’ve always thought about this should I get married and have kids some day.
Hello_there@fedia.io 3 weeks ago
The fun part is when you are involved and it still happens
cm0002@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
Well atp, it’s just genetics and hormones, which isn’t really her fault either lol
wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Long as it’s still the man’s fault for desiring intimacy, am I right or am I right ladies?
The assumption that it’s always a neglectful husband causing marital issues is incredibly demoralizing, especially when the response to “but what if it isn’t a neglectful husband” is this sort of thing. Just more reasons why the man is the one being unreasonable.
Look, no man is “owed” their wife’s affections or physical intimacy. But it is often an important piece of an adult romantic relationship, and it’s not unreasonable for a member of that relationship to have some feelings about things changing over time, or suddenly for that matter.
protist@retrofed.com 3 weeks ago
If that’s your perspective, is anyone ever responsible for anything? Or is it all just genetics and hormones
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
So it’s his fault or it’s not her fault?
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It isn’t me, it’s mah ATP and hormones!!!
sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Oh no you put the “nice” coins into your wife and she didn’t give you sex like a vending machine??
Soulg@ani.social 3 weeks ago
You need therapy, and probably to get out of the basement and interact with people outside
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
It doesn’t sound like you were actually involved.
Or you don’t understand what the mother’s body goes through.
sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
We’ve got men in here confused as to why women get more time off after giving birth.