Nangijala
@Nangijala@feddit.dk
- Comment on BDSM 2 days ago:
We are in the process of turning our garden into one of those meadows… granted, it’s a teeny tiny meadow, but so far, the bees are pretty happy with it. When we go to plant stores, we look at the flowers the bees pick themselves and buy those. It’ll be a paradise someday. Too many awesome flowers to choose from. And holy canoli do bees LOVE lavender. O.O
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 4 days ago:
So true! I have always managed to skate by in life because I’m relatively unremarkable most of the time. I have described my life strategy as being on on a boat full of holes and I constantly run around applying flex tape and scooping water out in buckets to keep it afloat. From afar my boat looks like every other boat in the water, but up close it is constant maintenance to appear somewhat normal. It’s gotten a bit easier to accept the mess after I realized that maybe it’s not entirely my own fault that I struggle with certain things.
And for real, women do get diagnosed far less than men, but it’s getting so much better nowadays. I don’t think I’ll ever be officially diagnosed as I manage pretty okay all things considered. I’m just glad other people who struggle more than me, get the chance to get help.
Also, sorry for the late reply. I had surgery today so I have been a bit out of it. Everything went well, though. I hope you have a lovely day, my friend! ❤️
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 5 days ago:
Lol, it is funny how us weirdos always seem to find one another. Then you know what it’s like xD I like having my views on the world challenged. I like knowing people who are different and live different lives from myself. If I had the wanderlust, I think I would have been someone who travels the world to make friends in every corner, but alas, I fucking hate travelling, dude. Planes and airports can go fuck themselves. I have agreed with myself that the only time I’m gonna travel for the rest of my life is when I go to see my best friend who lives thousands of km away. Ain’t no way I’m putting myself through all that shit for anyone else.
HA! You being ASD makes sense. I always vibe with people on the spectrum. Always. I often find them to have the right amount of nerd in them to carry interesting conversations and they tend to be a calming antidote to my chaos. I become an irl cartoon character when I speak with people. Spectrum people are nice because they rarely react to my nonsense and if they do, they rarely judge. And, I mean, same with them. They may be weird to some people, but to me I’m like: Ah, my kind of person. One of the first friends I made in my teens was ASD as well (not diagnosed at the time) and she thought I was gay and hitting on her for weeks because I kept pestering her to be friends.
That is so funny that your friends, one by one have gotten diagnosed! Seriously, I always thought I was normal, right? That I was just really good at relating to people who were different because I am a bit offputting myself, I think? So I have been around people with every diagnosis under the sun since my teens and it was only a few years ago that my boyfriend brought up to me that he was 99% sure I had undiagnosed ADHD and that I should stop being so hard on myself all the time. Was like “the fuck?” and then a lot of things made sense all of a sudden. Because ADHD is the only diagnosis I struggled to understand. When people told me about their issues and symptoms I was always like: But that’s just what it’s like to live, innit? Maybe I’m too stupid to understand ADHD?" and I read about it and listened some more to friends and colleagues who have it and it still just didn’t click for me because that’s how I feel all the time, but I’m normal, so I must just not get it. Not even once did I put two and two together, dude. Not once. Not until my man spelled it out for me at age 34. :'D I am dense as a brick sometimes.
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 5 days ago:
Thank you xD I mean, I’m a fan of us too, but I’m also super biased lol.
I think its awesome that you guys have that agreement. There are also many different ways of flirting and the innocent kind, is no harm no foul. And as long as people figure out what works for them and everyone is happy, then who can be mad? I think I have pretty much seen it all at this point, considering that I have always moved in unconventional social circles. I’m a pretty basic bitch, but somehow have always found myself around people who are gay or trans or in polyamorous relationship or are swingers or into extreme body modification and so on (methinks it is undiagnosed ADHD or something like that. Fucking always end up with the outcasts in society). I can tell the difference between people who are in healthy dynamics and those who aren’t. Flirting with friends while everyone involved understand the boundaries, is so chill.
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 5 days ago:
I’m the same as you, but in reverse: I sometimes miss being alone, but I don’t miss the flirting and the attention.
And honestly, the “missing the loneliness” has kinda been fixed now that we no longer live in small apartments, but have a house with rooms where we can be ourselves when we need it. We are that weird kind of couple who love being alone together. He does his thing, I do mine and occassionally one comes over to give the other a hug and a smooch. And if one or the other needs extra attention, we put down whatever we are working on to give it to them. For example, he’s gotten hooked on collecting fossils recently and sometimes he bursts with the need to do lectures about pre-historic aquatic life and their anatomy and he comes over and dumps one fossil in my hands after the other while he talks. It’s the same when I go off on one of my things. Like I can talk at length about movies, foreign cultures and their habits and languages. And then we have a mutual interest in birds. Like I saw a raven fly over our house the other day and immediately called him and we babbled for several minutes about my observations to make sure it was a raven and not a crow. If either of us are out and see a weird bird, we snap a pic if possible and send it to the other and discuss what bird it is if it isn’t immediately apparent.
How the frick would I find a guy like that ever again? Do they even make those anymore? I need someone to match my level of mundane weird.
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 5 days ago:
hehe, yeah. Honestly, good for us. I for one, am so relieved that I’m off the market. It’s so draining, dude xD
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 5 days ago:
It’s funny, I have had that exact experience with guys when I was young. The second I started returning the interest, they would drop me like I was a venomous snake and go flirt with someone else.
Until I met my boyfriend I just thought men didn’t want women to like them back. Color me confused when the pre historic version of incel/manosphere culture began bitching about women playing hard to get back in the late 2000s/early 2010s on various forums.
Was over here like: y’all are the ones who run for the hills whenever a girl shows you she likes you, though. 🤷♀️
- Comment on Loosing my religion 1 week ago:
I once managed to get heatstroke in a air-conditioned car in the middle east. May not have been demonic possession, but sure as shit felt like it xD the heat down there is metal af. Ten minutes outside is life threatening. Put some things into perspective for my Scandinavian ass.
- Comment on Thanks, little buddies. 1 week ago:
We are gods.
- Comment on *Humans entered the chat* 1 week ago:
Tbf, humans are the least sensical animal om the planet.
We are genuinely freaks of nature.
- Comment on Anon is a nostalgic gamer 1 week ago:
I enjoyed watching some playthroughs of a couple of games over the years, but then I sorta lost interest. Used to follow John Wolfe a lot and watch his playthroughs. He was good at finding never heard of indie games in the horror genre, so I witnessed a few gems through him.
- Comment on Anon is a nostalgic gamer 1 week ago:
I genuinely do not regret jumping off the video game train back in 2015.
Everything I have heard about the evolution of the gaming industry since has surpassed my pessimistic predictions back then, which could be summarized as: video games are becoming predatory and I feel like they eat my time and money for dismissed returns.
It was especially the consol market and the whole online aspect that made me wrinkle my nose. Feels like nowadays you actually can’t buy and play a game offline.
But what do I know. I only tune in when my friend is playing on twitch and we talk about life over Signal. We have gone back to retro games recently too. Jake and Daxter 🎉
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 1 week ago:
They can be so friggin good @,@
One of my sibs has a cherry tree in their garden and the cherries are so red, they turn black and the taste is fucking ridiculous, dude @,@ ❤️
I have to try the frozen cherry and yogurt combo! Sounds rather perfect in this summer heat, actually!
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 1 week ago:
Nay!!! They are bewwies, bish! … tbf, so are bananas, but that is besides the point!!
Can you fwiggin believe it? Apples, pears, tomatoes and lemons are technically considered bewwies? The wules are stupid.
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 1 week ago:
My processing speed is embarrassing today.
Also, my good sir, boobewwy is not a fwuit. Tis a bewwy. You’re cheating!
But I’m sure it is delicious.
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 1 week ago:
So true! I really think that banana, grapes and pineapple work particularly well when frozen 🤤
What fruits do you enjoy frozen?
- Comment on Sacrifices 2 weeks ago:
I’m genuinely so happy that this scene became a meme. It is evergreen-funny no matter what context it is placed in.
- Comment on British Charlie Kirk wannabe beaten up debating people in Manchester 2 weeks ago:
So, he’s the male version of Pearl, is what you’re saying? 🤣
- Comment on Anon is a child prodigy 3 weeks ago:
Sidis deserves to be remembered. Not only was he smart, but he seemed like a genuinely good and reasonable person too. I also like that he took great interest in anthropology and languages. If I remember correctly, he even developed a couple of languages himself because he was fascinated by it.
- Comment on WOMEN. 3 weeks ago:
True. Social media - Lemmy included - has really proven how effectively people can be socially engineered into hating “the other” to the point where you can kid yourself into believing you’re being tolerant by doing it to the group that is okay to hate.
It makes me feel sick everytime I see it and all the forms it takes.
- Comment on WOMEN. 3 weeks ago:
It just shows different ways of being smart and pit them against one another instead of celebrating them.
- Comment on WOMEN. 4 weeks ago:
I’m aware. I just disagree with using the word “emotional” to describe how women are different from men, because that is not accurate.
- Comment on Anon awakens something 4 weeks ago:
If I remember correctly, they went to the bathroom and put ice on Bernd’s weiner to make the area numb, before Armin cut it off. Then they cooked and attempted to eat it over a candle lit dinner. However, the consistency of weiner is apparently so chewy, that it is inedible. Bernd was, if I remember correctly, fading in and out of consciousness during, due to bloodoss and he was in terrible pain too.
I forget if they attempted to cut more pieces off of Bernd while he was still alive or if Bernd agreed to die after that failed dinner. I know they were intimate and that a lot of it was filmed, as well as the murder. Armin cooked and ate him over a period of time, storing his dismembered body in a freezer.
Bernd too part in the cannibilization of himself before his death, which is partially why that whole case was so friggin bizarre because it was all consensual. It just doesn’t hold up in court, thankfully.
It’s been awhile, so I’m probably mksremembering some details, but this is the roundabout way I remember this case. It was massive and everybody talked about it for years.
I also remember some horror director making a movie, recreating the entire crime from beginning to end, which was very controversial. For some reason my mind is pointing at Harmony Korine, but I’m not sure. He’s always the first director I think about when it comes to fuck up movie projects, lol.
But yeah. Crazy case.
- Comment on WOMEN. 4 weeks ago:
I like both. I get the sentiment, but it is really sad that men and women’s strengths and/or weaknesses are being used to wage a stupid war that serves no one.
In my home we compliment each other super well. My weaknesses are evened out by his strengths and my strengths even out his weaknesses. It’s great. Almost like that’s the whole point of having a functioning society.
- Comment on WOMEN. 4 weeks ago:
Emotional. As opposed to men who are perfectly rational at all times and totally don’t sit far beyond women in statistics of violent crimes.
I don’t mind acknowledging that men and women are different, but the “women are emotional and men are rational” narrative is driving me up a wall.
- Comment on A lack of sex held back life's diversity for millions of years, fossil study finds 4 weeks ago:
I wonder what that feels like.
I mean, yeah, I have kept my inner child alive too, but I don’t feel remotely the same from when I was 18, which in my case is a positive. I have better people around me now, I feel a lot freer and like I can be myself now than when I was 18. I understand the world on a deeper level. I am more accepting and patient. I am less angry and I’m gradually building selfworth, which I didn’t have at all at 18.
I like aging because I continue to grow towards the person I want to be in life, and not being forced to be someone I’m not by people who don’t care about me.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong about feeling the same as you did when your were young. I just can’t relate myself because my experience is that life is not just one continous journey, but multiple births and deaths of the soul. I’m going through a death right now where I know that once I’m out on the other side of all these challenges, things are gonna be so nice, but right now I’m saying goodbye to who I was these past ten years which is kinda rough, because overall, I really liked this decade of my life and it was a lot better than any prior decade before it.
I hope it makes sense xD
- Comment on Space 4 weeks ago:
From what I have been told, astronauts grow a couple of centimeters depending on how long they have been in space. When they come back to earth they shrink over time as gravity pushes them back together.
I’m glad you find it relaxing because I find it freaky af xD
- Comment on A lack of sex held back life's diversity for millions of years, fossil study finds 4 weeks ago:
It’s weird because I definitely feel my own aging a lot. I don’t mind it either. A lot of calm comes with aging. But I guess I don’t see celebrities as creatures that age because they are always the same age in the movies I know them for xD silly, I know.
- Comment on A lack of sex held back life's diversity for millions of years, fossil study finds 4 weeks ago:
So weird to see some of these actors aging. I mean, I don’t mind, but it sure is a reminder that the world moves on whether I’m ready for it or not, lol.
- Comment on Space 4 weeks ago:
But your spine is slowly being pulled apart Dx
