Nangijala

@Nangijala@feddit.dk

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon reads Don Quixote⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Anon should be disappointed in their teacher, honestly.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon questions the epidemic⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  The movie “Shame” is a pretty good example of lonliness despite having sex constantly. I think it was with Michael Fassbender and from 2012, but it’s been awhile so I don’t remember. Good movie, though. Real feel bad film.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon questions the epidemic⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  First of all: that is not how it works

  Second of all: the loneliness epidemic is noy just happening to men, it is happening to everybody.

  Third of all: loneliness can happen to anyone, even people who appear to have it all. It is not just the extreme stereotype of the hermit who barely speaks to a living soul for two years, that is valid in feeling lonely. Sometimes it’s the people who seem to have a big network of friends who are the loneliest because all their friendships are superficial and the person may struggle to commit to others and be vulnerable. Other people become distractions from a deep hurt and selfloathing, they don’t know how to address. No one is ever let in because it’s too scary and risky to show weakness. But you have 50 friends and is everybody’s pal, so you can’t be lonely, right?

  And then there’s the more mundane type of loneliness, that happens to a lot of people in the first world when they enter the workforce and/or start a family. It can become terribly lonely when you dont have the time and energy to nurture friendships ans community because you work all the time and then you raise the family and in the currwnt day and age, social activity takes place on screens. People hang out on social media where they share pics and political views instead of meeting up for a beer or a lemonade to chat like our parents’ generations did.

  I have seen cpuntless posts from 30somethings pver the past decade, who ask about how to make friends at their age because they feel so lonely and all their old friends live far away. These are men and women. Some of them are parents of newborns others are single career people who have been grinding and suddenly realized they have neglected their social life.

  Everybody is lonely in this day and age. I have felt lonely for years because i had to grind at work and didnt have time for recrrational activities. I have plenty of friends, good family and a lovely boyfriend and I was still lonely because I had to work all the time. Doesnt help that all my friends and family live far away so most of our interactions are on screens and not in the flesh. And if there is anything I think the modern first world human being is undervaluing and neglecting, it’s physical closeness and irl community. The screens have replaced that despite being the shittiest substitute for physical touch imaginable.

  To me, there is nothing that can calm every cell in my body like a hug from someone i love and whom I know loves me back. It is irreplacable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨📡📡📡⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I still remember when he cried in jail because he had a PS2 and wanted a PS3. He was rejected.

  He also snuggled with his mother in bed and was so extreme that the neo nazi forum he frequented banned him for being too radical.

  I remember visiting a neo nazi forum while the situstion was occuring and while it was a shocking and terrible time, i did get a kick out of sewing them all first talk anouy muslim terrorists with this smug, arrogant “sadness” like “yet another attack by islamists. Could’ve been avoided if they would listen to us”.

  Then when the news broke that it was one of their own who’d dome it, thry completely shifted tone and became very busy disavowing him and making no true scotsman arguments.

  The part that saddens me is that in today’s world, these types would celebrate him and revel in the hste and harm one of them had caused. They would make him a matyr and a hero.

  I miss living in a world where even the lowest scum in society still had some level of humanity to them.

  Today’s world is being run by extremism and hatred and glee to see those you hate suffer.

  I dont know where people’s humanity went, but i hope we will someday look back on the 2020s and cringe at ourselves for allowing humanity to go mad.

  I miss when the world was a bit more normal.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon becomes a landscape⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Thats basically what the 20s are for everybody. You try to be anything but yourself and then you grow out of it and spend your 30s cringing at 20s-you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm not sure they will⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  My autocorrect is my nemesis. The phone I had before this one had pretty solid autocorrect, but this current one has an autocorrect that is so terrible I’m forced to correct my autocorrect constantly.

  Should probably do what you do and turn it off and see what happens.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm not sure they will⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I think a better challenge would be to turn off the internet for a week and see what happens. The times I did internet detoxes, I felt completely relaxed and got a mental clarity I don’t have in my day to day life. Sadly I’m dependent on the internet for my job, so I can’t really detox like that nowadays, but I miss the feeling.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon does nothing⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Ugly and low IQ Severe Depression

  I hope anon gets some help. It’s hard to find your way out of that bleakness once you’re there. I speak from experience, and it IS possible to get better. Self worth takes a lifetime to build if your parents didn’t make the fundament for it in you. It’s still worth working on it.

  It’s okay to not be the perfect adult, when you have barely learned what adulthood is. It’s okay to be a late bloomer. It’s okay to be uncertain. It’s okay to do life at your own pace. But don’t let the bleakness win. No matter how shite it gets, it won’t last forever and you will find the way back from that pit. Even if it happens at such a slow and sluggish pace, that you don’t even notice the improvements from day to day.

  I wish I could give anon a hug. Been there too, buddy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Was about to comment that if this story was true and not all made up, it’d be really funny.

  However my bullshit meter was also blaring because of how many youtube shorts nowadays are about animals acting like humans and people just eat it up without questioning it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ecosystem services⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Vultures are metal af.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Cant Stop 💭⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  You should look up “first look best man pranks” on YouTube.

  This one is my personal fav and I do believe it was the one that started the trend too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon meets Jigsaw⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  the doll is just his avatar. He is indeed an old guy who is dead for most of the franchise because the writers wrote themselves into a corner early on. The first Saw movie is still a solid film with a pretty awesome twist at the end. Everything that came after the first one is just increasingly ridiculous nonsense.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Carenheit⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  as someone who has visited one of the hottest countries on Earth, yeah… 30C in countries like that, is considered chilly. There were a couple of days in a row where the temp reached 50 and kept crawling. My Scandinavian ass was not ready.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has been misled⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Curry Barker neither barks nor is yellow. >:(

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨knew a few guys like this⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I grew up with a TV program that was hosted by a black woman and a gay man - its called Bullerfnis. I never thought about the fact that she was darker. I also went to school with kids who were mixed and had a black parent, but I didn’t think about it.

  One of my classmates from first to fourth grade was half black. The only thing I considered about her was that I thought it was really cool that she got to go to Brazil sometimes to meet her extended family. She gave me some stickers after one of her trips, with cartoon characters from a Brazilian show and I still have them to this day. I treasured them because they came from the other side of the world. I don’t even know why she gave them to me. We weren’t super close friends, but we did play together sometimes. Her dad made a traditional Brazilian confectionary for us one time and I thought it was super weird because I had never tasted anything like it before. It wasn’t bad, just different.

  I think I was 6 years old when I first realized that black people look different from me, lol. There was a parent who came to school one day and he wore dreadlocks and had very colorful clothes from his culture, so he stuck out a bit and that was when in my brain I was like “wait, some people are dark?”

  Needless to say, I am a bit slow on the uptake sometimes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not a single one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Whomever drew this, is a master at dynamics and comedic timing. I fucking love the energy in every line and every panel.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨BDSM⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  We are in the process of turning our garden into one of those meadows… granted, it’s a teeny tiny meadow, but so far, the bees are pretty happy with it. When we go to plant stores, we look at the flowers the bees pick themselves and buy those. It’ll be a paradise someday. Too many awesome flowers to choose from. And holy canoli do bees LOVE lavender. O.O

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon likes a woman⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So true! I have always managed to skate by in life because I’m relatively unremarkable most of the time. I have described my life strategy as being on on a boat full of holes and I constantly run around applying flex tape and scooping water out in buckets to keep it afloat. From afar my boat looks like every other boat in the water, but up close it is constant maintenance to appear somewhat normal. It’s gotten a bit easier to accept the mess after I realized that maybe it’s not entirely my own fault that I struggle with certain things.

  And for real, women do get diagnosed far less than men, but it’s getting so much better nowadays. I don’t think I’ll ever be officially diagnosed as I manage pretty okay all things considered. I’m just glad other people who struggle more than me, get the chance to get help.

  Also, sorry for the late reply. I had surgery today so I have been a bit out of it. Everything went well, though. I hope you have a lovely day, my friend! ❤️

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon likes a woman⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Lol, it is funny how us weirdos always seem to find one another. Then you know what it’s like xD I like having my views on the world challenged. I like knowing people who are different and live different lives from myself. If I had the wanderlust, I think I would have been someone who travels the world to make friends in every corner, but alas, I fucking hate travelling, dude. Planes and airports can go fuck themselves. I have agreed with myself that the only time I’m gonna travel for the rest of my life is when I go to see my best friend who lives thousands of km away. Ain’t no way I’m putting myself through all that shit for anyone else.

  HA! You being ASD makes sense. I always vibe with people on the spectrum. Always. I often find them to have the right amount of nerd in them to carry interesting conversations and they tend to be a calming antidote to my chaos. I become an irl cartoon character when I speak with people. Spectrum people are nice because they rarely react to my nonsense and if they do, they rarely judge. And, I mean, same with them. They may be weird to some people, but to me I’m like: Ah, my kind of person. One of the first friends I made in my teens was ASD as well (not diagnosed at the time) and she thought I was gay and hitting on her for weeks because I kept pestering her to be friends.

  That is so funny that your friends, one by one have gotten diagnosed! Seriously, I always thought I was normal, right? That I was just really good at relating to people who were different because I am a bit offputting myself, I think? So I have been around people with every diagnosis under the sun since my teens and it was only a few years ago that my boyfriend brought up to me that he was 99% sure I had undiagnosed ADHD and that I should stop being so hard on myself all the time. Was like “the fuck?” and then a lot of things made sense all of a sudden. Because ADHD is the only diagnosis I struggled to understand. When people told me about their issues and symptoms I was always like: But that’s just what it’s like to live, innit? Maybe I’m too stupid to understand ADHD?" and I read about it and listened some more to friends and colleagues who have it and it still just didn’t click for me because that’s how I feel all the time, but I’m normal, so I must just not get it. Not even once did I put two and two together, dude. Not once. Not until my man spelled it out for me at age 34. :'D I am dense as a brick sometimes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon likes a woman⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you xD I mean, I’m a fan of us too, but I’m also super biased lol.

  I think its awesome that you guys have that agreement. There are also many different ways of flirting and the innocent kind, is no harm no foul. And as long as people figure out what works for them and everyone is happy, then who can be mad? I think I have pretty much seen it all at this point, considering that I have always moved in unconventional social circles. I’m a pretty basic bitch, but somehow have always found myself around people who are gay or trans or in polyamorous relationship or are swingers or into extreme body modification and so on (methinks it is undiagnosed ADHD or something like that. Fucking always end up with the outcasts in society). I can tell the difference between people who are in healthy dynamics and those who aren’t. Flirting with friends while everyone involved understand the boundaries, is so chill.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon likes a woman⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m the same as you, but in reverse: I sometimes miss being alone, but I don’t miss the flirting and the attention.

  And honestly, the “missing the loneliness” has kinda been fixed now that we no longer live in small apartments, but have a house with rooms where we can be ourselves when we need it. We are that weird kind of couple who love being alone together. He does his thing, I do mine and occassionally one comes over to give the other a hug and a smooch. And if one or the other needs extra attention, we put down whatever we are working on to give it to them. For example, he’s gotten hooked on collecting fossils recently and sometimes he bursts with the need to do lectures about pre-historic aquatic life and their anatomy and he comes over and dumps one fossil in my hands after the other while he talks. It’s the same when I go off on one of my things. Like I can talk at length about movies, foreign cultures and their habits and languages. And then we have a mutual interest in birds. Like I saw a raven fly over our house the other day and immediately called him and we babbled for several minutes about my observations to make sure it was a raven and not a crow. If either of us are out and see a weird bird, we snap a pic if possible and send it to the other and discuss what bird it is if it isn’t immediately apparent.

  How the frick would I find a guy like that ever again? Do they even make those anymore? I need someone to match my level of mundane weird.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon likes a woman⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  hehe, yeah. Honestly, good for us. I for one, am so relieved that I’m off the market. It’s so draining, dude xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon likes a woman⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s funny, I have had that exact experience with guys when I was young. The second I started returning the interest, they would drop me like I was a venomous snake and go flirt with someone else.

  Until I met my boyfriend I just thought men didn’t want women to like them back. Color me confused when the pre historic version of incel/manosphere culture began bitching about women playing hard to get back in the late 2000s/early 2010s on various forums.

  Was over here like: y’all are the ones who run for the hills whenever a girl shows you she likes you, though. 🤷‍♀️

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Loosing my religion⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I once managed to get heatstroke in a air-conditioned car in the middle east. May not have been demonic possession, but sure as shit felt like it xD the heat down there is metal af. Ten minutes outside is life threatening. Put some things into perspective for my Scandinavian ass.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Thanks, little buddies.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  We are gods.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨*Humans entered the chat*⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbf, humans are the least sensical animal om the planet.

  We are genuinely freaks of nature.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is a nostalgic gamer⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I enjoyed watching some playthroughs of a couple of games over the years, but then I sorta lost interest. Used to follow John Wolfe a lot and watch his playthroughs. He was good at finding never heard of indie games in the horror genre, so I witnessed a few gems through him.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is a nostalgic gamer⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I genuinely do not regret jumping off the video game train back in 2015.

  Everything I have heard about the evolution of the gaming industry since has surpassed my pessimistic predictions back then, which could be summarized as: video games are becoming predatory and I feel like they eat my time and money for dismissed returns.

  It was especially the consol market and the whole online aspect that made me wrinkle my nose. Feels like nowadays you actually can’t buy and play a game offline.

  But what do I know. I only tune in when my friend is playing on twitch and we talk about life over Signal. We have gone back to retro games recently too. Jake and Daxter 🎉

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon tries to lose weight⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  They can be so friggin good @,@

  One of my sibs has a cherry tree in their garden and the cherries are so red, they turn black and the taste is fucking ridiculous, dude @,@ ❤️

  I have to try the frozen cherry and yogurt combo! Sounds rather perfect in this summer heat, actually!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon tries to lose weight⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Nay!!! They are bewwies, bish! … tbf, so are bananas, but that is besides the point!!

  Can you fwiggin believe it? Apples, pears, tomatoes and lemons are technically considered bewwies? The wules are stupid.