ChexMax
@ChexMax@lemmy.world
- Comment on Rough date 2 days ago:
That’s why she waited until arriving to drink? And then presumably the date lasts a few hours over which she sobers up?
- Comment on I'm gonna ask the simplest complex question ever. What is happiness, to you? 5 days ago:
I guess it’s overall satisfaction. Joy is yesterday, cuddling in bed with my spouse and toddler, and toddler reaches up and pats us each on the cheek, smiling ear to ear, so happy we’re all together watching the movie they wants to watch. A joy explosion. But if we spent all day in bed, that wouldn’t make me happy. So I guess we need the harder stuff so those joy explosions feel so high. So a balance with those joy moments a few times a day is peak happiness
- Comment on 1 week ago:
- But it feels really weird that someone I slept with hundreds of times, often in sessions of 40 minutes to two hours would count the same towards that number as someone who I slept with once for 15 minutes.
Of the 12, 4 were a single time, 1 was a few times and the rest were over a year of sleeping together, usually 2 or 3.
For what it’s worth the sex was only physically pleasurable in the long term deals for me.
- Comment on why is it never the 'close friend' who gets shit on? 2 weeks ago:
Even if she’s immediately an ex due to her behavior, I think a lot of people would rather their close friends not sleep with an ex. It’s like, if you two fall in love after we’re over, you can’t stop love, but if you’re just getting your rocks off, there are plenty of fish
- Comment on why is it never the 'close friend' who gets shit on? 2 weeks ago:
Ugh we just got cut out of our friend group for very similar situation, except the asshole won. He almost cheated on his then fiance, he did screw over his “best friend” my husband, and when he learned my husband had told me about the emotional affair, he manipulated us and everyone, campaigned against us and eventually got us disliked and dropped by everyone. It really sucked, these were lifelong friends. My only hope is that they eventually all see who he is. I doubt it, as it’s been a year and a half, and his now wife just had a baby. I feel the worst for her in the situation.
- Comment on Can't wait. 2 weeks ago:
Lol I did get it immediately after, but my instant thought was wait, read and lead don’t rhyme?
- Comment on How men are different than women 3 weeks ago:
It’s so weird I don’t think of my spouse and kids as bull shit, but I guess you and 20 of your peers here do.
- Comment on Anon watches redditors talk about bodycount 4 weeks ago:
Yeah I mean you pay money and take a little course to become a notary and you have to reup every year (or three years? I can’t remember). The point is you take on legal liability. A notary cannot claim, “i didn’t realize, I didn’t know, I didn’t double check.” Most of the money you pay is in liability insurance in case you screw up. Because if a notary stamps their name to something false, they bear the legal liability which is enough for a notary to not take the risk of flippantly stamping things that are untrue.
You can also legally marry people.
There are also legal limits to how much you can charge (like 10 bucks and document or something. It’s not much). Since each stamp doesn’t earn much, but the liability could cost you a lot, it keeps notaries pretty honest. It’s a decent system.
Mostly only nerds are notaries anyway, so the promising and putting your name to something does some of the heavy lifting by itself
- Comment on Amazon started hiding ratings for some products 1 month ago:
I try to review everything positive or negative because I rely on reviews. I’ve been banned from reviewing, and I pay for prime. Wtf. They say I’ve done suspicious activity or violated review terms, but won’t let me see previous reviews, and won’t let me appeal. Bull crap.
The only thing I can think i did is, do you know you’re not allowed to include in the review anything about shipping or packaging? You’re only allowed to review the product itself. So if you let others know your item came broken due to poor packaging, that’s a violation of terms. I don’t even remember doing that, but it’s the only rule I can imagine myself breaking!
- Comment on She only wanted the ring bros 1 month ago:
This is a crazy take. My toddler is absolutely more work than any other job I’ve ever worked and I’ve done office work, physical labor, heck even childcare! If you give two shits about your kid, and follow modern childcare standards, childcare is a very taxing job. If you’re a crappy parent who just lets the kid eat fruit snacks and watch TV maybe it’s easier than whatever job the other parent has, but my husband works blue collar and we both agree that often my job is more taxing. He absolutely picks up 50% or more of the work when he comes home, and on weekends. When he burns out he gets a break, and when I burn out I get a break. We’re actually a team.
I want sex more than he does because I’m well taken care of, and he’s equally exhausted from helping. Literally cannot imagine saying no thanks if sex is on the table cause also, when a man is generous and equitable with his labor in life, that also spills over to how generous and equitable he is in bed.
- Comment on She only wanted the ring bros 1 month ago:
The number one way (more effective than medication) to increase a woman’s libido is an extra hour of sleep. It’s truly no wonder that getting negative hours of sleep for a literal year at least kills libido.
I’m pregnant and the insomnia is killing me. 4 or 5 hours a night, usually. And the poor sleep will only continue when the child is born. Everyone’s talking about how men need to help more with chores and all that’s true and good that you need division of labor, but even if you’re good at division, the sleep loss with children is inevitable.
- Comment on Same Shafeeq, same. 2 months ago:
I don’t think it’s intuitive that fruit comes from flowers. I think that’s something you have to observe or learn, otherwise you’d think fruit and flowers are separate things
- Comment on type shit 2 months ago:
Literally no thoughtful or reasonable sexual partner is going to say they prefer the type of penis it’s impossible for you to have, so that data is wildly biased.
I’m a woman and I’ve been with both. I don’t really care either way (and I feel confident most women who have actually been with both don’t really care) but my best lasting lover by far was uncut. I will not circumcise any sons I have.
- Comment on Confirms to Marxist theories regarding the proletariat. 2 months ago:
My thought as well. Humanizing yourself makes me think about the situation you’re in to be driving door dash and the situation I’m in to be ordering it. I ran into my diaper wipes deliverer yesterday and though should I tip? For delivery from a website, something i don’t tip for. But I made contact with the driver and I was grateful for their service in delivery. I think it’s human nature to be easier to tip light if you can forget a human person was involved
- Comment on Northern Ireland becomes first part of the UK to offer paid miscarriage leave 2 months ago:
This is great! Even at 8 weeks there’s a lot to pass, and it’s painful for days.
At 12 weeks, you can be quite overcome with grief, it’s painful, and you’re in a diaper for days while you pass clots the size of golf balls. You need a heating pad and comfort food, not to sit in your office chair and pretend nothing is happening while you grieve the loss of the future for which you had planned and sacrificed.
- Comment on What did people think dinosaur bones were before we officially recognised dinosaurs? 2 months ago:
My grandfather did (does?). There are a whole lot of people who believe the earth is only a few thousand years old. I have no further details cause you couldn’t pay me to broach the subject with him.
- Comment on How do wealthy people know if the people they meet are wealthy or not? 2 months ago:
Maybe old people just look like that? I went to a rich kid college and they were certainly more attractive on average. Everyone’s teeth were white and straight, people’s skin and hair were beautifully maintained, clothing (including sweats) were well fitting and flattering. Glasses were flattering. No one was making due with anything, they just had whatever they needed.
- Comment on Sitting in traffic 2 months ago:
My husband is blue collar. He goes where things need to be fixed. Sometimes his commute is 15 minutes, but it’s often 2 hours, when you factor in distance and traffic. A lot of blue collar deals with this, and yeah. We choose that shit over being homeless. His tech field laid him and everyone else off a few years ago.
- Comment on Anon misses flash 3 months ago:
Yeah, I love the clones, it’s like bonus levels
- Comment on Anon reads Into the Wild 3 months ago:
And I think also shared what food he had. Yeah, the kid was under prepared for sure, but apparently he had studied the food sources and terrain somewhat. He got unlucky. Not being prepared for unlucky is very very dumb. But most people I hear mad about this think he was zero prepared
- Comment on Pornography depicting sexual relationships between step-relatives set to be banned 3 months ago:
Idk what the ulterior motive is, but if your goal is to protect children this is like the third or fourth least damaging porn of all. Like ban all other fetishes first
- Comment on Anon reads Into the Wild 3 months ago:
Yeah, I read that hypothetically consuming the plant (which resembled a nontoxic look alike) could have made it so he was too weak to scavenge what he needed to survive. He could have survived otherwise. He was certainly gambling with his life being out there alone, but I read the claims of him being totally unprepared were exaggerated.
- Comment on 4 months ago:
Women are able to perpetuate misogyny. Your comment seems like you think misogyny can only happen to a women from a man. Not sure of your actual intent, but it comes off that way.
- Comment on Is there a science educator who shows in a video how they hand wash dishes? 5 months ago:
The Costco pods are like magic and they’re so cheap. They changed my life (literally, I save many minutes every day and my mental health is better. I hate dirty dishes so much. I don’t even rinse before loading my dishwasher now. )
- Comment on Mom with the real questions 5 months ago:
There’s always money in the banana stand
- Comment on The way my fuck-ass pharmacist makes up the remaining pills in my bastarding prescription 5 months ago:
Why doesn’t the customer just take the couple of minutes at the beginning of the month to dispense the blister packs into a daily pill box organizer?
Or just take a pair of scissors and round off the edges?
Just saying the problem is as easily or more easily solved by the customer as it is by the tech.
Certainly no medication should just be thrown out because the packaging is inconvenient. Making the techs take more time just means making the meds more expensive than they already are.
Obviously the real answer is to overhaul the whole system, but we live under an oligarchy here. Individual people have no power past barely the local level.
- Comment on How about the digestive system? 5 months ago:
Plus a hole for peeing i hope
- Comment on Why isn’t "Democrats would never get away with this" seen as a problem for the left?” 5 months ago:
Most people are not cheaters. They’re saying most or all politicians on the national level are cheaters. Seems like everyone but Bernie and AOC. idk how cheater-y Romney was.
I think carter was actually honest. That’s why the right hates him so much.
- Comment on why the heck do cockroaches fly 5 months ago:
My science teacher in high school told me all the kinds can fly, it’s just a matter of age. So maybe that’s why it’s only the big ones? Idk i don’t see the little ones flying either but apparently the little ones are the absolute worst to have around
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 5 months ago:
15 bucks is like double minimum wage in most places. But yeah, I’d love $750 rent, but he obviously lives in the middle of nowhere