ChexMax
@ChexMax@lemmy.world
- Comment on 4 days ago:
If you can’t taste the flavor of mayonnaise you might be the one with the unsophisticated palate. You’re welcome to say you don’t like it, or that it doesn’t have a good or intense enough flavor, but not being able to discern its flavor at all is a you thing.
- Comment on what's a good answer to placate the c-suite if you're accused of lacking motivation and being unfriendly? 3 weeks ago:
Maybe, but you could say I really wanted a job with these hours, so I looked around. I’ve always taken pride in my cleanliness and to be honest, I’m a bit fastidious, so this job seemed like the perfect fit for me.
Just find something about it to make it seem like you want this job over another job
- Comment on Is there a drink with taste of energy drink without caffeine? 4 weeks ago:
Maybe try aspartame instead of sugar?
- Comment on Anon is exploited 5 weeks ago:
I hear you, And heck even pull out is pretty effective. Mix that with one actual contraceptive and you’re basically golden. Unintended pregnancies aren’t that hard to avoid.
I still think your comment sucks. Basically implies poor people don’t deserve to have children, and the literal driving force of our species should be reserved as a luxury for people who can afford to have one adult not work.
- Comment on Anon is exploited 5 weeks ago:
The hours taking care of children thing seems very small to me as well, but there was a lot less to raising kids back then.
Parents weren’t expected to participate in educational or self-esteem raising play specifically for their kids. Sure, playing blocks with my daughter is better than scrubbing on a washboard, But it’s not something I would pick to do without her. Parents are spending way more time with their kids than they were in the '70s, so I can’t imagine how much of what we would consider neglect today was happening in 1900. It’s still a chore. This is about time, not difficulty. I’m not arguing that things aren’t better now. I’m just arguing that we don’t have a lot more time.And I don’t know if you manage your household, but scrolling on Amazon for the thing you need sucks. I don’t like doing it, and it absolutely counts as a chore. I wish it was someone else’s job. I’m not saying it’s hard, but it is not leisure. Emptying and filling the dishwasher are both very easy tasks, but they’re not leisure. Our chores are way easier, but they still occupy a crazy amount of time considering how little time we have. Part of that is because our houses are bigger which is definitely nicer, but part of why our houses are bigger is because our communities are smaller/ non-existent.
It’s all trade-offs, but frankly I’m pretty sick of the argument that because things are better than they were in the past. We should all just be happy and satisfied with things that are crappy.
- Comment on Anon is exploited 5 weeks ago:
Yes! If society wants any firefighters, teachers, doctors, artists, whatever 30-50 years from now, parents and children of today need better community support, mental health resources, and better free education
- Comment on Anon is exploited 5 weeks ago:
A lot harder to agree with this statement when the abortion laws have regressed so much so recently.
- Comment on Anon is exploited 5 weeks ago:
Oddly, though the work type has changed, there’s only about 5 hours less a week of housework than there was in 1900. Heck that’s less then 45 minutes a day difference, even with everything you mentioned.
I agree the work is far less physically demanding, but modern standards dictate about the same amount of time burden, the difference lies mainly in that men have picked up 13 more of those hours a week, and that it’s more rare for only one adult to work outside the home.
- Comment on Anon is exploited 5 weeks ago:
I think it’s more likely that people saw their parents or grandparents living on a single income, so between two people there was a lot more “free” time. When one adult is managing the home, and the other is making money, both get to be more off duty after work. The grocery shopping, meal prepping, social calendar finagling, and cleaning were happening simultaneously with the money making job.
Managing a household is a whole ass job and a lot of people are expected to do it on top of their day job and that’s why we feel like we have no time. I don’t think we’re comparing ourselves to celebrities, just our own family members.
- Comment on Anon is exploited 5 weeks ago:
I think they mean it’s a cop out for people to say “parents need to parent” as a solution. The solution is “society needs to provide more support to parents.” Parenting your kids was a lot more possible when one income covered the fiscal needs of the household.
- Comment on Why is the human body so incredibly bad at responding to colds? 1 month ago:
Thank you for sharing this! A good read.
- Comment on Day 365 of posting a Daily Screenshot from the games I've been playing (One Year Anniversary!) 3 months ago:
Wahoo! You’re a Lemmy institution!
- Comment on Baby dies after California mom leaves him in car to get lip filler on 101-degree day, police say 3 months ago:
parents out there … clue me in, but isn’t this the pinnacle of irresponsibility, even on a cool day?
What she did is reprehensible, irresponsible, disgusting. That said, letting your baby finish their nap in a climate controlled car used to be very common. You could park down your driveway, leave the car on, bring in your groceries (and even put them away), and then get the baby out, but now able to give him your full attention. It’s not acceptable to do that today. I have spent so many many hours in my driveway letting my baby finish their nap. Apparently if you remove the car seat from the base the angle is more dangerous for them to rest at, but unbuckling her means the end of a nap. I have wished it was safe to leave her in there alone every time and if I was a slightly less informed mother, I probably would. I would say if the car is climate controlled it’s probably the same amount or less dangerous than co sleeping and like half of parents do that (I do not). Parents make a lot of choices.
- Comment on Genius 3 months ago:
Yeah and that doesn’t count the time listing the fake jobs, or scheduling the interviews
- Comment on >:( 3 months ago:
Yeah! I’m barely able to get mad about this with no information!
- Comment on A Polish jalapeño pastry 3 months ago:
Yeah, I also was like dang, I didn’t know wasps were attracted to jalapenos, that is interesting! Some days I am dumb
- Comment on What are ways to independently make a few bucks on the side? 3 months ago:
I think people underestimate how much hustling selling pictures online involves. Finding the sect of your audience who is actually willing to pay, beating your competition while trying to respect the market (in certain communities there are price floors to keep it stable), then attracting your customers without revealing your identity or identifiable backgrounds, while competing with other sellers who don’t care about privacy, then the actual content creation, and after all of that customers really like personal touches, and some conversation. Then if you say or reveal anything that messes with their fantasy, you lose them. Even if you’re a hottie, it’s not easy money. Easier to just get a regular ol job.
- Comment on Why do some people hate drinking water? 4 months ago:
Har har har. I’ve been to different states in the US
- Comment on Why do some people hate drinking water? 4 months ago:
It’s happened for years over many different houses and locations, even different states. That was a good and thoughtful response though, thank you!
- Comment on Why do some people hate drinking water? 4 months ago:
I love water, easily my most preferred beverage; I’ll choose water even if my meal comes with a drink. But it makes me sick in the middle of the night or in the morning. I don’t get it. It makes me nauseous. If I cut the water with juice or I drink coffee it’s fine. If I wait until like 11:40 am, it’s fine. But if I wake up parched at 4 am and I chug water like I want to, I’ll feel sick. If I drink half a glass before breakfast? Sick. OJ? Fine any time. Coffee, apple juice, 2/3 apple juice with 1/3 water? All fine. What’s wrong with me?
- Comment on Strawberries are nuts 🍓 4 months ago:
Is this why strawberries are common allergens? Like so much more common than other fruits?
- Comment on Anon discovers cigarettes 5 months ago:
I am so so sorry, but over 30 years already includes half the nineties.
That said, smoking still looks cool, even now, it just smells so bad it’s not worth it
- Comment on Let's play this game again 5 months ago:
You don’t get to decide the destination of your teleportation
- Comment on Does the average person know markdown? 5 months ago:
Yeah, I’m a normie, I’m tech literate adjacent-adjacent, by which I mean I’m here on lemmy rather than Facebook, but no. Me and my peers are not pressing ctrl anything. I don’t even know what gui means. Something user interface? I’m not proud to be this dumb, but I’m pretty sure most “regular” people are in this boat with me. I was the third most tech literate person in my entire office last year with a bunch of millennials simply because I was willing to Google things.
- Comment on Iceland approved the 4-day workweek in 2019: nearly 6 years later, all the predictions made have come true. 5 months ago:
Yes, when I was lucky enough that I could survive on part time income, my four day work week was glorious. I used Mondays to just rest. I could actually enjoy my weekends AND be productive because I wasn’t trying to also rest in prep for the coming week.
- Comment on What are some good examples of "Where the fuck do you go" kind of games? 5 months ago:
I spent so long on the 3DS in ocarina of time just running all over the entire map not sure how to progress, I eventually gave up. Those stupid boulders are supposed to give you tips but idk I just couldn’t figure it out back then.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 6 months ago:
If you decide to date again, you should consider dating liberal women. The only women I have known who are like you describe are conservative(and I have met one or two who expect the princess treatment and then don’t deliver on the prince treatment!). I know conservative men who expect traditional roles, and I know conservative men who expect to split the bills and say they’ll split the housework but then the woman ends up doing all the housework anyway. The women in that situation end up feeling like you: if I’m doing the housework AND working, this is easier on my own!
In my liberal circles things seem to be a bit more evenly split, and both partners are often more independent.
It seems like you’re happy on your own though, so you’re doing the right thing by removing yourself from the dating pool! Maybe you’ll find someone independent who will be a good match naturally, but I can’t imagine a woman would want to work and split the housework with someone who has your attitude (“most women are bad and not worth having around”) so you might need to change that if you do decide to get back into dating. I can’t connect on what you mean on sex not being the best thing in the world and the literal purpose of life, but I do know my husband felt like you on that front before he met me. He thought people were just exaggerating on how good it is. Maybe, like him, you just haven’t met the right match there either? It’s not like I’m even that good in bed, if anything I’m a bit of a selfish lover. It’s just that we’re a good fit together. Good luck, man. I hope you find the right fit and realize men and women are equally selfish and equally selfless.
- Comment on What are some old games that are hard to revisit, because a more modern and superior version exists? 7 months ago:
I was going to comment harvest moon after reading the title!
A lot of the older games for me. They’re just a lot harder. Like maybe they expect you to be willing to replay an area or a level over and over, getting a little farther each time until you beat it and I just don’t have the stamina for that anymore, or the time.
Newer games baby you, they increase the difficultly perfectly along side your ability growth. They might even make a level easier if you’ve failed twice. Older games don’t care if you’re having fun as much. There was less competition (fewer game choices) and more of a “gamers like this. If you don’t like it, you’re not a gamer” attitude, and now games want to attract everyone.
I have become such a baby about games. I want to have fun the whole time! I can’t handle failing over and over. I’d rather just read a book.
- Comment on Is this green or blue? 7 months ago:
Blue
- Comment on Anon investigates a random goth girl 8 months ago:
Right, but aren’t those girls in it for the attention? The thrill? Sounds like she’s not getting any attention, either.