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Submitted ⁨⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨slothrop@lemmy.ca⁩ to ⁨memes@sopuli.xyz⁩

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  • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I wish this was my experience. I’ve seen that women look after each other a lot better generally.

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    • Deceptichum@quokk.au ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      That’s been my experience too. Men are very standoffish or happy to be alone, women see another woman alone and want to adopt them like a stray kitten.

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      • Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        You guys need a dog catcher in your group. This is one of those archetypes that gets over looked because it feels like something that’s part of several other archetypes, but it really makes a difference to have it stand alone.

        It’s in the name, he catches strays. This is the guy that pulls groups together from separate circles, introduces new guys to the group, or occasionally plays match maker. He’s probably running your Discord server or keeps putting you in group chats, he’s the one that does the logistics planning when it comes to more complicated outings Lee week long trips and bachelor parties. In public outings he probably makes friends with staff or other queue waiters. He’s probably the guy that stages interventions but out of genuine care.

        There are others that can fill the role, golden retriever boys are good at the finding people but too dumb to coordinate. Fearless leaders can attract crowds but normally don’t have the personal touch to keep anyone new long term. Sheep dogs are great at keeping new boys in the group but they don’t invite new people. More often than not, the dog catcher will be playing another role in the group because their current services aren’t being utilized so he’s either not invested in it or your group is one of his secondary groups. If you’re scrolling through your contacts trying to figure out who I’m taking about, if you’re the forever DM, or if your boys keep saying “whatever happened to X” and you’re the guy that reminds them, you’re probably the dog catcher.

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    • SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      As a trans girl, I can confidently say that I have a much easier time hanging out with girls I just met than I ever had hanging out with guys I just met. Although both do happen and aren’t too uncommon.

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      • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        It’s cool to have intrepid folks who have crossed that threshold, and can confirm firsthand for us that boys are just not that well socialised. We need to be raising boys to be much kinder and more thoughtful.

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      • apotheotic@beehaw.org ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Trans girl here sharing the same sentiment

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    • aeiou@piefed.social ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I think it depends on age, from what I’d seen older men seem to have a harder time meeting new friends than women

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      • LordMayor@piefed.social ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I wonder if it’s just a pack mammal thing. Like the way young male lions hang out in groups but the older ones are solitary especially if they have a pride.

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    • SupraMario@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Even social hobbies you have issues at?

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      • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I don’t have any social hobbies at the minute. It is not ideal

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  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Where’s my Xbox? Oh, the junky Jeff brought over last night stole it.

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    • TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      True story?

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  • CancerMancer@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    One time ~15 years ago a guy showed up to a party as his gf’s +1. She and my girlfriend got into a fight and he and I just wandered off and played some games.

    We’re still friends and they’re long gone. This is how guys meet lol

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  • M137@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I gotta say this isn’t my experience at all. It’s any gender being any kind of welcoming to new people. That includes me in all positions (being the “haven’t known him for long enough” and “we found him along the way”, and also being the one who does both of those things). If anything my experience has been that women have been more welcoming to new people, of course within reason and depending on the situation. But it’s not at all heavily towards one side or the other, people are people and situational logic plays a larger part than anything else.

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  • CalloftheDirtyWhiteBoy@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    No bro has ever took me off the streets to chill I must have fucked vibes

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  • ayyy@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Haha gender discrimination

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  • papalonian@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I went on a canyon drive one time. We started with 7 cars, when we got to the end of our route, we had 8. Hopped right out of his car and stood around in the circle with the rest of us, didn’t even register for a second that it was just some random guy. He thought it looked fun so he kept up with us. Cool dude.

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    • DagwoodIII@piefed.social ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      We were once in a small park playing frisbee. UPS driver comes over and joins us for a while.

      Cool guy. He said he was going to start carrying a frisbee in his truck

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      • 0ops@piefed.zip ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I always keep one under the seat in case of emergencies

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      • fascicle@leminal.space ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        That happened to us one time with paintball. We got to this creek where we played and this dude was just there, he said his friends flaked so he just played with us

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  • nightlily@leminal.space ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Oh I see lemmy is not better than reddit with this boomer-style humour. Tell us one about how women and Asians drive next.

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  • dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Once met a dude in Walmart who had a cat with him. Talked in Walmart, and now he’s one of my best friends.

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    • BanMe@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      It’s neat how one little weird thing turns people from strangers to friends.

      Like you can be walking down the street and pass someone and neither of you even nod, but if you each notice an old lady doing naked cartwheels, 80% chance you’re having coffee together soon.

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      • dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I’ve found that crisis does it, too. I him (cat friend, we’ll call him lol) while in a city a few hours from home, because my mom was helicoptered there for emergency surgery, and was in ICU for over a month. It was a horrible, terrible time, and the state I was in when I met cat friend definitely contributed to the friendship. He didn’t know me from Adam, but he was there for me when I needed someone

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  • aeronmelon@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    “He let me use his lighter, he’s cool.”

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    • Saapas@piefed.zip ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Hah, I’ve been there. Someone needed to borrow a lighter and just invited me to hang out with his friends. Felt weird at first but everyone was really cool

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    • tourist@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      “fucker stole my lighter”

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      • blanketswithsmallpox@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        We had 4 lighters! Who has all the damn lighters!?

        Cue whoever has the 2x oversized hoodie emptying their hoodie pocket of like 8 lighters: Sorry! I just forget!

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  • Fizz@lemmy.nz ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I had a friend who would do this every time I’d go out. I remember him finding a guy who had a pet goat it was pretty sick.

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  • SillyDude@lemmy.zip ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I was driving up a mountain in my jeep and passed another SUV. They were driving real slow after we passed each other. I stopped, reversed, and asked “you guys smoke weed”. We then took bong rips on the side of the trail for like a hour.

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    • explodicle@sh.itjust.works ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      One of my favorite switcheroos:

      [Other person at train station]: Hey do you have a cigarette?

      Me: Nope but I’ve got these weed edibles

      I like to think I’m brightening their journey and providing healthy options. If they get the cigarette from someone else, then they’ll at least get a nice 1-2 combo.

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  • electric_nan@lemmy.ml ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    “And he already told me he’s not a cop.”

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    • hakunawazo@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Are you a cop? - No.

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  • driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    They’re being friends for a year but don’t know their names

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    • Gerudo@lemmy.zip ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      My wife is like this with my newer friends. Where did they grow up? What music do they like? What’s their partner like?

      Lady, calm down, I’ve only known them for a few years now lol. She can meet someone and recite their whole backstory after the 2nd meet-up.

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  • SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    LOL I’ve literally done this

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    • Flames5123@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Same! I think the Seattle Freeze is mostly dead because of all the transplants. (I have a “Seattle” tag for any lemmy user that talks about Seattle, and your name is obvious).

      I met my neighbor a few weeks ago because there was some crazy doing donuts in the grass of a park with tons of cops around. We got a beer later that week even though we have nothing in common, but were able to just hang and chat about whatever.

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      • SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I think the Seattle Freeze is just yuppies being busy. It’s no different from any other city.

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  • LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Lol, All this proves to me is another of the many reasons women live longer. Before you get your knickers in a knot, laugh, then go back to climbing on the bins to reach the roof. We’ll chat later.

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  • CannonFodder@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    * we have only known

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