tomenzgg
@tomenzgg@midwest.social
- Comment on It's still a crust, mom 3 days ago:
Haha; as someone who went to school in Massachusetts (twice), I can’t protest.
Honestly, – looking back – being so close to Vermont and not taking advantage of the food there more was downright criminal of my past self…
- Comment on It's still a crust, mom 4 days ago:
To be fair, that’s because it never was cheese to begin with: American (as in the type) “cheese” has always been a means of repurposing leftover cheese (and using supplementary ingredients like milk and milk protein and emulsifiers to bind things together). It legally can’t be called cheese because it’s always been a “cheese product”, not cheese. That doesn’t (inherently) mean it’s any less real food, though (which I feel is what most people hear when they hear, “It can’t legally be called cheese”).
Also, (as a cheese lover) yes: it does taste like ass and is repulsive. Entirely agreed.
- Comment on Is it? 4 days ago:
As someone who can no longer eat gluten, yes.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 5 days ago:
Mmm, I get what you mean. So often, I find myself in conversations (not ours but in general) that have certain presumptions that have been addressed by movements such as these that I feel like there’s this gap in knowledge that shouldn’t really exist but…
I think your point’s a fair argument, though; I’d certainly prefer that, at the very least.
- Comment on Birds of peace 5 days ago:
The strength with which I was rooting for that pigeon; but I already knew, the moment I started the video.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 6 days ago:
You may have come across it already but Hardcoded may be in the realm you’re thinking? store.steampowered.com/app/2693710/HARDCODED/
It’s still in development but they’ve done a ton of work on it too, already, be pretty flashed out game and its development hasn’t slowed any over the years.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 6 days ago:
We are more comfortable with porn than ever
Are we? No-Nut November has only recently dipped in the general consciousness and goon is currently tending as a pejorative. I think we’re comfortable with pushing the boundaries and with nodding and winking towards it but outright normalization has a fierce backlash.
But part of what the sex. lib. movement was about was both normalization and healthy interaction with sex, not just sexual content being prevalent. There’s plenty of unhealthy ideas and performances that the mainstream porn industry perpetuates, much of it relying on satisfying a normative and patriarchal outlook; feminist porn, for example, was/is a much more sex. lib. approach to porn (from giving women more active participation in the sex portrayed (rather than just the receptive of it) to also having the performers express their emotions more (even if minimally) and how the sex they were having made them feel).
These goals are much more in line with the emotional experience OP was describing, where it’s not just sexual content but a more healthy engagement with that sexual content as well, such as experiencing emotions and attachment. That’s part of why OP’s descriptions reminded me of it.
Mainstream porn, driven by capitalism (which isn’t to say all of us aren’t in some degree, even indie creators; sadly, that’s just the reality, right now), doesn’t care about these things.
And sex. lib. has a distinct history and activism, much of intertwined with gay liberation and…I think most people don’t know that or, like, the battles that were fought for information about safe sex, etc. I mean, it’s not unique (most people aren’t aware about disability history, for example, or events like the Capital Crawl) but it’s still deeply unfortunate.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 6 days ago:
Not directly to your point but your overall experience just reminds me: we really lose something when the sexual liberation movement were largely erased. People so often dismiss it because we’re conditioned to dismiss taking sex seriously (outside of a very narrow and specific context) but there’s a lot we lose from that.
- Comment on when ur higher than sagan 1 week ago:
Not homeopathy but I once saw a video where someone tried to use quantum physics to justify manifesting. Grifters gonna grift.
- Comment on human geography 1 week ago:
Michigander?
- Comment on human geography 1 week ago:
I mean, that’s better than my “All Hollows Eve Eve”, by far.
- Comment on This ancient tribe was able to master the technique 2 weeks ago:
If you work on your flexibility (slowly and carefully), it can be easier. But okay of it will always depend on the dimensions the person is born with.
- Comment on Actors that have been the least believable scientist castings, I’ll start. 2 weeks ago:
I dunno; I thought he was pretty convincing. I mean, the man had a Bat Card and everything.
- Comment on GOG’s Freedom To Buy Campaign Gives Away Controversial Games For Free To Protest Censorship 4 weeks ago:
Yeah; that’s totally fair.
- Comment on GOG’s Freedom To Buy Campaign Gives Away Controversial Games For Free To Protest Censorship 4 weeks ago:
Keep in mind it’s the same company that tweeted a dog whistle to Gamer gate and had a few insensitive transphobic faux pas: polygon.com/…/gog-twitter-wontbeerased-hashtag/.
I could believe the latter ones were potentially accidental but I don’t know how tweeting the exact starting date of Gamer gate with the phrase “R.I.P games journalism” can be anything but intentional.
- Comment on I ain't got no time to maintain some stupid little plastic bread clip. I got a landlord to feed. 4 weeks ago:
Is…is that not what everyone’s doing‽
- Comment on Saw this on r*ddit, had to share with my people 4 weeks ago:
I mean…under the right director, she could pull it off. Wooden acting is perfect for an emotionally stunted character; I’d boycott the film but I could see it working.
- Comment on nobody in webdev knows what graceful degradation is anymore 5 weeks ago:
It’s not the bulk of your point (of which I agree with) but your mention of the back button reminded me how much I despise – sometimes above everything else – how much these sites override basic functionality of the browser, overriding inbuilt history navigation, screwing up Ctrl click behaviors, stealing my right-click menu or default key bindings.
There’s a lot of reasons one might not want to use TikTok but the reason that stops me before even having to consider other reasons (but I can’t really explain to most people) is that it’s a site designed without any really respect or regard for the user.
Alt+d doesn’t work and Ctrl+l pops up some modal about logging in. I can’t open any of the recommended videos in a new tab because they clearly must’ve just done them as
onclicks and not real anchor tags so right clicking doesn’t give me the option and neither does Ctrl clicking (which – also – that’s…got to be an accessibility violation, right?). And more than half the time the full page doesn’t even load because it’s such a strangle of resources that it needs me to click a button on the page because it wasn’t able to load the videos listing of an account in time.The whole thing is just a nightmare in terms of design and primarily not even in terms of inefficiency but direct hostility to UX. Absolute garbage.
- Comment on what timeline is this 1 month ago:
what timeline is this
A bad one.
- Comment on fafo 1 month ago:
When you drive a car, you don’t suddenly feel like you have wheels.
Not the kinda cars I drive, man.
- Comment on Thanks I hate it 1 month ago:
We have some peaches and I’ve been putting them in some grilled cheeses I’ve been making with maple-leaf–smoked Gouda I also got this week and it’s been pretty incredible.
- Comment on USA 🇺🇸 USA 🇺🇸 USA 1 month ago:
had wheels a bicycle
I suspect that your qualifications for what constitutes a bicycle is a tad short…
- Comment on Perfect Anatomy 1 month ago:
- Comment on I am gorge 1 month ago:
Damn it, I was just about to post it!
So good.
- Comment on It is what it is 2 months ago:
Maybe I read it wrong but (to me) the meme makes it sound like Google’s taking the local data (that’s supposed to be forgotten, once you close the browser window) and sending it over to Google for them to, I dunno, run analysis on.
If they’re saying that Google sites (like YouTube, Google search, etc.) were collecting data when I visit them (as, unfortunately, sites do), then I’d say, “Well, duh;” but this makes it seem like they were exporting your local data off to their cloud which, like, they could obviously, technically do but wouldn’t very much be in the spirit of how Incognito mode was portrayed.
- Comment on Anon ups his fibre intake 2 months ago:
🫂
- Comment on Why do some people hate drinking water? 2 months ago:
I expect it’s just a taste thing; water tastes fine but, like, it could taste more interesting if we added a bit of sugar or flavor to it (I was a huge justice fan).
For my own end, it was an easy way to keep my emotions/mood simulated or engaged against my depression that was low effort and easy to supply; that said, I switched entirely to water last year and, now fully comfortable drinking nothing but water and being fairly averse – previously –, I can’t say the previous reasons really make that much of a difference for me, now. Maybe it’s just having drank to my non-water content, already, but drinking nothing but water’s been pretty great and removes low-key health fears I always had.
- Comment on Anon considers LASIK 2 months ago:
Totally fair; thanks for just mentioning them. First I’ve heard of them, even.
- Comment on Anon considers LASIK 2 months ago:
Huh; are they more a commercial product or generally covered by eye insurance?
- Comment on Anon visits a guy's house 2 months ago:
I don’t have it on have but some theorize it’s to recreate the endorphin rush they get when you play with them and it’s momentarily out of sight. Having to find it is part of the fun; of course, they’re unable to find it, now…
Dunno how universally that’s held but I did read it, one time.
