tomenzgg
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- Comment on Ok, boomer 16 hours ago:
Unc’s a term that’s been in use since at least the 90s (but maybe older; I’m not a historian or was alive then); it can sometimes be used disparagingly though, generally, it’s usually an sort of familiar way to refer to someone that’s older. Kind of similar in the way “cuz” doesn’t literally refer to someone who’s your cousin but someone you’re familiar with, who’s like family in the same way a cousin might be (you didn’t grow up with them, didn’t see them all the time, but you’re familiar with them).
So it’s not hard to see how this new definition came about but it is, still, sort of just plucking the word and modifying it to a very different context (the disparaging form was definitely not the predominant form). While this is a phenomenon that is far from new, it’s felt particularly manufactured in the last decade and a half or so (probably due to the ease with which things can become viral in our current Hellscape-form of Internet); a lot of the “slang” that’s hit mainstream awareness has felt almost more like buzzwords than actual slang or even natural language in the way it’s been used. That’s not directly relevant to your question but just something I’ve been thinking about.
Also, thanks for asking, rather than downvoting; it’s (obviously) not everything but there’s a non-negligible segment of Lemmy that just seems to have an emotional tantrum every time race comes up.
- Comment on Ok, boomer 1 day ago:
Notably, – yet again – it’s also cribbing/misusing black slang/terminology; disappointing…
- Comment on Is it really worth the BS for a couple more years? 3 days ago:
How’d grampa die?
BASEd.
- Comment on Why are people using the "þ" character? 3 days ago:
No but it is very neurodivergent to singularly pursue a special interest without any regard for social awareness.
And very neurotypical to label that person as annoying or just doing it for attention.
- Comment on Great Depression: Part Deux 4 days ago:
Cutting up pickles with boxed Mac. and Cheese was one of my favorite go-tos, in grad. school. If not pickles then I used to put canned tuna in; also quite good.
- Comment on Banana 5 days ago:
You can order them from Hawaii (or maybe you have to physically be there).
It’s just no longer worth mass producing and shipping any more due to the potential to lose your entire crop.
- Comment on Banana 5 days ago:
That last one is just something that could’ve realistically existed.
…and would continue to exist, unaltered, well up until the 70s when, finally, it was modified due to growing public awareness; and only because of that.
- Comment on grocery shopping 5 days ago:
This; as much as I have no moral qualms about the practice, there’s massive risk that’s not always obvious to see.
- Comment on Just an FYI 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on Cuddly gerbils 2 weeks ago:
Pair-bonded? This is just what we in the field of Gender Studies call homosocial.
Just in Case
/s
- Comment on Anon is a movie critic 2 weeks ago:
Ahhh; now that you point it out, I see it.
- Comment on Anon is a movie critic 2 weeks ago:
I assume you meant “himself” but I am amused by the idea that Tom Cruise’s character nearly kills a single member of the viewing audience, in real life, as part of the movie’s climax for unexplained reasons.
- Comment on wax on 2 weeks ago:
Almost definitely; I don’t know if there’s a degree that’s necessary to qualify as I can still look at it without breaking eye contact (though I hate it). But I have a deep desire to rip that shit up the entire time; deeply repulsive, whatever the reason. Honeycombs don’t bother me, though; I dunno.
- Comment on wax on 2 weeks ago:
Haha; I think the wool’s too fuzzy and not rigid enough to bother me. I’ve been trying to get more into the fiber arts in the last few years, too, so definitely not a problem that I’ve noticed.
- Comment on wax on 2 weeks ago:
Definitely the latter, for me; something about segmented holes just grosses the absolute Hell out of me.
- Comment on Memo to Bari Weiss Re: CBS News: You’re doomed 2 weeks ago:
There it is; I was looking for someone to point this out.
- Comment on Which one and why? 2 weeks ago:
You’re also going to keep cutting the sides of your mouth with #2 (maybe not at first but if it’s the only one you can use, forever?).
- Comment on Not to get all religiony but why in the old testament God was all fire and brimstone and fatal consequences? But the new testament God is all about forgiveness and such?? 4 weeks ago:
Loved that video until I looked at some of the creators other videos.
- Comment on dinner 5 weeks ago:
I guess I shouldn’t be surprised but that this isn’t considered always unceremoniously reminds me how much people assumed being abled is the default.
- Comment on Hmm this "unisex" bathroom seems biased... 1 month ago:
It really helps to explain all the folks who’re fans of sink peeing, when you think about it.
- Comment on Hmm this "unisex" bathroom seems biased... 1 month ago:
I dunno if you’d want to know (or maybe you know, already) but it only helps some with bacteria, not viruses: everydayhealth.com/…/should-you-flush-with-the-to….
- Comment on Anon doesn't enjoy anything 1 month ago:
That sounds like you may have a skewed perspective of what a human need constitutes; I wouldn’t expect that you spend 6 hours on the act of eating.
- Comment on It's still a crust, mom 1 month ago:
Haha; as someone who went to school in Massachusetts (twice), I can’t protest.
Honestly, – looking back – being so close to Vermont and not taking advantage of the food there more was downright criminal of my past self…
- Comment on It's still a crust, mom 1 month ago:
To be fair, that’s because it never was cheese to begin with: American (as in the type) “cheese” has always been a means of repurposing leftover cheese (and using supplementary ingredients like milk and milk protein and emulsifiers to bind things together). It legally can’t be called cheese because it’s always been a “cheese product”, not cheese. That doesn’t (inherently) mean it’s any less real food, though (which I feel is what most people hear when they hear, “It can’t legally be called cheese”).
Also, (as a cheese lover) yes: it does taste like ass and is repulsive. Entirely agreed.
- Comment on Is it? 1 month ago:
As someone who can no longer eat gluten, yes.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 1 month ago:
Mmm, I get what you mean. So often, I find myself in conversations (not ours but in general) that have certain presumptions that have been addressed by movements such as these that I feel like there’s this gap in knowledge that shouldn’t really exist but…
I think your point’s a fair argument, though; I’d certainly prefer that, at the very least.
- Comment on Birds of peace 1 month ago:
The strength with which I was rooting for that pigeon; but I already knew, the moment I started the video.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 2 months ago:
You may have come across it already but Hardcoded may be in the realm you’re thinking? store.steampowered.com/app/2693710/HARDCODED/
It’s still in development but they’ve done a ton of work on it too, already, be pretty flashed out game and its development hasn’t slowed any over the years.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 2 months ago:
We are more comfortable with porn than ever
Are we? No-Nut November has only recently dipped in the general consciousness and goon is currently tending as a pejorative. I think we’re comfortable with pushing the boundaries and with nodding and winking towards it but outright normalization has a fierce backlash.
But part of what the sex. lib. movement was about was both normalization and healthy interaction with sex, not just sexual content being prevalent. There’s plenty of unhealthy ideas and performances that the mainstream porn industry perpetuates, much of it relying on satisfying a normative and patriarchal outlook; feminist porn, for example, was/is a much more sex. lib. approach to porn (from giving women more active participation in the sex portrayed (rather than just the receptive of it) to also having the performers express their emotions more (even if minimally) and how the sex they were having made them feel).
These goals are much more in line with the emotional experience OP was describing, where it’s not just sexual content but a more healthy engagement with that sexual content as well, such as experiencing emotions and attachment. That’s part of why OP’s descriptions reminded me of it.
Mainstream porn, driven by capitalism (which isn’t to say all of us aren’t in some degree, even indie creators; sadly, that’s just the reality, right now), doesn’t care about these things.
And sex. lib. has a distinct history and activism, much of intertwined with gay liberation and…I think most people don’t know that or, like, the battles that were fought for information about safe sex, etc. I mean, it’s not unique (most people aren’t aware about disability history, for example, or events like the Capital Crawl) but it’s still deeply unfortunate.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 2 months ago:
Not directly to your point but your overall experience just reminds me: we really lose something when the sexual liberation movement were largely erased. People so often dismiss it because we’re conditioned to dismiss taking sex seriously (outside of a very narrow and specific context) but there’s a lot we lose from that.