Submitted 3 hours ago by bytesonbike@discuss.online to [deleted]
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Potluck style is the way to go. In addition to what the other posters have mentioned, you get better food that way too: people cook the dish they have the best recipe for. People who are shit cooks can host or clean or w/e.
Get the best everyone has to offer.
And also cooking for 20 persons is incredibly hard, the spices and seasoning got exponentially higher as portion size increases, and cook time is wildly different than cooking for 4 persons. People these day just doesn’t have the time to master these skill.
My aunt always hosted but we always brought something to share, usually something that was precooked or didn’t need cooking, like salad or dessert or even just cheese and crackers for an appetizer or something. She still made a ton of food but she didn’t have to do it all on her own, and we all drove a bit to get there; we were the furthest I think at about 2.5 hours away. It was my favorite holiday; just food and family. But I am aware that my family is pretty functional as families go. I am very lucky.
I do host thanksgiving for more than 20 usually, we do an all-comers meal, whoever wants to come to eat can. It’s fun and I enjoy it and yep everyone brings something but even so it is expensive for certain. Legitimately thankful that we can do this for everyone. But even when I was younger people coming to Thanksgiving brought something, is that not a usual expectation if you are going to a party? At least bring wine or ice or something.
A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
That, and I think a lot of families dont want to put 100% of the stress on one person.
MissJinx@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Yeah and also why can’t the uncle do something for a change? The aunt used to be at home all day now she has to.go.to work AND cook for everyone?