Just having a chill conversation with someone online.
They tell me that they’ve had their heart broken in the past and they’re very sensitive.
mfw I had no idea this was a date is this person completely bonkers
Anon puts himself out there
Submitted 3 weeks ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Mac@mander.xyz 3 weeks ago
that’s okay, I’ll be nice to you!
This you? 🧐
ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I would absolutely say something like that while freaking out - even though this is online and I’m not in any danger
Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Because men don’t have a strong enough social support system to have cathartic talks about their emotions. Because women aren’t willing to disproportionately shoulder emotional labor anymore.
The patriarchy hurts everyone. Normalize discussing mental health among men. Don’t let stigma stop you from telling your friends from how much they mean to you and how you’re here if they need to talk.
exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Don’t let stigma stop you
Fully recognizing that my initial reaction to the word “stigma” makes me part of the problem.
Ashen44@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
stigma love and compassion into this relationship lmao gottem
aceshigh@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Why is there always an assumption that women have support? Also, you really shouldn’t trauma dump on your friends either - they won’t be able to give you space and it may affect them emotionally. Go to a support group and share there.
LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
My (presumably) man, get better friends. If I can make a friend of mine feel better by listening to him, why wouldn’t I? I may not know what to say, but I would try my best. The saddest (on an inter-personal level, not as in “the world is going to shit”) thing I experienced recently was a friend of mine basically disappearing because of mental health issues. I think I understand why he did that, comparing yourself to others sucks, but I wish I could help him more than the occasional “hey, how are you doing?” when we randomly meet somewhere.
Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
There wasn’t. I never said every woman always has support. I only said that men struggle with vocalizing mental health needs among their friends.
If talking to your friends about trauma at the appropriate stage in your friendship is considered trauma dumping, I’m sorry to say that I’m afraid you don’t have close friends.
That, or you’re coddling and patronizing your friends for lacking the emotional maturity to handle deeper conversations.
True friendship comes from being comfortable with your vulnerabilities around your friends, and having each other’s backs. A support group isn’t a substitute because it’s premise is transactional in nature, where you are expected to talk about and listen to trauma without attachment.
Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The latest Modern Love episode is relevant
Where Did All My Male Friendships Go? nytimes.com/…/male-friendships-loneliness.html
It doesn’t overanalyze but covers one man’s experience that I found relatable
Pulptastic@midwest.social 2 weeks ago
Too much crazy too fast. You gotta sit on that shit for a while, and then let it out slowly.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
I got to “she has to go to bed” before I realised that this was all the same day.
Trauma dumping can be cathartic but perhaps maybe don’t do it within the first two hours of having met someone. Also don’t do it too much because your problems aren’t there problems.
SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
It’s definitely a third date or beyond activity. When I was single, I always asked third dates to compare their emotional baggage with me, but wouldn’t discuss it in depth until later. We all have it, so might as well bring it out.
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 2 weeks ago
I guess wait until the afternoon or something then?
gedhrel@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Unsolicited “good morning message” - is that what it’s called now?
j4k3@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Never have I ever met someone real-life online 🍻
Bonsoir@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
That’s because online people aren’t real. All paid actors and bots (sometimes both).
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
ActorTron 5000
PrimeMinisterKeyes@leminal.space 2 weeks ago
Those two worlds must not collide.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
Well that’s what 3D printers are for.
LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I did. Went hiking with a guy I met in an online game. Pretty nice dude, I have to do that again some day.
The thing is, you never know. FBI agent? Serial murderer? Normal person?
Flax_vert@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
It was someone in China working for a game company trying to flirt with you to get you to sign up and play their game with them
steeznson@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Fake: There are no girls on the internet
Gay: OP was flirting with a man
bhamlin@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Fake: OP was flirting with a raccoon
Gay: OP talks about feelings
steeznson@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Way better, bravo
the_tab_key@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Too obvious and on the nose.
steeznson@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yeah I’ve let myself down here. Had a good streak going but I’ll let someone else take the wheel for a while.
steeznson@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
online
There’s your problem
Sanctus@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
NGL I do not miss keeping up with that shit. Its such a drag. Yet somehow waking up and saying good morning to someone is the shit.
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Sometimes you gotta remember that everyone has their own shit going on, and it’s a bit self-centered to assume, every time, that it has to do with you.
veni_vedi_veni@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Just get used to rejection, until you become enlightened enough to realize that life is suffering and you only have value insofar as how useful/reliable to others.
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 2 weeks ago
This sounds like less of a truth and more like you are lashing out. Are you OK man?
moseschrute@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
Not only that, but the upvotes. So at least 5 people agree. Are you all ok?
mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
or excusing poor behavior because of past pain. we’re all responsible for our own actions.
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Bro has been hurt
Sat@lemmynsfw.com 3 weeks ago
Her Boyfriend found the message and blocked him
Snowclone@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
homie needs to learn about talking to people in real life.
iAvicenna@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
seems like you dodged a bullet?
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Maybw they only did that to hurt you. They bait you with a fake relationship.
RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com 3 weeks ago
Being at the stage where you assume everyone being nice to you is just setting you up for more pain sucks.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The perils of being too online.
janus2@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
> pretending to be a girl online so that i can get just \a little attention from a human being for once
> talking to this guy, seems really sweet
> mfw i actually start to really care about this guy
> he alludes to abandonment issues in his past
> ohno.jpg
> panic, tell him i have to go to bed
> try to go to bed but can’t sleep from guilt
> can’t bring myself to message him the truth that i am a girlpretender attention whore
> decide just blocking him is the least painful option for both of us
am i a bad person?
ByteJunk@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
YTA.
Samsy@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
I bet everyone has pretended to be the opposite sex online. Maybe just for the giggles. But anyone who does that all the time, straight to hell.
janus2@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
or straight to therapy and hopefully a trans supportive community haha (not that it would excuse catfishing)
abfarid@startrek.website 3 weeks ago
That’s kind of a weird assumption. What qualifies as pretending? I don’t think I have ever done that.
TheSlad@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I never have on purpose, but in games i like to play as female characters. This was very useful in runescape back in the mid-2000s. Desperate guys would just asume you were a girl IRL and give you free shit asking to be your boyfriend.
umbrella@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
PrimeMinisterKeyes@leminal.space 2 weeks ago
I can’t find the original source right now, but a study found that 50% of men pretended at least once in their lives to be women online, whereas 0% of women pretended to be men.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Thanks for the suggestion. I never thought about it!
Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Date I say, fake and gay?
janus2@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
fake: anon has positive human interaction
gay: there are no girls on the internet
Uri@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
We need a new community for Lemmy greentext