Rachelhazideas
@Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world
- Comment on Libraries are cool 1 day ago:
I’m afraid AI written books are being published and put into library shelves too.
- Comment on The less complicated life of a male 3 days ago:
Women: socialized from a young age to uphold beauty standards or else be treated worse for being ‘ugly’
Men: 6 in 1 shampoo go brrr
- Comment on Avocado 4 days ago:
Calling out the systems discrimination of girls and women with ADHD symptoms isn’t knocking others down. That’s like treating feminism as a personal attack on you because speaking up about women’s issues is an act of putting men down.
Think of how little leniency you get as a boy with ADHD. Now think about how girls and women don’t even get that, and are frequently punished for ‘acting out’ their ADHD symptoms.
There are [many widely cited studies proving the prevalence of underdiagnosis of girls with ADHD](A Review of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in Women and Girls: Uncovering This Hidden Diagnosis - PMC share.google/u1QHV4FKNVe61kRbk), partly because the guidelines are decades old and derived from studies that deliberately excluded girls.
- Comment on Avocado 5 days ago:
We also don’t give Adderall to people with ADHD.
Girls used to be diagnosed 25x less often than girls, now it’s only 3x less often. ADHD occurs at the same rates between genders. Girls are just more heavily conditioned and disciplined into gender conforming behavior, which involves sitting still, being quiet, paying attention, and ‘behaving well’. Girls with ADHD symptoms are treated as troublesome kids, without the leniency towards boys with ADHD.
This doesn’t cure girls of ADHD, it just makes them internalize their suffering at the cost of their mental health. Speaking as a woman who wasn’t diagnosed and medicated until my late 20s.
- Comment on Knows more than most scientists… according to one extremely reliable source: themselves 1 week ago:
This is only true until you realize that a lot of modern science is built upon foundations of systemic discrimination that excluded women and minorities. Only new researching can prove old research wrong, and the lack of funding for catching up in inclusivity in science has led to the status quo of outdated beliefs permeating STEM but dressed in a lab coat of credibility.
Research on women’s health and medicine lags behind men’s by decades due to the historical exclusion of women in studies and the refusal to treat them as credible witnesses to their own bodies’ symptoms. Magnitudes of more money has been poured into ED than endometriosis, an agonizing condition that gets dismissed as ‘just a period’ by doctors.
- Comment on She is making a GREAT point 3 weeks ago:
Arguments like yours are hurting, not helping, women’s advocacy in modern medicine.
When you throw out all nuance, it opens the door for misogynists to dismiss every valid concern that women have when it comes to systemic discrimination in medicine. You are also alienating men who support male birth control in the process.
As someone who has had life threatening issues dismissed by doctors, been gaslit about the efficacy of my medications, berated for going to the ER when my doctor instructed me to, gone through an excruciating IUD insertion, trust me when I say I am the last person to defend sexism in medicine.
However, male birth control isn’t as that simple of an issue. There are legitimate scientific barriers to developing male birth control. It doesn’t erode away the slow pace and funding in developing male birth control that is made worse by sexism, but sexism isn’t the full story.
- Comment on She is making a GREAT point 3 weeks ago:
Medical science is not that black and white.
Think about birth control in terms of preventing death and disfigurement. Men don’t die from pregnancy, women do.
When women take birth control, it has the upside of not dying in pregnancy, having horrific pain in the process, or permanent changes to their body. Birth control has a lot of side effects, but at the end of the day, the maternal mortality rate of women who take birth control is far lower.
The reason why medical trials for male birth has been put on hold before, is because when weighing the side effects vs benefits of male birth control, men did not have to weight against death and suffering through pregnancy. Thus, the justification for male birth control requires a much higher bar.
While discrimination against women is prevalent in medicine, this isn’t as simple as an instance of dismissing male birth control because men didn’t like it. The process through which new modern medicines are vetted requires comparing the positive and negative outcomes of a medication, and that doesn’t necessarily take gender dynamics into account.
- Comment on Us ❤️ 5 weeks ago:
Well ackchyually, that’s anti-semitism. /s
- Comment on Landlords are parasites 5 weeks ago:
History is path dependent. Not every country has the same literacy rates, civic participation, income inequality, intergenerational wealth, social inertia, and so on.
What is rational and common place in one country is radical progressivism in another.
You can do what is ideal, or you can do what works. You can deny a reality of systemic barriers to affordable housing, or accept that they are real and must be tackled one at a time.
In an ideal world, yes, there would be no landlords. In the real world, property, laws, the economy, and people are so deeply intertwined that to propose the elimination of landlords is about as facetious as eliminating bankers because of exploitation in banking.
- Comment on Landlords are parasites 5 weeks ago:
Home insurance does not cover costs associated with maintenance and negligence.
Your sewer line failing because it’s 50 years old and made of cast iron is not a valid home insurance claim.
- Comment on Landlords are parasites 5 weeks ago:
Socialized housing isn’t an overnight project. It starts with regulating the current housing marketing and prioritizing the take down of corporate slumlords. It starts with revising zoning laws, promoting higher density housing and multifamily homes, and creating walkable and accessible neighborhoods for all.
I get the idealism from Lemmy, but this is also it’s pitfall. Anything less than a leftist utopia is not worth working towards, and so we sit in righteous inaction.
- Comment on Landlords are parasites 5 weeks ago:
Pretending that small landlords and corporate landlords are the same is like saying your local grocer is as bad as Walmart.
Renting is an essential part of the housing market. Not everyone wants or can commit to home ownership and all it’s unpredictable maintenance costs. A plumbing failure can be as cheap as $200 to fix or cost you $10,000+ for a full replacement and restoration from the biohazards of black water damage.
The reason why the housing market is fucked is because poor regulation allows corporate landlords to buy up tons of investment properties and control the housing costs and supply.
- Comment on plume moths 1 month ago:
The idea that eating IUDs causes pain is a myth and any frog who says otherwise is just being hysterical.
- Comment on Too soon? 2 months ago:
Thoughts and prayers.
- Comment on breakfast 2 months ago:
They might be wild blueberries which are smaller than regular ones.
- Comment on And they even get a seizure when you take their ipads away 2 months ago:
People when kids screech at a restaurant: ‘Must be shitty parents.’
People when kids run around at a restaurant: ‘Must be shitty parents.’
People when kids use an ipad at a restaurant: ‘Must be shitty parents.’
There’s no winning here. Children just aren’t allowed to exist.
We are the exception because we most definitely weren’t like that at all as a kid. /s
- Comment on Hep mak fren 2 months ago:
Imagine being an early hominid and not knowing that dogs only live for so many years.
The last day always comes too soon.
- Comment on Intelligent Design 2 months ago:
Wisdom teeth were amazing to have back when dental care didn’t exist and our teeth fell out from decay or injuries.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 2 months ago:
This entire post is precisely the problem. The fact that everyone here is conflating sex with mental health support is the reason why men’s mental health isn’t being taken seriously.
Men are not socialized to, and even actively discouraged from being emotionally vulnerable with each other.
We won’t need men doing more fucking, we need men to sit down together and talk about their depression, and we need other men to be supportive and not downplay these conversations with sexist or homophobic slurs.
- Comment on anons brother has some strong opinions 2 months ago:
People when autistic boys have mental shutdowns: haha it’s so quirky when he hyperfixates.
People when autistic girls have mental shutdowns: what a bitchy and emotional teenager. She’s not even autistic she just does it for attention.
- Comment on 50 mph man 3 months ago:
I’ll read out the subtext for people who are unable to:
“When I say ‘hurry up’, what I mean is that I’m annoyed because you should have hurried up before getting to the bus so that I don’t have to wait for you while you’re late.”
- Comment on YOU HAVE NO POWER HERE 3 months ago:
Make sure to keep your left eye looking at the ‘x’ the whole time. The ‘.’ should only be in your peripheral vision.
- Comment on requirement 3 months ago:
That’s a recipe for a UTI. Please do not garlic bread.
- Comment on YOU HAVE NO POWER HERE 3 months ago:
Quick way to find your blindspot:
- Close your right eye
- Hold your phone/monitor 1ft (30cm) away from your face
- Look at the ‘x’ below
- Slowly bring your phone towards you (or your face towards the monitor) until the ‘.’ disappears
. x
- Comment on Stop! 3 months ago:
Not a smartphone in sight. Just trilobites living in the moment.
- Comment on healthy nutrition 3 months ago:
That’s the evolutionary theory behind polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). 10% of all women have it.
Starve a lot, eat a lot, expend minimal calories, rinse and repeat. As a bonus, we get hyperandrogenism and delayed fertility. Great for surviving scarcity, terrible for surviving the modern world.
- Comment on Anon puts himself out there 3 months ago:
There wasn’t. I never said every woman always has support. I only said that men struggle with vocalizing mental health needs among their friends.
If talking to your friends about trauma at the appropriate stage in your friendship is considered trauma dumping, I’m sorry to say that I’m afraid you don’t have close friends.
That, or you’re coddling and patronizing your friends for lacking the emotional maturity to handle deeper conversations.
True friendship comes from being comfortable with your vulnerabilities around your friends, and having each other’s backs. A support group isn’t a substitute because it’s premise is transactional in nature, where you are expected to talk about and listen to trauma without attachment.
- Comment on Anon puts himself out there 3 months ago:
Because men don’t have a strong enough social support system to have cathartic talks about their emotions. Because women aren’t willing to disproportionately shoulder emotional labor anymore.
The patriarchy hurts everyone. Normalize discussing mental health among men. Don’t let stigma stop you from telling your friends from how much they mean to you and how you’re here if they need to talk.
- Comment on Seems a sensible precaution 3 months ago:
40% of Mormon missionaries leave their church after their missions.
Don’t turn them away. Talk to them with kindness and compassion, and understand that they grew up as victims of a cult. Show them there is so much more to the world than the what the LDS church tells them.
- Comment on HELP HIM. 3 months ago:
Yes, rat experimentation is the cornerstone of modern medicone, but that doesn’t make it any less fucked up.
Something can be equally good for people yet completely inhumane. It doesn’t cancel each other out.
Do I think we should stop experimenting on rats? Absolutely not. But we can try to at least improve the general well-being of these rats and stop deliberately torture them. Peopes have done sleep deprivation experiments where a rat is forced to stay awake or fall in the water and start to drown.