Women can self-loathe too. The mistake some men make is thinking they’re all the same.
Anon likes a woman
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ruuster13@lemmy.zip 15 hours ago
cRazi_man@europe.pub 10 hours ago
Women are not a unified organism controller by a singular hive mind? Isn’t that the job of Queen Kerrigan?
TwilightKiddy@programming.dev 8 hours ago
Nah, Kerrigan is the Bitch Queen of the Universe. Only controls bitches.
Nangijala@feddit.dk 6 hours ago
It’s funny, I have had that exact experience with guys when I was young. The second I started returning the interest, they would drop me like I was a venomous snake and go flirt with someone else.
Until I met my boyfriend I just thought men didn’t want women to like them back. Color me confused when the pre historic version of incel/manosphere culture began bitching about women playing hard to get back in the late 2000s/early 2010s on various forums.
Was over here like: y’all are the ones who run for the hills whenever a girl shows you she likes you, though. 🤷♀️
Banana@sh.itjust.works 5 hours ago
Story of my LIFE until I met my current partner
Nangijala@feddit.dk 4 hours ago
hehe, yeah. Honestly, good for us. I for one, am so relieved that I’m off the market. It’s so draining, dude xD
Nomad@infosec.pub 15 hours ago
Its called avoidant bonding type.
arin@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Yeah, some people want to be abused too, and they feel the ick if the person isn’t abusive and starts avoiding them.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
i had an ex who broke up with me because I wouldn’t physically beat her.
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 10 hours ago
Which is ironic cos no binding gets done in that case
Gonzako@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
So you just stop bonding?
Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone 10 hours ago
Basically yes. Once things get too “close” or too “real” people with that attachment style tend to get really scared and bail.
ByteJunk@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
This sounds pretty typical to me.
They like how each other looks, and start talking a bit. She realizes just how many red flags anon is raising, and starts to backpedal.
Fuck women impossible to understand amirite.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Thats not a problem with “liking someone back.” I think the post would have read along the lines of " i hate when someone isn’t who they seem to be" in your scenario.
ByteJunk@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Perhaps, that’s a good point. It is a green text though, and my bet is that the pic is unrelated.
87Six@lemmy.zip 10 hours ago
I don’t really think it’s that simple.
I think it’s about that weird thing people (not women) do that makes them attracted to strangers but not friends. I find it mentioned everywhere, both online and offline.
I think that’s what anon is experiencing too.
I really don’t understand why people just lose all attraction as soon as mysteriousness is no longer a factor. And I’ve seen it happen with my own damn eyes, to me AND others.
I don’t get it.
It’s as if as soon as I become readily available to anyone, I suddenly become much more worthless and disposable too… Suddenly every other aspect of theif life takes priority and I’m number last. I guess because other things are only available conditionally whereas I’m pretty much always available? Idk.
Also if I’m not interested in someone, that someone always wants to interact. It’s as if life constantly works to spite me.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
they lose attraction because they were never attracted to the person. they are attracted to the fantasy of the person.
and once you become too ‘real’ you destroy the fantasy and they have no more interest.
Why do you think romance books are SO HOT right now? because they are pure fantasy and lots of ladies want nothing but a fantasy romance and they are addicted to daydreaming, and they compare the real world romance to and it and angry it doesn’t ‘live up’ to the storybooks they read.
it’s like if a a guy was very angry and mad that he didn’t have superpowers after watching a bunch of Marvel movies or comic books… it’s absurd… but you if you tell women that they will just claim you are a misogynist.
ReluctantMuskrat@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Getting to know people better can change your feelings about them… sometimes it makes them more attractive and sometimes less. I don’t know if anyone has found me less attractive after getting to know me but I’ve certainly had that happen with girls I’ve been attracted to.
If it’s a common experience for you it’s probably worth exploring whether or not it’s a you problem, and if so if it’s something you can and should correct. There’s no shortage of crappy, shallow people so maybe not but being introspective and honest with yourself is always good foe you.
Apytele@sh.itjust.works 9 hours ago
Nah I was raised female and legit had friends like this some women (as with men) just never grow up. On a very tangentially related note I’ve been reflecting recently on the very primal attractiveness of a man who is visibly strong and horny enough to fuck me up but who is also visibly restraining themselves. The testosterone + self control combo is just an immediate vagina geyser.
ByteJunk@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
There’s all kinds of people out there, that’s for sure. Some women (and men) do like the bulky, rough on the edges but overall caring type, but some don’t appreciate that virility and attention from a partner and prefer a more candid approach, others are almost self-destructive and inevitably go for guys that I wouldn’t give the time of day, to each their own.
My point is mostly that there’re a lot of reasons people don’t click, there’s nothing wrong with that.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
How can you tell he’s horny? Is he rocking a hard on all day?
rumba@lemmy.zip 6 hours ago
Yeah, the whole situation is too vague to read for certain, even if it really happened.
I do find it more likely that this was a “Never meet your crushes” than an “OMG wtf would they like me” just out of the blue.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
Why should i never meet my crushes? Should i just chase people i feel neutral about instead? A good crush inspires me to be romantic, carefully plan dates, and even take better care of myself, which is a nice cycle cause some of those things boost my confidence anyway even if the crush doesn’t feel the same way.
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 13 hours ago
Impossible challenge: write a greentext without making it about a ‘girl’
Sightline@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Most “greentext” is propaganda to make everyone hate each other.
ICastFist@programming.dev 7 hours ago
Which makes it all double gay and square fake
OctopusNemeses@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
And of course it turned out moot is directly linked to the Epstein class.
zaphod@sopuli.xyz 11 hours ago
Go find some other greentexts then and post them here.
djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 hours ago
that’s not at all impossible, a lot of the time it’s really about a guy
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
To be miserable.
And they are very very good at making themselves miserable, and going on a rant about how they this is your fault and all men are awful.
fizzbang@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
Listen to the titty frog. This is wisdom
BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 6 hours ago
Emmy trying not to be a terrible place:
P1k1e@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
This is why you date, wheat from chaff and all that. The day you find someone perfect is the day you can stop looking
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
or you just stop looking because you are sick of all the miserable bullshit and you just want to enjoy your life without other people’s miserable bullshit weirdo nonsense in it.
P1k1e@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
I mean yea that’s also an option. Being happy alone should always come before being happy with someone else, if at all.
Flames5123@sh.itjust.works 2 hours ago
Or if you’re poly you can never stop looking a just enjoy dating and having fun.
I do not recommend poly for most people. It’s a lot of work, and it’s not for everyone.
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 5 hours ago
Is this why I always got ghosted? I was beginning to think they were just cruelly toying with me…
blarghly@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
I mean, I would like first to make a point of order - “ghosting” is when someone who you already have an established relationship with stops responding to all messages. It doesn’t mean “someone you were interested in but had no significant relationship with simply lost interest”. For example, if you match with someone on a dating app, and then you exchange a few messages but they stop responding, they are not “ghosting” you - they have simply lost interest.
Anyway, if you have people on dating apps consistently losing interest with you, then it usually means that your problem is… nothing. The vast majority of OLD interactions go no where. This is fine. Most people arent a good match for each other. They might have found someone who is a better match for them, or they may have simply become exhausted with dealing with OLD.
Its like if you thought someone at a party was cute, and you went and had a convo with them, and then they went to get a drink and got drawn into another convo, and then you never saw them again. They didn’t “ghost” you. They aren’t being mean to you. They are just living their life, and you are not a major player in it, and that’s fine.
However, if you don’t like how conversations just peter off sometimes, you can significantly reduce this by seeking explicit rejections instead. Be clear about what you are looking for, and then pitch meeting up in person.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
[deleted]Liz@midwest.social 3 hours ago
Fake and gay XD Fake and gay
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 2 hours ago
…what the fuck?
EmilieEasie@fedinsfw.app 15 hours ago
She found out he can’t spell tries
blarghly@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
D/s kink. Girl wants to “date up” - dating a guy who is superior to her. The guy she wants has lots of other options with women, and so is not very interested in her. So she has to work to win him over and prove that - even though she is average in every way (except for being smokin hot), actually deep down inside in some way that doesnt manifest in the real world at all, she is the most specialist girl in the whole wide world.
But she can only maintain this fantasy as long as he plays his role of not being interested in her until she has proved herself. In Anon’s case, he’s autistic, and so initially ignored her. Then his attempts at “flirting” were cold and stone-faced, showing he has only a small amount of interest but he still needs to be convinced. But then Anon broke the fantasy by asking her out before she had “proved” herself.
Anon’s biggest problem was not being attractive enough to have lots of other girls intersted in him so he would actually not care if this girl liked him. If he did this instead, he would both improve his odds with this girl without even trying, and also not care if she decided she actually didn’t like him.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
No one is more convinced that you can pull women than a woman whom is attracted to you. Now you just gotta live up to that fantasy even if IRL most women wouldn’t give you the time of day.
Magnum@infosec.pub 6 hours ago
I think this is what you want.
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 10 hours ago
/> greentext abiut trying to woo a woman again
FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 3 hours ago
Think of it this way: remember that sleepover playdate that lasted two days too long? You both had enough before it was over?
Yes that thing, some people like to keep their eyes open for that kinda stuff before stepping into a relationship. And it’s a good practice. Other people have that “yes let’s go!!!” kinda thing and that clashes sometimes.
Anyway that’s what I’ve learned so far.