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ReluctantMuskrat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

Getting to know people better can change your feelings about them… sometimes it makes them more attractive and sometimes less. I don’t know if anyone has found me less attractive after getting to know me but I’ve certainly had that happen with girls I’ve been attracted to.

If it’s a common experience for you it’s probably worth exploring whether or not it’s a you problem, and if so if it’s something you can and should correct. There’s no shortage of crappy, shallow people so maybe not but being introspective and honest with yourself is always good foe you.

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87Six@lemmy.zip ⁨25⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

worth exploring whether or not it’s a you problem

idk, I am pretty weird, and not in a good “quirky” way…

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TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
people also lie. they lie about who they are and they are often very different in private than how they are in public.

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FireRetardant@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I usually need to get to know someone before they are attractive. I describe it as me being greedy, i want the full package not just one that looks nice.

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- 87Six@lemmy.zip ⁨24⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago
  I had to live 1/3rd of the time for 2 years with someone to realize I liked them myself, so yea, same
  
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- Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I don’t think that’s greedy, I think that’s pretty normal.
  
  I need to see how a person interacts in conversation to be attracted to them, as i am far more attracted to mannerisms and values than looks. A cute face is great, I couldn’t care much about body as long as a person is relatively healthy (this is a very broad range for me).
  
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- ReluctantMuskrat@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Strange that someone down-voted you for this.
  
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