Anon is an introvert

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• Kenny2999@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Op would love Finland. Only ever talked to one stranger (who is now my wife) and the only thing we shake is the umbrella. And booze, well you will need it too.

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  • LORDSMEGMA@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    introverted and alcoholic? Please tell me more about this wonderful place called Finland

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    • Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Their mountains so lofty

      Their treetops so tall

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  • Archer@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Only ever talked to one stranger

    Scandalous!

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    • nsrxn@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      no. Scandinavian

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  • treadful@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    What is the umbrella reference about?

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    • Kenny2999@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Umbrella gets wet. Ya shake it. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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    • Kirp123@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      When you go inside you shake the water out of the umbrella so it doesn’t drip inside your house. Yeah, that’s it, no reference or anything.

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    • jballs@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      It’s referencing back to the original post about girls shaking their asses

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• Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I felt this way in my own home culture as well. I grew up in a red bubble in a blue state in the US, where the underlying currents were no more than “conformity and hometown pride.” Oddly, the only things to be “proud” of were conformity itself and high school football (the pride-surrogate of adults with nothing better to celebrate.) It was all so hollow, and when 9/11 happened it all turned up to… well, 11. Being 12 and saying, “I don’t think this war makes sense” was enough to ostracize one’s self and be bombarded with the brain-dead argument of, “iF yOu hAtE AMURICA tHeN yOu cAn JuSt LEAVE!” Yeah okay, parrot. It was always obvious the kids just absorbed whatever mindless take their parents said (which was, itself, picked up from other people or Fox News.)

  Man, thinking of my hometown always brings out a rant… Anyway, I grew up always feeling like a stranger in my own home, bullied and cast aside for not being like the rest. Thank goodness I was able to GTFO and meet people who use their brains as more than a copy/paste bin for other people’s thoughts.

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    lol same bro. same upbringing. nobody understands how common this is in most of small town america. probably because they only ‘small towns’ they are familiar with are all the tourist hot spots.

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    • gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      god my primary/secondary education was so AWFUL too. nobody in the entire system had any legit knowledge

      lol i know that feeling.

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  • Bakkoda@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I grew up in the US from the age of five and the level of culture shock that hit me in kindergarten even no one knew who the fuck Manchester United was and that’s not a real jersey etc etc etc. it had Best on the back and everyone thought it meant i thought I was the best and I still remember that feeling today.

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  • Jankatarch@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I appreciate anti-fascist a lot but anti-fascists that also got bullied for it I appreciate even more.

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    • UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I read your comment a couple times, scrolled up to the parent comment, and read yours again. I still dont understand what youre saying.

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• StillAlive@piefed.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I understand anon. I understand. 😶

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• teslekova@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It’s a similar experience being an introvert who isn’t into sports in Australia.

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  • FatVegan@leminal.space ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m mostly baffled that when people don’t even understand the concept of “not liking sports” I have a lot of smalltalk at work with dudes and it’s always something like: wait, so you have no idea who won the football game? What happened?

    Oh i don’t watch football.

    Never?

    Nope, i have never seen a football match.

    Huh. So you just watch the big games.

    No, never.

    But you watch the World championship.

    No.

    Not even when your country plays?

    Is it still millionaires chasing a ball in a really boring manner? Then still no.

    It’s not even just sports, somehow, some people can’t comprehend that someone doesn’t like or even know of “insert mainstream thing”. C’mon, stop pretending you don’t know famous artist who sells out stadiums. For fucks sake, why would i? I maybe read their name at some point or maybe a song was once playing in a mall, but other than that we don’t live the same life.

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    • Flower@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Turns out these people identify with the teams and feel a victory as if it was their own. The “We won!” crowd. Some other folks have a stronger separation between self and other and don’t have any emotional attachment with some sports team that did something.

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    • ThrowawayPermanente@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Fine, if you don’t like sports we can talk about the stock market. Tesla and Palantir, bro. Oil futures to the moon. Selling reverse vix puts. Alpha beta gamma I’m going to be rich.

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  • hanrahan@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    indeed, came to point this out, nothing much has changed in 1000s of years though. Pie 'n footy os the new Bread 'n Circuses.

    en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bread_and_circuses

    Juvenal originally used it to decry the “selfishness” of common people and their neglect of wider concerns. The phrase implies a population’s erosion or ignorance of civic duty as a priority

    Loving in Has main a the biggest concern of the public is a es AFL football stadium and yet we have the worst health outcomes, the worst educational outcomes etc etc

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  • 9point6@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m an ambivert. I’m also not particularly into watching a good percentage of sports, but I’ll pretty much go to anything if a friend asks if I want to join them going to an event or even just watch it with them somewhere.

    Doesn’t really just apply to sports either, up for anything really: gigs, art exhibitions, hikes, cinema, visiting a random town for some reason, you name it.

    Firstly, I can’t exactly knock something until I’ve given it a good go, but more importantly for me, it’s time I get to spend with one/some of my mates and might result in some good memories. Reminder that introversion is not the same thing as social anxiety, introverts generally also like to hang out with their friends.

    Plus I also like photography, so random days out are a good way to get pictures you wouldn’t otherwise.

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    • teslekova@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Oh yeah, I definitely know the difference between social anxiety and introversion. Social anxiety is when it’s intensely uncomfortable to even talk to my dad, or my partner. Introversion is being capable of having a nice day all on my own, but still being totally up for hanging out with friends, as long as I get time alone often enough in between.

      Ironically I even like sporting events if me and my friends are actually there in the stadium. The feel of the crowd is magical. But that’s not really about the sport

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    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      And extroverts can be socially anxious. I need to go out and talk to people and do things, but fuck am I awkward about it

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• PuddleOfKittens@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  To be fair, if you go out to a loud party you’re not likely to meet many introverts there - they’ll all be at home, unless their own extravert friend dragged them out to the party.

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  • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Was going to say, I’ve been to more than a few parties with the Introvert Corner. Half a dozen folks just hiding in the kitchen or on the patio, trying to survive the night with minimal social contact.

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    • NannerBanner@literature.cafe ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I wish that would become an official thing. Someplace quiet and with dim lighting that isn’t because people don’t want to see closely the making out, but because the room is better with some darkness.

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• thisisnotausername@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Oh god. Very close to me. Exactly why I left and refuse to date latinas and for the most part make friends with latinos.

  A bit over the top tho. You can definetly be a ladies man even if you don’t dance. Not easy as if you dance, but totally doable.

  Now to the serious thing:

  Fake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon wants dosn’t like booty.

  Before you downvote me, I am Colombian and don’t really dance to anything remotely latin

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  • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Fake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon dosn’t like booty.

    😔

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• Nangijala@feddit.dk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  While not the stereotypical extrovert, I experience the opposite in my country.

  I think, on a world wide scale, I would be considered very introverted, but by Danish standards I’m too social. I’ve become more introverted over time because it is too exhausting trying to get something going with people around me. Danes make all their friends in their youth and then they close the gates at 30 and never allow in any other new friendships or acquaintances ever again. And if they do, it’s against their will.

  We moved into a new neighborhood five months ago, and I still don’t know anyone. Our closest neighbors have politely demonstrated that they desire to not know me despite my attempts at getting to know them and I am self aware enough to know when to just let it go and avoid thing becoming uncomfortable.

  It really sucks, because I always dreamed of having good relationships with my neighbors and inviting people over for cook outs or something. But Danes are hermit crabs.

  I had it confirmed when I befriended a Ukrainian refugee who told me that in the two years he had been a refugee in Denmark, I had literally been the only Dane to bother to get to know him and been friendly and open to him. Told him that I’m also a very shitty Dane.

  So yeah, I dunno what it’s like to be an introvert stuck in an extrovert society. But I do know what it’s like to be extroverted introvert in a hyper introverted society and that sucks as well, because you end up becoming very, very lonely if you don’t hit the jackpot with evergreen friendships when you still have your milk teeth.

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  • Alcoholicorn@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I am self aware enough to know when to just let it go and avoid thing becoming uncomfortable

    They simply don’t yet know they want to be your friend. Abduct them and bring them on an adventure, use that time to learn how your lives can mesh together.

    You can’t go wrong with motorcycle journey and/or hiking up a mountain.

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    • Nangijala@feddit.dk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You aren’t wrong! Only problem is that I don’t know how to drive a motorcycle and we don’t have mountains in my country xD

      But in all seriousness, I genuinely think they don’t want to know us, and I want to respect that. Maybe they will warm up to us eventually or maybe we will remain strangers, but I’ll continue to smile and wave whenever I see them. So far the only living beings who’s given a fuck about us are local birds, who use our garden for nesting, a neighbor’s dog who spent the first three months of us living here, barking at us everytime it saw us and a neighbor kid who was super chatty about princesses one day when we were out gardening.

      The dog doesn’t even come over to look at us anymore. I’m actually starting to miss him barking at me every single day. The only time he came out barking recently was when a delivery guy came to drop off a new fridge for my boyfriend. Then all of a sudden, Mr Dog could bark. The driver was scared, while I was low key jealous. Like bruh, at least he acknowledges that you exist, mate. Do you know how devastating it is to move in and getting used to this big dog greeting you everyday and then one day, all of a sudden, he just stops giving a fuck about you and ignores your presence??? It’s bad enough that the human neighbors pretend I don’t exist, but now even the guard dog is like: bitch, you boring.

      Dx

      My boyfriend thinks its awesome that our neighbors don’t care about us and would hate my dream scenario of casually inviting people over for a beer or coke on the veranda and chatting about whatever.

      It’s not like I want people to run through our house all the time and us never getting any privacy, but I would like to have spontaneous chats over the hedge a couple of times a month at least. Even every second month would be cool. But you can’t force people to want to what you want, so eh.

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  • LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    As someone from the northern European countryside, you’ll never fully fit in. You need to have at least several generations of incest family ties to be seen as a true native. Best you can hope for is “they’re alright for outsiders, I guess”.

    What helps, if you want to fit in better, is joining the usual clubs. At my place, that meant (for men at least) things like voluntary firefighters, men’s choir, and tennis/football clubs. Also, show up on traditional festivities and events, and be prepared to drink. Functional alcoholics are suspicious of people who don’t drink with them, so if you cannot or don’t want to keep up with them, excuse yourself early and say you need to drive/take care of your kids/work tomorrow early.

    Actually, half of that advice goes for any context, not just rednecks.

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    • Nangijala@feddit.dk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I’m not sure if I communicated things properly in my first comment, but based on yours, it almost sounds like you think I’m a foreigner, which I’m not! :D I’m Danish born and bred. Sorry if I was unclear, but that was kind of the point of my original comment, that I’m somewhat of an outgoing person in a hyper introverted society.

      I will also say that while I do crave social connections, I’m not interested in meeting new people just for the sake of it.

      I have plenty of good friends and a nice social network. The thing is that the closest friend to me lives an hour away. The furthest one lives on a different continent. I have often joked that the closer friend I am to someone, the further away they live.

      So for me, the goal is to just become friendly with neighbors. Not to go out and join a bunch of clubs or festivals or go to pubs and meet people there.

      When it comes to alcohol, I would be cool with having neighbors over for a beer in the garden or something like that, but I’m not going partying with people who are “functional” alcoholics. I have seen my fair share of people who’ve ended up on that trajectory, and that’s not the type of mess I want to invite into my life.

      As for joining clubs and such, there isn’t a lot of interesting clubs in my area and those that seem interesting are at least an hour away. And that’s part of the problem, because the people I’d potentially meet there, will most likely also live far away and then I have done nothing but add to the list of friends who live too far away for casual, neighborly relationships.

      I think your suggestions are fine for someone who just moved to Denmark and have zero network and just needs to get out there and look for anything and everything to build a foundation on. That’s not me, though xD

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• Lumisal@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  On the other hand, growing up in this kind of culture, I’ve now been forged into the rare introvert who can dance, sing, and has amazing people skills when needed.

  It’s draining, but useful.

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  • mindbleach@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Vulcan ambassador: “I am getting a good grade in party, a thing that is normal to want and possible to achieve.”

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• ICastFist@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  As a Brazilian, I can relate

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• bomberesque@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Move to England, we will still think you are an extrovert

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• Allero@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I always wondered how it is to be an introvert in such “loud” cultures. Now my guess is confirmed.

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• nerv@fedinsfw.app ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I can feel this to an uncomfortable level.

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• Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Same thing in sweden when I grew up there, except nobody dances, nobody did booty shakes, only football and drinking 😑😔.

  I left.

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  • Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    To be fair American culture is also mostly football and drinking

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    • Sabata11792@ani.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Don’t forget Jesus, racism and military cosplay.

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    • LittleBorat3@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Voting fascist clowns into power too

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  • plyth@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Where did you go? Finland?

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• someguy7734206@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’ve travelled to a few countries in Europe. Spain may not be Latin America, but it definitely seemed to have a noticeably more extroverted culture than the other countries I visited: multiple strangers started talking to me on the streets and in grocery stores and such, even though my Spanish is terrible, and I remember even the bus drivers being particularly friendly.

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    regions of the USA also are vastly different in this way. i’m from the northeast and its’ offensive to randomly talk to people, but in the south or west it’s considered offensive not to.

    i lived on the west coast for a couple of years and it was so fucking weird there.

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    • mirshafie@europe.pub ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Visited the American Northeast as a Swedish person. Dude at Chic-fil-A asked me how my day was. I’m like “whaaaat?” Great sandwich though but I still think about that young man’s pep.

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• FierroGamer@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Latin American introvert here, I can’t begin to tell you how much my life changed for the better when I realized I just hate people and have no real reason to pursue extrovert goals. Also people like you more when you’re not trying.

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  • mindbleach@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    This comment played the opening riff to “Solitude Is Bliss.”

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• nightofmichelinstars@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  My ex was Latina, and when we were getting to know each other I mentioned I’m pretty introverted, and I had to explain to her what it meant. She said it doesn’t exist in Latino culture and there are no Latino introverts. I told her she probably calls them alcoholics. That seemed to resonate.

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• gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  can we swap? i’d like to go there instead, people here are all “oh that’s sexual harassment” if you look at them a second too long.

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    why are you looking at people so much?

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    • gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      how do you meet new people?

      i assume you just don’t

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• ximtor@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I really liked the Jodel app many years ago. Hyperlocal social media that led me to meet and interact with quite a few interesting people that i would never meet in a bar. Okay i am maybe not that introvert, but i hate disco shaky booty

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• r_ffer23@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Never felt more identified with a post. I’ve been saying this for a while and all they tell me is “just dance!” :(

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• WanderWisley@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Plot twist: anon is actually 1% Latino 90% Greek and 9% German and doesn’t like spicy food.

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  • Nautalax@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Colombian food isn’t spicy. Spice is high in like Mexico and Central America but that’s not universal across Latin cuisines ex. I know an Ecuadorian who can’t even take a sprinkle of black pepper without having to fan their mouth. Will happily eat vigorously salted green grapes, green apples or green mangos without batting an eye though.

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• Jankatarch@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Relatable, I grew up in Turkey while not nationalist. (By anatolian standards, at least)

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• trolololol@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  That was me, then I moved to Australia where I’m considered a blabber mouth extroverted.

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  • NannerBanner@literature.cafe ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Australia is reserved? Dude, I work with a whole slew of them, and reserved is maaaybe the case at work. Anytime I catch them they’re wild.

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    • trolololol@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I wouldn’t say reserved. I would say VERY reserved.

      And mildly toxic optimist, don’t you dare say something that could be interpreted as pointing that there may eventually exist a problem in your workplace, they may give you the side eye if they happen to be in a very bad mood.

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• Sam_Bass@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  newsflash: if youre online youre an introvert. no exceptions

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• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Move to Wisconsin

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• Gullible@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  You’re a techie vegetarian and you attempt to stifle your inborn bigotry? Are you really…

  spoiler

  I’m not doxxing myself lmao

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• Furbag@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Image

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• Luisp@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Reggaeton is a psyop to kidnap our culture

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• Monte_Crisco@thelemmy.club ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  A girl I’m dating fits this person’s stereotypical description of latinas to a T. And she also considers herself introverted 🙄

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• canniest_tod@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I live in the states and I’d like to swap with this guy for a trial period. I’ll try partying and busting for a month while he kicks it in the no fun country where the rent is $1200/month+ and having a good looking ass is considered an actual commodity that must hit the market ASAP.

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• nulltape@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Wow OP is so cool and different and badass what an intellectual he’s just like batman

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