If the marriage is sexually exclusive, why would you care? If the marriage was open, why would you care? If you’re worried about infidelity, then what gender they might choose still seems like a trivial issue.
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yesman@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 11 hours ago
Sexuality seems like a thing to have discussed before you arrange a marriage.
Its different if someone has not realized or accepted their queerness and comes out years later. But right after the honeymoon feels nasty. Its the kind of move a manipulator uses, omit telling information that could cause others to make different choices then those that align.
I’d wonder what other secrets there are.
SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 hours ago
There’s a stigma around bisexuals, that they are promiscuous. I did not tell my ex that I was bi at all, because she and I were exclusive the whole time we were together. It was years after our divorce that I came out as trans.
I was so worried that she would have rejected me if she knew that about me. I was happy with our life we had together, and I never strayed, so why should I have to disclose that if I don’t want to?
Axolotl_cpp@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 hours ago
I don’t understand what difference there is for the wife, someone please explain to me why she(or anyone!) would care about her husband being bisexual vs hetero.
Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 hours ago
If your partner not being 100% hetero is a dealbreaker for someone they should maybe ask about it before marriage? Although in this case it wouldn’t have helped, since the sender says her husband says he didn’t know until then (while calling him a liar). Sometimes people don’t understand their sexuality until later in life, I dunno what to tell you.
hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 hours ago
I don’t really understand what the difference there would be a spouse, if their other half is het or bi. What should matter is that they chose you
GreyEyedGhost@piefed.ca 5 hours ago
Pretty much the stance I had with an ex-girlfriend who was bi. I didn’t care who she slept with before me or who she slept with after me, so long as she wasn’t sleeping with someone else while we were together.
jdr@lemmy.ml 8 hours ago
It does hurt the odds though, double the chances to cheat.
antonim@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Please rethink the math here. Consider actual human population.
TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today 5 hours ago
If the only reason you don’t cheat is because of the lack of opportunities… Then you’re not just a bad person, but you’re probably ugly as fuck as well.
abbiistabbii@piefed.blahaj.zone 10 hours ago
“Hey I’m still attracted to you but I also find dudes hot.”
“I MUST INFORM THE WASHINGTON POST!”
sundray@lemmus.org 10 hours ago
STOP THE PRESSES!!
(Sorry, I’ve just always wanted to say that)
jdr@lemmy.ml 8 hours ago
Can you just tell WaPo things?
daggermoon@piefed.world 5 hours ago
Why would that matter? If he’s exclusively committed to you then what’s the issue?
Foofighter@discuss.tchncs.de 3 hours ago
Imho, the bisexuality wouldn’t be the issue. The fact that one partner was not aware of the sexual orientation of the married, on paper lifelong partner, is. Bisexuality, in contrast to pansexuality, has a focus on the, well … sex of the partner. The bisexual duality can not be satisfied by the binarity of one partner, leaving a lot of space for unhappiness, uncertainty and confusion, in a state where certainly might have been exspected.
dragonlover@lemmy.zip 10 minutes ago
Lack of communication being a problem - sure. But you’re conflating a few things.
- In modern terms, bisexuality and pansexuality are interchangeable, the terms have evolved over the years and most of the community rejects the old distinction.
- “The bisexual duality cannot be satisfied by the binarity of one partner” is the stupidest thing ive ever heard. They are bi, meaning their attraction applies to both (or more) genders. They aren’t in heat with an unquenchable lust for sex with multiple genders. Someone can have a preference for brunettes and marry a redhead and not be “unsatisfied”. The problem with closeted gay people marrying into a straight relationship is that they are denying their own sexuality, and lying to themselves. Bisexual people are not lying to themselves. They are attracted to their spouse. There is no confusion.
queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 hours ago
The bisexual duality can not be satisfied by the binarity of one partner, leaving a lot of space for unhappiness, uncertainty and confusion, in a state where certainly might have been exspected.
This is an extremely common and extremely silly take. Bi folk aren’t any more or less “satisfied” in a relationship than mono folk are. People (bi or otherwise) betray their partnership commitments all the time, but for whatever reason bisexuality seems to get conflated with infidelity / general profligacy. It’s an ugly and inaccurate stereotype.
fyzzlefry@retrolemmy.com 3 hours ago
Huh? I’m bi and have been happily married for 30 years
Honytawk@discuss.tchncs.de 1 hour ago
You mean like the sexuality of straight people can not be satisfied because there are other hotter people of the same sex as their spouse?
CrimeIsLegalNow@ani.social 5 hours ago
Obviously the husband made a mistake, you tell them in the dating phase so the trash takes itself out instead of tricking you into believing it’s a real person.
CMDR_Horn@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
The TLC of journalism
TheGoldenV@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
Isn’t it crazy how far they fell? They’re in with Page 6 and Brightbart (or whatever it is).
DudeImMacGyver@kbin.earth 10 hours ago
Divorce your gym, hit your lawyer, and delete your Facebook because billionaires suck.
Archer@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
They did catch on to this and made it illegal to hit lawyers
DarkCloud@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Saying so after the wedding is a douche move. He probably should have said so earlier.
WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 10 hours ago
“Husband mentions he likes Nickelback after wedding”
magnetosphere@fedia.io 9 hours ago
The bisexuality doesn’t bother me. It’s the poor communication. Plus, now there are major trust issues.
RandomHugs@lemmy.world 23 minutes ago
JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!!!