dragonlover

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Disgusted⁩ ⁨⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Exactly, sick of the fuck you got mine mentality. There is enough in the world to go around for everyone, it’s the uneven distribution and monetization of basic resources that makes it so some people in some countries starve.

  So many if the world’s woes today come from people vying for money, and for land and resources to…make more money.

  If someone is sick you treat them. If someone is hungry you feed them. If someone is thirsty you give them water. I don’t care what nationality they are, what country they are from, what language they speak, what gender they are, what sexuality they are, what disability they have, if they are a human being they deserve basic dignity, respect, and basic needs. Borders are arbitrary.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[NSFW warning: dataset name] R34dle — free browser higher-or-lower, looking for playtesters⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Immediate issue, i got rei ayanami, one of the most porned up characters in anime history vs shigeo from mob psycho, and rei wasnt the winner. Where is this pulling its dataset from? I checked multiple r34 boorus and its not even a contest on any of them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What exactly is the security of direct messages on lemmy? Does anyone actually use matrix?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I dont know how tech saavy you are so apologies if this is an oversimplification but:

  Matrix is a protocol. Think of it like a language. There are different matrix backends (synapse, continuwuity, etc) that run the server, which speaks the matrix protocol. Anyone can make a server and host it. They can open it up to federate, which lets other matrix servers talk to that server.

  To join matrix you pick a server (matrix.org has one but there are many more. Some fediverse servers like bark.lgbt and blajah.zone have their own matrix servers under the same name). You sign up for that server same way you did for lemmy.

  Then you pick a client. Element, cinny, sable, fluffychat are a few. These all “speak” the matrix protocol, the way something like the voyager app speaks activitypub, the protocol for lemmy. They all have slightly different features so use the one that has the features you like.

  I love matrix. I self host my own but started on matrix.org. ive migrated my D&D group and friend group from discord to matrix.

  if the server you join supports it, you can also bridge discord, telegram, and other chats to matrix. I still talk to some people on fisvord through a bridge.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Easy Delivery Co. I'll just be a little car driving a kei truck around a mountain town.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yakuza kiwami 3!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Easy Delivery Co. I'll just be a little car driving a kei truck around a mountain town.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m a badass but I’m gonna get cancer in about 15 years

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I am appalled that no one has brought this up so far- but it hurts because they are touching the cervix, which generally doesn’t get touched, and can be very painful to hit. The speculum they are inserting is designed to slightly open the cervix for the examination.

  OP, there are many sizes of vagina. You may have one that’s on the smaller side, with a low pelvic floor. My partner is the same way, and penetration can be painful for them. We have switched to using very small toys or focusing on clitoral stimulation to get them off instead of relying on penetration.

  If your doctor clears you, you may just have a low pelvic floor, and may not like penetrative sex. Which is fine! It’s just good to know about yourself.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The savings are trickling down to us⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not quite, at least not in American healthcare terms. A copay is your portion of the cost for an appointment, procedure, or prescription. For example of the doctor visit is $100 and my copay is $25, I pay $25 and the insurance pays $75 (in practice the insurance doesn’t ever really pay their full share but that’s a more complicated part of the equation.)

  The deductible is how much I have to pay out of pocket in a year before the insurance starts paying anything. My deductible might be say, $1000, meaning I have to pay $1000 out of pocket before the insurance kicks in to cover anything at all.

  max out of pocket is the maximum amount you will pay for medical in a year.

  Oh and of course there is the premium which you pay monthly for the pleasure of having insurance.

  So if your premium is $200, copay is $25, your deductible is $1000, and your max out of pocket is $5000, and a (normal non specialty) doctor visit is $100, you have to visit the doctor 10 times before the insurance pays anything at all (you pay the full $100 each time) and then the 11th visit is $25 and the insurance pays the rest. If you visit the doctor enough to hit max out of pocket (160 more visits to a normal non specialty doctor), then the insurance kicks in to pay 100%. And no your monthly $200 premium doesn’t go towards your max out of pocket

  Most people never hit their max out of pocket and most people without kids that Ive talked to never hit their deductible unless they have a condition that requires regular treatment or if they get into an accident or have something major happen. Then you can blow out your deductible / max out of pocket in one hospital visit.

  So basically your insurance is paid to do diddly squat, except prevent you from going bankrupt if you get into a car accident (except they will totally find ways to deny your claim anyways).

  Source: am a trans man with a neurological condition. I’m a medical nightmare and have had to learn to be a self advocate through multiple American insurances.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When did the Internet come to reflect society? Or has society shaped the internet? Were we always distrusting mean and vindictive before the net? Are we really that bad?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  A phenomenon I’ve seen that’s rather interesting is I moved from the US to Spain, and everyone here is friendly and far more trusting and kind to random strangers than the US ever was. My suspicion and anxiety around strangers has dropped significantly.

  The number of random conversations I get into is much higher, people take an active interest in small talk even when standing in line, I’ve had more people randomly approach me to ask for help, and the idea of someone hurting you physically is an alien concept.

  If you’re from the US, I think the US is just cooked man. Spanish internet, at least from what I’ve been able to find, is also more civil, even in places talking politics. Now maybe I’m not in the myriad of WhatsApp groups where people are actually getting I to it, but the public facing side of things is far more civil, and I rarely see Spaniards in mainstream socials like reddit and whatnot. The joke I’ve heard is that Spain “hasn’t really gotten on board with the internet yet”.

  I think that the modern internet is fed by a social media stream that incentivises devisiveness. Engagement is higher on negative posts, and engagement drives the algorithm. I’ve long been against algorithms feeding you content because those algorithms are slanted to keep you engaged longer, which means showing you content that will upset you, then calming you down with kitten photos until you’re ready to get into another fight.

  So to answer your question, I don’t think it’s a chicken and egg problem, I think it’s a problem with amplification. I think the English speaking internet has long been US centric (or at least caters to the US unfairly) and the US has bred a suspicious and anxiety ridden society. Then corporations came along and figured out just how much gas to put on that fire to squeeze money out of people through social media to take control of what was once a free space of creativity and turn it into an engagement farm, where art and conservation has been converted to “content” and distressing news and devisive conversation has become tools to keep you invested in your feed long enough for them to build a consumer profile on you to ship you targetted ads on Amazon. This in turn amplifies the suspicion and fear already inherent in the meatspace sphere, which feeds the online polarization.

  When you stop either one - either unplugging or entering a calm and connected IRL space (like I did) you break the amplification, and the anxiety stops. This is why “internet detox” is a thing people try to do.

  The internet in its current form is addictive, and like a parasite corporations have learned exactly how much they can take from you and not kill you. It wants to keep you engaged and scared, but it is also exploiting societal issues that were already present to begin with.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Yay, sponsored emojis!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s legit. I have a burner account that is only used for things I absolutely have to, like my utility bills.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Yay, sponsored emojis!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In many parts of the world Whatsapp is the dominate communication platform. My landlord sends me my utility bills through WhatsApp, as is my doctor’s scheduling platform, and my vet’s contact info, etc. It’s basically impossible to do things without it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hands On with the Anbernic RG Rotate: Weird, Unique, and Instantly my Favorite⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  How will the upcoming android changes affect this? Most of the emulators would be sideloaded right?

  Would love this but worried it’ll become obsolete / locked out of updates once google does it’s stupid shit