GreyEyedGhost
@GreyEyedGhost@piefed.ca
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 3 weeks ago:
If someone is behaving poorly, there are two broad reasons. They know and are choosing to (for some value of choosing) and they don’t know and are doing it anyway. If someone is being a dick and doesn’t realize why they’re being a dick, pointing it out can cause them to realize they’re being a dick, at which point they can choose to stop (again, for some value of choosing) or they can not, which puts them in category of knowing and choosing to. All that assumes that they accept your assessment of the situation is correct.
Now, as for your specific alternative? Having been in this type of situation, I would go with something along the lines of, “Aww, honey that sucks. Let’s stop arguing about how your feelings about the state of the kitchen aren’t my problem. Now, do you want cuddles before or after I tidy the kitchen, and where does chocolate and/or ice cream fit into this process?” Now, granted, my wife has learned to accept that my stupid, overly-specific ass is just that and is willing to say things like that on occasion since subtle is only a theoretical concept around here.
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 3 weeks ago:
Because is not an answer. Because can be the first word in an answer, but if nothing is provided afterwards than the answer is essentially, “I believe it to be so, and I choose to provide no evidence whatsoever to support that belief.” And how do you move forward from that? In fact, your specific statement I responded to was
“Because youre doing it”
What kind of response can be made to that? There is no example, merely an assertion. There is nothing specific, merely a general response. What kind of resolution besides complete capitulation or parting ways can be made based on this statement? In fact, if I was given that response in a conversation and was feeling combative, I would be inclined to respond with, “Who’s stonewalling now?” And, given how I put because in quotes, implying a complete statement, I could argue your response to my previous comment was gaslighting.
- Comment on Anon needs a good response 3 weeks ago:
Now you’ve determined that your partner is a poor communicator, because “because” is never a useful answer. Now your question is whether to try to work with your partner to improve communication, or give up on an adult whose communication skills haven’t advanced beyond those of a child in first grade.
- Comment on ‘Seeking connection’: the video game (Arc Raiders) where players stopped shooting and started talking... 3 weeks ago:
Looks like Arc has learned something since then, and it reduces your odds of matching with them but doesn’t completely remove the possibility. I think I’ll keep blocking people I don’t want to play with. Frankly, it’s not surprising that game developers have learned from the mistakes made before, and there are certainly more nuanced options than forcing people to play with people they don’t want to or having to wait hours to match.
- Comment on ‘Seeking connection’: the video game (Arc Raiders) where players stopped shooting and started talking... 3 weeks ago:
That’s your choice, and I’ve met a couple people like that, but you could have just blocked them and moved on. I’ve also had a rando save my stupid ass twice in one raid because I kind of suck at extraction shooters.
In the end, I’ve had about as many meetings where I was ganked as where people just randomly helped me, and a whole lot more where we both said hi and went on our way.
- Comment on ‘Seeking connection’: the video game (Arc Raiders) where players stopped shooting and started talking... 3 weeks ago:
Likewise. I’ve been ganked a number of times, I just block them and move on. Probably 10 player kills in the last 4 months or less? The aggression ranking in matchmaking really seems to help. I’ve yet to get the achievement for player kills, and I’ve seen an uptick when player kills are linked to feats, but overall most of the people I see are helpful and not trying to loot steal or kill you. I hope the PVP players keep being put in matches with each other and are enjoying themselves somewhere I’m not present.
- Comment on Who's receiving and who's loosing electrons? 3 weeks ago:
Here’s a link to an article talking about it, including a small list of materials and if they will lose or gain electrons. I found that with a quick search, more or better ones can be found, I’m sure. I chose this one because it has the split between gain and loss, which others don’t.
- Comment on Samsung is shutting down messages — alternative to Google's messenger? 4 weeks ago:
There is Fossify Messages. A caveat. Fossify is a fork of some apps that were abandoned or had the license changed. After that happened, they were unmaintained for a while. That appears to have changed somewhat, but it has been 2 months since the last update on F-Droid.
- Comment on How do you feel about a 25 year old dating a 46 year old? 5 weeks ago:
The line I use is, “If I was going to bet on this situation, I’d bet against it, but it’s not enough information to make a good judgement in this case.” Much like age differences or wealth differences in relationships, or indigenous status and domestic abuse. If that’s all the info you have.
- Comment on How come if my dog is sick and I take him to get put out of his misery its ok? On a human its not? How come human laws don't apply to animals? I think of our dog as family and he's one of us? 5 weeks ago:
State-run prisons where labor can be required would also qualify as slavery by any definition.
- Comment on An original Lemmy shitpost 5 weeks ago:
These are not the pixels I was looking for!
- Comment on An original Lemmy shitpost 5 weeks ago:
Pixels coming at a premium in this picture.
- Comment on How would you rate your country's constitution? 5 weeks ago:
The notwithstanding clause can’t negate any part of the constitution, but that is a distinction without a difference. That said, it does make it easy to call any politician who uses it a slimy piece of shit and have something to refer to for why you believe that. Not that I would ever call a politician a slimy piece of shit - our slander laws in Canada do not have a clause to use the truth as a defense.
- Comment on Has the scientific community ever reconciled with the fact global warming is going to happen and there is no stopping it? 1 month ago:
Well, the scientists are talking about 95%, which is 400 million people, and if people started dying out due to climate, you would see regions where people have a better time living. These would most likely be in the temperate bands, which are a narrow strip across South America and Africa, and a larger strip across North America and Eurasia. Those northern bands are thousands of kilometers long, and people have traveled those distances on foot before. Moreover, those 5000 people don’t have to be in one place, they need to join up in a few generations at worst. Also, climate collapse isn’t instant, as we are experiencing it right now, so those 5000 can start congregating before the collapse is complete. For reference, 0.1% of 8 billion is 1.6 million people. 5000 people is a third of a percent of that.
Killing every human is pretty hard.
- Comment on Has the scientific community ever reconciled with the fact global warming is going to happen and there is no stopping it? 1 month ago:
Civilization collapse in 200 years is pretty plausible, which would go along with 95% of the population dying. For humans to go extinct would take better than 99.9% dying. 5,000 individuals would be a comfortable minimum viable population for humans to survive.
- Comment on That's how the world works. 1 month ago:
What I’m saying is, either civilization is going to fail or it isn’t. If it is, urban centers are going to collapse and a lot of people are going to die and most gasoline cars will be useless in a couple years. If it isn’t, utilizing the frameworks of civilization to handle disasters will be as effective as anything else we can do, hence no need for extreme resilience (growing you own food, canning, making your own clothing) or rugged individualism.
- Comment on That's how the world works. 1 month ago:
I understand the mindset, but civilization hinges on working together. Being resilient enough to survive on your own is rarely going to involve growing some significant portion of your own calories for an urban population. Being handy will certainly help in general, and having a method to repel bad actors are useful in a complete collapse, but relying on gasoline powered vehicles doesn’t make sense if you think society is going to fail.
- Comment on I'm not a doctor, nor have I played one on TV. 1 month ago:
Maybe OP can tell us what kind of doctor he isn’t.
- Comment on there goes your ram btw 1 month ago:
There was an utterly surreal burger commercial someone prompted that I just loved. It wasn’t really good, but it was a lot.
- Comment on ShitpostID: 4185519047 1 month ago:
“I’d like a Coke.”
“Is Pepsi okay?”
“It will have to do.”
Or
“Do you have Dr. Pepper?”
- Comment on I'm not a doctor, nor have I played one on TV. 1 month ago:
Certainly possible. I haven’t bothered looking into what types of shifts are typical for doctors in hospitals, but $430k is certainly more attractive.
- Comment on I'm not a doctor, nor have I played one on TV. 1 month ago:
I absolutely agree, for me, but is it enough to attract a doctor who probably has $240k in student loans to pay off and can make more elsewhere? To someone in that position it may not be worth responding to.
- Comment on I'm not a doctor, nor have I played one on TV. 1 month ago:
Assuming you get 5 12-hour shifts per month, that’s only $216k per year. Sure, you have a lot of time off, but you can make much more as a doctor, depending on what kind of specialty, of course. Maybe OP can tell us what kind of doctor he isn’t.
- Comment on Twitch: "Hey, come back! This commercial break can't play while you're away." 2 months ago:
It was referenced in every episode, but one episode was about the people who had one.
- Comment on Twitch: "Hey, come back! This commercial break can't play while you're away." 2 months ago:
It’s a greentext from 2013 apparently. It can be found on reddit, and I’ve seen it here, but I doubt I could find it.
- Comment on Ouch 2 months ago:
To be fair, all names are made up, and not just for places. But yes, Farmington is a little more simplistic than say Louisiana.
- Comment on Top DuckDuckGo Image Result for "Morse code chart". It gets worse the longer I look at it. 2 months ago:
As a non-American, I should be unsurprised I’m more familiar with International Morse Code.
- Comment on Fuck the IRS 2 months ago:
Here’s a quote I stumbled across a couple decades ago.
I like paying taxes. With them I buy civilization.
- Comment on Must be nice 2 months ago:
One definition of humor is pain plus distance. The pain is possibly moderate, and the distance for me to do that is impossible to bridge. Sounds pretty funny to me.
- Comment on ‘This shouldn’t be normal’: developers speak out about bigotry on Steam, the world’s biggest PC gaming storefront 2 months ago:
I think what they mean by “community blocklist” is a blocklist maintained by the community which users can have applied to them. This means, rather than everyone having to deal with blocking the trolls individually, only one user has to and the rest get the benefit of that.