Sorry I don’t mean to sounds like I have main character syndrome, that’s not my intent.
It sounds like depersonalisation to me. A form of dissociation.
Lots of trans people deal with it when they’re closeted. I know I did.
Do you ever feel like your life is "scripted"? Like everything is written by some entity controlling your life? Like you live in a fictional universe? Is this feeling normal/common?
Submitted 3 days ago by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to [deleted]
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ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
aeternum@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
I have dp and used to have dr. it truly truly sucks.
Hackworth@piefed.ca 3 days ago
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I thought it said Lotus of Control and I was 'bout to grab a flamethrower ready to burn some flower down.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 days ago
FREE ME FROM YOUR GRASP, CURSED FLOWER!
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 days ago
If you tap it you get 3 free mana and a riding crop
DickFiasco@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I don’t feel like my life is scripted per se, but sometimes I’ll be talking to someone and all of the sudden it feels like someone else has taken control of my body and is doing all the talking while I just sit back and watch. I have to concentrate to get back in control.
slothrop@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
That happens large when I’m on 'shrooms.
El_Scapacabra@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
Autopilot. That’s what I started calling it for lack of a better term. It’s like my consciousness moves to the back of my skull and I’m watching myself interact with the world as if following a script.
For me it’s derealization/depersonalisation (I always confuse the two) caused by complex trauma. Any social interaction can trigger it so I tend to avoid people now.
jimmy90@lemmy.world 3 days ago
i think this is a common side effect of being self aware
little existential crises before getting back into life
Eeyore_Syndrome@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Is a parent or grandparent in your family a narcissist? That crud does trickle down.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Part of it.
But even if they were good parents, I’d still feel like its scripted because of other factors.
Because my “backstory” (I mean might as well use this word since I’m talking as if this is a simulated world), in general, is so fucking bizzare it doesn’t feel real.
AgentOrangesicle@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Neurology tells us that we make decisions before we’re consciously aware that we made them.
I felt that specifically on an anti-seizure drug that I used to stop familial tremors. Almost as if someone was walking in my body and doing everything 5 seconds before I knew what was happening. It’s not abnormal, but it can feel remarkably disconcerting to believe you no longer have agency of your own body. Sorry for that, homeslice, but don’t be too concerned.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
flamiera@kbin.melroy.org 1 day ago
Not really. A lot of it is just happenstances and inconvenient coincidences.
I do have some themes going in my life though that could make it seem that way.
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Anytime I get something good or things are looking too good to be true, there's always something horrible or bad waiting around the corner to ruin that momentum.
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Anytime I am randomly crying or completely angry, it sometimes can mean someone I know is either dead or suffering as proven from the times I got emotional to eventually find an obituary of someone I knew who died.
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Irony loves to rear its head in my life now and then. In the past whenever I've said I never wanted to work at a fast food company, I ended up working at one.
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Anytime I am out to get one thing or do one thing such as a single errand, it always turns out to be the most frustrating experience ever. For example, if I needed to go out and grab one product I forgot to get or needed to get, I'll end up having to store-hop several stores before finally getting it and during that whole trip, I'm dealing with dumbass drivers and even dumber pedestrians. As well as dealing with idiotic shoppers too.
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Anytime I needed something for emergency situations or to double-check something to be sure of it, suddenly the services I use are not available or down for maintenance.
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Currently, I'm dealing with a series of matters that consist of things requiring me to put more effort into them. Like having to double-click things for buttons that are usually one-click or fighting with things that appear to be broken when they worked flawlessly before.
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GrayBackgroundMusic@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
I don’t feel like it’s scripted and that’s slightly worrying. I feel like a plank of wood being tossed about by the sea in a storm. At least with a benevolent god, one can assume that the suffering of life has a purpose. The older I get and the more evil I see prospering, the less confident I feel that there’s a point to it all. This depresses and mildly frightens me.
pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
Yeah, a bit. My life is one of those shows where when something’s finally going right it immediately gets undercut and everything falls apart
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
something’s finally going right it immediately gets undercut and everything falls apart
This is so me 💀
Life is going a bit smoothly? Boom bullying, difficult assignment, test, shitty teacher, parents lash out, political problems, oops chemical spill leaked into your city’s water supply (actually happened), a FUCKING PLANE CRASHED within a 10 mile radius of me, fire on your street, random dude crashing into parked cars on your street (wtf), a fucking global pandemic, civil unrest, suppression of protests, insurrection/coup attempt… etc… etc…
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Last night I turned off a small metalic lamp that’s next to my bed. I then heard a tapping sound like a small dripping water hitting the metalic lamp.
I turned the lamp on. I saw no water. The tapping stopped. I looked at the ceiling. No sign of water. I looked at the lamp. No water. Turned the light back off. Rolled back over, and got comfy.
Tap…tap…tap…
Turned the light back on. Tapping stopped. Still no water.
Turned the light off. The second the light was off, I heard the tap again.
Turned it back on. Still no water.
Got up, got out of bed, checked all around my night stand. Checked behind it. Nothing out of the ordinary.
While standing next to the bed, turned the light off. Tapping resumed.
Turned the light back on, and walked to the living room. Layed down on the couch.
Light on in the bedroom. I’m in the living room. Turn the living room light off.
Now there’s tapping inside the pipes inside the walls. Totally different tap. Totally different place. Totally different tapping sound. This didn’t sound like dripping water. This sounded like someone hitting the pipes with a wooden spoon with the same cadence.
Tap…tap…tap…
But it always stopped when I turned the light on.
So I went into the bathroom, and took a shower.
Now, here’s the kicker. I live alone. I have no pets. I have no rodents in the walls.
The whole thing came off like someone playing a prank on me. Except that person didn’t exist. It felt like I was living some 1930s comedy skit. Some Abbot and Costello skit. Except this is just me, alone in my apartment, going insane.
A_A@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
it could be this one or another bug :
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Xestobium_sound.oggKolanaki@pawb.social 3 days ago
You sure it wasn’t just the light fixture contracting after cooling down from being warm after being on? Metal light fixtures tend to do that.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Username checks out
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Sounds like poorly soldered joints cracking to me
Beacon@fedia.io 3 days ago
If someone scripted my life then he needs a massive kick in the nuts
bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Not really, mine is pretty random and based on choices I made in the past
wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 3 days ago
No.
HasturInYellow@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Where do you think the idea of “The Fates” comes from? Or any number of other similar deities/forces in nearly every society around the world. That feeling has been with us as humans for a long, long time.
Sunsofold@lemmings.world 2 days ago
Do you mean ‘life feels scripted’ in the sense of you feel like there is a narrative structure to life, like your actions and words are decided by an external writer? Or do you mean in the sense of life has a narrative economy, like someone could have ‘plot armor?’ Or is it the sense that life should have more structure, like it goes against some unwritten law of writing that some things could happen at all?
JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 days ago
The worse things get in my life the more I feel like this. I believe it’s a consequence of being raised Christian. (Though I am an atheist now.) When I was younger I believed God never gives you more than you can handle. So when things got bad it felt like God was breaking that promise. Now that I’m older it feels like “bad writing.” Like, really? This many bad things in such a short time period? It’s a little on the nose, isn’t it? It’s why I can’t rewatch I saw the TV Glow until I know I am in a very stable mental place.
Major spoilers
The main characters enjoyed a TV show that got cancelled on a cliff hanger. It is revealed that the characters are actually characters from that show which is reality and the false reality is the world they’re stuck in. To get back to the true world they have to bury themselves alive. I saw this movie right in the heels of Trump’s inauguration when I had a lot of other stress going on. Naturally, a movie with 4th wall breaking lines like “Do you ever feel like your life is a TV show?” when I did feel like my life was scripted and the way for them to get out was suicide was pretty terrifying.
The irony being that I have been going through a bit of a gender journey for a while and knew the movie had themes to do with that, but none of that really hot anywhere close to home as the rest mentioned above. I’m just glad I planned to see it surrounded by friends.
The idea that there’s an escape hatch on reality is so alluring. The idea that all the bad things in your life are the fault of one person, even if they’re a metaphysical entity, is so appealing. The sad reality is that it’s all random and sometimes we just get unlucky streaks.
celeste@kbin.earth 3 days ago
No, but it's something I've heard other people describe. I don't know if it's common, but it doesn't sound odd.
People at church when I went as a kid would talk about a sense of feeling guided. People talked about feeling "called" to something. I always felt a lot of nothing, but I don't think most of them were lying about that feeling, even if I suspect a different source than they did.
IronBird@lemmy.world 3 days ago
it’s called free will, most people really don’t have it because they’re effectively stuck in the labor trap. perpetually struggling for their basic survival needs of food/water/shelter that their brain barely considers the higher needs of self actualization and all that other rich-people problem shit.
Le-Li362@thebrainbin.org 3 days ago
What I find truly amazing is that sometimes a thought suddenly flashes through my mind: Hey, I feel like I've anticipated this very situation before! Sometimes I can even predict what someone else is about to say next.
ricecake@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
We’ve actually figured out that that one is basically a “stutter” in your memory encoding system. Consciousness isn’t as continuous as it feels, and so you can get a situation where your memory says it just put some stuff in working memory and consciousness thinks it means your current thoughts or observations. So you end up with a feeling of a past recollection of a current awareness. Because it’s tagged “past” you can’t do anything other than understand it to be in the past, even though you’re actively experiencing it.
A related phenomenon is how you “always” wake up just before the loud noise. Even though you’re asleep you still hear things and process audio. A loud noise happens and your audio processing tells you to wake up. Conscious you wakes up, creating that new memory, and then processes the noise that woke you.Consciousness is a process that takes place over a duration, not an instant.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I predicted someone would make a brand new accoint after the timestamp of my original post just to comment on the thread lol 🤔
Universe, are you trolling me?
swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 day ago
I don’t feel like any of those things, personally.
undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 3 days ago
I’ve felt like I’m in a simulation quite often. It sounds very cliché and I never thought I’d actually feel it (the idea has always fascinated me but c’mon, really?) up until the last few years.
EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 3 days ago
Some things happen in my life way more frequently than statistical probabilities would suggest.
sircac@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Even if such observation of yours is an objective unbiased statistical estimation… statistical deviations as large as M are also expected on one out of N times, the trial factor correction is non trivial at all… even without multiverse assumptions
dsilverz@calckey.world 3 days ago
@DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works @nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
I don't only feel, I know it. Not just me: you, everyone here, all humans, living beings, every cosmic stuff. And there are scientific, psychological, spiritual, philosophical and political explanations.
When it comes to Science, our actions are just a byproduct of causality within a dynamic, closed system, an organism constrained by laws of physics from which the principles of chemical reactions emerge. If we were to stick to a strict, Dawkinsian Science, we're no different than other dynamic systems across the universe. It's all physical causality devoid of meaning.
In psychology, if Theory of Mind is to be considered, the mind is also a byproduct of all conditions in which the being existed and exists. I like to cite Derren Brown and his works, especially "The Push", which perfectly illustrates how a person can be fooled by social compliance (I'm not just referring to the main plot where a person is brought into a gala auction and woven into a web of deception that leads them into murdering someone by pushing them from a rooftop, I'm also referring to the selection process where the candidates are tricked into standing or sitting at the ring of a bell). I also nod to the ending scene of The Artifice Girl where Cherry, in a talk with her creator, complains about how every choice of hers are inexorably bound to her initial directives. I could also nod to Freud and to how superego and id are fated to conflict through ego.
In spirituality, Gnosticism explains how matter is a prison crafted by Demiurge (Yaodabaoth) so Archons can siphon and feed from our suffering. Luciferianism and other LHP traditions seek to fight the tyrannical order of Demiurge and the Archons aligned to him, who are seen by Abrahamic as "The Father (sic) and his angels". The Calvinist Christianity emphasizes the biblical verse "before I formed ye in the womb, I knew ye" (Jeremiah 1:5). Some religions, especially ancient, feature a counterpoint to this order/god, the Primordial Chaos/Darkness/Goddess (e.g. Taoist Yin, Sumerian Ereshkigal). Freemasonry's "Ordo ab Chao" is a spiritual flavor of the scientific Big-Bang/Hadean Eon, where order emerges from this primordial chaos.
Philosophically, our senses deceive us (Descartes) but those very senses is the way we learn and become, we're wolves to ourselves (Hobbes), society is inherently evil and corrupts its peers (Rousseau) as we're prone to becoming the very monsters we vowed to fight against (Nietzsche): all of which are kind of pre-established principles ruling us, individually and socially.
Politically, capitalism needs no introduction on how it compels us to be a disposable cog in a machine whose lines "must go up". But this doesn't make other systems (communism, socialism, etc) less evil: every form of authority is a megaphone for all evilness inherent to us humans.
Even this reply of mine was predetermined, spiritually, physically, socially.IronBird@lemmy.world 3 days ago
yeah, well…that’s just like your opinion man.
Kolanaki@pawb.social 3 days ago
I mean… Like a video game, sure.
Something scripted the laws that govern the universe, which in turn govern me. But it’s, like, dynamic and not on rails kinda scripted.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 days ago
free will doesn’t exist. Premium will it’s everywhere
TragicNotCute@lemmy.world 3 days ago
No. I think my life is generally too boring to be scripted.
the_q@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
An even more horrible thought is no one can prove that isn’t what’s happening.
DundasStation@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
It’s The Organization! Bring out the microwave, Okabe!
sparkles@piefed.zip 3 days ago
No, not really.
I mean.. I think there are variables that predict our life outcomes, at least the odds of them.
Things like where we are born, who are parents are, our environment all have roles in the experiences we will have throughout our entire lives.
Behavior is somewhat predictable once you study it as a science. So I guess it could seem rather scripted when you figure it like that.
Flamekebab@piefed.social 3 days ago
Not really, no.
Tikiporch@lemmy.world 3 days ago
A lot of your life will play out seemingly by design, but it’s just a byproduct of living in a society.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I watch scenes in Movie/TV where a character has a traumatic childhood and memory/flacshback scene, then I realize I have the same feel, so I feel like someone staged it, like my older brother is actually an actor in this dark version of truman show purposfully giving me that traumatic memory.
IronBird@lemmy.world 3 days ago
movies are meant to make you feel a certain way, to come to some realization in your own life. this is the point of all art, somebody is telling you a message
Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I don’t feel important enough for that. Same reason I’m not religious. People claiming a personal relationship with the goddamn creator of the universe are hella conceited.
Beacon@fedia.io 3 days ago
Eh, if you believe that god is omnipotent then it's not really hubristic to think that god can easily have a personal relationship with every living being, which includes you
IronBird@lemmy.world 3 days ago
the funniest ones to me are the ones that haven’t even read their books …like…bruh, if I thought a book had the answer to literally all of lifes questions i would be reading the shit out of it.
but the majority of these people claiming to be religious are apparently content to be spoonfed a verse or two every week or so? there’s something seriously wrong with that lack of personal agency.
they’ve basically given up their own free will for the deluded idea they can live forever
halcyoncmdr@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I’d say even prideful, you know one of the 7 deadly sins, often considered the worst of them and even the root/source of the other 6. The sheer hubris needed to believe you have a personal connection that others don’t is ridiculous.