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- Comment on How to relax and most importantly stop thinking about the things i could be doing? 10 hours ago:
What does relaxing look like to you?
- Comment on Hollow Knight: Silksong Will Release for Only $20, Release Times Revealed 18 hours ago:
I disagree. Jerks should be met with jerky behavior.
- Comment on Hollow Knight: Silksong Will Release for Only $20, Release Times Revealed 23 hours ago:
Just say Hollow Knight was too hard for you. It’s OK.
- Comment on You are stardust. 1 day ago:
Ah yes cosmic coping…
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 2 days ago:
This is you making assumptions based on your perceptions. In fact it reads as a defense of their, the NTs, action’s through the lens of your experience meaning this is how you treat others and don’t assume any responsibility because you’re being “nice”. OPs response isn’t necessarily one they choose; it is likely a reaction, and while they do have responsibility in that type of response, it isn’t all on them. If someone comes up to you and slaps you across the face are you going to be like “oh thank you and nice to meet you”? It’s a bit of an extreme example, but the input onslaught that is social interactions to certain people may as well be a slap in the face. Again, you’re framing this whole issue from your own experience.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 2 days ago:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help with managing symptoms and helping you make changes to lessen the impact others have on you and vice versa. I know you mentioned that mental health isn’t really something you can easily get help with, but there are sites and books you can check out at libraries that can at least put you on the right path. I will warn you though that the exercises and methods CBT asks of you will straight up make you angry and feel stupid. You’ll reject them as silly or tell yourself that you’re experiences are different so it won’t work for you, but I promise as someone who also felt that way it isn’t true. That rigidity I mentioned before is what will be fueling those thoughts and feelings so keep that in mind if you choose to look into the CBT.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 3 days ago:
Your description of authenticity and its importance to you is a societal expectation. The request of talking more from others is a societal expectation. The fact that you’re struggling in a system where you’re viewed as outside the norm is societal expectation.
People in general expect the world and the people they interact with to be like them more or less. Your coworkers do it to you and if frustrates you, but you’re doing it to them which frustrates them. You expect authenticity because you’re attempting authenticity and they’re expecting societal norms and are presenting societal norms.
You aren’t required to participate in their system, but it won’t be easy on you.
I do want to touch on something you said about societal expectations. You say they’re a form of unconscious, self imposed control. How is your authenticity any different? Autism makes it hard to think outside a tried and true path. That rigidity is difficult to deal with, but may be worth looking into. Regardless, being authentic will be difficult in most social spaces, but that isn’t an absolute. The onus is on both you and the people around you.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 3 days ago:
You’re assuming a lot from a few paragraphs, and in a way proving their point. The assumption that some autistic people are pleasant so it must be possible for many is just plain wrong. There are autistic people that can’t speak or that constantly scream and being around them is difficult with personality being meaningless in any interactions with them.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 3 days ago:
Why are other people and societal expectations so important to you?
- Comment on Vivaldi takes a stand: keep browsing human 4 days ago:
Still chrome.
- Comment on Are you not entertained? 4 days ago:
Ah yes the anti anti…
- Comment on Throwback to peak plague time when the animals were wondering where all the hoomans went 😂 1 week ago:
Further proof humanity was a mistake.
- Comment on What’s the plan? 1 week ago:
is bald
- Comment on 1 week ago:
You live in there modern world and see how things are going and your can’t believe people support the destruction of established systems? Ok.
- Comment on Framework is teasing a ‘big’ update for August 26th — could it be Framework 16? 1 week ago:
Why’s that?
- Comment on Microsoft's latest Windows 11 24H2 update breaks SSDs/HDDs, may corrupt data 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on What's your thoughts on this? 2 weeks ago:
Weird take…
- Comment on LYING TO CHILDREN 2 weeks ago:
I’ll have you know he’s a super genius.
- Comment on [Discussion] Ranking the highest-grossing video games 2 weeks ago:
These are definitely being voted in by younger gamers.
- Comment on Why is kindness often viewed as a sign of naïveté? 3 weeks ago:
When you get walked over how do you react?
- Comment on What is the magic diet for no-wipe poops? 4 weeks ago:
Then you risk constipation.
- Comment on What is the magic diet for no-wipe poops? 4 weeks ago:
So no sugar or even aspartame? Dairy? You might also have an allergy.
- Comment on What is the magic diet for no-wipe poops? 4 weeks ago:
High fiber and proper hydration.
- Comment on change_org 4 weeks ago:
You have a lot of faith in what people in this country realize while also “full stopping” the responsibility that we are funding genocide. You think that because taxes are required to be paid that that somehow removes the responsibility from the tax payer, but that’s just a cop out. If ANYONE in this country really gave a flying shit about fixing anything that is wrong then everyday would be a protest. People would give up their comforts and stop buying shit. People would quit going to their jobs. People would stop paying their taxes. We won’t though. We’re ok with the far away genocide because we can hop on social media and be like #stopgenocide so that EVERYONE knows we’re good guys. It’s all performance and you prove that with your argument. “I’m not causing genocide!!!” - You
- Comment on change_org 4 weeks ago:
I’m doing neither. This is a fucking fact. Our, yes our, tax dollars are killing people. I’m sorry you live in some delusion that thinks this isn’t true. You trying to reject truth and deny responsibility is the MAGA move here. Deal with it.
- Comment on change_org 4 weeks ago:
I didn’t say it was voluntary.
- Comment on change_org 4 weeks ago:
Well it’s true even if you don’t like knowing it.
- Comment on change_org 4 weeks ago:
True, but oddly you can contribute to wars by being American and paying taxes.
- Comment on Quokkas! 4 weeks ago:
Human mothers will sell sexual access to their babies. Humans are animals.
- Comment on What do you think is the largest number a human can actually grasp / truly comprehend? 4 weeks ago:
That’s not how the human brain typically works. We summarize, categorize, lump etc so the concept of numbers is understood.
