DeathByBigSad
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- Comment on How come in American classrooms they make another language an elective. Why not teach our kids as many languages possible that way if we go somewhere we will kind of have uper hand? 10 hours ago:
You’ll also be more likely to treat people who speak a different language as people rather than things.
Conversely, I sort of have a superiority complex because I’m bilingual, so I sort of¹ silengly judge Chinese Diaspora that cant read Chinese and Speak either Cantonese or Mandarin.
(¹Not that much, like I don’t treat them any worse, I just a “I have more linguistic knowledge than you 😏” moment, and silently “patting myself on the back”)
When I first came to the US, I got discriminated upon by ABCs (American-Born Chinese) for not speaking English… (like do they expect me to know a language the moment I step off a plane? the fuck?)… so that’s probably why I think the way I do.
Even my cousins, who were born in and grew up in the US, didn’t wanna talk to me… like I could just feel the silent treatment and like were so cold to me.
I remembers the kids in school that I “vibed” with the most were Cantonese-speakers.
Didn’t feel like I could confidently talk to ABCs, like its just couldn’t really “vibe” with them until like more than 4 years of learning English… Like even when I already grasped the basics 1/2 years in… I still didn’t feel like I’ve mastered it…
Honestly it’s sort of a ego thing.
Every time I wanna kms, I remind myself that I’m bilingual and most people only know one language, so I just put off the thoughts. Cuz my next incarnation, I might not have this opportunity to be bilingual again. (My knowledge of Chinese isn’t actually that good, but its better than most ABCs, who can’t even read basic characters)
- Comment on How come in American classrooms they make another language an elective. Why not teach our kids as many languages possible that way if we go somewhere we will kind of have uper hand? 15 hours ago:
I’ve almost never been in a situation where speaking Spanish was gamechanging…
So yea they’ve been teaching Spanish for like 2 years in middle school, never retained much except basics like uno dos tres cuatro cingco seis… and me llama pizza, and me no hablo espanol…
since I never got to use it outside of class
But yes I agree, its cool to have another language, but then it again you just lose it anyways since you never have the opportunity to use it, most people will never use it.
Also its about a person’s will
I remember school used to make me read boring shakespeare shit or the oddyssey, yeah I just can’t… soooo boring
Same logic with language learning…
Honestly I have more chances of using Chinese (I’m ethnic Chinese living near a lot of Asians) than using Spanish… so yea there’s that
And an average non-Asian that never goes to Chinese restaurants probably don’t need to learn any extra languages at all.
Also a lot of countries teach English because its a lingua franca so I think English speakers just expects others to be able to communicate anyways and so theres a less of an incentive to learn anyways.
Oh btw my high school does requires two credits (aka: two years) of learning a foreign language…
So guess what:
I chose the easy way out and just picked Chinese since I already knew it from two years of school in China 😎 (you can boo me all you want but who wouldn’t just do this for an easy A?)
They actually put me in Spanish at first but all the kids (I know its “high school” but people still act like “kids” so I’m gonna use that word) were misbehaving that I was just like why not just switch to Chinese, a language I already knew LOL
I’m glad I did make the switch, so comfy there lol, literally everyone behaved better (cuz no mishaving kid is gonna choose the hardest language, they’d probably be trying to change out of that class)
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took the twin to put up for adoption
Lol my mom used to tell me how doctors / medical staff in China were sketchy af and sometimes they trafficked children… a problem fueled by One Child Policy and fertility issues and society’s obsessive desire to have children and especially a “male heir” to “carry on the bloodline”, so my mom told me stories about how “oh X person in Y province found that his parents arent his real parents and the hospital trafficked him and sold him…”
Idk why mom keep telling me these stories, terrified me as a kid…
Sometimes I wonder if I am even the real biological child of my parents… 🤔
- Comment on [deleted] 1 day ago:
She ate the other one.
You’re lucky she didn’t eat you lol
- Comment on [deleted] 1 day ago:
Flowers in the Attic 2: IRL Boogaloo
- Comment on I'm craving the taste of a rather porky man...... 2 days ago:
“A man who never eats pork bun is never a whole man”
-Sleeping Dogs, a Pro-Cannibalism game
- Comment on How Dare You 😡 2 days ago:
They have laws in China that make it illegal to go no contact with your parents… and you have to support them in their old age if they cant support themselves…
Filial Piety in a nutshell, Thanks Confucious 🫠
- Comment on We're just scanning for the bear... 2 days ago:
I’m male but when I was a kid, my mom talked about stranger danger a lot and warned me about the supposed widespread kidnappings (was in China) and warned of “strangers following me home” I constantly just look around and glance back behind me every 30 seconds or so and check if someone is following me… and same thing when in the US too
This habit just stuck with me…
I probably look weird af lol
- Comment on I am untethered, and my rage knows no bounds 2 days ago:
Instructions Unclear: Fucked the UN, and withdrew from it. 👊🇺🇸🔥
(Hey guys what’s the weird flash of light (☢️💥) outside my window, isn’t it supposed to be night time?)
- Comment on Westerners, what's your impression on the Chinese Diaspora? And what does the people around your area of residence think of the Chinese Diaspora? 3 days ago:
Cuz I’m one of them and I’m just curious lol.
One of the things I notice a lot is microaggressions.
I hear the “Do you speak english?” question get asked a lot… which is mildly annoys me once I recognize the implications… cuz I’ve been in the US since I was 8 basically close to a native born IMO, so that kinda made think like: if I was white they probably wouldn’t have asked that right?…
I mean I don’t really get that offended, there are a lot of Asian immigrants… so they probably have a statistical bias in their mental image…
Literally 2 days ago I had an appointment for my depression and the… I guess a therapist (cuz not licensed to write medications so not a “psychaitrist”)… a white male… was like “Do you speak English?”…
I was just like… 🙄
(Its fine tho, vibes were okay)
so I was just wondering what sterotypes people have…
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- Comment on For Americans, what do you really think of Latin Americans? 3 days ago:
Ngl I assumed “latin america” was just a synonym for “south america” before I looked it up just now.
So… I know I might be wrong but my mental image is just: spanish speaking + developing countries, and a vibe like the portrayal of Mexico in the media
I mean when you don’t have much info, the only thing thats sticks in your mind is just mass media depictions, and honestly I don’t know too much about them.
As of the people? Please excuse me for the streotyping but the “Machismo” thing comes to mind… again its probably because the media portrayals that got stuck in my mind.
I don’t view people as any better or worse, I as an immigrant and minority have faced racism and xenophobia, and having grown up in an environment of diversity and multiculturalism, I’ve learned to be more accepting.
- Comment on If someone tells you that communism has led to famines in the USSR and China, that it doesn't have any incentives and that anyone who supports it use products of capitalism, how do you counter this? 4 days ago:
I mean Mao’s stupid bullshit didn’t exactly help…
Literally things improved after his death because Deng Xiaoping oversaw the opening up and reforms
- Comment on What books have a lot of useful information should I get? (I mean like a Wikipedia thing with vast knowledge, but non-electronic.) 4 days ago:
Your PC can’t last forever
- Comment on What books have a lot of useful information should I get? (I mean like a Wikipedia thing with vast knowledge, but non-electronic.) 4 days ago:
Wait till they insert AI chips into your pc and start scanning for anti-government articles to delete out of your .zim file
- Comment on What books have a lot of useful information should I get? (I mean like a Wikipedia thing with vast knowledge, but non-electronic.) 4 days ago:
Encyclopedia Britannica
They stopped printing in 2010 :/
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- Comment on Roses are red, cabinets have shelves... 5 days ago:
Idk why but “roses are red” jokes always make me giggle like a child
- Comment on Is it possible that none of this is real? 5 days ago:
My mom told me my older brother ate one of those… unfortunately he’s still here and tormented me for most of my childhood
- Comment on Lost in translation 5 days ago:
I’mma make a terrible translation:
Hot (辣) Chicks (鸡) from Sichuan (川) squirting water (泼水) on you
-Source: Someone who went to 2nd grade in China 🤭
- Comment on Is it possible that none of this is real? 5 days ago:
Lol I think I posted something like this before.
First existential crisis? I had like 10 of these ready.
My life is so bizzare because
I WASNT SUPPOSED TO BE BORN
Literally narrowly even lived to birth since there was One Child Policy and CCP made it their mission to terminate pregnancies if the woman already had gave birth to a child. So I was my mom’s second child… if they found out I would’ve been deleted so quickly, they’d grab my mom and forced abortion.
Feel like as if its scriped.
Like what are the odds.
Did someone make this simulation and added this to my “character sheet” for funsies?
Movie character “crazy backstory” type of shit.
Still crazy to think about the fact that I am not even supposed to be alive walking around in this world.
Every time I think I’m just chillin, BOOM crazy shit happens.
A fucking PLANE CRASHED near where I live… what the fuck… must be a scripted event
So surreal
- Comment on What's stopping youtube from just going full authoritarian and mandate DRM for all their videos in attempt to prevent people from downloading it or block ads? 1 week ago:
For example: Netflix run on a browser, but it only sends you encrypted data, you need to enable your browser’s DRM setting to decrypt this data. For HD content, it uses L1 Widevine that only works on Secure Boot enabled and TPM enabled Windows installation. So the decryption runs in the secure element, then data displayed on your screen. I’m no expert but its designed in a way that makes screen recorders unable to capture the video, resulting in a blackscreen.
If you try to play it on Linux, it reverts back to L3 Widevine which only for netflix they only allow SD content to run with L3 Widevine
Of course you can use an actual camera to record the screen, but then its a degraded image.
So Youtube could theoretically enforce L1 Widewine on every video, if they wanted to.
- Comment on [NSQ] What are you actually looking forward to this year? 1 week ago:
Oh fuck. Fucking staggered elections, jfc.
- Comment on What was your social media path? 1 week ago:
I first got internet access in 2010. Phones didn’t exist in 2010s… well I didn’t have one at least.
So I just… made a facebook to talk with school friends when I’m at home… I only ever had like single digits of people to add… like I didn’t speak much English and hard to connect with anyone that didn’t speak Cantonese (or Mandarin). (still typed English on the chat tho.
Eventually I left nyc and I just deleted my facebook because I think I just didn’t feel close with them anymore.
I don’t think I even ever “posted” much if at all… I just used it for facebook games, which I eventualy grew out off.
Then I re-made an account to connect with someone back in nyc, then later I just feel like its too awkward to continue chatting since we havent talked for months/years (forgot how long) and I deleted it again after just exchanging a few “oh school in Philly is crazy lots of fights”.
Then I spent some time on some game forums.
Then I found reddit. I just scrolled through the top platforms and a pseudo-anonymous platform is exactly what I wanted… being an introvert.
I mostly scrolled, never posted much. Didn’t have an account most of the time, only occasionally made throwaways to comment then nuke it in a month or so… don’t even remember any of the usernames I used.
Then everything changed when the Fire Nation attached on June 12, 2023
- Comment on Can people irl be as mean as some people online? 1 week ago:
Some people actually be toxic irl and have a false persona of a “good person” on their online (real name) accounts
- Comment on Tune a fish 1 week ago:
“吞拿魚”
[transliteration of “tuna”] + [“fish”]
- Comment on What's stopping youtube from just going full authoritarian and mandate DRM for all their videos in attempt to prevent people from downloading it or block ads? 1 week ago:
idk how they do it, but browsers have DRM built right into it, you can play a stream from netflix but if you try to record it, its just a blackscreen…
- Comment on What's stopping youtube from just going full authoritarian and mandate DRM for all their videos in attempt to prevent people from downloading it or block ads? 1 week ago:
I mean that’s what DRM stops…
You can’t record it, its just a blackscreen…
You can try it. Or Try asking a friend/relative to screenrecord their netflix…
I mean unless you literally take out a camera to record it… but then the video quality degrades since you aren’t gonna get a 1:1 from making a videotape of a screen.
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- Comment on ESL homework 1 week ago:
I think many Chinese people are also bilingual
Yes… some are even tri-lingual because of village dialect (eg: Taishanese) + province dialect (eg: Cantonese) + national dialect (Mandarin)
Unfortunately, the PRC government is heavily pushing Mandarin and some of the local variants (aka: “dialects”) are slowly dying… some kids in Guangzhou don’t even speak Cantonese anymore…
(i.e. Wu+ always mandarin)
Shanghaiese is semi-dead… from what I heard
Cantonese is slowly limping its way forward only because they have Hong Kong TV, I don’t think there are many TV shows in Shanghaiese.
If Hong Kong falls… Cantonese is gonna die… :(