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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨questions about sex toys: would it be a bad idea to fully insert a vibrating egg in my bum?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  If you’re looking for a good online place in the US, peepshowtoys.com has been the best place for conventional toys for me. They only carry actually body safe stuff

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨questions about sex toys: would it be a bad idea to fully insert a vibrating egg in my bum?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Ok, I’m going to step up to the plate here. I’m an experienced butt stuffer. There are two main safety concerns – having your body move things further in than you can retrieve, and unsafe materials giving you ass cancer.

  You’ve probably heard the adage, without a base, without a trace. In essence, your pelvic floor muscles will move objects around without you being aware or being able to stop it, and it can make things very difficult to retrieve. Your rectum is actually split into two by a muscle known as the inner band, which technically isn’t a sphincter but is in practicality. When we squeeze stuff out, we’re compressing the bottom half, squeezing the band and loosening the anus to push stuff out. If something untethered or without a base makes it’s way into the upper half, you’re not just going to be able to squeeze it out like when you shit, it’s in the wrong place for that. You’re in for an anxious fishing trip or wait, or a very embarrassing er trip. And this movement isn’t something that happens by accident, your rectum actively moves stuff back up if it’s not expelled.

  Second, material safety. In the US, it’s perfectly legal to sell toys that aren’t body safe. I don’t recommend plastic for anal use at all. Silicone is safe, but it has to be platinum cure or medical grade. These use platinum as part of the silicone curing process and is incredibly resistant to breaking down, which tin cure silicone will do. So, even a silicone egg with a tether might not be safe for butt use.

  Ultimately, I honestly don’t think vibrating butt toys are all that great. I highly recommend getting a “big” (large as you can fit) squishy plug like and square peg egg plugs or a topped toys gape keeper and doing kegel exercises with it in. That’s been far better for prostate stimulation in my experience.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When leftists say "landlord are parasites" or similar dislike of landlords, do they also mean the people that own like a couple of houses as an investment, or only the big landlords?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s shades of gray. A company that rents out millions of houses is millions times worse than your aunt. Your aunt is still contributing to unaffordable housing and keeping 2-3 families from permanent housing. How bad she is is up for debate and I for one don’t care to debate that. Being upset about people like your aunt is pointless when we should be insanely angry about corporate mass homeownership.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon holds her bf⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh I know why, it’s not like I couldn’t find a relationship if I tried, it’s that I think I’d be a terrible partner and my presence in someone’s life would make it worse and I’m not willing to do that to someone. Struggling incredibly with ADHD and I don’t think I’d be able to give a partner the proper time and attention due to the need to shovel stimulation into the black hole that is my brain, and I have bad depressive crashes, much worse than the baseline misery, that no one can help with and make people who care about me feel bad and guilty about not being able to help. Things have to improve a lot for me to seriously consider dating, and at this point I know better than to think that could happen.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon holds her bf⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No one and probably won’t any time soon for a plethora of reasons. When I hooked up with a guy for the first time he really made me feel attractive and wanted and I almost broke down too. Terrible self-esteem and being starved for affection is a rough time.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨That's right!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m too fucked up for an SO. There’s a song lyric that goes “How’s anyone else gonna love you, if you don’t love you too” and like, yeah. Way too full of self hatred to be appealing to anyone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is in college⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  People love hating people. Simple as

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What gives you hope to keep going?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Hope? I have none. I continue on through the power of avoidance and denial. If I stop to think about things it turns into suicidal thoughts, so I just do my damnedest not to think.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  From the perspective of someone who generally would prefer not to exist, because I don’t trust my brain to make that decision. How we perceive reality can vary incredibly from it, suicide can seem not only an appropriate response to your situation but the only way to escape it one day, only to have the next day feel nowhere near as bad. I’m short, requiring other people’s input and approval on your decision to die is a good thing. Medical assistance in dying SHOULD be legal and available everywhere, but it’s important to make sure it’s actually appropriate.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon creates a business plan⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Pittsburgh has the slang term “Yinz” which is used like “y’all” and I’ve taken to using the singular “yin” for a gender neutral replacement for “guy” in the phrase “my guy”, because “my yin” still carries that condescending tone that’s vital (to me, anyways). Not telling you what to say or anything just fun to come across some grappling with the same language problem

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon gets a pizza⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Chill my yin, no need to go full Israel over a culture classifying peaches differently

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon gets a pizza⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  A fruit? Never heard of anyone referring to it as a veggie. Cultural difference?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's important⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, I know my view of reality isn’t accurate. Doesn’t make things easier to handle but it’s why I’m still handling them. At the worst of times I’m just living for the sake of other people which while it keeps me here can also be really frustrating – it’s like other people are holding themselves hostage against my nonexistence. I do talk about it with some friends that are already that close. I honestly kind of credit one of them with saving my life in June, though she doesn’t know it. It just feels like life keeps pulling blocks from the jenga tower that I am and there’s not many left before I collapse.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's important⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Just because I want to die doesn’t mean I should drag friends and family down with me

  Stressing them the hell out about my well-being just makes life worse for them and piles guilt on me

  If/when I do kill myself I want none of them to know it was acutely that bad because then no one can blame themselves for not doing anything to stop it

  Letting anyone that close to me would purely be doing them a massive disservice

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do our brains process reality? I heard our eyes were just low-res cameras and our brains were doing all the heavy lifting in 'rendering' reality.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The top commenter is correct. It’s why when you glance at a clock with a second hand, it can seem like it takes too long for it to move for the next second. It moved as you moved your eyes, and your brain didn’t make up the movement.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do Counterstrike and the other top 10 games on Steam NEVER change?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Which is kind of funny because that corresponds inversely with the quality of the game lol. The game director changed and they have been killing it every since

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do Counterstrike and the other top 10 games on Steam NEVER change?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Buildcraft + IC2, my beloved

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I love diablo-likes, but they're also really annoying.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You specifically called out PoEs passive tree, but honestly the tree isn’t the crazy complicated part of making builds–its finding combinations of mechanics that synergize above average. On the tree sure, but the gear and actual skills are really what makes it crazy. Planning around what items can have what mods and what you can reasonably expect to get on what budget is the real brain disabler for me. I love build crafting, but fuck I hate planning rare tier gear.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, I’m not a huge pain person either. I don’t enjoy the pain, I enjoy the submission, if that makes sense. The dom I occasionally see will alternate between spanking me and gently stroking my body, building the anticipation and juxtaposing the pain, and will fake on spanks–it’s truly something I never thought I’d love so much.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Scat, eh, not my thing but I don’t find it repulsive. Not being grossed out by shit makes enemas more convenient. Watersports, sure, I’ve had a dom use me as a urinal, pretty hot. Rape? Sure, on the receiving end. Mostly in the vein of CNC with bdsm.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  10 tbh. No pedophile shit but some things that would probably make some friends break ties with me. My close friends would understand but the ones who I’ve drifted away from over time who are more towards the conservative side of things (NOT conservatives though) would probably just peace out. More public facing, probably a 7 or 8? Let’s go with 8. Into BDSM and a big sub, watersports, impact play, bondage, etc. Petplay, kind of, I’d love to be someone’s pet but animal roleplay isn’t something I’m comfortable with. I’m a huge anal enjoyer and a size queen but I’ve only toyed, never been fucked. Some friends are comfortable with it and I can talk about it casually with them, others aren’t so I don’t bring it up around them. So yeah, in terms of the bell curve, I’m waaaaaay off to the right in sexual weirdness. Took me a long time to get comfortable with it to the extent I can talk about it like this, and now I’m a chronic oversharer. If you want to know about the 10, you can do me, it’s just not something I want available to anyone scrolling through my post history.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When you inhale helium from a balloon, do you weigh less?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Weight is purely the effect of gravity on mass. Do you consider yourself to weigh negative weight when you’re floating in a pool and the scale is on the bottom of it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When you inhale helium from a balloon, do you weigh less?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Less the difference between weight and mass and more the affect of buoyancy on your method of measurement. If you float in water, it doesn’t mean you’re weightless in water. It just means the buoyant force of the water overpowers gravity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I read parts of it and basically

  Having lots of single dates or low numbers of dates per partner many times that end in sex and don’t continue into anything will make you burned out on dating. He dubs this used condom syndrome, imo it’s too on the nose.

  He rambles on a lot more about dating and different categories of daters.

  Dudes not wrong about the core idea but his writing needs some serious work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Had to read it 3 times to make sure⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah was so happy when I read that. Lovely to see no forced arbitration or class action waiver bs

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When you inhale helium from a balloon, do you weigh less?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s a fun question, and kind of depends on how you see it. If you’re going by “standing on and reading a scale in Earth’s atmosphere”, I believe the scale would read ever so slightly less. However, this is kind of mixing up weight and how we measure weight. Helium still has mass, it’s not negative mass, it still is affected by gravity and gets pulled down by it like everything else. It’s just that it’s less dense than other gasses in the atmosphere, and so the buoyancy overpowers gravity and it floats. So, you with deflated lungs actually weigh less than you with lungs inflated with helium, even if that’s not what the scale reads!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would you consider making a sandwich to be "cooking?"⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I would say you’re making food, not cooking, but like, who cares? If someone says I’m cooking lunch and then comes out with sandwiches I wouldn’t really notice it doesn’t make sense, but if you say I’m cooking a sandwich, that pokes my brain in the incorrect language department

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This community is very active and doesn't need any more subscribers or posts⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  ಠ_ಠ

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This is my face reveal, what do you guys think?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Nya nya nyaaaaa

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This community is very active and doesn't need any more subscribers or posts⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbh I kinda don’t get what people get out of this community, not that I have to, the world doesn’t revolve around me.