Bartender from the US here. Im one of the few people i know in the industry that doesnt go out drinking almost every single night
Did it really used to be common for guys to go to a bar every night like in Cheers or The Simpsons?
Submitted 3 days ago by pruwybn@discuss.tchncs.de to [deleted]
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Makhno@lemmy.world 1 day ago
updn@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
I do. Most other people that come here are regulars also.
Not much else out there for community.
IWW4@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
I don’t know about every night but I know plenty of dudes who have a watering hole they go to weekly.
lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
I try to go to a local spot once a week or so for the sake of community. It’s kinda fun.
My problem drinking happens mostly at home.
PillowTalk420@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It’s fairly common right now, too.
Psythik@lemmy.world 3 days ago
How can anyone afford to go to bars anymore? Drinking at home is much cheaper.
Kolanaki@pawb.social 5 hours ago
Man, I have no fucking idea. I can’t afford to rent my own apartment, and I have worked with dudes that made $3/hour less than me who owned sizeable middle-class houses somehow. 😬
dil@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
any area with bars has a cheaper bar usually, my main college bar was hella cheap, always had a deal everyday, most nearby bars had deals once a week or specials for locally brewed stuff that was a lot cheaper than buying it elsewhere. I could black out easily off 50$ vs sf which is like 2 one shot drinks maybe for that amount
LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It’s technically considered depression & alcoholism to drink alone in one’s house.
Most people use alcohol to unwind & socialize so they do it in social environments.
474D@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Get buzzed first then go out and coast with a few drinks
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
Gotta find the dive bars with the specials on shitty liquor and beer
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 days ago
If I could afford it I would. Better than going home and sitting on my ass playing video games or whatever. Bars around here are too expensive though (just like everything else).
daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
I walk by some neighborhood bars, that are cheap and still some people go everyday like the Simpsons.
Videogames are better. I’ve come to recognize some of the “local drunks” that are there every day, they do be like Barney from the Simpsons. It seems a little depressing looking at them destroying themselves with booze.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 days ago
Videogames are better
Not if your goal is to socialize they’re not.
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
Strong disagree.
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 1 day ago
yeah same. also i don’t drink alcohol anymore but it would be nice to have more places to hang out.
pruwybn@discuss.tchncs.de 2 days ago
Same
pdqcp@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Yup, it used to be a lot more common, Not Just Bikes has a great video on this subject too and how our car dependency made most of them disappear:
The Great Places Erased by Suburbia (the Third Place)
www.youtube.com/watch?v=VvdQ381K5xg
non YT yewtu.be/watch?v=VvdQ381K5xgfriend_of_satan@lemmy.world 3 days ago
For folks who like this theme, there is lemmy.world/c/fuckcars
foodandart@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Yeah. My husband went out to the pub 6 nights a week. He’s no longer drinking - quit last year - finally! (I quit in 2009)
Seriously, alcohol is overrated.
iamacar@lemmy.world 2 days ago
A lot of bars would have tons of cash on Fridays and bartenders would cash paychecks. Customers would pay off the tab and start a new one. Idk how common it is anymore. Most jobs I’ve had for a while will give a paper check if they have to, but discourage it as much as possible.
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
Yes, and it’s still pretty common.
YtA4QCam2A9j7EfTgHrH@infosec.pub 3 days ago
When I was younger I did this and it was the best part of my life. Having a place to go where everyone was welcome was very nice
Drusas@fedia.io 3 days ago
Did everybody know your name?
Damage@slrpnk.net 3 days ago
and they were always glad you came
the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I worked in a bar for a few years and I saw the same people everyday. They would even come in on holidays if the bar was open. Some of them would blow their whole paycheck, I always thought it was kinda sad.
trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
I had the same experience and did feel badly for them as well. For a lot of them (especially middle aged men in my experience), they just seemed very lonely. I miss a lot of those regulars, they were generally good people.
merc@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
In the show Clarkson’s Farm, Jeremy Clarkson is looking around, trying to buy a pub. At one point they talk about wanting to have a pub with a little grocery store attached. Clarkson’s girlfriend explained why that was common at one point in Ireland. It was because in the past men would get paid, go immediately to the pub, and drink until their paycheck was gone. If there was a shop attached to the pub, they could hand in an order at the shop before they started drinking. And then, even if they drank away the rest of their paycheck, they’d still be handed a bag of groceries before they were kicked out and had to stumble home.
Horsey@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Yes.
SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
NORM!!!
Horsey@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Don’t give me away so easily you cocksucka
TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com 3 days ago
beer used to be cheaper
adespoton@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
And bars/pubs used to be fine with the regulars hanging out in the corner, only buying a pitcher of beer each per night.
Wispy2891@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Not every night but twice a week I got social pressure to go to the bar to drink. I hated it because those were eight perfect hours that could be used for playing with my PC 🤓
Nowadays I couldn’t afford it anymore even if before I was a broke student and now I have a job
MourningDove@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
Yep.
Source: Was one of them.
Rentlar@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
Yes, and in some places especially small towns, it is for some people, since it’s the main hangout spot (3rd place) in town.
Though I don’t think young people do that as much, “regulars” tend to mean 1-3 times a week. My university had a bar that had a “ritual” where Friday afternoons it would be a completely full house.
Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Before the pandemic, I was watching Drag Race at the gay bar, so yes.
python@lemmy.world 2 days ago
At the same time?!? Were the bars across the street from each other and you had two different friend groups in both, so you had to make up excuses, change your outfit, and run over to the other bar all night?! That sounds like an exciting time!
Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Oh, these were separate events. One full season of All Stars was hosted at a regular bar by professional organizers from the community (downtime between Prides, amirite) and there were special events at the gay bar for the season finale and our local version, La Más Draga.
boaratio@lemmy.world 1 day ago
When I was in my 20s I frequented a local bar a few times a week and always thought it’d be cool if the bartender would just know what my usual drink was. Turns out that was not a great idea.
LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Walked into a bar/club one night and it was packed because some biker event. They had multiple bars but I usually went to an outside one upstairs because I could smoke outside, you know double down on being unhealthy. The bartender somehow saw me and my spouse walk in, ran out from behind the bar and grabbed two chairs stashed in a corner so they were out of the way of people dancing and asked people to slide over and put those chairs in at the bar so we could sit down. Everyone around the area had this look like the queen of fucking England just walked in and Ill never forget it. That’s the kind of customer service that will make sure you come back. The guy knew that business was seasonal, but if you treat your locals well when it gets busy like that, they’ll be the ones who are there when it’s slow season and he’d still have a few customers.
Pumafred9@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Yes, and it still is to certain folk.
I think with sugar and alcohol taxes, a lot of establishments had to change to survive.
chemicalprophet@slrpnk.net 1 day ago
Like…um…what are you doing?
Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Europeans are pretty active on this mater. I’m always amaze by how much people go to bistro bin France and Belgium. I think this applies to pub in England too. In Quebec, I think it was morr common in the 60, 70 and earlier and fade away with the importance TV and later the Internet took in people’s home. Now when I go back to some small cities that use to have pretty active downtowns in the late 90s and 200Os, it’s absolutely dead. The only bars that survive have a crowd of people in their 40s and more. It use be full of young people, but now I guess they just "flix and chill’…
axexrx@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I used to, up until the last couple years, when I stopped bartending. I still get most of my drinks for free though! And i still have a couple different groups of friends im all but gauranteed to find one of to hand out with.
MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I currently have 2 great microbreweries near my work. So, I alternate nights, but, very much a regular at both.
Fondots@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Around 10-15 years ago I worked in a pizzeria with a little sports bar. We had more than a couple people who were there almost every day.
I still stop by there once in a while, and without fail I run into at least one of those old regulars every time.
YurkshireLad@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
I worked in a couple of pubs in england back in the 90s and there were definitely regulars that would come in every weekend night and quite often, some week nights.
notsosure@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I never did and none of the other men and women in my family neither.
HubertManne@piefed.social 2 days ago
Yes. In my fathers time men would go there often for lunch and after work. I think some went home and then went over for an hour or two. Later it was still common but someone who did it all the time would be called a barfly but almost everyone did like friday night and pretty often thursday or saturday. Its diminished since and more and more bars have to sorta be restaurants or dance clubs or band venues.
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I think the men were called “loadies”, getting loaded (drunk) before going home. Women got the much less forgiving name of being a “barfly.” However, that may have just been regional and/or for that era.
HubertManne@piefed.social 1 day ago
when I heard barflys it was always men who hung out every night in a bar.