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Anon has a female friend

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Submitted ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works⁩ to ⁨greentext@sh.itjust.works⁩

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  • latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I don’t care if this makes me a bad person, but I get such immense satisfaction from this kind of emotional blowout. It’s so fulfilling to see bona fide narcissists fail then go hysterical about it❤️

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  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I mean, obviously fictitious and elatedly happy

    That being said, there really are people like that. I’ve been in that situation, and I’ve seen it happen plenty. Maybe not those exact words, but sometimes , yes “I could have you if I wanted”

    There really are people that are both so arrogant as to believe they’re that “good”, and so narcissistic that whether or not you’re interested doesn’t matter.

    Like, I’m not some kind of super studly dude. I’m big, and strong, but I’m also hairy, balding, have always had at least a little belly on me, wear glasses, and have a round face, so I don’t have those chiseled features that folks get wet over. But I do pretty damn good. My kind of look has a degree of popularity, and the mind inside the body makes it work. So this isn’t some kind of situation where everything is chasing me.

    That being said, it is really annoying how often some shitty excuse for a human being has assumed that I would just jump in the sack with them, much less anything more. And it isn’t even the stereotypical “hot babes” either. Just women that assume that because they have a pussy, a guy is going to fall into the damn thing. You kinda expect narcissism when someone is on the prowl, looking for hookups and arm candy. But when you’re at a casual dinner party, and they’re coming at you with that kind of thinking, it’s extra extra. I mean, it isn’t always women, but the women tend to be more insistent, and more about demeaning you than men are.

    When it’s guys, you make it clear you’re hetero, and it’s “oh, well then” and it almost always ends there, or with a simple “if you tried this, that might change”, and then they’re done.

    But the women that think that way? It’s like they pin their whole sense of self on the idea that they can have any guy, no matter what. And, if you aren’t the classically handsome dude, you’re insulting them by just refusing to agree that if they wanted you, they could. Like, motherfucker, you’re insulting me just by saying that you don’t want me, and you’re adding in the assumption that my dick is in control of me? GTFO.

    You know what’s funny though? Only ever had one stripper try that shit. Bounced gay bars and titty bars off and on for years. You’d think strippers would be more prone to that kind of thing than other professions. Not for me. I would get the whole “it’s a shame you’re such a good guy, I’d ruin you” here and there, bit that’s a whole different thing entirely.

    Ran into it most with nurses, but I worked in that field more than as a bouncer, so they’re disproportionately represented in the people I would have extended interactions with.

    I eventually learned to just say okay and walk away. That kind of thinking, there’s no point in arguing, and you can’t change the subject, so you just leave.

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    • loaExMachina@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      I knew a woman who was absolutely certain she could have any guy easily. it’s true she was most attractive, but also super toxic, like she really had a history of driving her partners insane. The she took interest in a rich boy who’d recently made some successful investment in timber trade. The dude in question was no stranger to toxicity either, he’d been quite the fuckboy. One guy almost beat him up over this once and everyone cheered, but they ended up becoming friends, and his new bestie really had a good influence on him, he’d become a pretty decent guy. Anyway, the toxic lady made advances on the ex-fuckboy and he said “No, don’t take it personally, I’d rather not be turned into a donkey or whatever it is you do to your boyfriends, thanks you.”

      But she did take it personally. Her old father owned quite the estate, including a very big, strong and aggressive bull. She unleashed it on the town to destroy the homes and devour the crops. The bull was also toxic, so no food would grow in its wake for seven years or something. But ex-fuckboi and his niceboi bff were very strong, so they killed the bull, and brought its carcass to toxic lady, as a sassy offering, which she didn’t appreciate.

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      • intentionallyBlue@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Unexpected Gilgamesh. Well done!

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      • raidhse_abundance@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        You had us in the first half not gonna lie

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      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Nice :)

        Ngl, I was expecting mankind to get slammed at the end, but that’s even better

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    • bladerunnerspider@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      fake and gay

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      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Imaginary and ecstatic

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      • Harvey656@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Woosh.

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    • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      yes “I could have you if I wanted”

      i mean, in some twisted sense of the word, if they were a better/different person, they could have them.

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  • 5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    The core concept of the problem is not related to gender, it’s just that in societies highly differentiated by gender people have different means.

    Talk to male friend

    He randomly says if he wanted me he could have me

    I tell him no he couldn’t

    He gets really and says he could easily have me if he wanted to, practically has a fit of rage

    Changed pronouns exemplifies that that the core concept of this is that “having someone” is supposedly less about consent and more about compliance to standardised appearance (aka so-called “objective” beauty). I have you have a lot of means (e.g. male or wealth privilege), this gets creepy real fast.

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    • nasduia@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Like offering a horse

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  • Geetnerd@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    What happened?

    A 4channer made up a story for attention.

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    • Shortstack@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      So… in other words, fake and gay

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      • Geetnerd@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        How dare you.

        Gay people don’t make up stories on the internet for attention.

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  • loaExMachina@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Should’ve said “prove it then”.

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    • NostraDavid@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      ??? Girlfriend

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  • Skanky@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    The correct reply is…

    “There’s really only one way you could have me, and that is [describe whatever sort of sexual kink you’re into]. After that, I might consider it.”

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    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Be prepared with pictures to make sure your communication is clear.

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      • Comment105@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Make a WikiHow, don’t let her know you wrote it, make it weirdly specific but in a plausibly deniable way.

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    • rainrain@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      A truly discerning woman would blumpy me while having my dog.

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    • blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      “… If your boobs were like 6 times as big, but still natural…”

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  • LeninsOvaries@lemmy.cafe ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Bro this is basically an invitation for you to say “prove it”

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    • answersplease77@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      lol you are jellous bro you don’t have female friends. I have, and this really happened to me with so many females more than one also

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      • mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Image

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      • Stern@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        i’m sure you’ve slayed so much puss with your massive meat rod please tell anonymous internet people more about your triumphs slamming clam.

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      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        good bait bro

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      • ace_of_based@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Lol you caught at least 8 n counting with this. there’s some real anger hahaha nice jorb

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      • mjg@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Nobody cares

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  • warmaster@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    “That’s my no secret. Anyone could have me”

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  • rekabis@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    IME the vast majority of women have no clue how to react to being rejected, because it almost never happens to them. As such, nearly all react badly or maladaptively regardless of conditions.

    Conversely, for most men they have to endure rejection hundreds if not thousands of times before they strike it lucky. The small cohort that become maladaptive do so due to other social/societal reasons associated with the rejection, but vanishingly few react maladaptively purely because of the rejection.

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    • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Tell that to the surprisingly large number of men who threaten fucking violence against a girl for not wanting to go out with them.

      I’m not saying you’re entirely wrong, but it’s not the only side of the story. Generally all people are really bad at handling emotions with other people, we need to make a stronger effort to turn these criticisms inward and figure out if our fears of other people are justified.

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    • rolling@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Bruh, who the fuck is being rejected “hundreds, if not thousands” times? Maybe some people are, but thats such a red flag that I would argue then maybe they should change their approach in the first place.

      Maybe you are exaggerating (it just makes you sound a bit like an incel, apologies), and I probably would argue men do get rejected more then woman, because men are still (mostly) expected to make the first move, but like you don’t need experience handling rejection to not have a violent rage fit.

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      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Yea… I’m well into middle age and I’ve been rejected like a dozen or so times maybe. I’m not sure how you get rejected 100s or 1000s unless you’re just swinging at everyone in your vicinity that happens to have a vagina. Maybe try talking to them first and see if there’s some chemistry there before going for a date…

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    • stevedice@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Yay for casual misogyny.

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      • rekabis@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Our current western culture is one of violent misandry.

        Women are being released from almost all historical expectations and constraints, which is wonderful and good. This is actual progress in action, however lopsided and gender-supremacy-like it might be.

        Meanwhile, men are still constrained by all the historical expectations set out for them, yet have been completely stripped of all benefits that have traditionally accrued with those expectations being met. And yet, we are still being violently nailed to the wall - invariably by women ignoring and/or outright demeaning us - when we fail to meet those expectations.

        This massive asymmetry that men experience is what is creating subgroups of disaffected men. Because 1ncels don’t just leap out of the ground, fully formed – they are a direct response to the unintended consequences of women trying to eat their cake and to have it as well. Think about that next time women refuse to date down, or demand a “666 man”, or expect the man to pay on the first date, or any other archaic and gender-bigoted expectation.

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    • LotrOrc@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      You’re totally right there’s absolutely no evidence of a vast majority of women being physically attacked or assaulted after rejecting a man who couldn’t handle rejection…

      Also if you got a thousand rejections before getting one yes then that might be a huuuge reason to look at yourself and how you come across. Hundreds of thousands of rejections have to be because of the person themselves, not the hundreds or thousands of people rejecting them.

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  • Xerxos@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Well, the female friend basically said ‘I am so hot anyone I want (for example you) would love to have me as a girlfriend’.

    By denying that, he denied her self worth.

    Of course, her stance take into account things like personal preference or matching personalities.

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    • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Or how unattractive that mindset itself is. It’s like the opposite of a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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    • bollybing@lemmynsfw.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Or a less generous read: ‘you’re not attractive enough to get with anyone as hot as me so you couldn’t turn me down’.

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  • Justas@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    “The odds are good, but the goods are odd.”

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  • Thcdenton@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    ‘Nuh uh’

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    • SomeAmateur@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      ‘Yuh huh!!’

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      • Glytch@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        ‘prove it’!

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  • PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Anon isn’t smart lol

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    • KingJalopy@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Anon is very smart and too good for this person

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      • PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Have you guys ever spent time with a real person in real life interactions lmao

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      • Wildfire0Straggler3@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        That would have been an easy lay for anon.

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  • OmegaLemmy@discuss.online ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I’m sure everyone has their own answer to this question but I would really like her to clarify, what do you mean ‘have me’?

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    • SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Please let it be pegging

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    • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      I think the better clarification we need to make is that this is 4chan and thus utterly made-up bullshit, or designed to further an agenda.

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  • Amir@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    So many comments giving OP advice on how to get into a relationship with the girl. Has a single person here, at all, considered that maybe, just maybe, OP genuinely didn’t want a relationship with this girl…?

    I also think deflecting with “nah you couldn’t” would be funny in the right context. Follow it with a joke about increasing her powerlevel first and you’re good

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  • selokichtli@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Hahaha. Just another case of being gay unbeknownst to OP.

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  • Ardycake@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    It’s funny, I has this exact scenario play out with a guy friend in college. It ruined our friendship. We were friends for maybe two years at that point and I was taken aback because I never saw him as anything but a friend and he even had a girlfriend at the time!

    After that exchange, he got so awkward the friendship fell apart. We still had classes together but he avoided me and I was not pressed to be near him, so we never saw each other again after that semester.

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  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    There is a very fitting song for this.

    Garbage - Stupid Girl

    Stupid Girl Lyrics

    [Verse 1] You pretend you’re high Pretend you’re bored Pretend you’re anything Just to be adored And what you need Is what you get [Pre-Chorus] Don’t believe in fear Don’t believe in faith Don’t believe in anything That you can’t break [Chorus] You stupid girl (Ah) You stupid girl (Ah) All you had, you wasted (Ah) All you had, you wasted (Ah) [Verse 2] What drives you on (Drives you on) Can drive you mad (Drive you mad) A million lies to sell yourself Is all you ever had [Pre-Chorus] Don’t believe in love Don’t believe in hate Don’t believe in anything That you can’t waste [Chorus] You stupid girl (Ah) You stupid girl (Ah) Can’t believe you fake it (Ah) Can’t believe you fake it (Ah) [Instrumental Break] [Pre-Chorus] Don’t believe in fear Don’t believe in pain Don’t believe in anyone That you can’t tame

    Basically, if this is a representative sample of this girl’s personality …

    (huge if there, this is a single 4chan post lol)

    … then she is a textbook narcissist, potentially to the point of being diagnosable with NPD if she doesn’t grow out of this attitude, get a reality check that actually sinks into the subconscious.

    A spoiled, pampered brat whose never been told no, who never gets any real, meaningful interaction or validation, and tries to fill that void with a grandiose self image, absurd overconfidence and privelege.

    Angelica from Rugrats

    …And my take here would be the same if the genders/sexes were reversed, or some other combo.

    It is pretty not normal for anybody to have that kind of interaction with anybody else, to just boisterously state they could have ‘insert random person’, then have rando anon just flatly reply ‘sorry not interested’, … and then throw a giant hissy fit.

    I am seriously hoping this interaction occures between 12 or 14 year olds, but looking at the horror kaleidoscope that is social media these days?

    Yeah, could be anybody, any age, at this point.

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  • bravot10@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    What would be a good response? “Maybe. But you just made it much less likely with that sentence alone.”

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  • doingthestuff@lemy.lol ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Some women have never been told no. It can be more fun than saying yes sometimes though.

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  • Matriks404@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Why doesn’t that happen to me?

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