Your misery cannot possibly be the result a structurally oppressive society, look at how well I’m doing. Now go kick your mom in the vagina and suck dick for therapy fares, and come back next week.
i broke
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Fleur_@aussie.zone 11 hours ago
Just start doing things.
bender223@lemmy.today 10 hours ago
Agree. Could be anything. Just do something. We underestimate our mind body connection. It’s probably more likely that we developed complicated thought ability by doing more and more complicated physical activity than the other way around.
H4rdStyl3z@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 hours ago
Find a job as soon as possible so you can make yourself useful and you’ll feel better.
At this point I’m fully convinced therapy is about making you a cog in the machine of capitalism and not about making you feel better and more realized as a person.
cattywampas@lemm.ee 19 hours ago
Having a job and feeling useful is in no way exclusive to capitalism.
pineapplelover@lemm.ee 19 hours ago
I mean there’s truth in that though. It doesn’t need to be a cog in the machine, you could work for a non profit or something.
Snowclone@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Try and take time to soothe your inner child. Eat a bowl of Mac and cheese, try to go surfing, do dumb shit kids do. You know. Try it. Also learn to love yourself. Fucking good luckg, man that one… like how the fuck could that ever happen.
_____@lemm.ee 10 hours ago
I think everyone’s psychology is so different that people out there wonder “how could you not like yourself, it’s you” and meanwhile me I can never see that happening, ever.
ghen@sh.itjust.works 9 hours ago
Start with one part. Work your way to two eventually.
I like my belly button, it’s satisfyingly deep.
plyth@feddit.org 6 hours ago
It seems like you escape your inner conflicts by being industrious.
Not professional advice but instead of going, you could halt posting for a moment and focus on your breathing. It will assure you that you are safe, and you can let the conflicts become a bit more aware without feeling overwhelmed by the terror. Do this for some time and you create the space to transform your conflicts.
Mallspice@lemm.ee 16 hours ago
If you’ve chosen to take in the weight of the world, no amount of therapy can solve your problems.
interdimensionalmeme@lemmy.ml 15 hours ago
Actually I want every living and potentially living thing in the universe to expire, including spores, viruses, text and LLMs
cabron_offsets@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
Hot take, but I’ve done therapy with like 4-5 different therapists over like 20 years and found it to be of little to no use. What’s been a lot more helpful is just living life with the intent of letting go of past wrongs and making sure that I don’t inflict them on others.
LavaPlanet@lemm.ee 8 hours ago
Check out some DBT / cbt techniques on YouTube or the like, whatever is easiest to access, find some that resonate with you and make them your own / tweak them so they fit your life / vibe.
I did a DBT course, and while I hated every minute of it, a lot of it is super great and hugely helpful for coping in hard moments and a great recipe for a way of living that’s more calm and balanced. I feel like I hated the DBT course I did because the people presenting it had never even stumbled on a rock in their lives, let alone lived through a hard moment and needed any of this stuff for real, and their privilege read as saccharine condescension.
BUT! I’m never one to throw the baby out with the bath water, I believe you can turn anything to your advantage or upskill or just build knowledge, if you’re industrious enough! You take those muthafking lemons and you make champagne, fk them. Plus they just mostly showed us clips on YouTube, so lol. The DBT course I did felt more like the break room from severance, having to admit how faulty you are and how this new enlightening thing they just told you seconds ago is going to benefit your life, as they announce each section. They didn’t even give you time to process, let alone leave room for if that was something you already knew or already utilized, but, I powered through and just paid lip-service, got my upskill, moved on.
Easier path, just look up DBT on YouTube, find people explaining what you like, give it a go on a regular basis.
LordWiggle@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
They always tell me “sorry, you’re too complex, go somewhere else”
garbagebagel@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
Mine explained my emotional dysregulation patterns and helped me identify the triggers and how to address them.
By far, the most useful technique they shared with me was the TIPP skills technique, which helps me come down when I am having strong emotional reactions as a trauma response or from anxiety. Essentially:
- temperature - use cold temp to lower heart rate, warm to raise it
- intense exercise - helps manage overwhelming energy levels
- paced breathing - I’m not big on breathing but it works for some
- paired muscle relaxation - my favourite as it also interrupts thought patterns
Hope you’re able to access help though, obviously it is much better when personalized and you also get the safe space to release your fears and anxieties
dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
I got a lot of professional advice and guidance in the moment to kick the door to mindfulness wide open. I wish I could share any one thing specific to help anyone replicate the experience. I honestly think this kind of Gnostic awakening has to be tailored to the individual. Also, I was told I was a quick study at this - so sadly, it may take a long time to get there (months to years even).
One exercise we did that helped a lot was to have a discussion with your younger self, and explore what you would say knowing what you know now. Like with a lot of this stuff, the key is to verbalize - it’s fundamentally different than talking to yourself with your inner monologue. So you’re gonna need a close friend that you can share a LOT of deeply traumatic experiences. Fundamentally, this is what we pay counselors for: privacy, not judging, and helping to take out the trash. Group therapy may help here too - I have yet to try this, so YMMV.
On a more specific note, I used to be obsessed with root-cause-analysis for my own psychological problems. I almost got into an argument with my counselor over it, until he was able to help me see the light. You can absolutely figure out why and even how you got this way, but that information will absolutely not help you if you’re already in a safe space. It can help you break free of someone or a bad situation, but stuff that happened 30 years ago? Not so much. When you get down to it, there’s no “undo” button for trauma, no matter how much you know. Instead, one must look to the present, exercise mindfulness in the moment of anxiety and triggers, and practice walking your headspace back to a more rational place.
TheThrillOfTime@lemmy.ml 8 hours ago
Whatever assumptions you have about the universe and other people are wrong. They all want to connect and love/be loved.
Actionschnils@feddit.org 4 hours ago
(…) just take your meds
Inucune@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
I shouldn’t be paranoid about him double billing me/my insurance.
Not all therapists are good ones.
rumba@lemmy.zip 12 hours ago
that negative feelings come from places where my mental image of the world conflicts with objective reality.
Used to work in the backend of insurance.
It’s ‘possible’ to double bill for a good reason, but it’s an outlier of a situation.
If you have a shitty insurance company, they’ll stretch money in bad times by only paying places out after multiple requests. They also get trained that if an insurance company drags their feet, the second time they’re billed, they get paid, so they always do it.
Any insurance company worth its salt will catch double billing.
Now, all that said, a LOT of providers double bill and get paid multiple times.
It’s usually assholes all-the-way down.
OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 5 hours ago
Fake it til ya make it
saltnotsugar@lemm.ee 19 hours ago
They told me about a Dark Plagus dude and some tragedy. I spaced out but I’m pretty sure the lesson was to always keep partying.
NauticalNoodle@lemmy.ml 8 hours ago
Maybe a change of scenery will do you some good.
Mk23simp@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 hours ago
He told me that I need to find a new therapist.
garbagebagel@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
That’s kind of better than continuing to charge you if he wasn’t vested in your improvement though.
Mk23simp@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 hours ago
It’s not that, it’s that I’m moving to a different state and he’s not licensed to see patients in that state. :P
DrunkAnRoot@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
sleep just take a nap an do things when you wake up
the_q@lemm.ee 19 hours ago
Being kind to yourself is apparently pretty important.
Broadfern@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
“You don’t have to do everything all at once” and “it’s okay to have a meltdown when you get home” helped a lot to be honest
Inucune@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
If my employer wants to be ‘like a family,’ then they shouldn’t have an issue with a meltdown on company time.
Phoenix3875@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
Try something other than amex cards.
troglodytis@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
For everything else, there’s MasterCard
Sorgan71@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
Bro just do it you wont. (I got a therapist from betterhelp)
miraclerandy@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
Your emotions and feelings are your brain and body’s way of communicating with you - listen to them. If you take some time to feel your feelings with a sympathetic lens, you can better understand what’s wrong. While fixing it will be a lot longer of a journey, simply allowing your self to listen will be a good first step.
tourist@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
stop smoking marijuana
preussischblau@lemmy.ca 16 hours ago
So true, take edibles instead. Think of your lungs people.
BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
Plus the high lasts for hours, which is it’s own boon or curse depending on your situation that day
zaphodb2002@sh.itjust.works 18 hours ago
No
Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de 19 hours ago
The last advice my therapist ever gave me will hang with me forever: “I you’re not willing to open up to me you won’t get much from these sessions.”
Paradachshund@lemmy.today 17 hours ago
Life doesn’t happen on your schedule.
Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
They tried to figure out which one of my sensory issues is tied to which one of my traumata. I’m autistic.
confusedbytheBasics@lemm.ee 12 hours ago
Go live your life. Make some mistakes worth talking about then come back.
Still working on it. Turns out all the stuff I was so scared to do with my life wasn’t so dangerous after all.
RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Schizophrenia isn’t real and you are the way you are because of social anxiety.
NO! THE PHYSIOLOGICAL EVIDENCE MATTER! I DON’T CARE ABOUT SCANS OF THE NEOCORTEX! THESE
10077 CASES THAT WE CHERRY-PICKED FOR THEIR RESULTS ARE ALL THE EVIDENCE I NEED TO MAKE MY CASE!YOU’RE WORSE THEN THE TENURE COMMITEE!
I HOPE ALL YOUR PETS DIE AND YOU KILL YOURSELF!
L3mmyW1nks@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
You should seek out a new therapist, that’s bad advice.
RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Hard to believe he was Head of Psychiatry at a major hospital, huh?
OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 5 hours ago
Nah, some people need to hear that their issue isn’t real for them to stop victimizing themselves