Stamets
@Stamets@lemmy.world
30s. Gay. Depressed. 🔒
Memelord of the Veda System
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- Comment on Basic courtesy 11 hours ago:
Lol suffer
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- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
God that country is a fucking plague.
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- Comment on Basic courtesy 4 days ago:
No, not even those. The ones that literally say “Please put your cart back in the corral”.
- Comment on How do I stop laughing at stupid shit all the time 4 days ago:
Oh for real. I’ve been on the bus and people ask questions like what time it is. I just respond with something wildly unhinged like "Quarter past where the past, present and future all have a collective existential crisis. But if you need a more convential and temporally linear answer, tis probably “too late for this nonsense”. I’ve yet to have anyone say anything other than the most generic ass “Cool” response. Some even say thanks which is… hysterical.
- Comment on How do I stop laughing at stupid shit all the time 4 days ago:
Lobotomy.
Honestly I have no fucking clue. I do the same thing. Especially bad if I think about something that can cause a laughing fit and then I have to explain a voice clip a friend sent to me.
Most people generally won’t care though. They’ll look over and maybe go “Huh” before they carry on.
You’d be amazed just how little people actually think about anyone other than themselves.
- Comment on Am I a bad friend/rude for not engaging with my friends and giving one-word responses? 4 days ago:
To answer your title? Yes. Aggressively so.
I don’t participate in their activities.
That’s fine. There are plenty of friends I don’t share the same activities with.
I don’t really ask them how they are, or what their interests are.
One of the core things about being a friend with someone is getting to know them. That means their emotional state and their general interests. If you don’t show any interest in them, why would or should they show any interest in you? It’s a wasted investment.
I don’t even engage in deep discussion with them unless I’m up for it.
I mean that’s fine. It’s everything else that’s extremely problematic.
When my friend sends a video that reminded her of me or that she finds funny, I don’t click it and just ignore it.
Your friend reached out to say that they thought of you in a moment when they had no real reason to. They’re saying that because they care and want to demonstrate that. By ignoring that, you are telling them that you don’t care about whether or not they are interested in you. Whether you mean that is something else but that is the story you are telling them.
Maybe my friends are growing apart and they text me less because of this
Oh they 100% are. No one is going to stay in a one sided relationship for long because it’s a waste of their effort. They care and be emotionally open but get nothing in return except pain. By you not engaging with them when they try to engage with you, that comes off as you having zero interest in them. They’re going to start questioning why they keep talking to you when you don’t talk back. They are going to eventually come to the conclusion that you are not demonstrating any interest in them because you just simply are not interested in them. They will stop talking to you entirely and any memories they’ve had of you will become tarnished in their mind as a one-sided friendship.
but I’m kind of okay with that because I know they will be there for me when I need it
You are making an insane gamble here that will not pay off. Why would they ever be there for you? You were never there for them. You didn’t share in the small joys of life that they tried to share with you, why would they want to share in your miseries? They will only see you as a source of negative emotion. They will see you as sucking up their positive vibes towards you and showering them in negative emotion as they get nothing in return. Then they’ll feel used as you only talk to them when you need something from them. They will see you using them for an emotional cushion and realize that the only thing they are to you is a crutch. When they make that realization, they will leave you and never look back.
and because I’m genuinely just tired/bored most of the time.
So are most people but we make time and effort for our friends.
One time, my friend asked me if I’d like to spend time with her, and I just point-blank said “No”.
I can guarantee you that you hurt the hell of their feelings. Whether or not they said it? They were pretty upset. They offered to spend time with you because they like you and wanted to share in that. Asked if you’d like to spend time with them for the same reason and you rejected it. They aren’t going to know the reason unless you said it so they’re just going to invent a reason. With all of your other behaviors? They’re going to assume that you don’t like them at all and stop trying.
IDK if that’s rude just because I’m being honest
No, you’re being a dick. Being honest is telling the truth but that does not mean being aggressively blunt. That does not mean phrasing it in such a way as to hurt someone else or to be emotionally painful. You could have said no in a thousand different ways that would have been just as truthful while also not as hurtful.
and also because it’s not personal, I don’t want to engage with anyone.
Then you better not be surprised when no one wants to engage with you.
- Comment on Loops by pixelfied Is Doomed to Fail Because Daniel Supernault Doesn’t Want to Develop It 4 days ago:
I’m picking question not the answers yeah we covered this already Covered this I don’t have to answer questions
Because you are incapable of answering them in a way that doesn’t make you look like the sole problem that you are
- Comment on Loops by pixelfied Is Doomed to Fail Because Daniel Supernault Doesn’t Want to Develop It 4 days ago:
Oh honey, I cornered you ages ago. You ran out of the stadium and are screaming from the sidewalk lmfao
- Comment on Loops by pixelfied Is Doomed to Fail Because Daniel Supernault Doesn’t Want to Develop It 4 days ago:
It’s funny. You keep picking all the answers you’re gonna give so that you can look good but by ignoring everything else you just keep looking worse and worse and worse…
Keep digging that hole. Want a backhoe?
- Comment on Basic courtesy 4 days ago:
No, it’s every store. They have to. If they didn’t have the signs put up then they could be legally liable for any accidents involving free carts in the parking lot. By having the signs up they avoid that responsibility by putting it on you.
This really is just about basic common decency. The rest of us put the carts back because we still have some.
- Comment on Loops by pixelfied Is Doomed to Fail Because Daniel Supernault Doesn’t Want to Develop It 4 days ago:
Yes, by all means, keeping dousing yourself in gasoline.
- Comment on Loops by pixelfied Is Doomed to Fail Because Daniel Supernault Doesn’t Want to Develop It 4 days ago:
SOCIAL contract
Like we have with the government
Yeah I figured out really quick how serious that discord was when they couldn’t answer most of my questions
Couldn’t? Or wouldn’t? Seems to me the latter given your hostile behavior.
they weren’t even working on the loops project.
Got proof of that? Or just a wild assumption that you’re making?
I’m happy I left
So did you leave? Or were you banned?
- Comment on Loops by pixelfied Is Doomed to Fail Because Daniel Supernault Doesn’t Want to Develop It 4 days ago:
Well that was easier than expected. Thank you for conclusively proving that you were in the wrong here. People who were right in their actions do not get this defensive. They don’t say “I DON’T HAVE TO EXPLAIN ANYTHING” because they have nothing to hide. They don’t dodge questions that were put forward because they’re more than willing to show just how truly fucked the other side is. They don’t deflect back to another persons behavior saying “THEY WERE BAD SO I CAN BE TOO.”
You deserved everything you got.
- Comment on Get ya every time 4 days ago:
I feel like racism definitely played a part on America’s side too. Just assumed that they couldn’t possibly be strategically intelligent because their houses aren’t white picket fence nonsense.
- Comment on I’d find a way to burn it 4 days ago:
I’m sorry but who the fuck gave that a second star
- Comment on Loops by pixelfied Is Doomed to Fail Because Daniel Supernault Doesn’t Want to Develop It 4 days ago:
Cool.
Now, what about addressing your own behavior and inconsistencies in this story?
- Comment on Loops by pixelfied Is Doomed to Fail Because Daniel Supernault Doesn’t Want to Develop It 4 days ago:
I’m perfectly fine with telling people what to do that I don’t pay
Then you do not get to complain that people do not want you around. You broke the social contract, you don’t get to be protected by it. You don’t get to go around to volunteer groups, insist they run it your way when you openly admit to your own attempt being a failure, and then get upset when no one wants anything to do with you.
