Therapy doesn’t fix reality.
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morphballganon@mtgzone.com 2 months ago
MonkRome@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I mean for some it can help them accept and process reality a little better.
gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org 2 months ago
it is no sign of good health to be properly adapted to a profoundly sick society
bryophile@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
It should help with developing a more healthy perception of reality, isn’t that enough?
agent_nycto@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Dude was out at sea for a month and tried to find a positive from it and peeps decided to be sexist about it
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
sexist
Jesus Christ, grow up.
agent_nycto@lemmy.world 2 months ago
How was that observation immature?
Gathorall@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Username seems ironic for a bigoted asshole, so better comrade.
_stranger_@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Therapy won’t make the world they have to go back to any better than it was before.
Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Addendum@jlai.lu 2 months ago
Well, to be fair, neither will getting lost at sea
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 months ago
No, but on a remote uninhabited island you can pretend the bullshit doesn’t exist.
It’s incredibly hard to delude yourself when something is in front of yourself face. Although this is apparently a flaw in me, as most people seem perfectly capable of it.
MJKee9@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Assuming you’re rescued. But there’s a chance you’ll get to die without answering another passive aggressive email…ahhh. one can dream.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 months ago
Yeah, wtf does therapy even do? My brain is fucked because of the reality of my situation not because I have some dysfunctional mindset I need to work through. It’s all external factors. Having to grind away at a job I hate just to scrape by while everything continues to get more expensive, billionaires burning the world, and our government falls to fascists is fucking hell. You’d have to be crazy not to have a fucked up mentality. Am I supposed to spend even more money I don’t have just to talk about my problems?
Alternatively being able to completely disconnect from all this shit for a month where I have no choice but to simply focus on survival sounds pretty great.
petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
Therapy is mostly about meditation, coping strategies, and self-improvement.
I think you might balk at the suggestion of developing coping strategies at all, but this:
being able to completely disconnect from all this shit for a month
Is a coping strategy. It doesn’t really fix anything, but it does help you manage stress. I assume you can’t take a month off, so therapy would say, “Okay, what’s a second idea.”
AceOnTrack@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
Being lost at sea for 30 days is the therapy
Hupf@feddit.org 2 months ago
Too bad he got rescued a day early then.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 months ago
That last day is where it really sticks/integrates long-term. Too bad.
rafoix@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
Is therapy really that good? I know lots of folks that have been to therapy. They’re still shit.
SeeMarkFly@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
I went to therapy and found a bunch of NEW things that I was (successfully) suppressing.
I PAID to have MORE problems. I can’t afford ME.
rafoix@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
I know that I have a lot of problems. A therapy bill will just be one more and it’s not going to undo the previous problems.
Understanding how and why I’m fucked up is not the same as not being fucked up.
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
Therapy allowed me to let my guard down enough to see who I really am. That was pretty invaluable. Not easy or fun, but worth.
Rooster326@programming.dev 2 months ago
Yes…but have you tried a 29 day, 696 hour vacation on a boat?
gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org 2 months ago
idk i’ve always had difficulty with therapy because it feels like a trap. “go tell all your deepest darkest secrets to that other person, they sure won’t judge you.” then they put you in jail. it feels like the “good cop” in the “good cop/bad cop” game. they pretend to be nice meanwhile they’re working with the system. at least that’s the suspicion i get.
thethrilloftime69@feddit.online 2 months ago
I don’t think it’s just as simple as going to therapy but I’ve been in therapy for years and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I really got to work through stuff that I had been dealing with for years. I think it’s hard to figure it out on your own, but I don’t think a therapist is the only thing you need.
NaibofTabr@infosec.pub 2 months ago
Just do AI therapy!
It will tell you you’re great, and you won’t have to risk any emotional vulnerability with a real person!
chtk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
You’re also very much into spirals now.
SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
If you genuinely want to change and find a therapist who can help you find the right resources to do it, it’s invaluable.
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 2 months ago
If you have very thoughtful friends or family members that you talk to and can be honest with about… Everything, then that fits the bill.
Also if it’s just the “someone to listen to you” thing there are other free alternatives e.g online (with the extra anonymity, which is nice) or to a catholic/orthodox/high anglican priest, or to a volunteer counselling group (one big one exists in my city).
If you’re not willing or feeling the need to give it a try, I would recommend reading about psychological concepts. Or just watch someone such as Daniel Mackler and you might learn to heal yourself through osmosis.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Going to therapy?
… in this economy and healthcare system?
redsand@infosec.pub 2 months ago
And now you’re on a list for RFK Jr’s camps
zergtoshi@lemmy.world 2 months ago
The sea doesn’t bill by the hour.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
The copay is ‘can you find a coconut today?’
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 2 months ago
It’s not a break from reality. It IS reality. It’s just that human nests - any conquered space of nature, be it urban or rural - has a habit of becoming a panopticon torture complex that we don’t very much enjoy being in
Zacryon@feddit.org 2 months ago
I havedbeen and still am in therapy for a couple of years now. I would still like to be lost at sea to get such a break. (Provided I can easily survive that.)
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 months ago
You should mention these feelings to your therapist for some fresh content.
Zacryon@feddit.org 2 months ago
My therapist already knows. Not much we can currently do about it. There is also plenty to deal with so this is also conparably low on the priority list.
Tigeroovy@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Tbh that does sound kind of nice right about now.
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Shit moves so fast you’d come back to a completely different world. Itd be like the planet of the apes
Tigeroovy@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
Back to the island it is then!
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’m in therapy and I’d still like a month away on a remotely uninhabited island.
Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world 2 months ago
But. If you were there…
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Well depends on what I’d have obviously, and what the island is like.
But assume basic glamping equipment and a perfect island and I’d be better than now.
Of course crashing on an atoll somewhere without any equipment would be pretty bleak. Deadly even.
JiveTurkey@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I think the point is that the reality of the world is that It currently sucks and it was nice to forget about that for a bit. It wasn’t that he had some trauma he could ignore.
sexy_peach@feddit.org 2 months ago
Yes, but the world has always been shit
quips@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
The 90’s were a far better period for America
bitjunkie@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Anybody would rather be lost at sea for 29 days than be forced to participate in a rigged economy
Hlodwig@lemmy.world 2 months ago
The irony is that living stranded on an island is a return to reality, not an escape from it.
1984@lemmy.today 2 months ago
I love the sea. Its the most peaceful thing we have on this planet.
Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Until the next storm.
1984@lemmy.today 2 months ago
Even storms are beautiful to me. When not in a boat. :)
unemployedclaquer@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
Yeah!
Janx@piefed.social 2 months ago
Yes. Yes, I would…
cockmushroom@reddthat.com 2 months ago
Wouldn’t be a problem if people weren’t more willing to go to therapy than achieve peace of mind.
brucethemoose@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Many guys would rather be stranded than face what’s wrong with them in therapy.
Terry Crews said as much in a fabulous interview: www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJa4jGqMc70
To pararaphrase, basically, he argues the manosphere has pitched externalizing one’s problems as manliness. And he argues one of the toughest things he’s had to do, and what he argues is actually “manly,” is to look at your own issues critically, head on. This is (often) what should happen in therapy.
IAmYouButYouDontKnowYet@reddthat.com 2 months ago
yeah, its a shame we got lost. Luckily we had plenty of fuel.
SeeMarkFly@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
To go to a doctor, I have to be too weak to resist. Takes about two weeks.
unemployedclaquer@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
We can monetize your discomfort and misfortune! I have documents for you to sign
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 2 months ago
See I don’t have that problem because the waiting lists are like 1 month anyway so I instead try to predict what problem I will develop next week 😮💨😁
SeeMarkFly@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
A.I. should be able to help you with that. Polymarket betting on it will give you a clue if you guessed it right.
Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Who would choose a natural escape over institutionalized therapy? Me. That’s who
AlexLost@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Who can afford therapy? These people probably lost their houses not paying rent for a single month. They didn’t ask for it, they couldn’t. They were forced into the situation, and enjoyed it while they could.
ArchsageRamases@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Most men and women in 2026 🤣🤣🤣
Wynnded@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Or ask for directions…
rumba@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
easy life > Therapy + hard life
Sunforged@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
Sounds more like a break from a crushing capitalist system.
TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 2 months ago
This was in the context of COVID:
IAmYouButYouDontKnowYet@reddthat.com 2 months ago
Exactly. It’s no reality people want to escape. It’s honest reality people want to find.
stickyprimer@lemmy.world 2 months ago
But we have to find a way to blame the men for something. I mean… they’re men.