FinjaminPoach
@FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world
- Comment on My dad’s 3 a.m. Friday oopsie 18 minutes ago:
Lmao. I could never hate you for this, completely valid
- Comment on buttery males 12 hours ago:
Everyday we get closer
- Comment on Is there any such thing as "edutainment" shows for adults? 18 hours ago:
Only podcasts, unfortunately 😭😭 sorry.
- Comment on The timeline after the Harambe Incident 19 hours ago:
Thanks for trying! 😁
- Comment on The timeline after the Harambe Incident 19 hours ago:
Is there a source for the full timeline???
- Comment on The timeline after the Harambe Incident 20 hours ago:
Might argue their timeline is worse then - that’s 3 terms of trumpism rather than just 2
- Comment on I'd like to change my last name and want suggestions 1 day ago:
I genuinely need people to start doing this
- Comment on Guess I'm not sleepin tonight 1 day ago:
TFW I’m a prion
- Comment on I'd like to change my last name and want suggestions 1 day ago:
Something that only famous historical people had a surname like:
- Longshanks
- Hardrada -Pendragon
Okay Those make you a bit identifiable but i love long double word ones like “longshanks” that sound enough like a common surname to pass scrutiny. Or Nightingale, i.e florence nightingale
I would also look at Scottish clan surnames on wikipedia or scotclans.com - lots of common ones there with overlap to English surnames, like Campbell and Cummings, but also rarer ones like McGregor. Possibly other cultures have a similar such list. Maybe don’t go for spanish surnames if you want to avoid persecution from ICE, idk how bad things are in that regard.
- Comment on Anon is a paramedic 2 days ago:
I think that is a correct conclusion 👍. When Anon says “a dad losing his son,” my first thought was “oh are we doing the male scarcity mindset that people had throughout history?”
I can see now that it’s just poetic license to convey “parent losing a child”
- Comment on Anon is a paramedic 2 days ago:
I think i had some good thoughts regarding this in my big-ass reply to you, so if you don’t read all of it, here’s the relevant bits:
- bring up instances of when he hurt you, but as 3rd person stories; “my friend took 2 cookies from the jar when he was 11 years old and his dad shouted at him and called him a fatass” Your Dad:“what a jerk” Yiu: "Yeah. Well, that was you and me when i was 11 Y.O"
- If that for instance doesn’t work, because maybe he approves of that behaviour, then gloss it up a bit: "… Now this friend had trouble feeding himself because he associated the executive decision to get food with his father’s ire. He also started to see abusive name calling as something fatherly and it lead to him putting up with some pretty shitty friends, bosses, romantic partners. We are left with a man with an E.D surrounded by awful people in their life, because he was too young to put his foot down and defend himself and, in those small ways, he has been stuck at that traumatised age ever since.
- send letters about what he did that hurt you. He will read it more than once - how many letters do you send him regularly? Probably not a lot.
- Comment on Anon is a paramedic 2 days ago:
kinda makes me want to do it to hurt my dad but tbh he would probably still not realize that he’s the reason
You’re right, he wouldn’t. And if you try to use suicide to make pthers feel guilty, it’s not going to work; i presume he’s not the only person who you would want to hurt. Some of those others will actually rejoice at your passing, your dad will rationalise it in his head that it wasn’t his fault but rather some lifestyle choice you picked up or a mental illness or “mind virus.” The more you try and put in a suicide letter, the more willing to dismiss it people become; there is no way to succeasfully drag people down with you.
I’ve considered it myself just to get at everyone who ever hurt me. I too have been cruelly treated, by probably everyone i’ve really known for a sizeable amount of time, whether it’s a friend a bully or a relative stranger. You will never manage to drag them all to the pits of hell, it’s really only their own actions that can determine that.
So. I’ll state the obvious conclusions: you cannot kill yourself to hurt others who have hurt you. Even if they’re usually close to you. Only the people who love you and genuinely tried to treat you perfectly would be proportionately hurt by it. And we only triumph over people who hurt us by living better than them, and a lot of the time you never get to know what that means
I’ve also seen one guy who has majlr beef with his dad basically try this, threaten suicidal behaviour, tell him all his problems are caused by him. It bounced off him like a rubber ball. Maybe your dad is Gen X, boomer, or even older - people of that age are very very stubborn, you cannot expect thsm to react to things the way young blood would.
- Comment on League of L*gends 2 days ago:
Yeah, i guess we should be a bit sceptical about commentary surrounding north korea.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
That’ll be because it’s a canned oudding by heinz though, despite being such a successful company they f up a lot of their stuff. They sell canned macaroni cheese - awful. Not aure what to make of their mayonnaise.
Anyone selling a bread based desert in a can or plastic packaging is selling you short. Spotted dick is wonderful
- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
Oh, this? My tin can? My massive fucking flip-flop? My super stuffed baguette? My wibbly wobbly banana? My fucking fabric stretching wind flapping gravity defying helicopter rotor? You mean this super-duper ultra-hyper god-damn motherfucking sausage?
- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
Ridiculous. That shi should never be sold in a can.
- Comment on Anon notices realism in GTA6 3 days ago:
Lmao
- Comment on League of L*gends 3 days ago:
Are video games banned there or is it just because it involves interacting with Capitalism market system? Or is it in fact because they can’t use the internet - simplest explanation I suppose.
- Comment on The future 4 days ago:
Yeah it’s for all members of the Jedi order, but they want Anakin to stay in the Jedi Order and it’s probably the beat way for him to avoid being seduced by siths or learn to control his emotions.
- Comment on The future 4 days ago:
But the Jedi think passion and romantic bonding is evil - if they thought that was a good remedy for Dark Side Anakin, why would they keep the "no relationships’ rule for everyone else?
- Comment on The future 4 days ago:
If we extrapolate the story of AotC and put it in a grounded, Earth context, some really funny details emerge about xharacters’ behaviour:
- Padme is in witness protection with a cop she knew as a kid protecting her. Ten years younger than her.
- They travel around to different places so bounty hunters can’t find them. Makes sense.
- Every meal time she’s wearing a new glamourous and revealing dress and puts on a full face of makeup and does her hair and gets out little crowns and stuff, to eat dinner with the police officer protecting her.
- Like most people would just be chilling in lounge pants on tattooine watching the podracing on holo TV and eating TV Dinners, but every day, without fail, Padme puts on another “fall for me” outfit.
- “No Anakin, we can’t fuck. It would be unprofessional”
Very mixed signals there. To be fair maybe she just has to dress that way, being Nubian Aristocracy.
- Comment on Is there a word for people who will mess something up and blame the victim for it? 5 days ago:
“Victim blamers” works
- Comment on The future 5 days ago:
- Comment on Anon mishears a coworker 5 days ago:
Canadians call Detroit “The Barbarians to the North”
- Comment on how much money is there in total? 5 days ago:
In my opinion, money is not just debt. It simply looks that way because our current monetary system revolves so much around debt.
I see it as a valuation placed on work already done. And yes, sometimes people are paid unfairly, but it still only measures whst your labour was worth to the employer. If they don’t pay what you’re worth, their fault for having a crap sense of value.
Money exists for a real purpose - to make all exchanges fairer (whether it currently does that is irrelevant) and therefore should not be dismissed as “fake.”
This is analogous to the power grid of the country - electricity comes from so many different sources, like Wind, Coal and Hydro, and it then is utilised in all sorts of ways to keep peoples day to day lives running. Modern finance shifts around value willy-nilly, skimming value off the top of several millions of common people just to dump into harebrained schemes.
All money, similarly, ultimatrly exists because some human did work or made a machine, beast or force of nature do work for them. Any other money is simply circulated, not based on value that’s created.
This is why printing more money to pay off government debts eventually causes inflation. If it doesn’t keep pace exactly with the rate of value added to the country (which is hard to know) then it’s just diluted, because the ratio of cash to work done gets bigger and bigger; not every new printed dollar is tied to a dollarsworth of work done.
- Comment on Carnists be like... 5 days ago:
One half of the meme is an abortion rights campaign phrase, which is a badly needed campaign because women don’t have that right in many places around the world. And it’s majorly opposed by conservative men. Those same men also use the term “females” to refer to women in a derogatory way.
response to this
The thing about the abortion slogan, ‘my body my choice’ - it’s so powerful because after saying it, it is then used to compare with a multitude of other things; body modification, assault, how people engage with sex and choose their sexual partners. I therefore think the principle came before the use in abortion access messaging. > And it’s majorly opposed by conservative men Okay, i can definiteky see how this has the format of ome of those “
take downdiscredit the initial argument by either taking it to the absurd or highlighting an inherent contradiction in society.” format. But first we have to consider: are many conservatives vegan? This is definitely advocating a vegan, environmentalist, or degrowth agenda. [edit to add: use of word “carnist” and cross post to vrgan community on the solarpunk instance indicates this isn’t conservative] And after that - if the meme exists to discredit the pro choice attitude, do you feel like it has been sucessfully discredited? The principle hasn’t, of course, but it does highlight cognitive disonance. So with this context, can you see that the meme isn’t actually anti-pro-choice, but rather believes it should be applied to animals? That’s the long and short of the post in my opinion. > Those same men also use the term “females” to refer to women in a derogatory way. Too general i think; i know that some people do this, some “very online people”only when you get to the end of the text do you realise it exists for 1 messaging purpose
This is ALSO a very common method for that exact same group to pretend their misogynist messaging is covered up when pointed out. They go “it’s not about dehumanizing women, it’s about veganism bro!” Or “that’s not the point, you’re digging too deep, keep being triggered lol”.
This is a common method to dogwhistle their in-group.
Do we have such people on lemmy? I see this as a staunchly politically-gatekept community, this Social Medium, and i think conservatives and misogynists like to post on twitter instead. That said, i guess there’s mastodon which is more politically diverse.
they could have, I suppose, opened with a woman saying “I’m sure glad I’m not artificially inseminated every nine months so milk can be harvested from my body!” Then cut to a picture of a cow in the second panel. It’s essentially the same thing.
It’s the same surface level message. But using their misogynist worldview to carry the surface level message ALSO reinforces that worldview
Biological men can’t get pregnant and don’t usually produce milk. That’s why it has to be a woman in the meme.
I’ll pre-emptively say that the Meme also isn’t suggesting women in particular are too ignorant to pay attention to animal rights issues, or something. Just in case you’re intending to posit that. It’s just that humans in general don’t know about these farming practices.
The more you also support that framework, the more the framework is normalized. The more the framework is normalized, the easier it becomes to dehumanize and degrade women
Is your problem with the meme the fact that a woman appears to be the one being criticised? The reader is being criticised (for inaction/unawareness) and is supposed to relate to the woman, as another human. Reader is supposed to be apalled to learn that cows are routinely inseminated.
And if by framework you mean memes, they’re plenty normalised. Not much i can do to change that.
- Comment on Carnists be like... 6 days ago:
Do you believe that it’s impossible to use the word “female” without it being sexist?
Because this is some take I’ve seen floating around and it seems like a a serious misunderstanding of the “incels call women females and femoids” dynamic, and for the sake of not getting annoyed by so much stuff you see online it would be a good idea to course correct
- Comment on Carnists be like... 6 days ago:
…or the humanisation of other life. You know you can just say “well actually I love drinking milk and I can’t think of a way to sustain that lifestyle without industrial farming processes” instead of pretending vegans are all misogynists, which doesn’t make sense
- Comment on Made me chuckle when I saw it, so you have to see it too. It cannot be unseen. 6 days ago:
If you zoom in it looks like AI swirls to me. I just don’t think a drawing would use such regular shading pattern
- Comment on From a socialist perspective, what are the solutions to doomerism, and that "can't find love" feeling that I've been seeing on Twitter (specifically a frontend)? 6 days ago:
Yeah me too - too sleepy to go out and meet people!
