Some people have nasty parents. Other people are lucky. If you can, it’s pretty great. Multi generation homes are common most places outside the US.
Anon lives with their parents
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JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 months ago
My family in CR owns basically an entire block. From grandma to grand child they all live within a block of each other. There’s one house not owned by family, and it’s owned by a close family friend.
nikita@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
Costa Rica? What’s it like living there?
Sanctus@lemmy.world 6 months ago
With the way it is now I’m renting a multi generational home thats too small for all the people in it. So sometimes you don’t get to save living with your parent(s)
Deconceptualist@lemm.ee 6 months ago
The price of living there is mental health hit points.
bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
Depends on what your situation is. For me the thing that dealt mental hp damage was that my parents lived in suburb that is far from everything
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 6 months ago
Omg, this is destroying me rn. 21, living with my parents in quite an isolated neigborhood. I wish my parents moved somewhere where I could still live for free while actually having a social circle while working on becoming independent.
Black_Gulaman@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 months ago
Not ours. My parents are our support system, even when we have a family of our own
Turd_Ferg@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
3 years and anon came up with enough to buys his own house in cash. Im thinking anon is a drug dealer or a very good prostitute.
Zibitee@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I actually have an engineering friend who did this and he did it in 2 years. Dude had no life, but he put a full down payment on a 750k house in two years. So I guess technical jobs just pay well enough
Turd_Ferg@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
Thats a down payment, anon bought that shit straight cash. You figure the average down payment is 20% so… 150K+, thats no chump change either. Does he stay out late at night, maybe looks frazzled all the time?
OldWoodFrame@lemm.ee 6 months ago
Well and the OP implies he paid for the house in cash, vs just the down-payment, which could be as low as $37.5k for a $750k house. That’s a lot of money but across 2 years that’s $1600/mo, basically exactly what you’d expect to save on rent.
Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Multi-generational homes are as old as the human race. Everybody being expected to leave when you’re 18 is an incredibly new concept in the grand scheme of things.
OttoVonNoob@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
North American individualism. The path we were promised was get education, get job, get apartment, meet so, merry so, buy house then have kids. The American dream is very 1D. Let alone paying taxes, “If they take one dollar off my wages, I’ll vote that bastard out!!” . We’re a very individually selfish people…
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 6 months ago
I don’t think it’s unique to the US, it’s very much the paradigm this side of the pond as well.
Smoogs@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Coincides with how small living arrangements got so that more houses could be sold.
arin@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Capitalism concept to encourage home buyers and landlords renting to new adults.
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 6 months ago
What do you do if you want to have your SO over?
Belastend@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Fuck them in my own room?
Jank@literature.cafe 6 months ago
I occasionally like to have sex with people who aren’t in my immediate family, which is a bit awkward when living with my parents.
SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 6 months ago
In Missouri houses are cheap and sisters can be friends with benefits.
Killing_Spark@feddit.de 6 months ago
So sex with your immediate family isn’t awkward?
GBU_28@lemm.ee 6 months ago
You need the hotel, motel, holiday inn
criticon@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
Motel?
Jank@literature.cafe 6 months ago
I tried, but Dad gets bitchy when he’s left out.
bier@feddit.nl 6 months ago
Where do you live to be able to buy a house in cash after 3 years of working? Where I live the average appartment is about 400K euros and the average house is closer to 500K euros.
Maybe you can find something for 250K if you really buy something small that needs lots of work. But you still need over 80K a year excluding taxes, probably closer to 120K before taxes.
rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 6 months ago
His country flag is right there. He is porch of geese.
Passerby6497@lemmy.world 6 months ago
He is porch of geese.
/c/boneappletea
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I live in a Philadelphia suburb (in one of the state’s top school districts) and just bought a modest two-bedroom house for $142K. While this represents almost six years of my current income as a school bus driver, I used to make $150K a year as a software developer so the house would have cost me less than one year’s salary. As it is, I was able to buy it outright from my savings. TBF the house is 80+ years old and was in need of some repairs, and the average house price in this district is over $500K, and Philly is not Toronto or Los Angeles - but the house-buying situation is not completely hopeless everywhere as long as you’re not expecting to live in a brand-new mcmansion.
peteypete420@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
142 k for a house in a philly suburb? How recently may I ask?
absentbird@lemm.ee 6 months ago
What made you switch from software development to transportation?
Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 months ago
In the US I’ve never spent more than a year’s salary on a home. Certain areas of the country are far more affordable than others.
casual_turtle_stew_enjoyer@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
I interpret this as you either make less than $60k and live in an absolute shit hole or you make more than $120k and have no right to speak about affordable areas of the country.
southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
Truth? It all depends on the parents.
My folks when we all lived here together were kinda difficult.
My dad was fine, other than occasionally swinging dick to having remind everyone he was paying the bills (despite refusing to cash any checks given to him, and outright shoving cash back in pockets).
But my mom, who living here post divorce was a fucking nightmare lol. I love my mom, she can be an amazing person. But she is a horrible housemate. Like one of the kind you want to bury in the yard.
It wasn’t ever intended to be long term though. I moved back after deciding I fucking hated living in the city. My and my best friend were roomies there, and it was great, but city life ain’t for me. Commuting was actually better, and I fucking hate traffic.
I’m talking about finding a place back in town, one Sunday at my grandparents were everyone would get together on Sundays. My sister speaks up and suggests I move back in while we’re looking. My dad is okay with it, my mom was grumpy, but shrugged.
So me and my buddy move in. Shit happens, my mom moves out to take care of her aunt (my great aunt that we all loved) so things get chill. My dad likes having me and my buddy around because we handle shit, and he had to travel a lot for work. So we end up just never moving out.
My dad runs into an mlm scam and fell deep. So, instead of letting the house go into foreclosure, we bought it. Before that, my sister bails because. Because why? She’s given ten answers over the years, but I think it was me telling her to either shit or get off the pot when we were all scrambling after my dad confessed how far he had fallen for the scam. The first plan was just for him up suck it up and take help for once in his life, but that meant my sister paying her share too.
Anyway, point is that we bought the place. My buddy got married and moved out with his husband (who lived here a while too lol), we did some paperwork shuffling and I bought out his part.
My dad after the debacle stopped swinging dick about anything. We’re friends now as well as father and son. So it’s fucking great overall. He’s secure in housing because ain’t no way in hell me or my buddy will let him go homeless. We get along better than ever, and he gets to play papaw to my kid.
My mom is great now that we don’t have to live together. We can enjoy each other’s company, or not, according to our mutual needs.
If I have my way, my kid will live here as long as they want. Any grandkids can too. Ngl, I’m set in my ways a bit, so I don’t see it being a forever thing, but I say fuck the idea that you have to leave family just because. Fuck that noise. Do what works for the people involved.
sbv@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
That was a nice read. Thanks for writing it.
RedC@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
You guys don’t pay rent when you lived with your parents? Was that just me??
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 6 months ago
I don’t have the best relationship with my parents, but it’s not that bad.
billybong@lemmynsfw.com 6 months ago
Can be more about how your parents are doing financially that how much they like you.
RedC@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
My mom charged me from 18 because of how much she was getting before. My dad passed away in military service so my mom was getting checks from the VA for me and my sister until I turned 18. At 18 she lost that, and thus rent was due
Pietson@kbin.social 6 months ago
I didn't pay rent but contributed to groceries.
SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
I tried to, but she wouldn’t accept it.
Passerby6497@lemmy.world 6 months ago
“Paying rent” was me paying all the bills until I moved out one day and said “duces” after finding a shake and bake lab in the basement.
BlackPenguins@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I was able to live rent free with my parents until I was 25. I just took my paycheck every week and put it towards my loans while in college. By 27 I was debt free with a bachelor’s degree.
ThelittleDoe@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 months ago
Pfft. Try paying almost $500 a month for a shitty room that was always yours until you turned 18, now suddenly it’s a “fee” to live here…
Taleya@aussie.zone 6 months ago
Hahah you got until 18?
RedC@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
For sure, that’s what I did, cept my rent was 750$
S_204@lemm.ee 6 months ago
My options were paying for my tuition or paying rent. If I was paying tuition. I got to live for free at home. 6 months after I wasn’t paying tuition rent kicked in… I moved out instead of paying to live in my mom’s basement. I’m very very grateful for that arrangement, otherwise my student loans would have been significantly higher.
acetanilide@lemmy.world 6 months ago
When I was working, I was paying rent but it was much lower than if I had been on my own. Plus it was a flat rate so I didn’t have to add utilities or even car insurance.
Now that I’m not able to work I give them my food stamps. So I still contribute just not much unfortunately.
But yeah, I am thankful that my parents allow this arrangement.
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 6 months ago
They should have tried just skipping avocado toast.
Dorkyd68@lemmy.world 6 months ago
I had to leave at 18. My drunk ass dad and were at each other’s throats constantly. Plus dating sucks when you live at home
AgentGrimstone@lemmy.world 6 months ago
That’s the kind of story I imagine a Youtuber would have. Live with parents, start making 10k/mo, then buys own home.
Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 6 months ago
Portuguese flag
Pretending like you chose to live at home
lol
therealjcdenton@lemmy.zip 6 months ago
Loneliness
GarlicToast@programming.dev 6 months ago
Bahahaha, if I save all my income, for 3 years, I will not be able to buy a house. I may, may!, be able to collect enough for a down payment on a very shity apartment that will cost more over time as it’s already breaking down.
cmdr_nova@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Anons never had 20k of debt and inflation
Frog-Brawler@kbin.social 6 months ago
Fiction is real and liars lie. If we zoom in really closely on something we’ll get a picture; but not the full picture.
caboose2006@lemmy.ca 6 months ago
It’s the people that could move out after they’ve saved the money, or the ones that squander the money, I think is more of the problem.
EtherWhack@lemmy.world 6 months ago
When they retire, some parents like to move to more rural and out of the way areas. It can be really difficult, sometimes impossible to find a well enough paying job in the middle of nowhere.
Happened to me; work in the tech sector in engineering as a tech and will be continuing classes for ME and/or EE. No way in hell would I find a job where they live that makes use of my experience. (I’d likely have to start anew by flipping burgers or be a slave at Amazon)
exocrinous@startrek.website 6 months ago
Anon is cisgender.
valid@lemmynsfw.com 6 months ago
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 6 months ago
If they saved enough for a house in three years, either they have a highly lucrative job or they’re in a market where homes are cheap or some combination of the two.
Jolteon@lemmy.zip 6 months ago
3 years is definitely a good amount of time to get a solid down payment. It’s not like a 25-year-old is going to buy a house with cash.
Tja@programming.dev 6 months ago
Are you suggesting Anon lied???
Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 6 months ago
Depending on what anon does it’s possible. The flag is Portuguese you could pick up a one bedroom apartment for 3 years wages if you don’t live in Lisbon. Or in Lisbon if you have a good job.
vanderbilt@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Either they work wells in bumfuck South Dakota or they are a SRE with a Silicon Valley company.
Taleya@aussie.zone 6 months ago
Or they don’t live in the US at all. Wild concept, but entertain it for a second
Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 6 months ago
I wonder if the Portuguese flag was some sort of clue hmm
JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
My area, you can get a house for 100k, a better one for 200k. If you’re saving most all income from a 75k job like programming, seems reasonable to be able to afford a house in that timeframe. But that’s with very very little spending and still pretty cheap houses.
RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Where do you live that houses are 100-200k and programmers make 75k?
snausagesinablanket@lemmy.world 6 months ago
They spelled 1973 single wide trailer wrong.
GBU_28@lemm.ee 6 months ago
Huh? Rates are crazy but you don’t need much to get into a reasonable loan. If they had a semi decent job, say, 75k a year, and legit only paid for the things they mentioned, they’d have enough for a down payment on a modest place ez.
Tja@programming.dev 6 months ago
Entry level jobs in Portugal are more like 15k a year.