Submitted 2 weeks ago by Grumpus_Maximus@thelemmy.club to [deleted]
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Damn. What did OP do to get banned from shit posting of all things?
As a fairly new Lemmy user, it’s a bit creepy how often I see seemingly normal posts made in the last few hours along with that big red “Banned from community” tag. Starting to feel like there are just snipers on the rooftops waiting to off people who happen to walk by.
The good news is on Lemmy you can check to see what the moderators allege they did wrong, assuming they didn’t write “None” like some of the garbage tier moderators do.
In this case, they allege some of this user’s posts were racist.
So their post “Cueta, Spain right now” was deleted and they were banned for it being racist. I tried to search for whatever the image was in case they’d reposted with an existing title and didn’t find anything… other than learning apparently the situation in Ceuta is completely insane.
I hadn’t heard that news. I had no idea Spain controlled that tiny bit of land at the tip Africa beside Morocco.
But much as the situation is awful and doesn’t seem like a super tasteful topic for a shit post, without seeing whatever it was I can’t see how it could be racist. Looking in to Ceuta you can see it has a crazy history, it’s been part of Spain for like 400 years, and the inhabitants are a mix of people from many places over time, with the bulk of them being much closer to Morrocan than Spanish.
The whole situation is shit, but I don’t see how you could term the folk from one side of a border crossing en masse and loads of violence and death as “racist.”
7 separate posts to the community within an hour of each other, shit posting or not that’s spammy/ rep farming behavior and deserves some kind of mod action. Banned doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a perm ban.
Is there rep farming on lemmy?
I thought that Karma or total up/down vote accounts are not a thing here?
Rep farming? How? I’m new to Lemmy but there doesn’t seem to be any sort of user rating or score. Up/down votes on posts or comments don’t seem to effect anything other than that specific post or comment.
There seem to be very few people working hard to support Lemmy communities by making new posts for others to interact with. Looking back through the last 24 hours this community only has 40 posts including OPs. That’s under 2 posts per hour. On a day when OP made 7 whole posts. And this is one of the fastest moving communities on Lemmy.
That’s not good. That’s one of the reasons main a lot of people who do try Lemmy don’t stick around. I can see messaging a user to have a conversation if they start posting a lot to the community, maybe saying to space things out a bit, but not any sort of banning.
That’s not what their moderation history says they were banned for.
7 separate posts to the community within an hour of each other
nah that’s fine. we need content anyways.
the user did post a whole lot of … icky content in the past (just generally bad takes about things, some unhinged things about religion, some “we’re better than them” posts). i’ve seen them a couple of times. username “grumpy” checks out
I don’t really see anything like that, and pretty much all their moderation history was them posting something that had been posted recently. Unless you mean there were other accounts that has grumpy in the name and you think they’re the same person?
Not sure what access instance admins have here, but maybe one of them could check and see if this OP and older “grumpy” banned accounts could be tied together via IP, email, or browser/device fingerprinting. But given the very little amount of moderation over so very many posts is anything other than it being a recent repost, I wouldn’t assume a person with former banned accounts.
I feel like she is just into the wrong kind of guys.
Because women only want what that don’t have. If they have big tits they want a reduction, if they have small tits they want a boob job, if they have blonde hair they want brunette, if they have brunette hair they want blonde, if they have curly hair they want strait…
Every… Single… Woman I’ve dated has bitched about something they didn’t have naturally. The same with men, all these women that “never met good guys” have, they just ignored them because they could have them.
-signed definitely not a nice guy
Sounds like you’re into the wrong kinds of women.
Enjoy being miserable!
You’re conflating lack of confidence is their appearance with greed. They’re not the same thing.
This is a revealing post.
Hmm… maybe all those women you dated have something in common
Men do this too. Stop generalizing.
Spoiler: it’s just a human thing and it’s the same for everyone, be it women, men and non-binary…
Because women only want what that don’t have. If they have big tits they want a reduction, if they have small tits they want a boob job, if they have blonde hair they want brunette, if they have brunette hair they want blonde, if they have curly hair they want strait…
Every… Single… Woman I’ve dated has bitched about something they didn’t have naturally. The same with men, all these women that “never met good guys” have, they just ignored them because they could have them.
i think there is a term from chinese philosophy … called Diyu is a state of permanent unrest, where the people can never find peace because they’re constantly driven by something that feels off … it’s considered the opposite of a calm, “fine with how the world is” so called “buddha nature”.
Every… Single… Woman I’ve dated has bitched about something they didn’t have naturally. The same with men
It’s funny that after your anti-women rant you ack that men have the same problem then go right back to bashing women after those 4 words.
Maybe there’s a different reason instead of them being women. Maybe replace women with people and then realize that’s why we all suck.
Jeez a little chuddy there buddy.
If you replace women in your comment with people, you’d be right. But acting like dudes also don’t do this is super not it.
You dropped your fedora.
A woman once told me sex with me is like microdosing. We’re not friends anymore.
I don’t get it?
Neither did she
My assumption is they either have a small peepee or poor stamina in terms of lasting. Should still be able to get around either of those issues with the right partner so long as you are both willing to try things (dildo, more hands or mouths involved instead of penetration etc.)
Ironically, can confirm. I just offered nudes a lot, I didn’t even ask for any back. I also got a lot more offers from guys, a lot more interaction.
It’s not friend zoned its prostitute zoned.
I’ve noticed a distinct trend of high-quality incel-bait in this comm, and I’m here for it.
Those users just can’t seem to resist. not only is it funny as fuck to see their hands get slapped… the new tags next to their usernames are worth their weight in pure gold!
No one fucks their friends.
I only fuck my enemies.
Wait until they hear about fuck buddies and allat
My wife is my best friend and I’m pretty sure I fuck her.
You can take the friend out of the fuck, but you can’t pull the fuck out of the friend… or something
TwistedTurtle@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
From what I’ve seen the gay community is full of ‘friends with benefits’. Seems pretty great. Sometimes I resent being straight, where monogomy is basically the only option, and any attempt to break out of it would make me look like a creep.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Hook up culture is very much a thing for straight people. Friends with benefits and booty calls are very normalized. I know several people who have lists of potential bang buddies. I knew of a few friend groups when i was younger where nearly every guy had slept with every girl in the group. If you dont want to be monogamous, just make that clear with potential partners. In my experience i actually struggle to get into monogamous relationships these days as many people don’t really want to commit to someone.
TwistedTurtle@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Maybe it’s a location/age thing, but I missed out on all that. I always made it clear up front what I wanted, and they’d often indicate they’re on board initially - until things got serious or an opportunity actually presented itself, then the insecurities came out and suddenly it’s all “Am I not enough for you!?”
In the latest case she really had me convinced, even though an opportunity never arose to put it to the test. Told me she was bi, said she wanted to see me with other women, said she was cool with an open marriage - everything I wanted to hear. It was only after marriage & kids that it became apparent she was NOT actually ok with it.
Funny that you’re having the opposite problem. Grass is always greener…
FishFace@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
It’s a thing but you have waaay more opportunities if you’re a gay man, at least if you’re somewhere with a decent population on Grindr!
taj@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I’m happily married for nearly 20 years now. But, before then, there were definitely a few fwb. Some were infrequent, others near constant depending on where we were partying at.
Psionicsickness@reddthat.com 2 weeks ago
Eh, it’s easy to avoid girls even when your straight. Just work in STEM and spend all your money on a place so you can workout and cook at home. It’s super easy to avoid any contact if you really stick to it.
/s if I wasn’t clear.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You joke but as an overworked trades guy who recently bought a fixer upper house and trying to gainweight/muscle mass this is actually my life.
Most of my time not at work is spent repairing something at home, doing chores, working out, or cooking. Usually multitasking them like doing the dishes while resting between sets.
architect@thelemmy.club 2 weeks ago
I mean, you can be poly.
I just have never met anyone that seems happy in those relationships. I’m sure they exist somewhere but most of my friends are miserable and pretty single despite their openness.
Maven@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Ive been in an extremely successful poly relationship for multiple years now. Almost 6 years with one partner and a little more than 3 with the other.
Its definitely possible to be successful and happy in polyamory… its just a lot of work for everyone involved.
GladiusB@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
One of my best friends is poly and going on a 10 year marriage. I consider myself poly but haven’t made it work. I think it really comes down to who you date and now comfortable they are with not being monogamous.
I think some people get it right away and then it doesn’t become a relationship or they don’t and if doesn’t become a relationship. But I have met many people that fit the stereotype that “poly” doesn’t work. There were always other problems that made it not work. Like drugs or criminal cases.
frozenfoxx@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My partner and I are pretty happy poly people. Been going over a decade now, never better
sunbytes@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You never met them, because they’re too busy shagginnnnnnng!
WHayHey!
/s
wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yeah, it’s quite nice. My ex and I were/are open, and it was fun. My master is basically asexual (and I’m the absolute opposite), so he has let me play with anyone I have asked about. A local cutie I play with occasionally has a gf, and they are also open.
Though I haven’t played around outside of the furry community in a decade, and haven’t dated outside it since… Nearly 20 years. So my pool of potential partners is relatively very small, but (I think, at least) they are wonderful, so =)
GhostFace@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
This depends.
If you’re attempting to convince someone who wants a monogamous relationship to have an open one or be poly then yes that is not only creepy, but outright abusive.
There are people out there for you. Go find them, but please don’t bother someone who doesn’t want that type of arrangement.
TwistedTurtle@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
She initially told me she was ok with it, then changed her mind when the opportunities arose. Now I’m torn between my own selfish desires and the life we’ve built together.
Polisheocket@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
If you want to sleep around just don’t have a partner and have at it. Plenty of of women need the D out there
forgetfulmeat@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Oh you haven’t met the right people bud lol once you find that world it grows big.
Evotech@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
There’s definitely options if you go looking
cRazi_man@europe.pub 2 weeks ago
Knowing how the “hardware” works. Having a deep shared understanding of the societal expectations on each others gender. Able to share clothes… I do wonder what it would be like to be gay.
some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Bald men meme
alternategait@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I’m ~50lb larger than my wife. The lesbian dream of a doubled closet is not for us. We do get to share shoes and don’t need to adjust the car mirrors so there’s that benefit.
toofpic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Oh yes. It’s our 13th anniversary, and we had a fight yesterday, so I was forced into “serious conversation” today, so I fucked off into the night for a breather. I don’t need any of that bullshit, but it comes with the whole package.
some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Momentous occasions can bring joy, but also added stress.