Comment on Men are generous
FishFace@piefed.social 5 weeks agoIt’s a thing but you have waaay more opportunities if you’re a gay man, at least if you’re somewhere with a decent population on Grindr!
Comment on Men are generous
FishFace@piefed.social 5 weeks agoIt’s a thing but you have waaay more opportunities if you’re a gay man, at least if you’re somewhere with a decent population on Grindr!
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Right cause straight people dont use things like tinder for quick sex. Given its still a minority population thats gay id say your chances of finding platonic sex while straight is as high or higher than finding a hook up while gay. The per capita gay FWB may be higher, but the sheer population of straight people skews the numbers to still being pretty easy to find just sex for straight people.
FishFace@piefed.social 5 weeks ago
I haven’t done any scientific comparison of the two groups, and I’m not a member of both groups either so I can’t speak from personal experience either… however, from what I understand, fallible though that may be, it’s simply a combination of the per capita rate, combined with it being pretty easy to get on grindr, hit up a gay bar, or whatever.
As a result, the relevant comparison isn’t “number of potential partners in the whole population” but “proportion of potential partners in a population I can narrow down to, provided that population is big enough.” Say there are 1,000 gay men on grindr in a town, and 20,000 straight women on tinder in the same town. What I think is true is that a higher proportion of those people on grindr are DTF with some rando than of the women on tinder, so your practical experience as a gay or straight man looking for a no-strings shag will be different.
But yeah, I guess I should caveat my original message that I can’t be super confident.
bus_factor@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I’m not a member of either populace, but as far as I can tell from online discourse the male tinder experience would depend heavily on how hot they look.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I may have worded my response poorly as your explanation is similar to what i meant. If half of the 1000 gay men are DTF that would be 500 potential rando partners or 50% of their population. You would only need 2.5% of the 20,000 women to be DTF to have the same number of 500 potential partners. Regardless if you aren’t confident you won’t be as successful in either group.