Submitted 2 weeks ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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Anime was never a problem. Sailor moon, Pokémon, and DBZ were super mainstream, and you had stuff like Voltron and Speed Racer before that.
The issue is people who either only talk about their hobby, try to force other people into it, or in the case of anime, expect real life to be the same way or act it out themselves (see naruto running comment in OP’s screenshot)
You really think that bullies pick victims that deserve to be bullied?
I said no such thing, and I’m not sure what type of victims you think “deserve to be bullied”
People who stand out from the herd are those that are either idolized or shunned, depending on other factors. But bullies target those who they think they can victimize. So as I said in my first comment, its not really about anime or specific hobbies, at all.
This completely depends on your age and what kind of peers you were surrounded by. You’re nuts if you think no one was ever bullied for liking stuff because it was mainstream at the time and place you grew up in. Kids can be vicious little creatures and would bully you for liking the wrong Pokémon when I was in school.
There’s probably something very wrong with you if you actually think that bullying is acceptable under any circumstances. Even if some kid is behaving weirdly or likes something deeply unpopular - so what? That’s not harmful behaviour and even if it somehow was, bullying is still the wrong way to deal with that. I barely trust most adults to have a working moral compass, let alone kids. I know there’s been a resurgence in this kind of thinking on social media where people push the idea that bullying is an acceptable form of social “correctional” behaviour, which isn’t just incredibly stupid but also deeply disgusting. If you look at any of the most serious bullying cases of teenagers being driven to suicide by their schoolmates, none of it was ever justified or even had an apparent reason other than: this person makes for an easy target.
tell that to my dates who see cowboy bebop dvd set and freak the fuck out at me that I’m a weeb.
I think both the greentext and tweet are wrong.
It’s not liking anime, it’s the type of person who gets obsessed with anime. Most of the anime kids at my school were VERY immature and wouldn’t shut up about Japan. They’d call you baka and say a dog is kawaii
Only my metalhead friends and internet friends knew I liked anime. I didn’t want to be associated with that type of fan.
Yet if you go around using sportsball terms as slang and tossing the ol’ pigskin in the hallway, nobody bats an eye.
Do you have an example or is this from an 80s movie? I can’t think of a single sports term someone would use to insult you or say something is cute.
Not sure how common it is outside of media for people to be throwing footballs around in the hallway, either…
Anon got bullied, it’s true
They still need to grow the fuck up. They sound like a millennial based on when anime went mainstream in which case, my god, get a therapist already.
Imagine still being salty over people being mean to you 20 years ago. Fuck
Let’s not forget the pictured message they were replying to specifically mentions growling at people and sprinting around.
That shit never went mainstream. Fucking hell
My initial reaction was to agree with you because, yeah that’s pretty weird, but honestly fuck that.
Kids playing and being a bit embarrassing? That’s perfectly normal. They don’t deserve to be bullied and the problem lies entirely with the bully.
Bish please. It was mainstream as fuck before social media.
Naruto runs were being a fucking airplane, complete with sound and spittle. A dumbass kid’s game probably as old as the Wright brothers…
Every fucking generation in the last century has been playing it without anyone giving a damn, ffs.
Therapy is no substitute for well earned grudges
Grudges often (not always) are just a second bully victory, because they make your life, not theirs, worse. You don’t need to forgive them, even if it can help (help you, not them), but therapy can help you move on with your life more lightly.
Same. I got my face pushed in by a bully who was on the boxing team. The principal later put me on the spot, asked me to forgive him to his face and I said no.
I could have easily needed therapy for that, but I’ve been fortunate enough to have come through it liking myself more, even being proud of how I handled it. I can take a punch and walk away calmly and deliberately (then cry through a giant red snot bubble in the nurse’s office later).
Besides… Last I heard he was in jail for armed robbery. Ha! And double ha! Ever thus to bullies.
Except that therapy actually is expensive, and a whole lot of therapists actually suck at what they’re ostensibly there to do.
Then, try finding a good therapist who actually is neurodivergent, its nearly impossible.
A neurotypical fundamentally isn’t capable of actually fully empathizing with a neurodivergent… their brains are literally wired differently.
You being this dismissive of genuine, deep seated pain… that literally is the problem, people who act like you.
Why would anyone listen to the advice of someone who doesn’t actually give a fuck about their mental health, about their CPTSD, caused by people like you?
The… whole problem is that at the most basic level, people repress and internally stew on their feelings, when broader society does not allow them to express them without mocking them.
Your entire post here is ‘I am better than you and you are pathetic, I sympathize with you though’.
Do you have no self-awareness?
… therapy is a good thing, if you can find it, if you access it, if its done by a person who actually knows what they’re doing and can actually relate to you without the sociopathic ‘emotions off/HR mode enabled’ mask that many therapists use.
We could just have a space where people could just say whats really on their minds, you know, publically.
Or we can have people like you show up when they do that, tell them they suck, and tell them they need to pay money an expert.
spot on.
lots of folks just refuse to move on and grow on. they still cling to bad memories because their negative experiences define them.
i’m in my 40s and it blows my mind how many people are hung up on shit from 20-30 years ago. like… i figured this out 20 years ago, you should have done so too.
All bullying isn’t equal, You have no idea what kind of shit OP was put through, and have no idea if it’s at all comparable to what you went through.
People will get bullied over anything, it’s not just anime. It’s a clash of personalities or cultures. Sometimes, it’s about power dynamics, other times it’s just about tearing someone else down to feel better about themselves or for status in some group.
My girlfriend has twins and one of them gets bullied for not wearing dresses. The other doesn’t. She is so young that the other girls who bully her just started to even understand the difference between a dress snd pants.
You can also bullied for not doing something, as much as you can for doing something.
Yeah, this is ultimately why utopias are impossible. It’s not that we can’t come up with a fair system that would distribute resources fairly and not abuse any group for labour or anything else. It’s that no matter what system we come up with, there will always be power hungry fucks looking to abuse that system for their own gain and corrupt fucks that will take advantage of what powers or privileges that system grants them and use it to abuse and dominate others.
It’s why we both need police and militaries in some form and why they so often turn into something just as bad or worse than what they were intended to prevent.
Bullying is just the same thing at an individual or small group level.
People who know about my interests and hobbies tend to not like when I go near their pets
Do you fuck sexy animals, or do you consider yourself an animal fucker that is sexy?
Maybe they’re just a sexy animal that fucks
Only when you bring the taxidermy kit
Mexican here, we had anime on Saturday morning TV in the 90s and still liking anime as a teenager and beyond was a ticket to being seen as either immature or a pervert, and yes being bullied or ridiculed by saying you liked it.
people just told me I was gay for liking Gundam Wing.
I’m not gay, but for Trowa…all bets are off.
I was into anime cartoons in the ‘80s, read Fantasy and Sci-Fi, was into computers and gaming since the Atari, and a dose of neurospicy did absolutely no favors. Likely the ND drove me to the hobbies I enjoyed because they were escapes from the shittiness of the world outside of them. Yeah, I absolutely got bullied and pushed to the fringes.
At any rate, I don’t dwell on it, but the “mainstreaming” things like IT and gaming has filled them up with assholes and jocks using them as dick measuring contests. It’s now a power play to be a CTO or IT coder or some kind of popular game streamer instead of a geek playing with computers.
It’s not the same world anymore. Probably why I haven’t used VoIP chat in any game for near a decade now. Too many assholes.
Yeah I miss real nerds. Everyone thinks they can type a prompt and be all “computery” when they dont know fuck.
You make a valid point on filling the space, my example being the types of games that are mainstream. Haven’t played an FPS in probably 5 or more years for similar reasons to what you stated, and feel like that’s all that’s churned out now. Just copy pasted ultra competitive stale shit with no real creativity. I tend to stick to indie for this reason now and will play co-op with friends, but even there there’s holes of competitive garbage to fall into. Anyway, appreciate the insight.
The image anon is using as an example does not say they were not bullied. It says they weren’t bullied just for liking anime. Like, read the rest of the god damn sentence, anon.
I remember in my Midwest college band, we stopped at a mall during a trip. Everyone broke off into smaller groups.
Timid kids were orbiting the anime shop for a while before I intentionally and loudly invited someone I liked to go in; “Woah, look it’s [goku,(can’t actually remember)], do you want to go check it out?” “Uh, sure.” Within minutes, the crowd awkwardly coming inside.
I remember the anxiety. I am so insecure and never talk to anyone, so I thought this would define me as a perverted loser. I was so relieved man. Even people I didn’t think could like anime were coming in.
As far as bullies, I feel like I remember the ones in highschool being fans of anime. Most people here who don’t like anime just don’t know it exists.
Yeah maybe I’m just a millennial, but my bullies weren’t cool either. I was never bullied for being a nerd, I was bullied sometimes because I sucked or lacked social skills and sometimes because I was an easy target with low social penalty for picking on.
the moment that anime went mainstream is the moment that it got stupid and uninteresting, that’s when i stopped watching it. the quality just dropped to adapt to the mainstream
When was that moment and which anime was the first stupid one?
idk maybe bad anime was always a thing and i just ignored it until then, but i’d say around 2015 maybe.
You must wear plaid and have a beard with a curly mustache.
i … don’t? i don’t get it? is this some reference?
It’s because OVA doesn’t exist anymore. Like all the interesting niche anime were almost always OVA.
Adaptations can be niche, weird and interesting too, but original anime just tend to utilize the medium more fully and even push the boundaries occasionally. It really is a shame that almost no studios are willing to take the perceived risk of original concepts without an established following.
I mean, basically same?
There was a kind of… cresting wave effect, where it was getting more popular, and some really good stuff was coming out… and then yeah, it became super popular, and the overall quality of any random show just tanked, with the occasional bright spot of course still showing up.
I’m baffled that this is apparently a controversial opinion, this has happened in basically every format of art ever.
“Not bullied” lmao I watched my dad beat one of my siblings for it (or maybe korean drama? I don’t fully remember I was like 7) I remember their lips bleeding a lot.
As with most things, I blame gamergate. And George Bush.
Gaming communities were some of the most inclusive and open minded. I genuinely think gamergate was specifically targeted. Wouldnt be surprised if it was some right wing plot
Too true. Unless it’s something like Nazism or pedophilia, you should never bully someone for what they find joy in doing on their own.
I mean there are people that like the Leafs. They’re wrong, but that’s their own business. I may look at them a little funny but not bully them.
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
People totally did get bullied for liking anime, I’ll just say that now.
faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 2 weeks ago
I agree with you, I am fairly large and I changed schools frequently. Every new school id be bullied for first few weeks and it would only stop when bullies realise I can beat them more than they can beat me, and that i wouldn’t shy away from confrontation. But liking Anime was like top two reasons
The most memorable is I was new to school and 12. I had a Keychain attached to my bag of bato from GiTS, not even motoko, at first this guy thought he was GI Joe and it was fine, then he asked more about the figure and upon learning it’s anime, he stole it… And about 2 days later decided with two of his friends, I need to taught anime bad by shoving it down my throat. Two friends held my hand and the psycho was getting me to open my mouth to shove it in, when I broke free from one of the friend and punched him so hard it broke his nose, then kicked one other guy in nuts. I fucking ran to staff room to have some adult around. Well I almost got kicked out of school. But some 16-17 year old bystander girl went out of her way to explain everything. And I only got suspended for a week. Stories like this were common everytime I change schools, bullies test me, they realise I am not willing to fight before going down and thankfully being large, I could do some serious damage. They’d give up bullying after a few months. And then a year or two later, new school. Rinse and repeat.
faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 2 weeks ago
That being said, I also hated kids who did Naruto runs and called me senpai. I didn’t bully them, but I don’t think I ever tried to stop them from being bullied.
Etterra@discuss.online 2 weeks ago
Same with d&d and video games.
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yep true! I think it went from “all Video Games get you bullied” -> “not playing the right video games gets you bullied” -> videogames now widespread and won’t get you bullied, but I there’s probably a bit of the previous two going on in some schools.
Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Or the “wrong” kind of music
Malyca@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
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