Few things feel as lonely as planning a big party and then everyone flakes. Doubly so if they decide to do something else without you. ☹️
No one showed up to his party
Submitted 5 months ago by TheImpressiveX@lemmy.ml to [deleted]
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VanillerGoriller@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
phdepressed@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
Triple when they convinced you to throw a party even though you know people won’t show. Happy 18th birthday, where are your friends?
Beardsley@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I mean, more people would come if homie stopped putting beer on the counter to get warm.
idegenszavak@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
Yeah and only 7 beers? Was he waiting for one or two person only?
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
The fridge is full of beers, these didn’t fit
EmoDuck@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
I have a theory that would satisfy both your concerns. He has the fridge full of beer, chilled and ready to drink.
Once people start taking them out you put the one’s from the counter in to cool down
Sergio@slrpnk.net 5 months ago
Maybe he’s in England.
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 months ago
I can’t put my finger on exactly what it is, but this photo is 100% from North America (I was going to say US, but it could be Canada).
ThomasCrappersGhost@feddit.uk 5 months ago
Lagers and ciders are cold, some bitters/stouts etc are room temp.
GhiLA@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
“I didn’t have a party but I found out who my friends were.”
life gave him lemons!
random_character_a@lemmy.world 5 months ago
When my wife was in a 3rd grade nobody came to her birthday. Her mother had mental problems and had an ‘episode’ earlier that year. Lovely parents decided to ostracize the entire family.
People suck, especially in small communities
TachyonTele@lemm.ee 5 months ago
Did your wife have beer pong and liquor ready at her party?
fl42v@lemmy.ml 5 months ago
I don’t see the problem, honestly: dude just got more beer/whisky/(gin || vodka) to himself, not even counting the snacks. One less party, one more month of cozy evenings ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Agent641@lemmy.world 5 months ago
More whisky to drown the crushing loneliness.
ShaggySnacks@lemmy.myserv.one 5 months ago
Gotta keep that existential dread at bay.
fl42v@lemmy.ml 5 months ago
Or make a nice 5-12% cocktail to chill out while watching a movie or something
frostysauce@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Vodka. I believe the New Amsterdam gin has a black label and the vodka has that blue one.
one more month of cozy evenings
A 1.75 of vodka, a fifth of whiskey, and seven beers? That wouldn’t last a week for me but good on you, fam!
PraiseTheSoup@lemm.ee 5 months ago
Imagine bragging about how much you drink to some randos on the internet.
Zementid@feddit.nl 5 months ago
My friend, sorry I think you should talk to someone real. Get help! That shit destroys…
undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 5 months ago
I’ll never drink New Amsterdam gin again. Don’t get me wrong, I love the stuff but I learned quick it’s the only alcohol that’s had me doing shady stuff like stealing someone’s bike, breaking into a car or pushing my friends around in a shopping cart in the streets at 3 AM.
I’ve drank to excess plenty of times in my younger days but never was I doing stuff like that. Something about that alcohol in particular is wild.
fl42v@lemmy.ml 5 months ago
Yeah, my usual consumption is 2×.5 of cider per evening, so 3.5 days + ~5 days on whisky + ~17.5 days on vodka ≈ 26 days, but realistically more, since I don’t drink every day.
jpreston2005@lemmy.world 5 months ago
My last party went much like this. First party thrown since the divorce, went all out on a halloween costume party. Was hounding my best friend about it for months, only for him to flake saying he didn’t want to drive the 40 minutes to my house. Nobody came, spent over $1000 on decorations alone. I’ll throw another party at some point, but I’ll need to find some new friends first.
brygphilomena@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Oh man. I’ve had this kind of thing. I started inviting people I knew wouldn’t come. I wouldn’t feel bad when they didn’t. But I’d occasionally get a couple that I didn’t expect and had a good time.
My girlfriend hates hearing no though so she only invites those she knows will say yes. It’s a bit of a bummer. Because I always enjoy the surprise of someone I didn’t expect.
lud@lemm.ee 5 months ago
Didn’t you request replies from your invitees (RSVP)?
jpreston2005@lemmy.world 5 months ago
of course, they all said yes. invited 20-ish people, hoped for 7-10, got none. They started bailing about a day before, but only 4 definitively said they couldn’t make it.
urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 5 months ago
this is why I will never ever have a party.
Dashi@lemmy.world 5 months ago
It sucks for sure. On average I invite 20ish people and expect 5 to show up. If nobody shows up in still eating the good food and having a couch bonfire. Ain’t nobody stopping my fun
Mac@mander.xyz 5 months ago
Why disappoint yourself: don’t invite anyone in the first place and enjoy it all the same.
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 months ago
For me it’s the thought of people I don’t know very well (if at all) going through and/or breaking my shit.
Sc00ter@lemm.ee 5 months ago
RSVPs are a thing
stoly@lemmy.world 5 months ago
People say yes then cancel the same day of the event.
ngn@lemmy.ml 5 months ago
ill come tell me the address
istdaslol@feddit.org 5 months ago
It’s just as the ancient songs prophesied
Ixoid@lemm.ee 5 months ago
UncleGrandPa@lemmy.world 5 months ago
And this is why i will never host a social function again.
That is the result of my every effort
Kuma@lemmy.world 5 months ago
This reminds me of a post I saw were a guy had even made a lot of food that needs a lot of time and care. So when I saw that this guy went for only snacks in a bag (chips) I felt relieved. Sucks no one came but at least he can eat and drink what he bought when ever and invite ppl with the same setup on a later date.
stoly@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Yeah I remember that. It was the first thing I thought of her and felt sad again.
Pacattack57@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Send the addy I’m otw
KoalaUnknown@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Post it on a public college party group chat. Your house will be packed like sardines in 15 minutes.
Agent641@lemmy.world 5 months ago
That whisky and vodka will be gone on 37 seconds.
DarkDarkHouse@lemmy.sdf.org 5 months ago
And everything of value was lost.
Gork@lemm.ee 5 months ago
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themeatbridge@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I learned this lesson in high school. You need two way communication with your friends. “Are you coming over tonight?” You can’t just blast out an invite and then act like you don’t care if people are noncommittal. Invite fucking everyone, too. Don’t try to keep the guest list under control. The herd will naturally thin itself. Of course there’s planning and effort that goes into a party, but it’s better to just always be prepared for an impromptu gathering of friends. Those are far more fun. Keep the solo cups in a cupboard and bust them out when you have enough people to make beer pong fun.
If everyone bails, put the beer and snacks in the fridge and go to a bar. Keep everything on hand for another night. Don’t wallow in the empty room where all your friends would be if you had them. Go do something social and meet new friends.
If your friends say they are coming and then bail, they aren’t your friends. Invite different people to the next one.
tyler@programming.dev 5 months ago
Yeah I’ve literally never had anyone bail on a party. If they are they just aren’t your friends (if they’re doing it consistently, things do happen of course).
I don’t agree with the invite everyone thing, but my brother-in-law does that and it seems to work for him. My wife and I hate it though because he always invites the worst people just because he’s trying to make sure people actually show up. So we get terrible ex girlfriends at things like a family camping weekend.
Reyali@lemm.ee 5 months ago
Requesting one small caveat to your thinking: your friends with chronic health issues (physical and/or mental) may bail more often than others but still love you.
My partner has lost friends over them thinking he uses his migraines as an excuse to not show up to things. They feel hurt because he bailed one too many times for them, and he feels hurt because they diminished his disability and didn’t believe him. It’s hard to see the additional toll it takes on him.
(I also have my own chronic issues but thankfully have been able to suck it up often enough to not have it come in the way of friendships. Sometimes he and I are intentional about making sure at least one of us attends something even if we both feel like shit in order to not alienate people we care about.)
GrammarPolice@lemmy.world 5 months ago
This guy parties
OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 5 months ago
Good advice, it helps to journal about your day/night and try to make life lessons too