Has a “we’re coworkers, not friends” mentality
And if you don’t, you’re a child looking for friends in the wrong places.
It is only half greentext, though amusing
Submitted 3 weeks ago by Tyr_Raidho_Othala@reddthat.com to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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DrDystopia@lemy.lol 2 weeks ago
untorquer@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Wym?
NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Work isn’t really the place to be searching for friends
lurch@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
if someone thinks that’s rude, they were lucky to have no actually rude coworkers.
i had some who would change other peoples chair adjustments every day, steal food, poison other peoples plants or boop passing by coworkers in the sides/ribs forcefully when passing by.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
Or they were those actually rude coworkers themselves.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Any of that would get HR involved immediately at my company, and probably fired.
Reginald_T_Biter@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
That’s not rude, that’s cruisin’ for bruisin’
twice_hatch@midwest.social 2 weeks ago
“Vague answers about weekend plans”
I’m having a lesbian three-way this weekend boss HBU
nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
yes 🙂↕️🖐️
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
I don’t see the issue. Tell him/her/them that!
OldChicoAle@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
“Just a three way? Gotta pump those numbers up!”
shneancy@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
it’s not rude but you will be an outcast because of it
we’re social animals, if you don’t show yourself as part of the pack you’ll be treated as an other - with suspicion and distance. it’s much better to first show that you want to be part of the pack, and then establish yourself as someone who keeps to themselves. this way you’ll get even more peace and quiet, because people you’re on friendly terms are more likely to respect your personal space
this is the difference between “that lonely guy over there (he likes peace, but is nice)” and “that lonely guy over there (he creeps me out)”
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Some people are, some people aren’t. Plenty of us aren’t pack creatures and we don’t associate with pack-minded people.
shneancy@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
every human is a pack animal, this is not a matter of personality but of our genetic make up. if you weren’t a pack animal your mother would’ve thrown you out of the house when you were max ~4 years old so you could go fend for yourself
Harbinger01173430@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Heck, are you even human? Homo sapiens?
We survive on group dinâmica and tribalism. To not do that makes it sound as if you were some weird alien or an hominid that somehow escaped the great genetic purge our ancestors carried generations ago.
Jhuskindle@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Some people aren’t pack animals - isn’t it wild how diverse the human species is! Lol it’s on you if you’re guilty of thinking these people are a problem.
shneancy@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
every human is a pack animal, this is not a matter of personality but of our genetic make up. if you weren’t a pack animal your mother would’ve thrown you out of the house when you were max ~4 years old so you could go fend for yourself
Drbreen@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I’m more than happy to be treated as ‘the other’
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
A job would feel a lot longer if I wasn’t on friendly terms with my coworkers
Couldbealeotard@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You can be friendly without being actual friends. I prefer not to make actual friends at work, the exception being once I’m no longer working with I’m more likely to spend time with them socially. I never understand why people get so upset when you don’t want to be friends; they interpret that as “you must hate me if you don’t want to be my friend”. No, I just have a finite amount of time and energy for friends.
My performance is not based on friendship stats like some kind of dating sim.
Delphia@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Also, sometimes I dont want the psychic weight of having to take my friend over the coals for violating safety procedure. I also dont want my friend doing overtime he really doesnt want to do because he knows I need it done. Work is work and work is purely transactional.
I can absolutely be friends, but if you cant accept that its entirely seperate to work. We arent.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
ASSIMILATE
SARGE@startrek.website 2 weeks ago
__nobodynowhere@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
I got the ass, wanna imilate me?
Ithorian@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Im all of that and everyone in the office like me, not kidding. You can be all of that without being rude, you can give people distance and speak to them, you can spend your lunch breaks at the car or go home and still say “see u soon”… Manners matter people, a lot
varyingExpertise@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
Yep, there’s keeping work and private life separate and then there’s making it a personality trait und looking down on people who don’t.
People are social animals, being smug about actively rejecting social interactions is unlikely to elicit positive reactions, but with some people it occasionally feels like they’re getting confirmation for whatever from that situation.
TootSweet@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
There are really touchy-feely workplaces where most of all that just aren’t an option. I’ve worked at such places and I’m still traumatized.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
At the height of the lockdowns I used to work in an advertising agency and it was like that. Because of the lockdowns we all have to work remotely and I got so much more done because I wasn’t constantly being asked questions about my life, favourite sports teams, and my opinion of whatever the latest office drama was.
Only partially were they actually doing their job of trying to advertise a crappy one-star hotel as a holiday villa. I think it ended up getting called something like hideaway lodge, or something equally original.
Taldan@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Bit of a hot take, but I prefer the version where you get less done because you’re spending so much time shooting the shit with coworkers
I don’t enjoy work. I do enjoy hanging out with people and chatting. If I can get away with it, I’ll minimize the work and maximize the non-work
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I’ll never understand why it offends people that my job is just a job.
I guess other people lack imagination to realize other people are different than them and have different values/priorities in life.
I just want to get through he day so I can go live in my life. The fewer interactions I have means the faster the day goes. I also each lunch at my desk because it means I get to go home earlier.
x00z@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Most people can’t stand the 8-10 hour workdays. They try to make up for it by not trying to look at it as work, and judge anybody who does because it makes them realize that truth.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
probably. i don’t smile much and i’m quite happy and it seems to drive people into a rage when they ask me why I don’t smile and I tell them I don’t to fake it to make it.
kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I am this guy.
I don’t see the point in pretending we give a shit about each other’s lives. It’s nothing personal, I’m just not one for pretense.
EldenLord@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I kind of get the meme, sometimes doing small talk and little things for each other makes work less tedious and keeps the vibe up.
Baggie@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Oh for sure, but as someone on the other end of things, it’s mildly exhausting to keep managing social interactions, especially if I’m already tapped out. It’s not always unwelcome, but I’m very happy doing my work just chilling as well.
SaraTonin@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think they give the game away by listing being neurodivergent as a negative. A negative which is in and of itself “rude”.
“Your brain processes information differently to mine? That’s rude! Why would you deliberately annoy me like that?”
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
One of my coworkers is very transparent when they’ve exhausted their social battery, and it’s great!
Trill88@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My people
aeronmelon@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
That’s not amusing, that’s depressing.
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Finally a greentext that isn’t fake!
cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
And gay
BogeyTheSwear@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
I have never worked longer than a few months in any company where i did not know the owner.
Who makes the money from my hard work, is basically more important to me than getting a paycheck at all.
Which is why i have started my own company, and try to run it with shared ownership now.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Fuck, I was planning to do this. Oh well.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Do whatever you want, fuck people who think you being trapped in the same space as them entitles them to your personal life.
SARGE@startrek.website 2 weeks ago
Rude is the coworker who thinks their shirts meant to antagonize anyone left of the US version of “center”, rude are the coworkers who talk shit about trans people on break, rude are the ones who make the LGBTQ employees scared that one day they’ll just come to work and find a parking lot full of people waiting to jump them because the government said it’s legal.
I consider myself quite polite when these things happen in my workplace and I’m not slashing tires or torching cars, and instead all I do is say “hey that’s not okay and here’s why…”
Doesn’t stop HR from coming and telling me I need to be respectful of my coworkers opinions. (HR guy is a democrat, but like… One of those “if you’re being oppressed please resist quietly and peacefully within the confines of the oppressive laws made specifically to target you” kind of liberals)
Remember kids: the standard you walk past is the standard you accept.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
Yeah I got pulled into a meeting with HR for not respecting the opinions of a flat earther. He was the most useless most passive drone I’ve ever met.
At one point turned his screen upside down and he tried to work with that for a week before he asked IT about it.