untorquer
@untorquer@lemmy.world
- Comment on 🐕 🦴 3 days ago:
I learned a whole new hatred for people who don’t follow Leave No Trace principals and fail to dig a latrine/cat hole.
- Comment on Par for the course 2 weeks ago:
Real men are also able to access their emotions, express their needs(both emotional and physical), develop and share empathy, and nurture deep relationships within their community.
Though i would argue none of what either of us said has to do with gender.
Relentlessly locking your own humanity away behind a strong man facade built on shame is one of the biggest reason these fuckers become so hateful and make “manliness” seem like such a putrid prospect.
- Comment on what unbiased media sources do you use? 3 weeks ago:
All are biased.
If there’s an event occurring within the last few days I’ll check AP and a couple other moderate/right sources to check/compare spin.
After a few days there’s usually a pod out on it from the left view. I like It Could Happen Here, Some More News, and Even More News. They’re incredibly well sourced, and are out in the open about their biases.
Even when there’s no editorializing there’s selection bias. That selection is due to capacity or the political viewpoint of the reporting. You won’t see stories that are less relevant to reporter/editor interest.
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 3 weeks ago:
You’re free to live on thinking that way i guess. Just don’t make it other people’s problem.
- Comment on Rainbolt never misses 3 weeks ago:
Eh a lot of States are shaped by successive land aquisitions. They are territories then the state borders were defined upon statehood. These aquisitions by conquering or purchase happened over many decades. The national border of the time being adopted as a state border. This were often based on geographical details. After the Louisiana purchase there was a ton of land and it made sense to use a mixture of big squares and pre-existing territory borders. Though big landmarks like the Columbia/Mississippi rivers or mountain ranges play a role.
Though there’s lots of politics involved but there’s skates Wikipedia.
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 3 weeks ago:
Internet stranger who grew up in the same world. I grew up not being seen or feeling valued. So i can see how you’ve come to feel how you have.
There really are good people out there. I hope you can find better people, and when you do, that you can meet them ready to reciprocate their kindness and vulnerability.
Just a fucking heap of work it takes to get there though…
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 3 weeks ago:
Gender division and masculinity is trained into us from the second our genitals are identified be it sonogram or at birth. From the colors, toys, media, to early childhood social pressures were pushed into one of two molds. If a boy interacts with a girl it’s labelled as boyfriend girlfriend even if there’s no romantic intent (because why would children have that?). But the point is that masculinity [and femininity] is programmed throughout the core development of the brain. Unless there’s a motivation to question it that developed neuron architecture only gets reinforced. By the time you’re able to question it you’re so set in the concrete it takes years or decades of struggle to unlearn the worst traits. When you unlearn them it’s a threat to people who haven’t had to question it.
When you’re emotionally isolated from yourself, and surrounded by others who are also emotionally isolated, you’re not motivated to be around them since they won’t fulfill your needs. Then, you realize you’re also not comfortable enough to bridge the divide to people who are in touch with their own emotions. So all this hard work and you’re only a few steps down the path to connection. Usually with little sense of where to go from there.
When you finally get to the point of diving in and expressing emotionally outward, it’s easy to get wrapped with anxiety. You expect others to push you away, not because they will, most people respond well, but because you’re even less oriented and more vulnerable than ever. Though i would argue less fragile.
Lots of other posts discussing things like whether other people in the age group are socially available, and lack of third spaces.
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 3 weeks ago:
Seems like everyone in your life treats you terribly. Is it possible that the problem might lie with the common factor here? Consider finding a therapist to help you through these thoughts.
- Comment on If we eat three meals a day, why do we poop only once? 4 weeks ago:
You could also just measure without fasting over a full week and compare averages. Assuming your diet is consistent.
- Comment on Shitposting 5 weeks ago:
This is not a lib mindset. It’s at least progressive if not further left. Libs will fight and die for capitalism, but they want the messaging to be nice about it.
- Comment on Is it worth investing if I can only contribute $50 a month? 1 month ago:
Compounding debts need to go first if their interest is higher than your savings.
- Comment on Player two has entered the lobby 1 month ago:
It’s a machine shop. The engineering staff is probably a fairly small portion of the employees.
- Comment on Pretty interesting when you really think about it. 1 month ago:
If we can supply this many people with the basics necessary for survival and work under our current extractive systems, and these systems concentrate resources in the wealthy few, then we clearly have enough to raise the standard of living worldwide. All the while reducing individual labor requirements,
- Comment on Pretty interesting when you really think about it. 1 month ago:
Hell, no one in the world would need to work more than 10hr a week if it was our goal and we just decided to equitably and efficiently share resources.
- Comment on A scientific discovery 1 month ago:
Name any documentary on the history of astrology e.g. The Cosmos
- Comment on A scientific discovery 1 month ago:
Wrong. The earth orbits the space station. Ignore the epicyclic motion of other nearby bodies.
- Comment on When leftists say "landlord are parasites" or similar dislike of landlords, do they also mean the people that own like a couple of houses as an investment, or only the big landlords? 1 month ago:
The landlord charges enough in monthly rent to cover mortgage, house maintenance, and provide profit. So the argument about it being a service to tenants is BS as the tenant could afford this on their own.
Landlords rely on the credit system for denial and cost of entry into property ownership to exploit tenants.
- Comment on Why does it seem most people, mainly conservatives, against Trans people? Unless I am wrong I never heard of one shooting up a school church or whatever. The ones I have met have been pretty cool. 2 months ago:
Many conversations with many different people. I can’t recall as this was mostly a decade ago, before it all clicked for me that humans are diverse and nuanced and it’s fine. My guess would be pronouns and wide net incel stuff. Not that i was particularly bad but deprogramming a Catholic suburban upbringing in american masculinity culture and propaganda is a monumental feat.
I think the fact that i was willing to listen, think critically, and engage in self doubt is what invited the conversations. Still, they were being very charitable with their energy and time.
I’m really grateful for that, especially after recognizing in not as cishet as i thought i was.
- Comment on Why does it seem most people, mainly conservatives, against Trans people? Unless I am wrong I never heard of one shooting up a school church or whatever. The ones I have met have been pretty cool. 2 months ago:
This is so real. It takes a LOT of effort and time to train this out. If someone isn’t willing to go through that then it makes sense that it would fester.
I had lots of times when i was younger learning about queer culture when i got mad it things. Especially after an overly polite and patient person took the time and effort to explain something to me. Unlearning hate is painful. Learning to liberate yourself is painful.
I think a lot of people feel that pain and decide to run from it and double down on the hate because that way they don’t need to learn and change or pry open their mind to an alternative.
Then there’s the whole fear of conflicting with your own community as a factor.
- Comment on Het Pijnstillersparadijs: Europese Zelfbeheersing vs. Amerikaanse Pillenfeest 2 months ago:
Is it common for ibuprofen to not really help? With physical pain it does nothing for me. It kind of helps with head aches sometimes. I use it maybe a couple times a year, so it’s not tolerance.
- Comment on Het Pijnstillersparadijs: Europese Zelfbeheersing vs. Amerikaanse Pillenfeest 2 months ago:
If you’re in severe pain oxy doesn’t really get you high. At least not more than adrenaline. Just kills the pain and otherwise makes you feel fine.
IV dilaudid was the good stuff. I’m glad it was only during my hospital stay though. They sent me home with tons of oxy. Took it as prescribed a couple weeks before deciding I’d rather be able to have a beer and a functional colon.
I do get why people get addicted to the stuff though. Kills emotional pain right along with the physical.
- Comment on Het Pijnstillersparadijs: Europese Zelfbeheersing vs. Amerikaanse Pillenfeest 2 months ago:
Just depends on the manufacturer. Unless you’re comparing with different people from the same bottle.
- Comment on Anon takes the horsepill 2 months ago:
A few select ones would make a massive difference.
- Comment on Anon takes the horsepill 2 months ago:
Sure but the generation of new hydrocarbons from sequestered resources means net available carbon increases. You’re totally right that converting existing atmospheric CO2 to methane would have a larger impact. I’m not saying agriculture is off the hook here, nor that we should consider the horse as a solution to climate change, just that we probably wouldn’t need this conversation without fossil fuel extraction.
- Comment on Anon takes the horsepill 2 months ago:
Cars run on gas, horses run on grass.
Livestock contribute by land use (deforestation, crops for feed, pasture), water consumption, and the fossil fuel used in logistics processes (farm equipment, transport, electricity, etc…)
But anyways, animal farts come from preexisting carbon in the biosphere. Car farts come from extracting previously sequestered carbon. So without extractive processes, and with ethical land use/management, the atmospheric methane wouldn’t have a significant impact.
Also you fart too. So there’s that…
- Comment on Pants 2 months ago:
Damn degenerates and their hip blue jeans.
- Comment on Is this what every election is like? 2 months ago:
Billionaires lost their fear of publicly supporting fascism.
- Comment on Infintiy Infintiy Infintiy Infintiy Infintiy Infintiy Infintiy Infintiy 2 months ago:
Don’t worry, the reunion tour is in 35cmy
- Comment on Anon plays a guessing game 2 months ago:
It can depend on the person so it’s a general concept. I think if someone is asking for a critique they would ask more directly. Culture also plays a big role. I’m speaking from a USA cultural viewpoint.
Bah, screw that! People like making others feel good. It makes you feel good to know another person is pleased. So what if you fish for that sort of engagement unless you’re being an incessant little dictator?
- Comment on Anon plays a guessing game 2 months ago:
Lol took me until my 30’s. This is the problem with modern masculinity, we are not taught about social norms. So those of us who have trouble with them struggle. In any case, I hope you and your wife are better for the realization!