Fuck all that. If you’re too afraid to meet a strange man in a public place, that’s on you, and god only knows what other unreasonable fears you have.
Has this ever happened to you?
Submitted 3 weeks ago by Mickey7@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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shalafi@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
neatchee@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Tell me you have no concept of the day to day experience of women without telling me you have no concept of the day to day experience of women, speed run edition
bizarroland@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Women are not fragile helpless creatures.
Going to a public place on a date is not something that you need to bring the whole crew for.
The way that he, (I’m assuming he), stated his response is inflammatory, but I agree with the concept behind it.
I cannot envision a path towards a healthy relationship that starts off with that much distrust, and if that were presented to me, I would assume that the two girls have conspired together to get free meals out of a simp rather than to actually start a relationship.
So that would be why it’s a no-go for me.
Agent641@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
She probably won’t even get on the boat!
BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Is she hot? Because if I’m paying for the friend, too, then I’m expecting a threesome at the end.
banause@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Nah, I’m way older than that guy
Blackmist@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
At the very least you’re doubling your chances of somebody liking you.
Mickey7@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
And that would be a good investment. Perfect way to find out if you are more sexually compatible with the “friend”.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Has a date where some chick brought her friend ever resulted in a good date?
Sounds like setting yourself up to create conflict in a relationship that doesn’t even exist yet.
There’s no other way to read this besides “I think you are a horrible person so I need protection on our public date, why am I going on a date with a horrible person? I wanted dinner”
That’s how it reads every single time, and men are expected to be cool with it, or they are horrible like previously assumed.
Alaknar@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
Sounds like setting yourself up to create conflict in a relationship that doesn’t even exist yet.
WTF are you on about, mate?
There’s no other way to read this besides “I think you are a horrible person so I need protection on our public date, why am I going on a date with a horrible person? I wanted dinner”
There absolutely is another way to read it and it’s: “there are lots of horrible people and I wanted to make sure you’re not one of them”.
I guess you reacting to this post in that way puts you bang in the middle of one of those two categories…
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
What are you on about?
I just don’t think it’s healthy to assume every man is a psycho and then make them prove it, especially if you want to try dating them.
Luckily, I’m a married lesbian so i don’t have to deal with this stupid shit.
theneverfox@pawb.social 2 weeks ago
I don’t know about you, but when someone even implies I might be a terrible person I get extremely offended
BaldManGoomba@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yes. As a dude I recognize that a woman going on a date with a random person is and feels dangerous to most women. I am more than happy to go on a group date or hang out with friends she feels comfortable with for first bit of getting to know a person for like a month to first couple dates. Then once we are looking to know each other closer we can have more private dates. That being said I shouldn’t be expected to pay for anyone’s experience but my own in these dates or hangouts. Maybe my dates but even still definitely not the friends.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I recognize that a minority of men are assholes.
There’s no mature reason for a friend to come on the date in a public place.
The reasons stated are that men are violent animals and need to be vetted and I need physical protection from them even in public.
It’s a set of ideals rooted in misandry, and it doesn’t help women or men.
LorIps@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Ass
NotJohnSmith@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
I’m still fucked off that this is where we’re headed as a society - computers deciding what obscenities we can handle
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
So fucking true like why the fuck do all of these damn corposhit platforms fucking hate random ass words just because advertisers are scared as fuck of having their crap advertised next to them?? I’ve actually fucking seen these cunts censor “stole” and “bullet”, what is this damn bullshit?? Shut your fucking asses up stupid corpobitches and stop fucking whining about random fucking words!! Random shitty ads that people block anyway are your fucking reason for annoying the hell out of people who happen to use these words? I will fucking kill these fucks with a fucking gun - they even censor “kill” and “gun” because advertisers are SO FUCKING FRAGILE that they cannot take any fucking mention of death or violence. The shitty enshittified shit platforms owned by billionaire shitheads are ASS and the fediverse’s war against them needs to be fucking accelerated or we won’t be allowed to say “glass” anymore because shards of glass can fucking hurt you and the jackasses will think that this means that the damn word will need censoring into oblivion. Or maybe the fragile fuckers will lobby to make using these fucking words illegal like the damn UAE has it. Fuck you corpobitches 🖕🖕🖕
meme with stole censored
GladiusB@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
She would lucky if I even showed up. NGL if there is that much distrust from the get, I’m not into it.
LorIps@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Mine was not a comment about the contents of the discussion, merely about the censorship of the word ASS
chunes@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Wow, that would be instant end the date for me.
Why are you dating if you’re that afraid? And frankly, how did you work up enough courage to leave the house?
BlackRoseAmongThorns@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
Why are you dating if you’re that afraid? “Anxious people deserve to die alone at home” ass comment.
Honestly, having a backup friend in a date, given that I’m getting a heads-up because surprises aren’t very nice, would be a plus, i can meet a person, and their trusted friend, which is also important to understand where a person comes from, even though they’re not likely to stay for long.
fritobugger2017@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
No but I am old.
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Plot twist. Mate drops the og girl and falls for her friend.
m4xie@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
You gotta make sure she’s not trying to back-and-switch you into a polycule!
morphballganon@mtgzone.com 2 weeks ago
Do it and then fuck her metamour
uzay@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
What an a🍑
Sanctus@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
If you think this is weird you probably shouldn’t date. You’re gonna see their friends at some point and it might as well be before you give too many fucks.
blarth@thelemmy.club 2 weeks ago
Uh oh, are we doing an /r/SipsTea here now?
bytesonbike@discuss.online 2 weeks ago
Oh God I hope not.
Can we just make a community called IHateWomen and have them migrate there?
fartographer@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
apeach
ShaggySnacks@lemmy.myserv.one 2 weeks ago
It looks like I’m going on a double date.
Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 2 weeks ago
As someone with mostly female friends, all I can think is hell yeah potentially more friends! More natural conversations with an extra body, plus first date is more about vibes than anything so if a trusted friend improves the vibes then bring that trusted friend!
HugeNerd@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
“Awe”?
Sibshops@lemmy.myserv.one 3 weeks ago
I’d agree easily. I’d even pay. Especially if her friend is single too. Doubles the odds and probably more fun conversation.
taiyang@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Not only does that sound like a better date to me, but I also make it pretty clear upfront we split the cost of the date. Like, I’m pretty good at winning over friends and they end up getting my back during a misunderstanding (speaking from experience lol).
Bebopalouie@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
From now on your friend will always be referred to as Ed 209.
Catalyst_A@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
Holy shit… HA!
python@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Being this weird about not paying would be an instant no for me. Around here it’s the norm that everyone pays for themselves on a date and even implying that someone will want you to pay for them is pretty rude. The only non-rude way to pay for the entire date is to ask for the full check when the waiter comes before the other person can ask to split it. Usually with the line “I’ll take this one, next one’s on you ;)” which doesn’t really mean that the next one’s on them but is more about the implication that there will be a next date.
pyrflie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
python@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
…can you read? I’m saying that the default is that everyone pays for themselves. Paying for someone else is a niche situation that you need to actively seek out.