Jokes aside - I’ve heard, from sex therapist friends that getting off isn’t your partners job. It’s yours. Your partner is there just to help.
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terminhell@lemmy.world 2 months ago
theUwUhugger@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Sex therapist sounds a lot more fun job that it probably is!
Grimy@lemmy.world 2 months ago
It’s not premature ejaculation, my partner is just really good at helping. Its always my fault though.
the_radness@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Howdy-do, fellow minute-man!
If your dick can’t do the walking, let your tongue do the talking.
joyjoy@lemm.ee 2 months ago
With the exception of “if you came, it doesn’t mean you consented”
Skullgrid@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I guess, but my history makes me feel like I’m batting a thousand. I guess I bring that “I’ll do what your body needs, lemme know” kinda vibe to the bedroom.
Have there been misses? Of course. Have there been partners that achieved orgasm in ways they didn’t think would happen? Also yes.
WilloftheWest@feddit.uk 1 month ago
That just sounds like a refinement of “you’re responsible for your own happiness”, which is a maxim of selfish people abusing therapy talk to justify their apathy/callousness towards their partners.
Partnerships are collaborative efforts for mutual gain, not zero-sum games where we’re individually responsible for maximising our own output from the system. A good partner should actively want to see their partner happy and fulfilled.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 1 month ago
You ARE responsible for your own happiness.
Sometimes that means leaving the relationship because your partner doesn’t do things that help you accomplish that goal, or actively hinders it.
But no one can MAKE you happy. They can only provide an environment that helps it be easier.
Zink@programming.dev 1 month ago
“you’re responsible for your own happiness” can be a true thing even if you are loving and supportive.
I’m in a similar situation now. I am in a pretty good place after having a very shitty handful of years 2019-2024. My wife is having some of the same issues now, and when I recognize the similarities it only makes me show her more grace and understanding. But then I am obligated to be honest about what I learned over the years, even if my solutions and techniques might not end up being hers.
And the fact that happiness, fulfillment, contentment, peace with the universe, and all that stuff originates from somewhere deep within. It’s along the same lines as the saying that money can’t buy happiness.
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
I mean sure. It’s also okay to want a partner that cares about your experience during intimate, vulnerable acts instead of a guy who sees you as just a useful hole
pmk@lemmy.sdf.org 1 month ago
The caring you describe is part of the helping.
joyjoy@lemm.ee 2 months ago
It’s my party I can cum if I want to
Skullgrid@lemmy.world 2 months ago
sir, this is a fast food establishment.
sundray@lemmus.org 2 months ago
Please take off the crown before you leave.
SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 1 month ago
mydoomlessaccount@infosec.pub 2 months ago
If her friends don’t cum- and if they don’t cum- well they’re no friends of mine
ceenote@lemmy.world 2 months ago
You seem to be close to orgasm! Would you like assistance? Please sign this consent form.
_druid@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
I don’t make her cum, I allow her to, once she’s earned it. And she better thank me for it.
Then hugs and kisses all around, and usually a snack and some coffee after (she loves when I pour her a cup of coffee).
valkyrieangela@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
So dreamy 🤤
FeatherConstrictor@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Cute
CrowAirbrush@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Good shit, makes 'm go nuts.
loomy@lemy.lol 2 months ago
woke.
valkyrieangela@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
sleep.
match@pawb.social 2 months ago
weird how all your sexual partners don’t seem to want to cum when you’re around tho
qarbone@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’ve noticed these coincidences. It’s starting to look like a pattern.
SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Thats a true woman lover
21Cabbage@lemmynsfw.com 2 months ago
If an own goal was ever worth a trophy this is a great example.
Stovetop@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Title made me think of one of my favorite videos.
otacon239@lemmy.world 2 months ago
YESSSS. This was one of the first videos I ever saw back on the legendary r/youtubehaiku in its heyday.
Charlxmagne@lemmy.world 1 month ago
nonentity@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
She told me to cum, but I was already there…
BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 1 month ago
This makes me think of this clip of Mr. Girl where he sits his girlfriend down and tells her that her orgasm isn’t his responsibility, and goes on to express that he just cares about himself getting off, and pretty sure he said it would be better if she just laid there and didn’t make any noise.
This guy operates on a level of sarcasm that is so constant and extreme, I can’t tell what he’s serious about and what is some type of social commentary. A lot of things he says are so creepy and offensive, it’s just safer to avoid him altogether.
einlander@lemmy.world 2 months ago
She can cum if she wants to, she can leave her friends behind.
dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Cuz her friends dont cum and if they don’t cum that’s their choice and I don’t mind.
tpihkal@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Yeah, that’s what my brain said too 😂
anonymouse2@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Cum if she wants to. Cum around the world.
TheLowestStone@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’d rather she bring her friends along…