Jokes aside - I’ve heard, from sex therapist friends that getting off isn’t your partners job. It’s yours. Your partner is there just to help.
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Submitted 3 weeks ago by ObviouslyNotBanana@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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terminhell@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
theUwUhugger@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Sex therapist sounds a lot more fun job that it probably is!
Grimy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
It’s not premature ejaculation, my partner is just really good at helping. Its always my fault though.
the_radness@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Howdy-do, fellow minute-man!
If your dick can’t do the walking, let your tongue do the talking.
joyjoy@lemm.ee 3 weeks ago
With the exception of “if you came, it doesn’t mean you consented”
Skullgrid@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I guess, but my history makes me feel like I’m batting a thousand. I guess I bring that “I’ll do what your body needs, lemme know” kinda vibe to the bedroom.
Have there been misses? Of course. Have there been partners that achieved orgasm in ways they didn’t think would happen? Also yes.
WilloftheWest@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
That just sounds like a refinement of “you’re responsible for your own happiness”, which is a maxim of selfish people abusing therapy talk to justify their apathy/callousness towards their partners.
Partnerships are collaborative efforts for mutual gain, not zero-sum games where we’re individually responsible for maximising our own output from the system. A good partner should actively want to see their partner happy and fulfilled.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You ARE responsible for your own happiness.
Sometimes that means leaving the relationship because your partner doesn’t do things that help you accomplish that goal, or actively hinders it.
But no one can MAKE you happy. They can only provide an environment that helps it be easier.
Zink@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
“you’re responsible for your own happiness” can be a true thing even if you are loving and supportive.
I’m in a similar situation now. I am in a pretty good place after having a very shitty handful of years 2019-2024. My wife is having some of the same issues now, and when I recognize the similarities it only makes me show her more grace and understanding. But then I am obligated to be honest about what I learned over the years, even if my solutions and techniques might not end up being hers.
And the fact that happiness, fulfillment, contentment, peace with the universe, and all that stuff originates from somewhere deep within. It’s along the same lines as the saying that money can’t buy happiness.
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I mean sure. It’s also okay to want a partner that cares about your experience during intimate, vulnerable acts instead of a guy who sees you as just a useful hole
pmk@lemmy.sdf.org 3 weeks ago
The caring you describe is part of the helping.
joyjoy@lemm.ee 3 weeks ago
It’s my party I can cum if I want to
Skullgrid@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
sir, this is a fast food establishment.
sundray@lemmus.org 3 weeks ago
Please take off the crown before you leave.
SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
mydoomlessaccount@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
If her friends don’t cum- and if they don’t cum- well they’re no friends of mine
ceenote@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You seem to be close to orgasm! Would you like assistance? Please sign this consent form.
_druid@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I don’t make her cum, I allow her to, once she’s earned it. And she better thank me for it.
Then hugs and kisses all around, and usually a snack and some coffee after (she loves when I pour her a cup of coffee).
valkyrieangela@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
So dreamy 🤤
FeatherConstrictor@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Cute
CrowAirbrush@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Good shit, makes 'm go nuts.
loomy@lemy.lol 3 weeks ago
woke.
valkyrieangela@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
sleep.
match@pawb.social 3 weeks ago
weird how all your sexual partners don’t seem to want to cum when you’re around tho
qarbone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’ve noticed these coincidences. It’s starting to look like a pattern.
SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Thats a true woman lover
21Cabbage@lemmynsfw.com 3 weeks ago
If an own goal was ever worth a trophy this is a great example.
Stovetop@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Title made me think of one of my favorite videos.
otacon239@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
YESSSS. This was one of the first videos I ever saw back on the legendary r/youtubehaiku in its heyday.
Charlxmagne@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
nonentity@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
She told me to cum, but I was already there…
BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This makes me think of this clip of Mr. Girl where he sits his girlfriend down and tells her that her orgasm isn’t his responsibility, and goes on to express that he just cares about himself getting off, and pretty sure he said it would be better if she just laid there and didn’t make any noise.
This guy operates on a level of sarcasm that is so constant and extreme, I can’t tell what he’s serious about and what is some type of social commentary. A lot of things he says are so creepy and offensive, it’s just safer to avoid him altogether.
einlander@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
She can cum if she wants to, she can leave her friends behind.
dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Cuz her friends dont cum and if they don’t cum that’s their choice and I don’t mind.
tpihkal@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah, that’s what my brain said too 😂
anonymouse2@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Cum if she wants to. Cum around the world.
TheLowestStone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’d rather she bring her friends along…