Anon is a piece of shit if this even if this is just fantasy
Anon walks home in the city at 2 AM
Submitted 5 weeks ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
13esq@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Sometimes prophecies are self fullfilling, treat a man like the worst example of the gender he represents and you might find he behaves less than appropriately.
I’m not saying that excuses the behaviour, but if women looked at me and immediately thought “potential rapist/murderer” I can’t say that wouldn’t upset me and cause me to act less than amicably.
I mean what the fuck am I supposed to do, somehow talk the worst male scum out of their depraved behaviour? That’s never going to happen no matter how hard I try.
We all need to be realistic and keep things in perspective. It’s not OK to treat people as the worst of the people they identify with, it’s no better than the “all Muslims are terrorists” mentality.
riodoro1@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
My gf does this constantly. She is afraid of every man on the street. If there is a homeless or god forbid mentally ill person on her path she’s basically terrified.
Yes, she does listen to true crime podcasts. Yes, we live in a relatively safe part of a relatively safe country.
sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
Yeah obviously but it is no justification. I definitely understand how material conditions can influence behavior
technojamin@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Or you could just realize that it’s not personal and give signals that you’re friendly when possible. I’m a man, and I walk around my neighborhood a lot by myself. I get different reactions from different women when I pass by or walk behind them, some amicable and some standoffish.
It feels a bit bad when I get the impression that someone is scared of me, but I have the understanding to know that many women are cautious and possibly traumatized, and no one owes me friendliness.
Also, your comparison to Muslims is really off. Most people with prejudice against Muslims are rarely (if ever) exposed to them in real life and have their opinions influenced by conservative media. Women with fear of men in public spaces are usually informed by stories from their friends and their own previous experiences. I’ve witnessed enough to know as much.
ryannathans@aussie.zone 5 weeks ago
Maam this is 4chan
papalonian@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
So everyone here is saying fuck anon and I agree, but I agree because they are aware of it and intentionally doing things on purpose to exacerbate the situation.
But like, if you’re a physically larger dude (maybe even cursed with a hint of melanin), and you’ve got to walk behind a woman at 2am… it’s just a shitty situation for both people, where both of you feel like you have to do something you shouldn’t have to do (women feeling the need to run, defend themselves, or cry for help, and men feeling the need to change their route, stand around and wait until she leaves, or do something awkward and potentially more scary like announce their presence).
I’m definitely not advocating for women to be less cautious on the streets at night or anything like that at all, it’s an unfortunate reality that they need to stay vigilant and aware to remain safe. It just really sucks that the way it comes across a lot of the time does little to protect anyone from any actual harm, and just makes normal people feel like shit for making someone feel like they’re about to get raped.
Dayroom7485@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
If you’re a big guy and you find yourself walking behind a woman at 2am AND, unlike anon, you‘re not a complete sociopath, you have two options in a nutshell. One, you move your ass and overtake, walking fast. Two, you change the side of the road. Both minor inconveniences.
elidoz@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
just not changing pace is good enough in my opinion, that makes it look like he was actually chasing her
if he takes the same road and she is scared it’s more of a she problem since he’s just going home
imo the solution is just not to do anything sketchy, and teach younger people what’s right and wrong, so that the problem can get solved with a better society in the future
TranscendentalEmpire@lemmynsfw.com 5 weeks ago
Doesn’t have to be women, I’ve accidentally startled dudes as well. Being a pretty broad and tall dude I usually only keep my size in mind to keep out of the way or make sure I don’t bump into things or hit my head on stuff.
But when I think about it, of course it would be intimidating to run across someone a foot and a half taller and twice your weight. It would be like me being tailed by Shaq in the middle of the night.
rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 5 weeks ago
Just yell to her you’re not going to rape her. Problem solved.
agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
“I’m not gonna rape you, I’m a little boy”
AA5B@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Hear hear! As a bigger guy with a faster pace, I have yet to find a way that doesn’t make everyone uncomfortable while also making me frustrated as hell because I can’t walk at my own pace.
papalonian@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
If it makes you feel any better, a large person walking with a scary dog seems much less likely to be a psychopath than just a large person by themselves (to me, at least).
Obviously not to say that large people are psychopaths 😂 just that someone with an animal they’re caring for doesn’t strike me as someone who is going to attack me.
ChexMax@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Wear a reflective vest. It makes it obvious you’re just trying to safely walk your dog, makes you less likely to be hit by a car and signals safety because dangerous people don’t usually want to be conspicuous
Eranziel@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I think (as a white dude, so take your grains of salt as you please) that a dog would make you less threatening. Makes it clearer what you’re up to, and people bringing their dogs along to mug or rape someone is exceedingly rare.
Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
talk to your dog
superkret@feddit.org 5 weeks ago
(maybe even cursed with a hint of melanin)
That euphemism is a lot worse than just saying “black”.
infinite_ass@leminal.space 5 weeks ago
I prefer “of coloredness”
riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
this doesn’t just go on gender lines either. i am tall and broad and probably scare people, especially women, in the dark. i hope that same thing protects me from being assaulted. no one asks for ur gender, when they see u walking around at night.
papalonian@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I’ve never even considered this perspective before. It’s frustrating enough for guys to get lumped in with shitty guys, but to be a woman lumped in with shitty guys, that’s gotta be aggravating as hell.
I’d wager you’re probably right, though; you’ve probably got a better buffer against weirdos than a dainty little flower might.
pineapplelover@lemm.ee 5 weeks ago
Amusing if fictional but if in real life, this is seriously messed up
DScratch@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
And, illegal if you can make the argument that OP knew or should have known their behavior would be unwelcome.
CoolMatt@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
Going home wearing a hoodie is unwelcome?
Walk_blesseD@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
It’s all shits and giggles until anon ends up in a ‘man vs bear spray’ scenario
rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 5 weeks ago
That’s called assault and it is a crime.
Maalus@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
No it isn’t when there’s probable cause. And “dude started running after me” is enough for self defense to kick in. Actually it is probably enough to charge the dude.
jerkface@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
Intentionally causing a person to fear harm is assault. Greentext is committing assault. It might not be possible to convict for it, but it’s still assault.
underwire212@lemm.ee 5 weeks ago
They had legitimate reason to believe they were in danger. Not assault at all.
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
Anon wants to get shot.
ICastFist@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
Or tased and pepper sprayed, at the very least
A_Wild_Zeus_Chase@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Can the incels who posted and upvoted this please stop ruining gender relations for the rest of us?
Soulg@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
It’s a fucking greentext my guy
A_Wild_Zeus_Chase@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
It could be on Sumerian clay tablets my dude, it would still about threatening rape for amusement
AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
Now its not only women who would prefer the bear. After reading this i also prefer the bear.
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
See you on growlr m’dude
socialpankakemix@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
fuck anon
wizzor@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
Back in the day I lived in the outskirts of the city where buses would run rarely. Many times when I arrived home late a woman would also drop off. They mostly reacted in the same way as OP describes.
I tried to imagine having to be afraid like that all the time and it’s horrifying. The planet is populated by animals larger and stronger than you who might, or might not behave violently without provocation.
Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
How eloquently summarized. Sadly so.
obstbert@feddit.org 5 weeks ago
Anon is a terrible person
AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space 5 weeks ago
Typical 4chan user
superkret@feddit.org 5 weeks ago
Anon is way above average. He leaves his house.
Yokozuna@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Anon is fake and gay never happened.
jerkface@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
gay happens every day, you’re just not getting any
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
Noice
echodot@feddit.uk 5 weeks ago
Yeah they claim to have a job, go outside, and appear physically intimidating.
Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 5 weeks ago
I wonder if the lady would’ve preferred a bear
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 5 weeks ago
Follow-up should be about becoming the manager of a McDonald’s and realising that this small amount of authority over people allows you to make their lives miserable.
Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
I’m a very tall wardrobe with a resting bitch face syndrom that is also nocturnal. I learned a long time ago to just slow down when behind women and never to speed up. Or just change sides or so.
It pisses me off to constantly being seen as a violent rape-ape instead of a person, but imagining being a woman (or whomever else is frightened by me) in such a situation makes my worries seem more irrelevant.
In a better society this would be totally unnecessary, but here we are.
Thcdenton@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I’m not going to rape you. I’m a little boy!
Taleya@aussie.zone 5 weeks ago
I’ve had a couple of arsehats try this on me.
Unfortunately i grew up in a much nastier neighborhood than they did and have a tendency towards violence i have no problems advertising
CodexArcanum@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
As a tall man who likes to walk at night, I have long understood that women alone at night do not wish to encounter me. So when I happen to find myself following a woman down the street, I will either slow down, cross the street, or stop and look at a sign or something for a minute to give her some space.
In a dangerous and shitty world, a person has to find subtle and quiet ways to express care, compassion, and solidarity. It costs me nothing to make a woman feel safer.
Eranziel@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
This is the way, and good for you.
Purposefully making women afraid they’re about to get assaulted is abhorrent.
Hikermick@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
While working i am occasionally in parking garages which can be dark and creepy. If i see a woman walking alone I’ll try to make some noise like pulling out my keys. People with bad intentions will be stealthy, hopefully they get that I’m not a threat
qwerty@discuss.tchncs.de 5 weeks ago
SIMP!!!
Comment105@lemm.ee 5 weeks ago
He’s not a “Sucker Idolizing Mediocre Pussy”
He’s a man making sure women feel a little safer.
Using the word “SIMP” in this context runs counter to every example of protective familymen I’ve ever seen. Derision against his behavior is as good as calling yourself a creep, a predator, an enemy of all that is good and right.
You have the morals of an opportunistic thug … yet I have no doubt you think yourself some kind of faithful man
CodexArcanum@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Eh possibly, but many of the women I’ve slept with have told me that I make them feel safe and that it’s a huge turn on for them. Shocking, I know, that people might want to feel secure before they get intimate.
Audacious@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
sexist trumper
spicystraw@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
You da man brother!
glitchdx@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
on the one hand, you’re right and I agree with you.
on the other hand, I’ve got places to be and other people walk so fucking slow.