I know that this is a male pov but seriously that is also an L for the lady. Can’t be throwing hints and expect everyone to be Mr hint getter
Anon misses something
Submitted 3 months ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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_____@lemm.ee 3 months ago
CaptainEffort@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
Idk it’s not really a hint, that’s pretty direct. If I were her I’d assume I got rejected.
Alinor@lemmy.world 3 months ago
This is not direct at all though. Direct is “my shift is almost done, do you want to hang out later?”. Being direct means you do actually have to include saying what you want.
taladar@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
In the context of a conversation about people who come in just before closing it could also just be taken as a hint that he is one of those people.
JustEnoughDucks@feddit.nl 3 months ago
To be fair, it could have just as easily been:
“You know, my shift is almost over (so I really want to pack my shit and get out of here)” to which anon had a good response.
Zexks@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I have been specifically and repeatedly told women at work don’t want flirting or any other interpersonal interactions. So that shit is shut completely off when in public.
Crashumbc@lemmy.world 3 months ago
And that’s absolutely true! Until the one time it’s not, and then it’s your fault for not knowing.
TBF, I normally go by “off limits unless they make an obvious move”.
Which the cashier definitely did. Of course, like the OP I would realize it till later…
yamanii@lemmy.world 3 months ago
The hard part is the knowing that so called obvious move.
PenisDuckCuck9001@lemmynsfw.com 3 months ago
I also go by “off limits unless they make an obvious move”. I’ve never been in a relationship but I think this might be a feature not a bug.
rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 3 months ago
But was it an obvious move, or did you read too much into the friendliness they’re paid to show all customers?
j4k3@lemmy.world 3 months ago
That is 100% me. I’ve had many friends tell me someone was into me but I’m usually oblivious. I never want anyone to feel awkward or intruded upon and basically never act on such opportunities. I would love to, but my mind is usually partitioned off on a half dozen other projects, and at least one big rabbit hole of a curiosity. I have the capacity to shift my attention, but it takes someone being quite forward or otherwise remarkable in ways beyond a casual encounter or simple looks to capture my attention in a way where I might take spontaneous initiative. Basically, every girl I encounter is like my sister on a platonic level unless I have a clear indication otherwise. All my long term relationships are from social encounters with friends of friends where over time I could tell there was clear chemistry. Just saying, if you’re a girl, being direct and forward is quite effective with some of us, especially the more quiet types.
Nuke_the_whales@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I’m 40 and married yet I still get the cringe memory of when I was 20 and a girl I knew, took me to dinner, paid, and drove me home to celebrate my new job. Years later she told me she liked me and I never made a move at the dinner date. That was when I first realized it was a date and I blew it.
I still cringe at the memory
refalo@programming.dev 3 months ago
To be fair it’s kinda her fault for not stating her intentions clearly. Sure you could argue there was supposed to be some mind reading or unspoken social cues going on but we all know that’s not obvious enough.
roguetrick@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Yep. Women are allowed to be awkward at getting what they want too.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
To be fair, I’m married and frequently misunderstand my SO, and it doesn’t help that they have a different native language. For example, when they say, “we’re out of X,” I take that as informative, not a request to go get more X. But sometimes I catch on, like this morning (WFH today) when they said, “are you busy?” (or similar) and I correctly interpreted that as “I want sex.” You win some and you lose some; sometimes I’m in the dog house, and other times I’m doing a quickie.
kameecoding@lemmy.world 3 months ago
There is always that moment, for me its a girl who took my sunglasses home, because we were out drinking the night before, then invited me in for a beer, I was like, nah thanks had too much yesterday and left. To my defense though, I thought he had a longtime boyfriend whom I knew so I didn’t even think about her romantically, turns out they were broken up for a few months already. Well what you gonna do.
otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
“Payed” is a nautical term, ya limp cucklet
Kolanaki@yiffit.net 3 months ago
They didn’t even use “cuck” correctly.
Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 3 months ago
She dodged a bullet
frezik@midwest.social 3 months ago
Here, I’ll make a lot of you oblivious folk feel better about yourselves. I’ve been propositioned at a house sex party and I was still completely oblivious.
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I once had a girl say “when am I going to get to feel that cock of yours inside of me?” and I somehow missed her intent.
SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I went skinny dipping with a coworker after work. The thought never crossed my mind. I thought we were just doing dumb stuff. Ten years later is when I realized that I am stupid.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I once didn’t notice a topless woman sitting on me was flirting.
Wait shit that may have happened multiple times, though the second one I think realized he was a guy a few months later.
Korrok@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 months ago
A friend once invited me to go watch a movie with her and a couple friends. When I arrived she told me that the others couldn’t make it and she offered me a coctail. I accepted, watched the movie (on opposite ends of the sofa) and went home. A couple months later I found out that the others were never invited.
This might be more her fault than mine, though.
Monster96@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I remember I was walking through a mall carrying a gift bag full of chocolates for my mom. It was one of those places that gives out those special types of gift bags so it was pretty obvious what I was carrying. I passed by one of those kiosks that sell phone cases and I heard the girl running the place call out to me. I politely waved at her and said “No, thank you.” And walked away. After I got out of the mall I realized the girl said “Oh, are those for me? You’re so nice!”
I thought she was trying to sell me something…
way_of_UwU@programming.dev 3 months ago
I can tell you from experience that there’s a 90% chance she absolutely was trying to draw you in to sell you something
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 months ago
The rent on those mall kiosks is insane, like ten to twenty grand a month (at least it used to be that, back when people actually went to malls). So anybody working them is going to be under intense pressure to sell shit.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
I used to try to politely decline, now I just wave and say I’m not interested. If they try to change the script, “I’m not selling anything,” I just repeat myself and they get the hint. I used to feel bad, but then I realized it saves them and me some time, so I’m probably doing them a favor.
KellysNokia@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Or just bagging some free premium chocolate
addictedtochaos@lemm.ee 3 months ago
audio processing disorder
MrShankles@reddthat.com 3 months ago
That’s a keen observation (whether true or not). It took me a long time to realize I wasn’t “hard-of-hearing”… I just couldn’t always figure out what was being said (literally having difficulty processing it). So I enjoy subtitles, to say the least
But still, very astute of you
Zacryon@feddit.org 3 months ago
Reading through the comments here makes one thing apparent again: clear and direct communication about one’s intentions can solve all of these misunderstandings. Being upfront will avoid that unnecessary “are they into me or not” over-analasys or missing such more or less subtle hints at all.
If you’re interested in someone, go for them! Tell them about your interest. It benefits you both. They’ll know, which can help in case they’re interested as well, and you’ll know what to expect whether they’re interested or not. This can also save you a lot of time, heart- and headache.
BugleFingers@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I was at a bar (with a partner at the time, who was on the dance floor) and a girl came up to me and started a conversation about her college classes and her puppetry. I though it was cool! We had a good conversation and the girl’s sister eventually pulled her away. My then partner came up and told me she was totally interested. I was like “Her? Nah, we were just talking about some cool hobby stuff!” She was totally into me apparently.
Note: My partner was not upset, she was a very sexually progressive person and even suggested I get her number. I’m a one person kinda lad though.
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 3 months ago
Sounds like she dodged a bullet there.
nutsack@lemmy.world 3 months ago
good one, cat
Lauchs@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I think the “oh, fuck, that was an invitation!” moment several minutes/hours after the fact is one of the most universal moments.
tanisnikana@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Years.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
Lifetimes. Because I haven’t had it yet… (Maybe I would if I talked to women in the first place.)
bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 3 months ago
Yup. The first one I remember is a concert where I went to see the opener and didn’t much care for the main act. While I was on the floor during the opening act, I was next to a girl who seemed similarly enthused about that band. We definitely both noticed each other fangirling over this relatively unknown opening act. Then, afterward, I bumped into her on the balcony while the main act was playing, and she’s like “these guys kinda suck right? I think I’m gonna head out and get a drink at $nearby_bar”. And I totally missed the hint.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
why can’t they just add a “wanna join me” to make it more clear lol
PenisDuckCuck9001@lemmynsfw.com 3 months ago
I just now realized this girl may have been interested in me 11 years ago. Later virgins. Is it too late to make a move?
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
nahh bro go for it
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 months ago
This is the great thing about getting old. Eventually you realize that the girl you missed out on the obvious thing with is now just as leathery and swollen as you are.
TriflingToad@lemmy.world 3 months ago
storytime? 🥺
Holyhandgrenade@lemmy.world 3 months ago
When I was 19, a girl told me at a party that I was the coolest guy in school. I was just flattered by the compliment and when I told my girlfriend about it later she said “Yeah she was totally hitting on you”.
I was like “Nah! Her? No way!”
Years later, I randomly thought about it and went “oh my god, she was hitting on me!”